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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Apus: 10:21pm On Jul 16, 2017 |
Giel: pls don't make me laff... he made it sound like its some kind of disease ... where my cane dey sef. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 8:26am On Jul 17, 2017 |
Apus:nope, I didn't make it sound that way , save you have troubles with comprehension. I am an introvert my self, but the more one grows, the better such a one gets over some character traits of an introvert.if the way you display your temperament while you were 18 years old is the same way your introverted ways still shows when you are 25, then it means you didnt grow, you are also socially deficient! so it also means your matter is quite complex and requires a cane too. so check your self, your age if you haven't grown out of some introverted nature lately, then you really should go get checked up . I Have grown out of some intorveted attitudes lately and that has helped strengthened few people around me,I noticed people need to be happy been around me and not sad because I tend to wanna be snobbish, but I also have drawn out sometimes for myself when I need to withdraw and get back my strength, how does that go with touch sir? 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Giel: 11:09am On Jul 17, 2017 |
gidjah: Don't be angry, in my opinion, you're not coming off well, especially when you keep harping on outgrowing some introvert behaviour, (I think this is the bone of contention) maybe your reasons are good but maybe it's not being properly explained and also your choice of words, especially when you say things like "outgrow" an introvert behaviour, I think this is what is causing confusion, let's not fight again, if I am misunderstanding you. if I'm missing the point let me know, 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Apus: 2:31pm On Jul 17, 2017 |
gidjah: ur matter tire me... u even had to write a long comprehension. I still insist u lack understanding of what introversion is And can never grow out of it. It's either u weren't introverted in the first place, or have learned to "act" more extroverted when the situation demands it |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 8:56pm On Jul 17, 2017 |
Giel:so sorry please, thank u for the various corrections . |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Sard(m): 9:26pm On Jul 17, 2017 |
Let me contribute a bit to the ongoing argument. I feel the word "outgrow" may come a bit unacceptable as it sounds as if introversion is an evil that one needs to do away with. However, I think his point is that it's important for an individual to build social skills and be a little more accommodating. The fact is that extreme introversion is usually snobbish, seemingly arrogant, and sometimes unfriendly. And some of the traits highlighted by a few people on this thread are perfect foundations for these things. To survive in the real world, outside of school environment/immediate family, there are certain extrovert-like characteristics everybody needs. No one is asking you to stop being an introvert, but you can improve your social skills and, consequently, your life. 6 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Akposb(m): 9:36pm On Jul 17, 2017 |
A pure introvert cannot survive in the world no matter how quiet things may be. As an introvert, you learn to modify as I won't want to use the word 'outgrow'. I hope issues will not drag on @Apus, Giel. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Giel: 4:24am On Jul 18, 2017 |
Akposb: so who is dragging issues I made just one comment and gidjàh explained, I took the explanation and didn't say anything else on the issue, He then seemed annoyed at àpus comment and I just wanted to explain why àpus may not be ok with his comment and also plead with him not to be offended since I myself was also confused before he (gidjah) explained to me Making a total of 2 comments so far on this issue so how am I "dragging" issues furthermore if I don't understand, I can always ask more questions, , so what do you mean by dragging issues? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Giel: 4:32am On Jul 18, 2017 |
@ sard, thank you for the explanation, you've shed more light on the issue gidjah: you're welcome, Thank you for explaining and thanks for the advise, sorry also if I offended you, I agree with you both that everyone needs to learn and improve on our social skills (extroverts, ambiverts included) and that this doesn't stop any one from being an introvert. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 7:48am On Jul 18, 2017 |
Giel:sorry sis, don't want you to get angry please, we all learn every day don't we ? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Giel: 7:56am On Jul 18, 2017 |
gidjah: I'm not angry with you i don't have any issue with you the person I quoted is whom I'm referring to. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 8:04am On Jul 18, 2017 |
Giel:it's ok sis, have a stress free day . |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Giel: 8:34am On Jul 18, 2017 |
gidjah:Thanks wish you the same |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Akposb(m): 9:12am On Jul 18, 2017 |
Giel, sorry for using the word 'dragging'. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Giel: 11:57am On Jul 18, 2017 |
Akposb: Thanks, at the risk of dragging this out further, I wasn't annoyed because you used the word "dragging" I was annoyed because you made it seem as though I had argued continuously on this issue for many pages when I had just made 2 comments on the issue. But we are cool now Right? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Jadoskii(m): 12:55pm On Jul 18, 2017 |
Hmmmm |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Akposb(m): 7:36pm On Jul 18, 2017 |
Yes, no problem @Giel. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by RSVP: 11:47pm On Jul 19, 2017 |
Olarewajub: We here... |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by realtem(m): 8:23am On Jul 20, 2017 |
Hey guys. Nice work you've been doing gidjah, whether introvert or extrovert, we have to leave our comfort zone at certain times to be better people. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by iamnlia(m): 8:39am On Jul 20, 2017 |
