I've been in a relationship with this guy for 7 months and we've been good. I love him so much but I'm beginning to have second thoughts.

He rarely calls me and when I do he's either busy or he doesn't pick my call. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to call me back because until the next day I won't see any call from him.

I've told him about this issue several times that it feels like I'm bothering him about it and he just laugh over it like it's nothing. I don't know what to do anymore...

I know I'm being selfish by needing too much or expecting too much from him but I don't just like feeling like being neglected by the person I care about so much.

Please I need you guys' advice. Thank you!

leave him alone sis. you need someone's who's gonna give you all the love and attention in the world.



that Nigga right there isn't.
move on..

Dotwillis1:
my dear he's done with you.... he z only trying to push you away gradually to make you lose interest. People don't break up anymore by spelling it out. Be wise

okay thank you

Mirandah:
leave him alone sis. you need someone's who's gonna give you all the love and attention in the world.



that Nigga right there isn't.
move on..

Thank you... I'll try

You well?
First is he working? What kind of job? And was this "issue" there since inception?
Lady if you do all the calling how is that nigga ever gonna call you?
Let him miss you too now and give him space and time to call.
But pls answer this honestly "Do you love him for who he is or who you expect him to be?"

laiza:
You well?
First is he working? What kind of job? And was this "issue" there since inception?
Lady if you do all the calling how is that nigga ever gonna call you?
Let him miss you too now and give him space and time to call.
But pls answer this honestly "Do you love him for who he is or who you expect him to be?"

He isn't working yet. The 'issue' wasn't there in the beginning and yes, I love him for who he is

ceeejaytee:


He isn't working yet. The 'issue' wasn't there in the beginning and yes, I love him for who he is

why don't you sit his ass down and have a nice chat?

ceeejaytee:


He isn't working yet. The 'issue' wasn't there in the beginning and yes, I love him for who he is

Hehehehehehe.
He isn't working and you love him for who he is?
Who is he?

Maybe the unemployment is getting to him. They do have their moments when they get unhappy and uninterested in everything. You have to talk to him, firmly. Not with tears in your eyes...
Pick a time when you're strong enough to have a logical discussion and sort it out.

To keep a healthy and happy relationship..
A girl must learn to persevere and be prayerful!
Just get to talk to him physically, ask him why he's being like that..
You may actually be the nagging type or one that causes trouble a lot and maybe, he's found peace in someone else...
Ask him to let you know if he's found someone else so you'd stop ignoring potential husbands..
If y'all cool again, if you nag, complain & get unnecessarily jealous, stop it! If you really want to keep him, Just stop!
If his side chic calls, hand him over the phone and tell him he has a call.. Don't pester him over his phone convo.. In fact, don't spy on his phone! Just be very patient with him and tbh, he'd change!
But while being patient, be on the look out for a replacement my dear... To avoid stories that touch...
But then again, his replacement might be worse so just chillax!
Bottomline: - Be patient & pray God changes him to a better person

pocohantas:


Hehehehehehe.
He isn't working and you love him for who he is?
Who is he?

Maybe the unemployment is getting to him. They do have their moments when they get unhappy and uninterested in everything. You have to talk to him, firmly. Not with tears in your eyes...
Pick a time when you're strong enough to have a logical discussion and sort it out.

Thanks so much I will do just that

Khallyella:
To keep a healthy and happy relationship..
A girl must learn to persevere and be prayerful!
Just get to talk to him physically, ask him why he's being like that..
You may actually be the nagging type or one that causes trouble a lot and maybe, he's found peace in someone else...
Ask him to let you know if he's found someone else so you'd stop ignoring potential husbands..
If y'all cool again, if you nag, complain & get unnecessarily jealous, stop it! If you really want to keep him, Just stop!
If his side chic calls, hand him over the phone and tell him he has a call.. Don't pester him over his phone convo.. In fact, don't spy on his phone! Just be very patient with him and tbh, he'd change!
But while being patient, be on the look out for a replacement my dear... To avoid stories that touch...
But then again, his replacement might be worse so just chillax!
Bottomline: - Be patient & pray God changes him to a better person

Wow this really got me.. I usually nag too much that I guess jealousy took hold of me. Thank you so much for this, it really helped

ceeejaytee:


Wow this really got me.. I usually nag too much that I guess jealousy took hold of me. Thank you so much for this, it really helped

Anytime sugar!

