ConcernedNL:


Its not my responsibility to get him a job. But he should not cry foul when reaping the result of excessiveness. You can accommodate him without him having a job since ur so loving.

if it is not your responsibility to get him a job, then why do you make slandering him with derogatory statements your responsibility?

solasoulmusic:


As long as we are not as cynical as you our future is bright

How do you hope without faith it will happen

I didn't lie in the embassy I know what I went there for - Education and once I was done I was out not everyone prefers to live there and my family is here check out Lakeland.edu then come back

No student loans no loans just straight up cash money


goodnight

And how is that by choice. You said it like you had permanent legal residence here and you decided to pack up everything to go back to Nigeria. Smh. Coming here to study doesn't count. You are supposed to go back to that rubbish country. And i'm not cynical. I'm a realist. I call it as it is. How does a people corrupt to the bone, dirty as phuck and borderline bloodthirsty psychopaths have a bright future? When a child gets straight A's every time you say the child has a bright future not when they are constantly getting D's.

Lalas247:


Imagine ... ontop say them let am stay
He has guts to take 3 heaps
And came here to cry

He better take bus to Calabar tonight

na real 3 heaps....women and rationing.

stressedout:
thanks for the advice. it is clear. i have to leave that house. i will pack my things today and leave for calabar first things tomorrow. Why i say ordinary is because these people are not suffering at all, they live well. i did not live there free. i did various jobs for the man and even stayed in the wifes store where she sells provisions. This is someone i senior with over 5 yrs. such behaviour was not so at the beginning now i am almost treated as if i came to do househelp. so i will never rely on anyone again as man can fail, but God never fails.

You're a dolt! This irks me so badly.

miredia:
You're a dolt! This irks me so badly.

;DYou lot should free this guy. E don do. 16 pages...

banmee:


And how is that by choice. You said it like you had permanent legal residence here and you decided to pack up everything to go back to Nigeria. Smh. Coming here to study doesn't count. You are supposed to go back to that rubbish country. And i'm not cynical. I'm a realist. I call it as it is. How does a people corrupt to the bone, dirty as phuck and borderline bloodthirsty psychopaths have a bright future? When a child gets straight A's every time you say the child has a bright future not when they are constantly getting D's.

As long as I'm not being a tyrant on an online platform my Nigg I'm good money well spent your parents deserve a refund.

If everyone stays back who will help build this nation life is how you go from D to an A student regardless of struggles and how you go from homeless to house owner in this case it's never personal unless your envious. The way you post your half educated and it was rushed it's nobodies fault take heart

Take your faithless hope and shove it all the way up till you hit your brain matter the only thing real about you is your stupidity and the way you seek attention what's wrong are you pained? I made the best choice and thank you no dey here reality will soon reach your ignorant side

solasoulmusic:


As long as I'm not being a tyrant on an online platform my Nigg I'm good money well spent your parents deserve a refund.

If everyone stays back who will help build this nation life is how you go from D to an A student regardless of struggles and how you go from homeless to house owner in this case it's never personal unless your envious. The way you post your half educated and it was rushed it's nobodies fault take heart

Take your faithless hope and shove it all the way up till you hit your brain matter the only thing real about you is your stupidity and the way you seek attention what's wrong are you pained? I made the best choice and thank you no dey here reality will soon reach your ignorant side

Lol. You don't have to be a tyrant to destroy Nigeria. Just by possessing your kind of mentality is enough. You are just ranting and raving stupidly with zero coherence whatsoever. Yeah, you first thought when you graduated was, "you know what? I'm going to go back to Nigeria and help build it" . People are laughing at your lies. And someone will marry this thing one day. Smh.

etenyong:
Are you not ashamed to say this out and even ask for who will accommodate u. My friend, I slept under bridge when i came to Lagos 10 years ago, I hussle as a man, rent my apartment within few months. Now married with kids and also living in my own personal house. I'm in my early 30s and independent. I dont know how old are u but pls kindly stop finding or seeking unnecessary favour or pity. Grow up and be a man

You were 32 in 2011 and still in early 30s in 2017? Mbok, I dey hail

ipobarecriminals:
U fit help with job,let see if he'll not do it.i never read where he complain about food rations.

Read well he did.

But why will a jobless guy be eating 3spoons of milk in another man's house? He doesn't contribute to the feeding sef. Na wa o

The op is just like my brother. Even if u give him small job he will give excuses why he can't work. He is waiting for shell and chevron etc.. meanwhile they want to eat anyhow. Nonsense

etenyong:
Are you not ashamed to say this out and even ask for who will accommodate u. My friend, I slept under bridge when i came to Lagos 10 years ago, I hussle as a man, rent my apartment within few months. Now married with kids and also living in my own personal house. I'm in my early 30s and independent. I dont know how old are u but pls kindly stop finding or seeking unnecessary favour or pity. Grow up and be a man

Na man u be my brother. Don't mind those giving excuses.

