I want to make my story short, I've been dating this my girl since April 2015 when i was in final year in the university while she was in year one, she reciprocated the love infact she made me feel heaven on earth until November 2016 when she started uploading several pictures in a car with a particular guy who happens to be a customs officer,prior to this her attitudinal change, I promised her i'll marry her and from the depth of my heart i meant everything I told her, I even had to influence my state of deployment during my nysc programe to her town of residence, uploading pictures in the car with the guy has never been my problem but the worst happened when she reluctantly (unlike her that usually begs that she wants to visit ) came to spend the weekend with me), right in my presence she was making a call with this particular guy, I mean using this intimate and sexy voice, I left the room in anger to avoid troubles, I returned like after 20 minutes and she was still on the call, I had to take the phone from her and in her bid to resist me, the angel i always loved, cherished and adored hooked my shirt by the neck such that I was shocked to my marrow that such thing will ever happen, i gave a her a resounding slap ( which i regret because I've vowed never to lay my hands on a lady till the day i die), she left my house the next morning and threatened the relationship was over. I never knew the words HEARTBREAK AND DEPRESSION were real till those moments, i begged and begged and everything seemed to normalize after a month, my problem now is that this particular guy calls my girl like more that 10 times in thirty minutes, I called her and asked her what was going on, she told me the guy is her best friend who she has known for five years meanwhile i never knew this guy when things were cool with us, I told her to cut off the relationship but what I get in return when ever i mention this guy's name are insults. Infact there's no type or kind of insult(s) which I've never received from her, I was a corps member but I kept sending her money out of my little savings but she kept demanding things from me like I was already employed, during one of our conversations she told me how she was still requesting for financial aid from her mum when she has a boyfriend (this was a lady that was always encouraging me when I even had nothing when I was in school), between November and now, I've always told her to move on with her life with her best friend (a customs officer ) but after a week or so she calls back promising to change, once i succumb to her plea i end up in tears and agony again, I know it might sound foolish but since November 2016 till now she's been messing with my feelings and emotions. I'm so angry and ashamed of myself that I've not been able to call it a day on this tormenting relationship. I finished my Nysc since April but till now I've not been able to secure a job but I believe God will see me through someday, my story is a very long one but i decided to make it laconic so as not to bore anyone, please i really need advice on how to end this relationship and mean it, I've tried severally but still find myself talking with her again. My soul is no longer with her, I don't want her in my life anymore but i really find it difficult to leave her, I don't want to marry a woman that will make me regret my existence on earth

All I ll tell you is to build your career first. As per your emotion, try to also be a man and see things on the angle of risk so as not to affect your health afterall it is a general say that there are two sides to a coin so enjoy/endure which side u find yourself

Odikwa serious.

Well, you just need to put yourself together, be a man and call it quit.

Abduljohn:
All I ll tell you is to build your career first. As per your emotion, try to also be a man and see things on the angle of risk so as not to affect your health afterall it is a general say that there are two sides to a coin so enjoy/endure which side u find yourself

thanks brother, as for my career path, I have everything in full gear and i believe God will see me through but dealing with my emotions hasn't been easy, since November till now, I've been in this deep shit, I'm even ashamed of myself

firstly, your stories are pathetic.I don't like guys that sound so weak,,you are just sounding as if your life depends on the relationship..yes,she was once an angel but now she has turned to something else..why not change your dancing step since the track of the song have changed..honestly I'm disappointed, ,what happens to securing your career first? you shouldn't deny yourself the fact that you know you are the side boo now,,just forget about her and work towards achieving your goals...my candid advice though

Man, you really messed up. Look, the moment a girl you're going out with starts hurling insults at you, just bear in mind it's factually over. She doesn't care what you think again.

She might have found out you're gullible and cannot almost do without her so she decided to act out the way she likes. The handwriting is on the wall.

There are over a million and one girls out there. Be thankful she's getting out of your life.

