Good day to everyone,

I'm currently perturbed, hence can't be indifferent to sharing this emotional trauma that has been eating me up lately and gradually. As we all know, a problem shared is a problem half-solved.

First and foremost, let me introduce myself. I'm Cadet Austin P Vindals. I'm 25 years old. Aside my military career, I'm also business inclined, for I control, by proxy, pretty good business, particularly, on haulage and logistics.

There is this, tall and well built, radiant, succulent and beautiful 19yr old girl - you know, I have an eye for good stuffs - whom I have been dating for a year, 6 months now, and I intend marrying her in 3years time. So far, everything have been rosy and smooth. We had never had any issues. We love and adore each other dearly. I believe that this girl even loves me more than I do love her. She is endearing a lot. She bombards me with calls and sweet messages. She always cares and inquires about my well being - whether I'm in school or elsewhere.

Despite all of the above quality of character dispositions, I'm still not comfortable with her; sometimes I wish I never had her in the first place. Guys, I'm rugged and gallant, but highly emotional as well. I'm not usually physically present to her due to my military academic calendar restraints. Since distance btw us is constitutes a huge barrier, sometimes when I call her and she doesn't pick; I'm usually enveloped in anger and suspicions, because I usually assumed that she is side-stepping(dating other guys). Most times, if she doesn't pick series of my calls, as soon as she calls back upon returning from wherever, I usually rain abusive verbal punches on her which force her into crying. Even when a part of me says she is innocent, my emotions wouldn't let me be, always suspecting her, because her busty and beautiful body - I know for sure - will be attractive to those stupid(idiots, who wouldn't mind their wives and girlfriends) guys out there. This has been the main reason I feel so insecure in my relationship.

To be snappy with my decision, I recently had a terrible dream. In that dream, I and this girl were relaxing on a sofa, suddenly, I heard a screeching blare from a kinda sonorous object. As I turned left to look so as to ascertain what was happening, before I could look back; my girlfriend was already in a speedily driving car with another guy, driving away. I shouted, stood up and pursued them, all to no avail, before long, they are gone. This moment, I woke-up. I couldn't phatom the actual meaning of such dream.

Guys, am afraid; because, I hardly dream, and each time I do, it usually comes to pass, if not 100%, it is at least, 80%. This unique reality of my dreams always coming to pass is my major cause of the fear I harbor in my relationship now. Like I said earlier, I'm too emotional, and can't allow a woman to dumb me for another guy first, instead I should be the one to dump her; to be dumped by a woman has never happen to me. Now, I'm being pushed by my feelings to dump her first, I e, to be the one to ditch her before she does it first.
Note: she has not done anything bad to me ooh, but I want to call her and divulge my resolve to her. Please, experienced relationship experts in the house, I hope am on the right track? Is this dream natural, spiritual or psychologically triggered? Please, I'm confused help me. Thanks.

You're your own problem.

Benita27:
You're your own problem.

How do you mean, sister?

Joseph the dreamer.

Davindal:
How do you mean, sister?

You're clearly insecure about your relationship with your gf. Kill the insecurities, and your problems are solved. When you over feed your mind with a particular thought, you're likely to dream it.

Benita27:
You're clearly insecure about your relationship with your gf. Kill the insecurities, and your problems are solved. When you over feed your mind with a particular thought, you're likely to dream it.

I'm far away from her. I just have the feeling that something shitty is going on there with her.

Davindal:
I'm far away from her. I just have the feeling that something shitty is going on there with her.

So you'd rather ditch a girl that did nothing wrong to you just 'cause you're paranoid she'd cheat?. Would you love to be ditched for the same excuses?.

My own advice is dat b4 u dump her make sure u av a replacement 1st....so start searching 4 a new

Benita27:
So you'd rather ditch a girl that did nothing wrong to you just 'cause you're paranoid she'd cheat?. Would you love to be ditched for the same excuses?.

As in ehn! I cant even drop a piece of advice. He's obviously confused! Smh!

VickyRotex:


As in ehn! I cant even drop a piece of advice. He's obviously confused! Smh!

He'll need to check himself or this insecurities won't only ruin this his relationship but the next and the one after.

Benita27:
He'll need to check himself or this insecurities won't only ruin this his relationship but the next and the one after.

lol. Exactly! Because he is the problem. Not necessarily the ladies he dates.
"Insecurity" a big relationship killer.

Grow up!

crismark:
My own advice is dat b4 u dump her make sure u av a replacement 1st....so start searching 4 a new

Bro. honestly, I don't know what to do. She has not done anything wrong, but I feel she is been tempted by people(other guys) around there, and I'm the last person that would use my status to intimidate and brutalize other fellow guys because of a woman. It is a no no for me. I would rather allow the lady to take a decision of sticking to me or moving out of our relationship. I will only deal with a fellow guy ruthlessly if he approaches my girl and she turns him down, and maybe he threatens her in anyway or pesters her too much. That is when I will act, but anything on the contrary is a no for me. Back to my fears, if my girl moves away from our relationship due to I not always being around; I would be so ashame and emotional. So, in order to avoid it, am considering quitting first, so that when I'm fully disposed enough, I can always find another girl to settle down with instead of this long distance relationship am currently keeping. Thanks

Useless thread! Rubbish!

