ofreaky:
Toks preach to them ooo, A preacher once said marriage is not fun but hardwork.

Toks2008:


In most cases if you don't meticulously read my articles you may not get the message.

sonofLuci:

We won't get the message if you write it using fake french.

sonofLuci:

Clla5:
me

Toks2008:

This was you. ..I am not surprised.

sonofLuci:





Afa na, come make i flex you. Club, bar or eatery? Pepper soup joint?

Know say you be Oga

Toks2008:


I don't club....a good eatery will do and I mean correct mama put where I go fit get correct goat meat and pounded yam.

BiafraBushBoy:
I am just gonna pretend like I read this long epistle with no bearing.

Who else is gonna pretend with me?

Cinderella5:
me

BiafraBushBoy:

Cinderella5:
Bushboy

BiafraBushBoy:


lol.. that name doesn't sound sexy. I want to change my moniker oo

Cinderella5:
I think it's sexy, there is something thuggish and rugged about it.

misspineapple:
Gbese re o..

Cinderella5:
Op made sense for the first time in his misogynistic life.

BiafraBushBoy:
I am just gonna pretend like I read this long epistle with no bearing.

Who else is gonna pretend with me?

Toks2008:


I don't club....a good eatery will do and I mean correct mama put where I go fit get correct goat meat and pounded yam.

Lalas247:

See this wan o

Toks2008:


Kilosele?

Toks2008:


Why Gbese?

misspineapple:
this is the crisis..Hw can it b overcomed or managed？

Toks2008:
In most cases,after marriage,Many men still live as though they are still single and they would still make decisions without carrying their wives along,act foolishly and irrationally.

Some married ladies on the other hand just get married just for the sake of bearing that Mrs but still live their life as single ladies and lacking the vital qualities of a genuinely married lady.
This irrational act in young couples is as a result of a passing phase called Mid-life crisis.

In any romantic union,the mid life crisis in a man is usually from age 30 to 50 while that of a lady is from age 20 to 30 and in few cases,it varies with individuals but this is one phase most people must pass through and while some people are disciplined enough to control the crisis,some allow the crisis control them.

As a lady,do you see your husband acting in a very uncaring,randy,insensitive, unreasonable manner or as a man do you see your woman acting in a rebellious,arrogant,nonchalant manner? please relax and don't conclude that such is a bad spouse....not at all,they are just passing through a phase and in most cases that phase will soon pass and you will start to experience great serenity and fulfillment in your marriage.

As we progress in age,the crisis usually reduces...During the mid life crisis of a man from age 30 when he is usually ready for commitment,there is an inner crisis he experiences when he will keep asking if he is ready for commitment and until he marries and grows in age,he will always be faced with that inner crisis thereby exhibiting some crazy acts that may likely make the lady leave the marriage....but as he grows in age,he begins to overcome the crisis and by the time he is approaching the 40s or 50s,he suddenly realizes the need to get a grip of himself.

For the lady,at the age of 20 to 25 she just does not care and to her it's about catching fun and as she approaches age 30,she starts to realize the need to calm down and once she clocks 30 and above,there is an unexplained calmness that she starts to exhibit and this is why in most cases,early brides and ladies generally in their 20s tend to act irrationally and men who do not understand the mid life crisis of a woman may at that point dissolve their marriage.

The bottom line is that most marriages that crash could actually survive if they can only understand how to tolerate and look away from the excesses of their partners when the crisis comes cos in most cases it's a phase that will definitely pass.*This is the secret of marital longevity.

Domestic violence is also part of mid life crisis but it's never an act to tolerate but can be reported to the authorities so that it can be checked.

Stay in your marriage cos every marriage has its own peculiar problems but why you don't hear about some is because they are able to handle their own crisis....Handle yours.

Don't know if this makes sense.

Fearlez:
Oga Told, your points are valid but midlife crisis are usually in the 40s of both sexes and not 20 for women and 30 for men!

It is usually the arrival of menopause for women when hormonal changes trigger behavioral and emotional inconsistencies, and depletion of testosterone for men.

Toks2008:


My consept of the mid life crisis I'm referring to is far from the angle you are looking at it...

Fearlez:
My angle is what is universally known as midlife crisis which are the crisis people experience in their middle lives and it begs the question how a girl in her 20s will be having midlife crisis when life has only just began?