[quote author=Obi88 post=59227799]I want to make my story short, I've been dating this my girl since April 2015 when i was in final year in the university while she was in year one, she reciprocated the love infact she made me feel heaven on earth until November 2016 when she started uploading several pictures in a car with a particular guy who happens to be a customs officer,prior to this her attitudinal change, I promised her i'll marry her and from the depth of my heart i meant everything I told her, I even had to influence my state of deployment during my nysc programe to her town of residence, uploading pictures in the car with the guy has never been my problem but the worst happened when she reluctantly (unlike her that usually begs that she wants to visit ) came to spend the weekend with me), right in my presence she was making a call with this particular guy, I mean using this intimate and sexy voice, I left the room in anger to avoid troubles, I returned like after 20 minutes and she was still on the call, I had to take the phone from her and in her bid to resist me, the angel i always loved, cherished and adored hooked my shirt by the neck such that I was shocked to my marrow that such thing will ever happen, i gave a her a resounding slap ( which i regret because I've vowed never to lay my hands on a lady till the day i die), she left my house the next morning and threatened the relationship was over. I never knew the words HEARTBREAK AND DEPRESSION were real till those moments, i begged and begged and everything seemed to normalize after a month, my problem now is that this particular guy calls my girl like more that 10 times in thirty minutes, I called her and asked her what was going on, she told me the guy is her best friend who she has known for five years meanwhile i never knew this guy when things were cool with us, I told her to cut off the relationship but what I get in return when ever i mention this guy's name are insults. Infact there's no type or kind of insult(s) which I've never received from her, I was a corps member but I kept sending her money out of my little savings but she kept demanding things from me like I was already employed, during one of our conversations she told me how she was still requesting for financial aid from her mum when she has a boyfriend (this was a lady that was always encouraging me when I even had nothing when I was in school), between November and now, I've always told her to move on with her life with her best friend (a customs officer ) but after a week or so she calls back promising to change, once i succumb to her plea i end up in tears and agony again, I know it might sound foolish but since November 2016 till now she's been messing with my feelings and emotions. I'm so angry and ashamed of myself that I've not been able to call it a day on this tormenting relationship. I finished my Nysc since April but till now I've not been able to secure a job but I believe God will see me through someday, my story is a very long one but i decided to make it laconic so as not to bore anyone, please i really need advice on how to end this relationship and mean it, I've tried severally but still find myself talking with her again. My soul is no longer with her, I don't want her in my life anymore but i really find it difficult to leave her, I don't want to marry a woman and will make me regret my existence on earth

U re killing urself slowly. How can u be in a relationship that brings nothing but pain and suffering. I know it's difficult but do everything possible to forget abt this girl. Get hold of urself ok!. I know it's not easy considering how much u love her but get urself busy in some activities. You cannot kill urself because of someone who s not worth it.

Na wah o

which advice you wan hear again on how to end relationship

Wanna end a frustrating relationship,
call the hoe to ur house,
give her beer or what ever the fvck her favourite drink is,
tell her you love her,
then fvck her mercilessly and aggressively while moaning any radom female name........
after the sweet fvck tell her you love her again
and give her t-fare...........
.walk her to the gate,
stop a cab (no go stop bike o......stop a cab) let her enter the cab, pay the driver (forget the t-fare money you gave her before), kiss her and tell the driver to move

once he moves starts the car and is about to or already moving, bring out your phone and send her this text

"bitch its over between us......dont fvcking call me again cos i dont wanna see or hear your who*re self and olosho voice"

then with your hands in your pocket walk ambly into your apartment

shikena!!

One sec....

Now listen. As harsh as this may sound, you have to face reality.

That chic used to love you but she's double dating. When she falls out with her main guy, she remembers you and makes you feel good. When they are back on, you get hell from her.

You need to call it quits and move on. For your health and total wellbeing.

It would hurt , you would miss her ( especially the good times) but you have to think of yourself.

That girl is poison. Run for your life.

My guy,bfrendin a uni gal z dangerous oh, there nt alwayz sincere,wit d nid for moni dey go frm 1 guy 2 anoda

sekxy:
firstly, your stories are pathetic.I don't like guys that sound so weak,,you are just sounding as if your life depends on the relationship..yes,she was once an angel but now she has turned to something else..why not change your dancing step since the track of the song have changed..honestly I'm disappointed, ,what happens to securing your career first? you shouldn't deny yourself the fact that you know you are the side boo now,,just forget about her and work towards achieving your goals...my candid advice though

thank you so much, I appreciate your advice, I strongly believe i'll get over her soonest, I'm working on that WEAK aspect for sure

Obi88:
thank you so much, I appreciate your advice, I strongly believe i'll get over her soonest, I'm working on that WEAK aspect for sure

good to hear that..please man up and face your career..she will soon regret her attitude

Ma guy,datin a uni gal z dangerous oh,there re nt alwayz sincere,wit d nid 4 moni dey go frm 1 guy to anoda

Sir if u can endure the pain and be man enuf to leave her allow and face ur life. She will keep acting like this . Dont let her come back yours is still at the early stage. I Av seen a friend struggle with a girl like this for 3yrs and nothing came out of it. If u continue worst things awaits. She LL tell you she never love you...she LL tell you she has outgrown ur kind of relationship and love affairs...she LL tell you she has Lost sexual feelings for you... All this is to make you her slave...she LL only come back to you to refill her ego when the other guy hurt her and she LL leave when she is healed...you LL notice that anytime she comes to you she is always dejected and frustrated ,when you help heal here she leaves you dejected and frustrated, with on cash in ur account cos you did all to please her .. End her now or you re finished. Dont even try to make her ur sex partner cos your heart cant carry it. Run mehn run b4 she make you lose precious opportunities..remember that anytime she leave you become less productive for a period of time those re supposed to be ur good time to get up and he things done for that pretty woman that you LL meet tomorrow. Leave that your girl and you LL find out that after some time when you meet her again u LL be angry at ursef for wasting. Ur time or nonsense like her.

