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Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by MrCork: 7:15pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
Jacksparr0w1207: Godhelpme2017 is not lookin for boyfriend so pls...go n find fun on yahoo gay website!!(no oofeense) 1 Like |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 7:36pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
MrCork:soro niyen? |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 7:46pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
Someone should please summarize this article for me! |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Austinevick(m): 7:55pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
greatnaija01:Bro I respect u in fact you have said it all, the guy need to be prayerful before taking any step. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Oyindidi(f): 9:24pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
Jacksparr0w1207:You have said it all. Sexuality is not the real problem but the lack of spending quality time together. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Oyindidi(f): 9:42pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
MrCork:Why you mumu like cold akamu like this? |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 9:45pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
Oyindidi:That's what it is |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by MrCork: 10:11pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
Oyindidi: ...tryyyyina fix u up witan...the least u can say to me is: thank u Mr cork! 1 Like |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by MrCork: 10:12pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
Jacksparr0w1207: ^°°but why is this gay's talkin to Oyindidi?...ain't u gay anymore?((this is confused since))) 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 10:17pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
MrCork:ori e ti fòka |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by MissRaine69(f): 10:27pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
I had to lie down for this one. Anxieties about being married are understandable. Your misgivings have grown into what could be best described as avoidance. You have found a reason and you have moulded into becoming an excuse. It's not a reason it's avoidance. The lady did it lie to you, some would have. Has she given you any reason to doubt her moral & character? Sir you are a higher functioning mammal a woman being a virgin guarantees nothing at all. An intact hymen does not define character,sincerity personality, commitment,support good work ethics and moral( yes I said it) You are ruminating on semantics unnecessarily. The lady in question came with history you will find that is the norm, people tend to come with histories that shape then to be the people they are. Self sabotaging is an avoidance tactic . What are you are you really worried about? She will find you inadequate and turn to another man? If that was the case do you not think she would have tired of your behaviours and contritions and left you? You have a good thing going here, you need engage brain you are clearly clever enough to look at this logically. Would she make a good mother,wife and friend? If you respond yes to all three then ask yourself this How does the state of her hymen impact on her ability to perform all three? Don't be a morality police just for the sake of it. Don't let your emotions make your decisions. 1 Like |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Adorbs: 1:23am On Jul 25, 2017 |
[quote author=Godhelpme2017 post=58778674] Thanks for your contribution. We have not really spent so much time together. But sincerely, I could see her true love for me. The first I went to see her in school, I arrived late night around 10pm, I slept in her room(off campus) while she went to sleep with one of her friends in the school hostel. We spent about 8 hrs together the next day which happened to be Sunday including church service. The second time was when I went to her family house to meet her parents about (Lagos to Ondo). I was there for about 6hrs while she prepared the food, I was being entertained by her parents. This time, I knew I was travelling for my PhD but none of them knew. The third time of meeting and most emotional was at airport. My flight was 6:10am but I was surprised how she made it to see me off as early as 4am. This is someone who has no family in Lagos. She told me how her friend helped her and arranged with someone with a car to drive them to the airport so early after travelling from her school down to Lagos though within SW but I cant but really appreciate anyone who could do thing like this just because of me. The most surprising of this is that, my friend told me that she waited till around 6:20am to confirm my flight departure because I left them around 4:30am, they we not allowed to follow me at a point in the airport. Altogether, we've spent less than 24hrs being physically together.[/7quote] This here is the main issue, relationship of three years yet you both haven't t spent quality time together. I think you guys need to get to know one another on a one on one level since she is on break from school. 1 Like |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Godhelpme2017: 6:28am On Jul 25, 2017 |
greatnaija01: Your contribution softly touched me deeply. Thanks so much sir. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Godhelpme2017: 6:30am On Jul 25, 2017 |
MissRaine69: Thanks for your advice. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 6:46am On Jul 25, 2017 |
Fadiga24: He's been watching porn and masturbating daily. I fear for any woman who marries him. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Godhelpme2017: 6:50am On Jul 25, 2017 |
sunshineG: Hmm, the last sentence is very deep. The truth is I have met a number of ladies from different nationalities esp in church. My next visit, I might be coming with 2 or 3 of them to see banana plantation, cocoa, coffee, yam etc in my town in Ekiti (funny). I see them all as friends. There is a lady who would have been a perfect option for me. Her both parents are from Imo State but the only thing she has in common with Africa is just her skin colour. I want peace and quiet lifestyle free from unnecessary drama. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 8:14am On Jul 25, 2017 |
