Kokaine:
no no no its not brainwashing anything. if you think im lying when i say youre very pretty, please change your mirror today. buy mirror from shoprite. original one.

lolzz... Thanks dear

chibuzorAbia:


Ok, so poverty translates to happiness abi?

And who told you marriage is prerequisite for s3x, live-in lovers, child bearing etc? Absolute nonsense!

Most modern marriages are endurance, pain, betrayals and the list goes on. A good friend of mine got laid off at MOBIL after 25 years service. The wife started suddenly started throwing hitherto unknown tantrums and just 6 month after they are no longer living together. Trust me guy gave her the best of life over the 25 years.

Abeg do what you like with your lives guys.

Don't try to confuse yourself. In one of my earlier post, I said "if you have the means, marry". Try to comprehend.

Please, rephrase your second paragraph, I'm sure it's incomprehensible to me and most peeps here.

Why I would not dismiss the pressures that a modern society exerts on marriage, but at what point in history has marriage every been a " walk in the park" or "a Disney-like happily ever after story"? Kindly show me!

Bringing one example out of the bunch is not a good basis for reaching intellectual conclusions. So that's flawed. They (couple) wh separated might have existing issues in their marriage which you might not know. Sometimes the "outside" could be deceitful.

Please before "doing anything with your lives" be fully prepared to accept the consequences.

Peace out.

My first love

Are there really good men in this world? Sure there are...men that are true, just, honest. Men who stick closer than even a brother and are just absolutely on point...lol.

Abisha was one of this in so many ways. Abisha was tall, fair and handsome. He was also emotionally healthy and was way balanced on the inside and outside that I just couldn't resist him...well I have tried way over seven (7) months to resist him. I had friend zoned him and place him on a 9 on the dreaded friend-zone scale of 0 to 10. I just wasn't ready for relationships as I had wanted the first man I ever dated to be the one I ended up with. So Him talking love/ dating was something I wasn't ready to get myself entangled in. Besides, he was way way older than me and that was supposed to be my perfect excuse...lol.

Anyways, the attraction between Abisha and I isn't really the main subject of this post but the man Abisha was in the healthy part of our relationship. Abisha was a man greatly invested in building up his little girl. He was a man that taught
me so many principles on being a better me. He taught me to play, to talk and be in charge of myself and emotions (the list actually goes on).

I remember this guy was there to check about 90% of every assignments I ever submitted in school, make necessary corrections and email it back to me before I submitted.

Abisha also taught me how to control my emotions and maturely handle differences. I remember practical cases where Abisha taught me the act of "talking" out dislikes, offenses and not dramatizing or nagging the normal way most ladies do. It was literally a more stress-free, fun, unique and amazing way of handling differences to which I am grateful to God I learnt early enough.


From Abisha I learnt how to care deeply for someone I love and also learnt the act of trust. ( yea...I was in a relationship but had 0.00% level of trust). Abisha also taught me "the act of compromise" and the "lets meet at the middle strategy" that makes all relationship work.

True...I was tough, inflexible and practically suck with some of my own childish ways of doing things(let me spare you some of those funny details) but then I was also stuck with someone who did not give up on improving me in the best way he could and while he could.

But then, what could have spoilt this true love story anyone would ever dream of having?
Was it my fault or his fault?

http://diaryofalovergirl..com.ng

Trottle:


Don't try to confuse yourself. In one of my earlier post, I said "if you have the means, marry". Try to comprehend.

Please, rephrase your second paragraph, I'm sure it's incomprehensible to me and most peeps here.

Why I would not dismiss the pressures that a modern society exerts on marriage, but at what point in history has marriage every been a " walk in the park" or "a Disney-like happily ever after story"? Kindly show me!

Bringing one example out of the bunch is not a good basis for reaching intellectual conclusions. So that's flawed. They (couple) wh separated might have existing issues in their marriage which you might not know. Sometimes the "outside" could be deceitful.

Please before "doing anything with your lives" be fully prepared to accept the consequences.

Peace out.

First off there are no consequences just outcomes.

Many people live happily alone whilst many others live miserably in a marriage.

And what exactly do people her from being MARRIED? What?

You can get everything now as a single person including that wonderful "peace of mind"

My dear marriage is overrated and slowly becoming meaningless as human kind evolves.

Na

chibuzorAbia:


First off there are no consequences just outcomes.

Many people live happily alone whilst many others live miserably in a marriage.

And what exactly do people her from being MARRIED? What?

You can get everything now as a single person including that wonderful "peace of mind"

My dear marriage is overrated and slowly becoming meaningless as human kind evolves.

Because some were miserable in their marriage does not mean the institution should be abandon. You fix what is broken and not throw it away, that's what marriage entails!

You can never get everything illegally (a child out of wedlock, pre-marital sex etc.) and expect a peace of mind. It' not just possible.

