paintworld:
be good to him for no reason... prepare his best meal... then let him realize how much u love him. Tell him to forgive you for anything you might have done wrong... if you have enough money, take him out to have nice time with him... Ask him if there is anything u r doing that he doesn't like and is there anything he'll like you to be doing... if he tells you, "change" and use the power of woman(crying) to tell him to pls not to cheat on you with any other lady. then see if there are changes.
.. Above all make plans to go and live with your husband...

doughziay:
One of the most difficult things about being in a relationship is realizing that two people are different from each other. No two people ever have the same needs, goals and desires. And sometimes these differences can cause lot of hurt, pain and misunderstanding. So, while you may not be the type of person to flirt with others, it is possible that your husband enjoys doing so and has little trouble lying about such matters.

The trick is to express your feelings in such a way that your husband can empathize with your point of view rather than turn away. If you can do this, it will make it easier for you and your husband to work through this issue. But, again this is not fair—it places a lot of responsibility on you to make things work.

Finally, it is normal to want to seek revenge by exposing the other woman. However, we strongly discourage you from doing so. If you act on your desire to get even by telling her husband or her employer, it will most likely will come back to haunt you in the long run. Your motives will be questioned, people will talk, and the story may actually get back to your husband’s work environment

paintworld:
be good to him for no reason... prepare his best meal... then let him realize how much u love him. Tell him to forgive you for anything you might have done wrong... if you have enough money, take him out to have nice time with him... Ask him if there is anything u r doing that he doesn't like and is there anything he'll like you to be doing... if he tells you, "change" and use the power of woman(crying) to tell him to pls not to cheat on you with any other lady. then see if there are changes.
.. Above all make plans to go and live with your husband...

doughziay:
One of the most difficult things about being in a relationship is realizing that two people are different from each other. No two people ever have the same needs, goals and desires. And sometimes these differences can cause lot of hurt, pain and misunderstanding. So, while you may not be the type of person to flirt with others, it is possible that your husband enjoys doing so and has little trouble lying about such matters.

The trick is to express your feelings in such a way that your husband can empathize with your point of view rather than turn away. If you can do this, it will make it easier for you and your husband to work through this issue. But, again this is not fair—it places a lot of responsibility on you to make things work.

Finally, it is normal to want to seek revenge by exposing the other woman. However, we strongly discourage you from doing so. If you act on your desire to get even by telling her husband or her employer, it will most likely will come back to haunt you in the long run. Your motives will be questioned, people will talk, and the story may actually get back to your husband’s work environment

jaszplus12:
usually when you're far apart from your spouse, the man meets or is met by females and usually they strike a cord and a friendship of sorts begin. mostly you're unaware until you stumble on it via phone records or what's app like you did. now the situation changes for you like you just said.
men/women are easily drawn away by emotional attachment to guy/ ladies mingling around them that's a fact.
now since you can confirm you saw this on his phone and he's deleted it means a lot and you must act NOW but SENSIBLY not to put him under pressure to begin a backlash.
speak kindly and gently to him but firmly. take time to DISCUSS not CONFRONT him. tell him your expectations of him while he's away and your fears and I will advice that you don't tell him you saw anything yet unless it continue after you have discussed the first time.
one thing, don't show agony and desperation in front of him else you put yourself too much in the defensive.
that's all you do for now. remember don't say you ever looked into his phone just yet else you won't get the chance again for he will obviously password it. try to copy and keep the female's number and don't repeat don't call her yet...time will bring things to the fore...be patient. good luck.

ArchEnemy:
Gentle guy?

Gentle guys don't cheat?

May God ve mercy on your home Sis.

Pray and fast before your man is finally lost.

paintworld:
be good to him for no reason... prepare his best meal... then let him realize how much u love him. Tell him to forgive you for anything you might have done wrong... if you have enough money, take him out to have nice time with him... Ask him if there is anything u r doing that he doesn't like and is there anything he'll like you to be doing... if he tells you, "change" and use the power of woman(crying) to tell him to pls not to cheat on you with any other lady. then see if there are changes.
.. Above all make plans to go and live with your husband...

graceberry:
Thanks fatymore, giddyperson

Thanks chubhiem u re so right as i have found it difficult to cope,i cant imagine my husband ontop another woman , its so heartbreaking as i have been faithful to him all my life

grafixdon:
Why women like to create unnecessary problems for themselves, why? You are depressed, really? Madam, you better face reality, if you divorce this man and marry someone else, be rest assure, you'll still find something to complain about. No perfect marriage.

Stop giving yourself unnecessary headaches. Stop checking his phone, stop that nonsense. My 2 cents.

grafixdon:
Why women like to create unnecessary problems for themselves, why? You are depressed, really? Madam, you better face reality, if you divorce this man and marry someone else, be rest assure, you'll still find something to complain about. No perfect marriage.

Stop giving yourself unnecessary headaches. Stop checking his phone, stop that nonsense. My 2 cents.

FortuneTeller:
If he is in another state and paying all the bills,,enjoy your life. Have a great time while he is away. Enjoy your freedom.

graceberry:
enjoy my freedom

How do you mean

FortuneTeller:


I hate to break the news to you, but most men are going to cheat. That may not apply to every single man in the world, but I do believe it applies to the majority of men. You are fighting a losing battle by chasing after him. If he is paying all the bills start saving everything you can. If he decides to walk out on you one day, at least you will have money for yourself. Take this opportunity to meet new people, form new hobbies, and travel if you can afford it. Consider yourself a rich woman who is single and living the fabulous life. Believe me, that is exactly what your husband is doing.

thorpido:
Wait till the number calls or sends a message again.As soon as you see it,show it is to him and tell him straight you know something is going on.
At a more relaxed atmosphere, raise the issue and have a discussion about it.
If possible plan relocating to where he stays.

graceberry:
Pls i need a candid advice on this matter as its really eating me up. I got married to my husband 7 years ago but i have never suspected him of any infidelity of recent although i have caught him once. , but like 8 month now i noticed that there is a particular no of a lady that calls him often .

some few weeks now i noticed whenever he calls or she call, he then deletes the no on his call log but unfortunately the call still show on true caller ,

also there was a time the lady sent good morning to him on whatapp and i saw it, but by the time i came back in the evening to check what has transpired btw them, he had not only cleared the chat but he deleted the chat and u cant even see that someone like that chat with him

I have been so heartbroken and depressed and i dont even want to believe he is cheating on me because he is one of those gentle guy

We dont stay in the same state due to transfer , he comes home once a month

Pls what shuold i do

I want to confront him when next he comes home but am like do i have enough evidence

You all know how men can be

twosquare:
When next he comes home, simply install a spyware on his phone that can't be seen. EOD

graceberry:
u

Pls what type of spyware

paintworld:
be good to him for no reason... prepare his best meal... then let him realize how much u love him. Tell him to forgive you for anything you might have done wrong... if you have enough money, take him out to have nice time with him... Ask him if there is anything u r doing that he doesn't like and is there anything he'll like you to be doing... if he tells you, "change" and use the power of woman(crying) to tell him to pls not to cheat on you with any other lady. then see if there are changes.
.. Above all make plans to go and live with your husband...