A190:

You were 32 in 2011 and still in early 30s in 2017? Mbok, I dey hail

I can't fall into ur trap. Park well my dear sister. I don't know how old are you but am not competing with ur age here. You registered on 18th June Just 2017, just a week now and here talking rubbish as if u know me since 2011.

etenyong:
I can't fall into ur trap. Park well my dear sister. I don't know how old are you but am not competing with ur age here. You registered on 18th June Just 2017, just a week now and here talking rubbish as if u know me since 2011.

Uncle, stoP lying. . Lefulefu and mrcork, come and helo me reason this lie, haba bros, fear God!

banmee:


Lol. You don't have to be a tyrant to destroy Nigeria. Just by possessing your kind of mentality is enough. You are just ranting and raving stupidly with zero coherence whatsoever. Yeah, you first thought when you graduated was, "you know what? I'm going to go back to Nigeria and help build it" . People are laughing at your lies. And someone will marry this thing one day. Smh.

How am I destroying Nigeria I am just saying what happens when the foot is on theirs When God gives you an opportunity to help someone who is less fortunate don't look for small ways to oppress them and that's what they did the wife got angry about three spoons of milk and he bought the milk not them so how is that wasteful since when did power and control take over humanity and care.

You control his portion you now want to control his milk intake and you don't see a problem. I have noticed it's those who hardly have that give the most out here while others like you may support them and give them an award for their behavior I beg to differ.


Yes proudly he will marry me while you stay stay married to your bitterness we are here where are you ? you can't even argue a point without insulting someone and your in America thank God I left

A190:


Uncle, stoP lying. . Lefulefu and mrcork, come and helo me reason this lie, haba bros, fear God!

let him alone na
is it ur lie?

ipobarecriminals:
As for women,forget those ones.Most of them go to party with poly bags to scoop jolof rice/meat.50 naira.See them screaming 50 naira milk! May we not see evil.

You are the same person as stressed out abi?
Because this lawyer work you are doing for him is getting out of hand

solasoulmusic:


How am I destroying Nigeria I am just saying what happens when the foot is on theirs When God gives you an opportunity to help someone who is less fortunate don't look for small ways to oppress them and that's what they did the wife got angry about three spoons of milk and he bought the milk not them so how is that wasteful since when did power and control take over humanity and care.

You control his portion you now want to control his milk intake and you don't see a problem. I have noticed it's those who hardly have that give the most out here while others like you may support them and give them an award for their behavior I beg to differ.

Just to correct something, the OP bought the milk after the incident. In order to replace the milk he took, if milk was the problem. He didn't buy the milk before the incident
The issues are deeper then the milk, I believe. For all you know, the couple are also struggling.
When living with others /visiting others you learn to package yourself. You often don't eat as much, you help around the house.

eyinjuege:


Just to correct something, the OP bought the milk after the incident. In order to replace the milk he took, if milk was the problem. He didn't buy the milk before the incident
The issues are deeper then the milk, I believe. For all you know, the couple are also struggling.
When living with others /visiting others you learn to package yourself. You often don't eat as much, you help around the house.

So many people here don't understand that part. If he was the one that bought the first can the woman wouldn't make an issue out of it, after all its his milk. That's common sense.

eyinjuege:


Just to correct something, the OP bought the milk after the incident. In order to replace the milk he took, if milk was the problem. He didn't buy the milk before the incident
The issues are deeper then the milk, I believe. For all you know, the couple are also struggling.
When living with others /visiting others you learn to package yourself. You often don't eat as much, you help around the house.

Thank you!
The woman had to spark for him before he realized he needed to go buy his own provisions that he can eat anyhow.
That is only a symptom of the quintessential lack of wisdom the OP has. Who knows what other things he had been doing before earning the title "wasteful". When something is not yours, you curb your excesses with it.

That type of person can enter the woman's pot and start picking more than one meat everytime he wants to eat.
He did not contribute anything, neither are they his family members.

And do you know the funniest thing? It is people like the OP that will often be the first to fight someone else who abuses their hospitality or consumes their resources without discretion. But they lack the neccessary level of self-reflection to know when they are being parasitic to others.

I believe that mental illness is called narcissism.

Some comments here are
Even if he heaped the spoonfuls of milk, the wife was soooo disrespectful to scream at him. That is not how you treat guests no matter what they are doing (Except sexual harrassment). When it comes to matters like this, you talk to your husband in private if its really such a big deal and leave him to handle it. The wife was very disrespectful in my opinion and OP is right to say ordinary milk. Living with a woman is always a problem. Why? You are living with your friend, the moment his girlfriend moves in, she will start finding fault in everything you do. Same thing with a couple. You live with your brother, he gets married and immediately the wife starts making the home uncomfortable for you. OP is right to call it ordinary milk. What is milk that you would embarrass somebody just because of it. 50 naira milk. As women, we really need to check ourselves and our behaviour towards others. This world moves and today you may be up and tomorrow you may be down, nothing lasts forever, that your husband's friend is staying with you does not mean he will live with you forever. If he is doing things you dont like, start praying that God should uplift him so he can leave the house. That same friend may be the one that will take care of your kids tomorrow if you guys are no longer there. In this life, no situation is permanent.

