hey everyone.this is my first post here.
okay,so there is this girl she is my junior colleague in uni.we are close friends and really enjoy each other's company.we are having sex together though,but we are not dating sha.
the sex just kinda happened and well since then it's been ongoing.
I really like this girl and I want to sort of ask her out and make it official but I'm just scared,cos my last relationship didn't go so well.
Also,I'm kinda waiting for her to make decisions first move and ask me the " what are we" or "where is this going to" question.
she keeps giving signs that she wants more but she has never really made that move and I don't want to be d first to make it.
now,she will be travelling back to her house today,she is done with her exams,but I'm still in school here sha.
Yesterday she kept on telling me bout how a guy was chyking her and stuffs like that(she tells me about guys chyking her and even text msgs they send her).She kept going on and on about how d guy said he is coming bk this evening and that they would stroll together,bla bla bla.she kept on saying "I'm going on a date".anyways I figured out she was tryna make me jealous (I was very jealous sha) and I just had ds plain face on with no emotions and then she called me a jerk.i think she lied about d date sha cos she spent d whole evening with me and kept on pretending like someone was calling her.
She would be going bk today and I wanna ask her out before she goes,but I just have ds fear holding me bk.
so guys do I try to make it official before she travels or do I leave her to go like that

you're already in a relationship but you dunno


congrats dear

Simply ask her out when your dick is in her since you guys are already sex mates... Its the best way to approach your situation

ChaseTheCash:
you're already in a relationship but you dunno


congrats dear

lolz,but how,dear??
I didn't ask her out and she doesn't call me her boyfriend,besides she is always tryna make me jealous

knax:


lolz,but how,dear??
I didn't ask her out and she doesn't call me her boyfriend,besides she is always tryna make me jealous

very simple, invite some random girl over when you know she'll show up, act all loved up with the random girl in her presence.. you'll get all the answers you seek.

ChaseTheCash:


very simple, invite some random girl over when you know she'll show up, act all loved up with the random girl in her presence.. you'll get all the answers you seek.

lolz,yea.
but she is travelling today and I won't see her until next month or so,do u think I should make it official or keep playing the waiting game.

knax:


lolz,yea.
but she is travelling today and I won't see her until next month or so,do u think I should make it official or keep playing the waiting game.

Follow your heart...
In my case, if I were a guy, not sure I can date someone I'm straffing for free, totally awkward! can't bring myself to trust her, Well, you know her better than I do..

you are scared to ask her out and yet you are asking if you should ask her out officially.....instead of you to make a move,you are here confusing yourself with questions

knax:
hey everyone.this is my first post here.
okay,so there is this girl she is my junior colleague in uni.we are close friends and really enjoy each other's company.we are having sex together though,but we are not dating sha.
the sex just kinda happened and well since then it's been ongoing.
I really like this girl and I want to sort of ask her out and make it official but I'm just scared,cos my last relationship didn't go so well.
Also,I'm kinda waiting for her to make decisions first move and ask me the " what are we" or "where is this going to" question.
she keeps giving signs that she wants more but she has never really made that move and I don't want to be d first to make it.
now,she will be travelling back to her house today,she is done with her exams,but I'm still in school here sha.
Yesterday she kept on telling me bout how a guy was chyking her and stuffs like that(she tells me about guys chyking her and even text msgs they send her).She kept going on and on about how d guy said he is coming bk this evening and that they would stroll together,bla bla bla.she kept on saying "I'm going on a date".anyways I figured out she was tryna make me jealous (I was very jealous sha) and I just had ds plain face on with no emotions and then she called me a jerk.i think she lied about d date sha cos she spent d whole evening with me and kept on pretending like someone was calling her.
She would be going bk today and I wanna ask her out before she goes,but I just have ds fear holding me bk.
so guys do I try to make it official before she travels or do I leave her to go like that

Hello knax,

I'm Didi. A relationship consultant.

I will advice you speak to her letting her understand that you want the best out of the relationship. Thereinafter, her response should trigger your next movement.

Askance:

Hello knax,

I'm Didi. A relationship consultant.

