twosquare:
Pls google search, especially one that you will be seeing the person's conversation on Whatsapp...

madam leave spyware and go live with UR husband. The once-in-a-bluemoon contact you and UR husband have is likely the root of UR marital problem. Only few men I have met cope with being seperated from their family, particularly when it appears no change is in sight
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graceberry:


if i dont check his phone , how wud i have found this out. Do you know a lot of ladies have lost thier home because they dont want to check what thier husband is doing behind their back,

Do you know a lot side chicks out their dont care if they crash a marrage just for them to come in.

all this side chicks dont care and i will not sit and watch them destroy my home

You dont expect me to look other way until its too late

I dont know if you re a guy or lady

but if u re a lady

then wait tilll you get married and u know how it feel fir you to find out your husband is cheating

but have you forgotten that you mentioned it that he delets his messages, that is to tell you that he is smart and you are only been lucky to find out what you did.Anyway my candid advise to you is to be VERY PATIENCE and more PRAYERFUL,with God on your side you will have him for keep

First of all, protect urself whenever he is around!
Now, bring out the best in u when he comes in terms of cooking, sex, appearance, etc.
If there is anything u do that annoys him, please try and stop. It will help.
Don't let him know u have been checking his phone, he will play smart and he will win.
At the best moments, always bring up the issue of how your being apart is affecting ur marriage, 'killing you' and so on. You know, bring it up like u really want to be with him and all that, like moving to where he is. In a nutshell, revive that old good loving all over. Calls, messages, chats, videos, pictures, name it! Play smarter ma.
Always give him what he will miss while u r apart. Trust me, the other lady does that.
Most importantly, be the prayer warrior in the house and fast dear.
Encourage him to pray with u and fast when he is at home and while praying with him, make sure u direct the power of God to destroy everything and everyone threatening your marriage, loud and clear.
If u can, save up real good, plan it and move in with him. It may help also.
All the best my sister.

pinky1974:
but have you forgotten that you mentioned it that he delets his messages, that is to tell you that he is smart and you are only been lucky to find out what you did.Anyway my candid advise to you is to be VERY PATIENCE and more PRAYERFUL,with God on your side you will have him for keep

Thanks so much pinky

Amopeekun:
First of all, protect urself whenever he is around!
Now, bring out the best in u when he comes in terms of cooking, sex, appearance, etc.
If there is anything u do that annoys him, please try and stop. It will help.
Don't let him know u have been checking his phone, he will play smart and he will win.
At the best moments, always bring up the issue of how your being apart is affecting ur marriage, 'killing you' and so on. You know, bring it up like u really want to be with him and all that, like moving to where he is. In a nutshell, revive that old good loving all over. Calls, messages, chats, videos, pictures, name it! Play smarter ma.
Always give him what he will miss while u r apart. Trust me, the other lady does that.
Most importantly, be the prayer warrior in the house and fast dear.
Encourage him to pray with u and fast when he is at home and while praying with him, make sure u direct the power of God to destroy everything and everyone threatening your marriage, loud and clear.
If u can, save up real good, plan it and move in with him. It may help also.
All the best my sister.

thank you for this sincere advice, God bless u more sis

jaszplus12:
usually when you're far apart from your spouse, the man meets or is met by females and usually they strike a cord and a friendship of sorts begin. mostly you're unaware until you stumble on it via phone records or what's app like you did. now the situation changes for you like you just said.
men/women are easily drawn away by emotional attachment to guy/ ladies mingling around them that's a fact.
now since you can confirm you saw this on his phone and he's deleted it means a lot and you must act NOW but SENSIBLY not to put him under pressure to begin a backlash.
speak kindly and gently to him but firmly. take time to DISCUSS not CONFRONT him. tell him your expectations of him while he's away and your fears and I will advice that you don't tell him you saw anything yet unless it continue after you have discussed the first time.
one thing, don't show agony and desperation in front of him else you put yourself too much in the defensive.
that's all you do for now. remember don't say you ever looked into his phone just yet else you won't get the chance again for he will obviously password it. try to copy and keep the female's number and don't repeat don't call her yet...time will bring things to the fore...be patient. good luck.

Very good advice.

@ just yo add to this, pls prayerfully take it to God and ask Him for Wisdom on how to approach/handle the issue.

I pray God help you. . . The devil will not succeed in breaking your home.

Pidgin2:


So people living with their wives in the same state don't cheat? Can't someone who stays in Yaba have a girlfriend in Surulere where he works or she should relocate to his office

Madam, forget, just pray and protect yourself from contacting STD

Point of correction it is not "contacting" but "contracting".
High school graduate go and learn more. I recall ur "romanticism" instead of "rheumatism".

buy him a carton of condoms in his next birthday, let him know u can't be fooled and insist he uses it becos u dnt want to die as a result infection from any STD's.
try and relocate to where ever he is. most men who live apart tend to cheat on their wives.

note : I said most not all men.