There are reasons your ex is your ex. Even if bad sexual chemistry isn't one of the reasons, having sex with your ex partner is still a bad idea.

Even just the phrase, "sex with the ex" will get a spectrum of responses from people. Most people will acknowledge that sex with an ex is a hazardous activity.

Why do people do it? A number of seemingly convincing reasons: It's familiar; the sex is always good; make-up sex can be hot; the inability to let go and move on, and the most dangerous of all: the hope that sex might lead to a reconciliation.

Often, when exes hop back into bed together, they each have a different reason for being there. One might be scratching a sexual itch with a tried and reliable partner, then the other is thinking dangerously along the lines of reuniting. Yes, sex with the ex is a very, very bad idea.

So the first thing you have to ask yourself is why do you want to recycle lovers rather than move on? What would you gain from going back into the bedroom with an ex? If you have an emotional reason, stop right there and don't even consider the idea.

Whether you have recently broken up, or you've been apart for some time, if you're seeking to reconnect to a former partner emotionally, and using sex as the way to do it, you're asking for confusion and trouble.

If your answer is because of the physical pleasure that you get from sex with this particular ex, again, why invite confusion and complications into your life? If you want a casual partner for casual no-strings sex, your ex is not the answer. It doesn't take long for old patterns – and new – expectations to creep back once you become intimate. No matter how you slice it, sex is intimate and don't kid yourself that sex with an ex is a simple act.

Often, one or both of you will regret the sex. The feelings afterwards that ignite your memories of one another – either good or bad – can make for the desire to turn the clock back. Or worse, only one of you wants to turn the clock back to before you got between the sheets together, while the other wants to turn the clock back all the way to before you broke up.

Either way, spare yourself the head smacking and heart ache and stay strong, where you are right now. Remember why you both broke up.

You've moved on successfully this far. So keep looking forward to new sexual and romantic possibilities and keep the old ones where they belong: in your past.

It's difficult when you see your ex regularly, but you can stay strong by arranging to see those mutual friends in different circumstances rather than where you know you'll run into each other. And if that's not possible, absolutely engage your support team: if they know you really do not want to get back with your ex, in any way, they will help you (to what extent they can, but really in the end the choice is yours).

And of course it's common sense, to not be around your ex when alcohol is involved. Drinking may make your ex seem more alluring and attractive, and it will definitely cloud your judgment. A clear head is a smarter one when it comes to anything to do with sex and love, and tenfold that for exes!

In this modern era of greater acceptance of casual sex, it may seem there's little harm in sex with the ex. But few people are mature enough to separate current sex from past patterns, and even fewer get into bed for the same reasons, and stay there for the same reasons.

Do yourself a favour: leave the past alone and go out there and get your future.

Source: http://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/sex-relationships/sex/is-it-ok-to-have-sex-with-an-ex/news-story/bc6ea021d3b649048aa9005255b10d5b

naijaboiy:
Before we talk of sex, friendship shouldn't even be encouraged at all.

You both should move the Fück on.

Been a while, busy days?

naijaboiy:

Hello chocolate.

Yea I've been busy and not just around.

Oh okay, noticed your absence. I'm sure very soon, you'll go MIA.

If you're still fvcking an ex then s/he is not an ex.

naijaboiy:

Lol...let's see about that. I may be around for a while.

How's Ghana?

It'll be nice seeing you around.

I'm currently in lagos. Tho, I miss Ghana.

Aderola15:
...

Looku Looku.

makydebbie:
Looku Looku.

Hahahäha

My favourite pinshure

And that's how missed out on the grand finale?

Aderola15:


Hahahäha

My favourite pinshure

And that's how missed out on the grand finale?

Me too dear, guess I've to do it the way I've been doing it. 10pm to 1am. And where I stay is very far from lekki. Plus it's on a week day. So painful.

naijaboiy:

Lol...my presence is not usually something to be missed.

I'll catch you around later. Got to go now.

Goodnight.

makydebbie:
Me too dear, guess I've to do it the way I've been doing it. 10pm to 1am. And where I stay is very far from lekki. Plus it's on a week day. So painful.

My cousin didn't even let me finish explaining myself before turning down my beautiful request with reasonable points. And he ended the call saying God will hear my voice from Ibadan.

Aderola15:


My cousin didn't even let me finish explaining myself before turning down my beautiful request with reasonable points. And he ended the call saying God will hear my voice from Ibadan.

it is well

it's hard letting go of an EX that was very caring or good in bed.

sex with an ex is cool BC there are no strings attached.
that's truth

Aderola15:


My cousin didn't even let me finish explaining myself before turning down my beautiful request with reasonable points. And he ended the call saying God will hear my voice from Ibadan.

Hahahahahaha
Your cousin is funny.