Godhelpme2017:I know what you want bro, I have a bro just like yyo, as a lecturer like your self, you want a quiet woman to match your lifestyle The truth is you have worked hard all your life and you deserve where you are today, But when it comes to marriage, things maybe a little different I am glad you have chosen to spend time with your girl in Nigeria, that is a good start I will reckon a devil you know, is more than the saint you don't know, keep an open mind and stay blessed 1 Like |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Godhelpme2017: 1:10pm On Jul 25, 2017 |
sunshineG: Thanks so much. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Jacseyi(m): 5:35pm On Jul 25, 2017 |
Jacksparr0w1207:Nice |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by pamijlove(f): 5:53pm On Jul 25, 2017 |
Honestly, I'm happy the way u're getting married virgin...that is how it should be.....i congratulate u for that B-)B-) |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by tomdon(m): 10:05am On Aug 29, 2017 |
Jacksparr0w1207: You have some points I agree with "This mentality will always make you not to want any girl. Lol very funny but true" And some I don't agree with "Trust me, virginity is 'overrated' and majority of girls above 25 who are still virgins just lack the opportunity to have sex." This is not true at all. It's a decision cos I've seen quite a number How many years do you reckon that dating could be?? Two months is enough sef The things is the person must be the special person Some ladies just make themselves unspecial by sleeping around. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by thestevens: 10:20am On Aug 29, 2017 |
Why has this not made front page?, from what I can deduce here is self judgement and that same self judgement is being pass to the lady you're in a supposed relationship but you are not sure. you shouldn't be concerned with the fact you're still a virgin at 33, what should be your utmost priority is a woman who can keep a home, a good mother to your unborn kids, a good wife and a good daughter inlaw.if you actually care about this present lady, her past should not be a concern. vigirnity does not guarantee a happy married life. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by tosyne2much(m): 10:23am On Aug 29, 2017 |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 10:31am On Aug 29, 2017 |
tosyne2much:Cos I think u might be of help... |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 10:35am On Aug 29, 2017 |
tomdon:I don't think dating have any particularly time limit. It all depends on how quick you both get to figure out each other. You don't need to date for years if you can figure out each other in months. But it's always good to figure one's partner before walking down the isle. I also do not think there's such thing as 'special person'. I believe we've only got to know how to manage our differences perfectly. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by tomdon(m): 10:36am On Aug 29, 2017 |
thestevens: What judgement has he passed to the lady. Is he not allowed to have a heart desire again or what?? Your utmost priority is yours and let it be yours. Stop passing judgement to the young man. I wonder who has said virginity guarantees a happy marriage. Some people just like twisting things |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by tosyne2much(m): 10:43am On Aug 29, 2017 |
raphafire:Ehn ehn Lemme try 1 Like |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by Nobody: 10:44am On Aug 29, 2017 |
Because of your mentality girls find it difficult to tell guys their secret.bros if am to say marry that lady that you made mention of if you love her. |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by tosyne2much(m): 10:50am On Aug 29, 2017 |
OP, I won't advise you marry that lady since your mind is already contaminated with negativity and insecurities that no mount of unsolicited advice you get here can erode. There's no point forcing yourself to love a lady you can't handle her past bro From you write-up, you feel you also deserve a sexually restrained lady just as you and it's better you go for it. What if you later get married to her and she fails to conceive shortly after marriage, you might start to regret marrying her, hence, mounting pain and cruelty on her And lastly, you're being too spiritual about this issue of marriage. But know than, being spiritual is not a recipe for constructing a good home, so why not try to lesson your grasps on your worry over virginity that does not guarantee happiness in marriage. People like you who don't cherish or embrace sincere ladies usually end up in the hands of pretenders. I guess you wouldn't be having any doubt if the said lady is taciturn about her escapades as many ladies would do Anyway, I wish you the best in your quest for hunting for a wife |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by bennymark(m): 12:24pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Godhelpme2017: you are wrong to judge that girl by her sexcapades, she was submitting totally by telling u her dark secrets. you had a choice, you chose to be sentimental about it. what of ladies who have abortion and even abandon born babies yet return to church to scan the gullible. you will encounter major depression if by this time next year you have still not made up your mind about your future Cersei (queen) shine your eye, go back and Marry her if you still have any feel for her. Good women are hard to find. I am also single n searching with age coming up fast, so I understand what you mean no woman is perfect, but you can take the woman and perfect her imperfections |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by tomdon(m): 6:01pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
Jacksparr0w1207: I agree with every of your point Much depends on the amount of time you commit to the relationship. A lot could be achieved in weeks which is unattainable in years You're alsl right because there will always be considerations for whom one loves and concession to whom one loves But one must ist make that person special then doing those things would be effortless |
Re: Help: I'm Tired Of Who To Marry by tomdon(m): 6:11pm On Aug 29, 2017 |
bennymark: I believe that the guy isn't judging her in any way to the best of my deduction. Even if he does judge her, what does it matter, he is not God and his judgement doesn't stand if God sees otherwise What I think is a dilemma faced of not marrying a virgin. There are many good ladies out there, you don't even need to search too much. the difference is whether a lady is willing and able to say to her husband "my ist love" since it matters to men. If it matters to the ladies too that the man must say same, so be it, It's allowed. All men to their own preferences |
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