realtem: True but due to some being more introverted than others the "self exposure" thing can be exhausting. For example, I know that I need to make more friends and talk to more people and all that stuff but after sometime the whole thing becomes outright annoying and I just get somewhat angry at people for staying in the same room with me. The point is that people are not all the same, I know people that I found out to be introverted after careful assessment but they try to mingle and I also know people who are "hyper-introverted" like yours truly and getting out there seems exhausting and then very annoying. Besides there is nothing the outside world can offer me that I don't have or won't find another way to possess. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by realtem(m): 9:24am On Jul 20, 2017 |
iamnlia:Very true, it's not like i find it easy talking to people for too long. Infact, i love being alone But being social is a skill that could really be useful depending on the profession one chooses and the way one chooses to live his life. During the last long christmas hols, i was alone in the house for weeks playing dh5, watching anime, eating and sleep.My only friends at that period were my guildmates in dh5 People where kinda like being sympathetic to me that i was stuck alone at home but they had no idea how i was enjoying it. Now, i'm longing for that moment again. I can't wait for next christmas |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by iamnlia(m): 9:51am On Jul 20, 2017 |
realtem: Lol, there was a time I once stayed at home like that and totally enjoyed it. People didn't see me for months, my mates thought I had dropped out. From August last year to January I only went out to buy food and credit at night. Sometimes when you communicate with some guys, they'll tell you they thought you were arrogant, proud, gay or wierd. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by realtem(m): 10:27am On Jul 20, 2017 |
iamnlia:4 months , i'm jealous Lol... |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 2:07pm On Jul 20, 2017 |
realtem:thanks brother, what I have all this while been saying is this;let's get a bit more less selfish, there is no world to fully rule out there been an extreme introvert, every work of life we find our self requires our"a bit extroverted character"to survive and rule over. we must leave that comfort zone we created and open up gradually as we grow off age and exposure too.I am a clergy part time, please tell me , in what area can been an extreme introvert help me and my ministry ?.even if your parents are super rich, your introverted nature won't yet make you further better for it, you must interact, socialise, make good contact, initiate great business moves, and meet different people that will spur you up to another level.all this requires that u become 'a bit of an extrovert"doesn't it?.I own some business venture now , I run most of them with employed staff on My pay roll, some of my business partners are serious talkative, but I need them around me like kilode!, they( some) do well for me, though they can bore me with details , since I understand Their Persons, I have to try blending and stylishly get along with them, (though drawing lines too)and I must tell you they bring me good report, and returns on all my investments.Any time my system tells me 'it's time to recharge ', i take some time off, go home (that's my best recharge zone) get my gadgets(ps3 or my many films collection /country music albums), slot them in and there I go.I never forget to switch off my mobiles....very necessary o! 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 2:29pm On Jul 20, 2017 |
iamnlia:I was a very quiet person while in the university, most of my peers taught I was a senior cult guy, in fact, one lady told me she taught was q special disabled person (dumb)!! I laughed the day she told me, what brought some of US out was the spirit of Excellency at work in school and whenever the result was been pasted on the 'evil tree 'then in school. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by coveredchic(f): 11:16am On Jul 22, 2017 |
Apus:No, I absolutely don't agree with you. With increasing age and maturity, you tend to be better able to handle some introvert traits like shyness around people. When I was younger, my shyness was crippling, but with age and of course working on myself, i can address anybody or group of persons now. Take this from someone who is over 90% introverted. 3 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by missuniverse(f): 12:07pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
Apus:that's me 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by GRACEGLORY: 12:09pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Apus: 8:01pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
coveredchic: Cool! Cool! Do you know how I got over my shyness? I simply pretend not to be shy. I put on a performance around people I don't know. I pretend to have a conversation with them, I pretend to care. And that's how I got over my shyness, I forced myself to perform as an outgoing, sociable person to make everyone including myself happy. Performance takes the “edge” out of being social. A performance isn't “you”, it's an act. You simply act like you aren't shy. If you act enough, it becomes real, second nature. The things we think and do always end up becoming true. I performed enough as an outgoing person that now no one believes I am shy. My performance became true. I faked it 'til I made it....But what happens during my alone time ....I'm totally drained simply because unlike an extrovert i'm not energized by people. Quiet sometimes is refreshing. Bein Shy is one thing, but wrapped up in your own little world is another... 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Apus: 8:11pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by gidjah(m): 9:55pm On Jul 22, 2017 |
coveredchic:thanks sis, that's one of the points I was trying to make(though I might not have nailed it home as much better than u did).May u be well covered by HIM AND HIM ALONE . |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by coveredchic(f): 4:14pm On Jul 23, 2017 |
gidjah:Amen! Thanks dear. |
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