So what advice do you now need?

sekxy:

good to hear that..please man up and face your career..she will soon regret her attitude

If I do like u advice to you I hope say u go appreciate am

Obi88:
I want to make my story short, I've been dating this my girl since April 2015 when i was in final year in the university while she was in year one, she reciprocated the love infact she made me feel heaven on earth until November 2016 when she started uploading several pictures in a car with a particular guy who happens to be a customs officer,prior to this her attitudinal change, I promised her i'll marry her and from the depth of my heart i meant everything I told her, I even had to influence my state of deployment during my nysc programe to her town of residence, uploading pictures in the car with the guy has never been my problem but the worst happened when she reluctantly (unlike her that usually begs that she wants to visit ) came to spend the weekend with me), right in my presence she was making a call with this particular guy, I mean using this intimate and sexy voice, I left the room in anger to avoid troubles, I returned like after 20 minutes and she was still on the call, I had to take the phone from her and in her bid to resist me, the angel i always loved, cherished and adored hooked my shirt by the neck such that I was shocked to my marrow that such thing will ever happen, i gave a her a resounding slap ( which i regret because I've vowed never to lay my hands on a lady till the day i die), she left my house the next morning and threatened the relationship was over. I never knew the words HEARTBREAK AND DEPRESSION were real till those moments, i begged and begged and everything seemed to normalize after a month, my problem now is that this particular guy calls my girl like more that 10 times in thirty minutes, I called her and asked her what was going on, she told me the guy is her best friend who she has known for five years meanwhile i never knew this guy when things were cool with us, I told her to cut off the relationship but what I get in return when ever i mention this guy's name are insults. Infact there's no type or kind of insult(s) which I've never received from her, I was a corps member but I kept sending her money out of my little savings but she kept demanding things from me like I was already employed, during one of our conversations she told me how she was still requesting for financial aid from her mum when she has a boyfriend (this was a lady that was always encouraging me when I even had nothing when I was in school), between November and now, I've always told her to move on with her life with her best friend (a customs officer ) but after a week or so she calls back promising to change, once i succumb to her plea i end up in tears and agony again, I know it might sound foolish but since November 2016 till now she's been messing with my feelings and emotions. I'm so angry and ashamed of myself that I've not been able to call it a day on this tormenting relationship. I finished my Nysc since April but till now I've not been able to secure a job but I believe God will see me through someday, my story is a very long one but i decided to make it laconic so as not to bore anyone, please i really need advice on how to end this relationship and mean it, I've tried severally but still find myself talking with her again. My soul is no longer with her, I don't want her in my life anymore but i really find it difficult to leave her, I don't want to marry a woman and will make me regret my existence on earth

u fail to be a MAN..u had the chance to be a Man but you blown it....n 4 ur good she deserve the slap..kudos to you 4 d slap.
na listen to me cut her off from ur life..block her..


work on yourself..n be a better MAN













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Martin0:

If I do like u advice to you I hope say u go appreciate am

lol...I appreciate good things

TreasuredLeidy:
Odikwa serious.

Well, you just need to put yourself together, be a man and call it quit.

I like this advice,make he jus jejely waka live the girl good one from u

I'm so happy with the advice so far, thank y'all for your care, I feel loved and I'm happy we can put jokes aside and help ourselves when it really matters

sekxy:
lol...I appreciate good things

For dream ba,I nor want make person con dey cry follow me ooo I go jus throway face

Martin0:

For dream ba,I nor want make person con dey cry follow me ooo I go jus throway face

hahahaha

U truly loved her.
I can understand. That moment when u know this person is harmful to u and you don't even want the person again but yet the person can't just leave your heart. U try and try. Your thoughts just keep going back there even when you try not to let it go there. You love deeply. The guy must have spoilt her with money u could never afford to give her.
I appreciate your level of love. Hard to see a guy that loves truly and deeply like you do

Obi88:
thank you so much, I appreciate your advice, I strongly believe i'll get over her soonest, I'm working on that WEAK aspect for sure