Benita27:
So you'd rather ditch a girl that did nothing wrong to you just 'cause you're paranoid she'd cheat?. Would you love to be ditched for the same excuses?.

Bro. I have tried so hard to kill this feeling but no way. It is even affecting me here, and am I'm final stage here. I need to just end it. Note: my dream happens 100% in reality. So I don't want it at all. When I pass out, I will always see another girl to marry in 3yrs time. Maybe, she needs my presence which she can't get due to our sch. callender. Let me allow her by ditching her. Note: she did nothing wrong to my, but I suspect she is about engaging in gibberish stuffs. Long distance relationship is bad. I wish to concentrate now here; maybe, when I pass out, I will have enough time to look for another girl to settle down with. Note once again: I don't just dream; my dream happens 100%(or 80%). I have been observing this since child hood till now. So bro. I'm sure of what I saw - flirting with another guy or other guys is around the corner...

Davindal:
Good day to everyone,

I'm currently perturbed, hence can't be indifferent to sharing this emotional trauma that has been eating me up lately and gradually. As we all know, a problem shared is a problem half-solved.

First and foremost, let me introduce myself. I'm Cadet Austin P Vindals. I'm 25 years old. Aside my military career, I'm also business inclined, for I control, by proxy, pretty good business, particularly, on haulage and logistics.

There is this, tall and well built, radiant, succulent and beautiful 19yr old girl - you know, I have an eye for good stuffs - whom I have been dating for a year, 6 months now, and I intend marrying her in 3years time. So far, everything have been rosy and smooth. We had never had any issues. We love and adore each other dearly. I believe that this girl even loves me more than I do love her. She is endearing a lot. She bombards me with calls and sweet messages. She always cares and inquires about my well being - whether I'm in school or elsewhere.

Despite all of the above quality of character dispositions, I'm still not comfortable with her; sometimes I wish I never had her in the first place. Guys, I'm rugged and gallant, but highly emotional as well. I'm not usually physically present to her due to my military academic calendar restraints. Since distance btw us is constitutes a huge barrier, sometimes when I call her and she doesn't pick; I'm usually enveloped in anger and suspicions, because I usually assumed that she is side-stepping(dating other guys). Most times, if she doesn't pick series of my calls, as soon as she calls back upon returning from wherever, I usually rain abusive verbal punches on her which force her into crying. Even when a part of me says she is innocent, my emotions wouldn't let me be, always suspecting her, because her busty and beautiful body - I know for sure - will be attractive to those stupid(idiots, who wouldn't mind their wives and girlfriends) guys out there. This has been the main reason I feel so insecure in my relationship.

To be snappy with my decision, I recently had a terrible dream. In that dream, I and this girl were relaxing on a sofa, suddenly, I heard a screeching blare from a kinda sonorous object. As I turned left to look so as to ascertain what was happening, before I could look back; my girlfriend was already in a speedily driving car with another guy, driving away. I shouted, stood up and pursued them, all to no avail, before long, they are gone. This moment, I woke-up. I couldn't phatom the actual meaning of such dream.

Guys, am afraid; because, I hardly dream, and each time I do, it usually comes to pass, if not 100%, it is at least, 80%. This unique reality of my dreams always coming to pass is my major cause of the fear I harbor in my relationship now. Like I said earlier, I'm too emotional, and can't allow a woman to dumb me for another guy first, instead I should be the one to dump her; to be dumped by a woman has never happen to me. Now, I'm being pushed by my feelings to dump her first, I e, to be the one to ditch her before she does it first.
Note: she has not done anything bad to me ooh, but I want to call her and divulge my resolve to her. Please, experienced relationship experts in the house, I hope am on the right track? Is this dream natural, spiritual or psychologically triggered? Please, I'm confused help me. Thanks.

my brother.. e gt who no like beta tin...ur babe she fyn she sexy....anoda niqqa dy use m nack ground...



advice: Bleep her 1 last tym n dump her

i don't fancy long distance relationships...

Out of every 10 long distance relationships, only 2 work out

Davindal:
How do you mean, sister?

at this age you don't know what you want, it's a pity!

Too much of negativity in ur head bro.. better help urself out n stop having that in ur mind b4 u make a terrible decision you'll nvr 4gv ursef. you should be thankful she loves u cos if I was a gal, honestly I won't date a guy lyk u not even for an hour.

Bruh don't trust any gal u see out there

Insecurities in a relationship is very bad, dats wat is eating u deeply na. Is it a crime 4 yr galfrnd to be endowned

Thanks for these great advices, but am out already.