Marriage would never be overrated. I repeat, if you feel that marriage is overrated, please do not engage in any act that bears semblance to what is obtained in a marriage (sex, bastard children, live-in girlfriend performing the function of a spouse). Stay away from all these act, and you would know that marriage is highly underrated.

Look at the vices plaguing the Western society that feels marriage is overrated; Loss of happiness, people having sex like animals, increase in consumption of porn, increase in suicide and drug dependence, low self-esteem among their children and many other vices.

Look at some vices slowly seeping into the Nigerian society; is that your definition of evolution?

I refuse to embrace that kind of "societal evolution".

Kokaine:
if its on the premise that i owe you something because i married your sister, you will return my bride price and carry her away.

Lol.... bro.... sounds like exactly what I will have no problem doing!

Originalsly:
Lol.... bro.... sounds like exactly what I will have no problem doing!

lool... which of them? returning the bride or demanding your bride price.

Atiku2019:
We Aren't scared of getting Married.



1) The cost of Weddings in Nigeria is on the high side

2) The economy is so bad that now youths at 30 ain't working, do you expect them to get married without a job?


Full Restructuring 2019

Do you really need a wedding though?

Kokaine:
lool... which of them? returning the bride or demanding your bride price.

I'll try my best for both.....but may have to settle for the bride price....and will be demanding interest!

Originalsly:
I'll try my best for both.....but may have to settle for the bride price....and will be demanding interest!

hahahaha

Why will I be scared of getting married! I have been dreaming it, I want to have no how the stuff look like. Ifemi, I am seriously waiting for February 2018.....

bbsteve:
The only thing that will make a man be scared is just finance.

THAT IS THE CORE TRUTH.

FUNNY ENOUGH MANY LADIES ARE AWARE OF THIS FROM THE START AND BY THE TIME THEY ARE THROUGH BRAINWASHING THEIR MAN WITH UNNECESSARY QUOTES LIKE ''MONEY IS NOT EVERYTHING'', 'MARRIAGE WILL SOLVE EVERYTHING', JUST TO TIE THE MAN TO THE ALTER, THEY BEGIN TO COMPLAIN ABOUT THE FINANCIAL PROBLEM THAT THEY ARE NOT ENJOYING THE MARRIAGE AND MAKING LIFE A LIVING HELL FOR HIM.
SOMETHING THAT OUGHT TO HAVE BEEN RESOLVED BEFORE TYING THE KNOT

No you are afraid of being faithful to one woman

eberetos:
Ladies have sex around & we are scared that they can't stay with one man.....The cheating rate is getting high... In this world where a woman will be on phone having sex with another guy & may be speaking to fiancee same time.... ...in this world where ladies will have sex with ex few days to wedding......in this world where DNA fails.....In this world where if you don't have much money, love becomes an issue.......In this world where ladies have opened legs for many guys & cant stay with just one joystick.....Fear!!!! Its not just a fear of committment, but fear of cheating....

Nairalandsss:
[b]Marriage is one of the most important event in an individual’s life. Marriages are said to be destined from the heavens. The advent of a supposedly golden period in one’s life is expected give birth to feelings of positive anticipation. This holds true though for most women.Women are said to be difficult to understand. But the same seems to be true for the guys. Have we ever pondered enough on why are guys so scared of marriage? Is it that they wish to remain their mamma’s boys? Is it plain immaturity that he doesn’t wish to start handling responsibility?



While we start delving on the reasons why guys are so scared of marriage, we should also keep in mind the patriarchal set-up of most of our societies. This is where these guys have to become men and start fending for both themselves and their families. With the changes in the dynamics of families due to women becoming earning members of the families, guys have started becoming less scared of marriage. This is because of the wife sharing with him his responsibilities and making him more secure.Here are some reasons why men scared of getting married.[/b]

Reasons behind men scared of getting married are:

1.The wedding and honeymoon: His father is no longer ready to bankroll his wedding. The way weddings in India are, this is enough to give him the nightmares. He may earn enough for a living. But what about that European honeymoon his lady is expecting from him? This might just explain why guys are so afraid of getting married.

2.Bad experiences with partners: He did enter into a relationship earlier and had dreamt of a golden life with his partner. But things did not work out and resulted in a nasty break-up. Now he is plain scared of marriage. Cannot blame him though.

3.Afraid of kids: One of the reasons behind the guys being so scared of marriage lies in the frightening aspect of losing sleep over diapers! Strange but true. The women of today expect him to play an equal role in parenting. This is where he gets those hiccoughs.

4.A nasty mother: Sounds ridiculous right? You have seen how your mother treats your sister-in-law and this has led to your brother’s divorce with his wife of three years. Enough to scare you into deciding not to bring another lady into your home.

These are the reasons behind men scared of getting married


Mynd44 lalasticlala.

http://www.naijabroad.com/men-scared-getting-married/

I think number one thing is the bride price, there are some tribes , the way they will give you list is as if they want to sell their daughter, I think if all these things are reduced, why will somebody not get married on time, and secondly our economic situation is not even helping matters!