Dfinex:


I must say that woman is her own problem: it has nothing to do with her job or the fact that she's a career woman cos even if she were to be a full house wife her children would still be the same or worst. I think she has a character flaw wish has affected the upbringing of her kids

sunshineG:
you are right sis
But I also know of a lady who works in the oil company
I mean she is rich and aal but her kids are nothing to write home about
The son smokes and the girls are free givers
True story, what do you have to say to that ?

sunshineG:
you are right sis But I also know of a lady who works in the oil company I mean she is rich and aal but her kids are nothing to write home about The son smokes and the girls are free givers True story, what do you have to say to that ?

Precial419:

Is abt wat parents realise dey want for deir kids ure wrking for d kids n if dey become wayward such a waste of effort n its nt abt wrking or nt. My aunt hu is a hux wife is nt training her kids any beta to me. At age 12 n less, dese kids r prof theives n chronic liars. For me to get truth, i had to ask deir 4 year old baby or so at dat time. They stole frm my bible wit mind dem nor fear am once i see smthin inside bble i nor bold touch am.

sunshineG:
but do you think it is possible for a career woman to be better than housewife in taking care of children

Dfinex:


Well, it's not a function of being a career woman or a housewife. It's a function of the person's character, cos as far as I am concerned u can not give what u don't have : there's no way a saucy woman can teach her daughter politeness neither can a dirty mother teach her kids grooming.

sunshineG:
but our moms did just fine and are not career woman.
So are suggesting something have changed over the years

Dfinex:


No, don't get it twisted. Majority of our mum's were house wives who had things doing by the side like selling pepper in front of the house or going to plant vegetables in the backyard space so as to assist the family . I mean they had something keeping them busy unlike the full house wives that sit in front of the tv or goes to mama baby's house to gossip about the new tenant.

So nothing actually changed save that we've got more lazy girls who wants to look extravagantly posh with other people's money without adding value.

sunshineG:
I have hilighted the advantages for both full housewives and career women, but let me also highlight the disadvantages

1) Now a housewife will have to depend solely on the husband for all her monetary needs, this maybe too much trouble for a man who is not that rich

2)A house wife may have to to agree with everything her husband wants

3)A house wife may start to loose shape because of lack of proper excersise


1)Now a career woman may have little to no time to take care of the children and her husband

2)She may not be willing to agree to the will of her husband most times, hence arguments may always arise with the husband all the time

3)Most career women are not afraid to get divorce because they believe that they can survive on their own

Dfinex:


Yeah that's right "one is not better than the other" ....however I'll like to point out that the job of child rearing does not fall on the woman by default. The man and wife are both stakeholders - so therefore being a career woman should in no wise affect child upbringing or the lifestyle of the family in general.

The onus lies on both man and wife to work it out in the most convenient way.

sunshineG:
so you support those women that are always sitting in one half empty shop
Selling next to nothing but that is not a career now

gentlegenius:

Stop debating on career woman or housewife because both of them have serious disadvantages. Make your woman a hybrid wife by giving her a good business.
Op... You never heard of hybrid wife? I mean a wife who can function as a housewife and a career woman whenever she wants to. She doesn't have to stay at home all the time and she doesn't have to work for money every day. The only way to achieve this is through business. The husband can establish a good and lucrative business for her she can employ someone to be there at all times and she chooses when to go there to supervise her business and when to stay back and take care of the home. This is exactly what I am to do when I marry so that I can enjoy her presence at home whenever I or the kids need her while at the same time she is making money to support the family.

Dfinex:


Lol @empty shops.....at least she won't run to hubby for salt and pepper money every now and then

Originalsly:
True..both parents play a role in raising the child... but I think it is like 75% woman by default rather than 50/50. A woman is naturally norturing... the man to be the provider and protector... enforcer of discipline... think we are just wired that way. Is it not us men that be the ones almost all the time forgetting the baby locked in the car?.. forgetting to pick the kid from school?... when left in charge constantly have to be reminded to feed the baby?... change pampers?... be scolded on handling the baby too rough?...and warned to stop scaring the baby by trying to sing it to sleep? In fact...I now up child raising to 90%... women by default!

sunshineG:
but they are not making any money
They are just as teribble as the housewife

sunshineG:
what if the husband is not that rich

Dfinex:


The aim actually is not to make money per say. The aim is to leave them with reduced free time - like when the kids are at school

U know the saying "an idle mind is the devil's workshop " is true. So while they are busy doing nothing, they are distracted from those unnecessary thoughts instigated by idleness.

gentlegenius:

Starting a business is not only for rich men. Even if the husband is earning 40k a month, with a good financial planning/management, he can start a good business with time. There's nothing wrong in obtaining a loan to start it as far as the woman can manage it well.
While people are looking for graduates/career ladies to marry, I am looking for a lady who is good at business/financial management so that I can achieve my goal of having a hybrid wife.

sunshineG:
so they are still are still dependent
What is point
They have less time to take care of the kids and husband

Dfinex:


No...they've got alot more time than the career woman, for men who desire time.

I think u are flirting with the idea of going with career women.....

sunshineG:
what if the wife cannot run a business successfully on her own

sunshineG:
but our moms were not career women now
At least most of them

sunshineG:
maybe
Which do you prefer?

gentlegenius:

Starting a business is not only for rich men. Even if the husband is earning 40k a month, with a good financial planning/management, he can start a good business with time. There's nothing wrong in obtaining a loan to start it as far as the woman can manage it well.
While people are looking for graduates/career ladies to marry, I am looking for a lady who is good at business/financial management so that I can achieve my goal of having a hybrid wife.

Dfinex:


Like I always say u can not determine the good qualities of a person judging by his/her status - the fact that she is an executive director doesn't mean she is going to be a nice person even though it will present opportunities to help shaping her - the choices are hers to accept or reject.

On my preference, I'll go with career women but those women can be dangerously difficult many a time.

Victornezzar:
baba u sef don dey vex create thread

Dfinex:


IBrotherly, business is not childsplay o plus it's not everybody that can do business. I know of a woman whose husband decided to set up a business for but she ended up eating both the profit and the capital.

sunshineG:
so you are suggesting that career women are better in taking care of kids than housewives

Precial419:

No one is beta. It large depends on d love in d family. Bt in terms of time, house wifes wld serve as d best hux wifes.