True that's the only way.block her. The temptation to talk to her when you miss her would be high. But if you can pass that phase, you would get over this. Resist it squarely. Once u talk to her again within that period, you Wld go back to square one and your heart would start beating for her again n she Wld drop u again....so u have to completely cut off. Tell her u need space and u Wld apprciate if she never reached u again cus u won't even b picking her call. Simple. Straight. Clear. Then try to hang out wit other ladies or guy friends wen u thinking of her deeply again...with time you may even get to fall in love with one of your female friends...that's why they say date your friend.

madone:
Sir if u can endure the pain and be man enuf to leave her allow and face ur life. She will keep acting like this . Dont let her come back yours is still at the early stage. I Av seen a friend struggle with a girl like this for 3yrs and nothing came out of it. If u continue worst things awaits. She LL tell you she never love you...she LL tell you she has outgrown ur kind of relationship and love affairs...she LL tell you she has Lost sexual feelings for you... All this is to make you her slave...she LL only come back to you to refill her ego when the other guy hurt her and she LL leave when she is healed...you LL notice that anytime she comes to you she is always dejected and frustrated ,when you help heal here she leaves you dejected and frustrated, with on cash in ur account cos you did all to please her .. End her now or you re finished. Dont even try to make her ur sex partner cos your heart cant carry it. Run mehn run b4 she make you lose precious opportunities..remember that anytime she leave you become less productive for a period of time those re supposed to be ur good time to get up and he things done for that pretty woman that you LL meet tomorrow. Leave that your girl and you LL find out that after some time when you meet her again u LL be angry at ursef for wasting. Ur time or nonsense like her.

sekxy:

hahahaha

U know say even if the relationship nor dey work una nor dey ever agree to let it go,u know that..

Martin0:


U know say even if the relationship nor dey work una nor dey ever agree to let it go,u know that..

Lol maybe not for me

You're obviously a beta male that why one smallie is using your balls to play ping-pong.


Where do I start advising you from sef?


Get a side chick first for starters. That will help you take your mind off this wench.


Next time, no carry your heart out on top woman. Them be like mtn 3g network for inside village... vert unstable. Never show a woman too much love and care. That's the easiest way to hand them your balls. Don't give em the impression that your life will scatter if they leave. Love, care and attention should be showed SPARINGLY. Overdo it and she will be gone in a blink.



Get a fckin sidechick now and forget about this chick. If she comes around, add to her body count and lock up. No dey mumu untop woman. Your destiny is not tied to her love oga

Op
Grow a pair some ladies take advantage of an easy Going nature ..
now you know how she is .. so do the right thing and move on
You are not happy clearly ! So do not compromise your happiness because of what u felt or what u think you a feeling .. break it up and move on

You will find someone who will use lobpve and kill u boss up

Bros this isn't a relationship, it a situationship. my heart is too precious to commit it to a gal that ain't worth it. you have got to live a happy life and know that there are better and more beautifully behave women out there so don't be afraid to let go.

Lalas247:
Op
Grow a pair some ladies take advantage of an easy Going nature ..
now you know how she is .. so do the right thing and move on
You are not happy clearly ! So do not compromise your happiness because of what u felt or what u think you a feeling .. break it up and move on

You will find someone who will use lobpve and kill u boss up

thank you so much, I really appreciate everyone's advice, a new and better me will emerge today by God's grace

madone:
Sir if u can endure the pain and be man enuf to leave her allow and face ur life. She will keep acting like this . Dont let her come back yours is still at the early stage. I Av seen a friend struggle with a girl like this for 3yrs and nothing came out of it. If u continue worst things awaits. She LL tell you she never love you...she LL tell you she has outgrown ur kind of relationship and love affairs...she LL tell you she has Lost sexual feelings for you... All this is to make you her slave...she LL only come back to you to refill her ego when the other guy hurt her and she LL leave when she is healed...you LL notice that anytime she comes to you she is always dejected and frustrated ,when you help heal here she leaves you dejected and frustrated, with on cash in ur account cos you did all to please her .. End her now or you re finished. Dont even try to make her ur sex partner cos your heart cant carry it. Run mehn run b4 she make you lose precious opportunities..remember that anytime she leave you become less productive for a period of time those re supposed to be ur good time to get up and he things done for that pretty woman that you LL meet tomorrow. Leave that your girl and you LL find out that after some time when you meet her again u LL be angry at ursef for wasting. Ur time or nonsense like her.

He's just been silly.

He's not even pitying his poor parents and siblings who're prolly waiting for the leverage his post-education success will provide.He's putting them all second place for a disloyal, confused and treacherous bitch.

Na him sabi!