Khallyella:
To keep a healthy and happy relationship..
A girl must learn to persevere and be prayerful!
Just get to talk to him physically, ask him why he's being like that..
You may actually be the nagging type or one that causes trouble a lot and maybe, he's found peace in someone else...
Ask him to let you know if he's found someone else so you'd stop ignoring potential husbands..
If y'all cool again, if you nag, complain & get unnecessarily jealous, stop it! If you really want to keep him, Just stop!
If his side chic calls, hand him over the phone and tell him he has a call.. Don't pester him over his phone convo.. In fact, don't spy on his phone! Just be very patient with him and tbh, he'd change!
But while being patient, be on the look out for a replacement my dear... To avoid stories that touch...
But then again, his replacement might be worse so just chillax!
Bottomline: - Be patient & pray God changes him to a better person

Are you advising a robot to do all these or a lady?.

Benita27:
Are you advising a robot to do all these or a lady?.

The person it's directed to.. Already took it
Nagging will only earn you more days in your father's house..
Take it or leave it..Choice's yours.

Benita27:
Are you advising a robot to do all these or a lady?.

That comment got me laughing really hard.

Everything is wrong with that post

Jacksparr0w1207:
That comment got me laughing really hard.

Everything is wrong with that post

I was shocked after reading the long epistle. Seems like something a lady who doesn't have feelings for a guy would do.

Khallyella:


The person it's directed to.. Already took it
Nagging will only earn you more days in your father's house..
Take it or leave it..Choice's yours.

And if I decide to earn more days in my father's house what's wrong with that?.

Benita27:
I was shocked after reading the long epistle. Seems like something a lady who doesn't have feelings for a guy would do.

I gave up when I saw this "If his side chic calls, hand him over the phone and tell him he has a call.."

And realised how confused she was when I saw this "But while being patient, be on the look out for a replacement my dear... To avoid stories that touch... "

It's all about attention for you girls

Benita27:
And if I decide to earn more days in my father's house what's wrong with that?.

sometimes I don't understand u. of more than half a million girls in this forum na only u they carry this matter for head pass. the earlier u understand that this is just a faceless online forum the better u save ur self some stress. thanks

Collyno82:
sometimes I don't understand u. of more than half a million girls in this forum na only u they carry this matter for head pass. the earlier u understand that this is just a faceless online forum the better u save ur self some stress. thanks

I don't get you. Could you please explain the message you're trying to pass?.

Jacksparr0w1207:


I gave up when I saw this "If his side chic calls, hand him over the phone and tell him he has a call.."

And realised how confused she was when I saw this "But while being patient, be on the look out for a replacement my dear... To avoid stories that touch... "

LMAO.
Some girls would just comment on NL to please the guys on here. Don't blame her too much.

You need to understand that some people are not used to calling and chatting all the time better still he might be extremely busy, I mean this guy might love you to death and you are here tearing yourself apart.

ceeejaytee:
I've been in a relationship with this guy for 7 months and we've been good. I love him so much but I'm beginning to have second thoughts.

He rarely calls me and when I do he's either busy or he doesn't pick my call. Sometimes I feel like he doesn't want to call me back because until the next day I won't see any call from him.

I've told him about this issue several times that it feels like I'm bothering him about it and he just laugh over it like it's nothing. I don't know what to do anymore...

I know I'm being selfish by needing too much or expecting too much from him but I don't just like feeling like being neglected by the person I care about so much.

Please I need you guys' advice. Thank you!

I don't think it's as it seems. The pressure of being unemployed and the desire to hustle could make any guy lose touch with the things happening around them. Or don't u think he would like to make himself and whomever he chooses to be around comfortable to an extent? The economy is hard and it's really unsettling for even those who are gainfully employed talk more of one who isn't, abi no be money dem take dey buy recharge card call in the first place? If u really love him, bear with him, no condition is permanent, which means things will likely change for the better with time.

Benita27:
And if I decide to earn more days in my father's house what's wrong with that?.

Your life dear.

Benita27:
And if I decide to earn more days in my father's house what's wrong with that?.

Your life dear

IamLEGEND1:
the relationship na by force?

Yes na by force wet in.

Benita27:
LMAO.
Some girls would just comment on NL to please the guys on here. Don't blame her too much.

Sis don't mind this girl she is really confuse.

Dotwillis1:
my dear he's done with you.... he z only trying to push you away gradually to make you lose interest. People don't break up anymore by spelling it out. Be wise

Just move on. Get busy with something more important that will distract you from having thoughts of him.

Uh, Sorry I quoted....

U seem so sure.

ceeejaytee Ma'am.

You should learn to choose what advice to follow on this forum, From all 15+ comments on this topic, none might be right...

Most pple who tell you to end it are crying over their love ones for doing this same thing dude is doing to you, some keep having hope things will get better, but they tell you to end it, because it is your life!

plus u clearly stated you nag a lot..

My little piece,

"Discover your self"

No one has ever been here to tell us "I'm the cause of the failure in my relationship"

But rather "He did this" "she did that.

Do the needful and happy ma'am!