OP, I feel sorry for you and wish you get another place to live soon. Nevertheless, do not harbour any bitterness in your heart towards the wife. Women have the tendency to abuse power whenever they have it.

eyinjuege:


Just to correct something, the OP bought the milk after the incident. In order to replace the milk he took, if milk was the problem. He didn't buy the milk before the incident
The issues are deeper then the milk, I believe. For all you know, the couple are also struggling.
When living with others /visiting others you learn to package yourself. You often don't eat as much, you help around the house.

I have been in the position of the couple and to be honest the person didn't lift a finger to assist and even showered me with abuses but at the end of the day it's a blessing to be a blessing to others no matter how small. He bought the milk after with his last money is still a symbol that he understands and is not taking them for granted.

There is real charity where you are doing it from your soul so regardless of how ungrateful you perceive them to be your reward is not here but in heaven as God sees all our deeds. Jesus walked with everyone rich or poor and if you aim to truly serve him you must understand he also came to serve.

They are doing way better than him even if they are struggling nobody knows tomorrow there was one guy that rewarded his helper some weeks ago ...be a helper to your brother no matter the cost the reward is eternal life the reward is wealth.

Erukulele:
They have given you accommodation and you still rested on them for food, can't you hustle to get your basic needs?, you have given us your own side of the story the couple is not here to state theirs I can't judge them knowing fully well that you can never indict yourself even if you are wrong ,I once accommodated someone like you who turned privileges to rights and even tried to hijack my business. who knows what will happen between you and your next host, you can depend on people for life.

Thatvis what I noticed from the OP. He has not stopped to weight his own role in the story. To him he was perfect and did not make any mistake. Therein lies the problem how can one improve if one finds no fault in himself. Maybe its his way of joking with the wife or kids, maybe its his manner of speaking and demanding respect instead of going with the flow until he finds his feet, maybe its his way of feeling he is contributing even if he doesnt bring money and he believes ye deserves to live like the land lord in the home. All I believe is that he should learn the lesson and fix where needs to be fixed and move on with life as best he can. Even if he has to beg them and change his ways until he finds his feet.

Erukulele:
They have given you accommodation and you still rested on them for food, can't you hustle to get your basic needs?, you have given us your own side of the story the couple is not here to state theirs I can't judge them knowing fully well that you can never indict yourself even if you are wrong ,I once accommodated someone like you who turned privileges to rights and even tried to hijack my business. who knows what will happen between you and your next host, you can depend on people for life.

That is what I noticed from the OP. He has not stopped to weight his own role in the story. To him he was perfect and did not make any mistake. Therein lies the problem how can one improve if one finds no fault in himself. Maybe its his way of joking with the wife or kids, maybe its his manner of speaking and demanding respect instead of going with the flow until he finds his feet, maybe its his way of feeling he is contributing even if he doesnt bring money and he believes ye deserves to live like the land lord in the home. All I believe is that he should learn the lesson and fix where needs to be fixed and move on with life as best he can. Even if he has to beg them and change his ways until he finds his feet and he should make it happen fast no matter how small the job is. I just hope he is not the kind that would turn offers down because it is below his level.

Whew! The kind of sense of entitlement people live with...whew!

ifyalways:
PS: they were nice to you in the early days because they probably thought you would :
Bath and leave the house every morning to your place of work
The arrangement was a temporal one. Two weeks maybe, and you are gone.

You rather mistook their generosity as being made landlord of the house and even going to the woman's provision store to help.

Bringing the age thing just goes to show you are full of dry, empty pride. Dem dey use age or seniority collect tin of milk or money for bank?

LMAO...

Seriously, Nigerians expect things from pple who don't owe them anything.

The guy's points don't hold water.

YelloweWest:

Read well he did.



The op is just like my brother. Even if u give him small job he will give excuses why he can't work. He is waiting for shell and chevron etc.. meanwhile they want to eat anyhow. Nonsense

Wey your brother make I come marry am as I dey obesed nah...make hunger ways me small and turn my amoeba shape to figurine or figure 8.

Ah. Who are you, biko?

aprokomania:

Henry, we meet here. Hawayu

propanet:

if it is not your responsibility to get him a job, then why do you make slandering him with derogatory statements your responsibility?

Dummy learn what slander means if you dont want varying opinions, you think your challenges through offline, now buzz off.

ConcernedNL:


Dummy learn what slander means if you dont want varying opinions, you think your challenges through offline, now buzz off.

Who is this lunatic

sukkot:
and this a question to all you nigerians, why are you drinking tea in that hot sun ? like wtf ? are yall nuts lol

No body ask how frequent he does that. 3 spoon in a month is not bad...oh 3 spoon of milk everyday will empty the tin in less than a week. If the husband does same with wife and a child in the house, that is about 12 spoon of milk. The biggest tin will not survive a week with that.
Lets face fact. Everybody is talkin about the once while the woman is talking of a regular action.

Lalas247:

Ya use the email on my Yim tho

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