I will advice you speak to her letting her understand that you want the best out of the relationship. Thereinafter, her response should trigger your next movement.

yea..thanks.
I think I will try that

children of these days sha! u guys are just having sex anyhow. She is going back home today where she will pretend to be an angel and after some years d father will start announcing all over that his grownup daughter can't find a husband that guys are only just interested straffing and dumping

@op, you wouldn't know what you have until you lose it.
That girl is madly in love with you and you're here making cowardly excuses, waiting for her to ask you out? Do you have balls at all??
Take control of your relationship, treat that girl right. She's scared that's why she's playing the jealousy card, she feels cheap for sleeping around with you without any commitment from you. So she can't bring herself to start begging you to be in a relationship with her.
When a woman loves you don't take her for a fool or a hoe.
Man up and stop being a little b1tch

abujaArchitect:
@op, you wouldn't know what you have until you lose it.
That girl is madly in love with you and you're here making cowardly excuses, waiting for her to ask you out? Do you have balls at all??
Take control of your relationship, treat that girl right. She's scared that's why she's playing the jealousy card, she feels cheap for sleeping around with you without any commitment from you. So she can't bring herself to start begging you to be in a relationship with her.
When a woman loves you don't take her for a fool or a hoe.
Man up and stop being a little b1tch

okay sir...let's hope this goes well

She wants you to make the move, instead of being sexmates only.

I don't want to be harsh on you OP but I would subtle my pedal. Judging from your story, it shows you are still a kid in age and your reasoning.

Are you trying to show off or what? What are you scared of if your story is even real by the way? You guys are already sex mate or do u wish the status remains that way? What do you really want with her?

knax:


lolz,yea.
but she is travelling today and I won't see her until next month or so,do u think I should make it official or keep playing the waiting game.

From what you wrote, the lady in question loves you. You are already in a relationship with her. Just tell her and stop playing hide and seek with the feeling you both have for each other. Tell her or you watch someone else take over

Unlike what you think, her going today could be an end of the relationship

ChaseTheCash:



Follow your heart...
In my case, if I were a guy, not sure I can date someone I'm straffing for free, totally awkward! can't bring myself to trust her, Well, you know her better than I do..

So if you were a guy, you'd trust someone you pay for sex abi
I don't trust girls, but if I'm to trust any, I'd trust the one that doesn't charge and demand for any favor before sex sha.

knax:
hey everyone.this is my first post here.
okay,so there is this girl she is my junior colleague in uni.we are close friends and really enjoy each other's company.we are having sex together though,but we are not dating sha.
the sex just kinda happened and well since then it's been ongoing.
I really like this girl and I want to sort of ask her out and make it official but I'm just scared,cos my last relationship didn't go so well.
Also,I'm kinda waiting for her to make decisions first move and ask me the " what are we" or "where is this going to" question.
she keeps giving signs that she wants more but she has never really made that move and I don't want to be d first to make it.
now,she will be travelling back to her house today,she is done with her exams,but I'm still in school here sha.
Yesterday she kept on telling me bout how a guy was chyking her and stuffs like that(she tells me about guys chyking her and even text msgs they send her).She kept going on and on about how d guy said he is coming bk this evening and that they would stroll together,bla bla bla.she kept on saying "I'm going on a date".anyways I figured out she was tryna make me jealous (I was very jealous sha) and I just had ds plain face on with no emotions and then she called me a jerk.i think she lied about d date sha cos she spent d whole evening with me and kept on pretending like someone was calling her.
She would be going bk today and I wanna ask her out before she goes,but I just have ds fear holding me bk.
so guys do I try to make it official before she travels or do I leave her to go like that

My friend, will u face ur books and leave pussy for matured pipo. No come cry heart break and low go here sha

Ask her out before it is too late.. BTW,are you a unilorin student?

You are already straffing this gal, what are you asking her for a relationship for, you want to use your mouth to bring trouble to yourself?. By the time you ask her out you will see how her attitude begins to change, and how demands will be flying in and out incessantly coupled with other drama. You better enjoy the free sex while it last. If your sole reason of wanting to asking her out is to officially own her, i assure you it's no guarantee, you will lose her to another guy whether you propose to her or not.

She ain't controlling u
Just grow a pair of gpballs and do the needful ! Una go dey chop cake anyhow u tink say no be relationship

Lalas247:
She ain't controlling u
Just grow a pair of gpballs and do the needful ! Una go dey chop cake anyhow u tink say no be relationship

what kind of cake are you talking about?

febo15:
what kind of cake are you talking about?

Birthday cake spoilt child

Lalas247:
She ain't controlling u
Just grow a pair of gpballs and do the needful ! Una go dey chop cake anyhow u tink say no be relationship

I finally asked her out..like I did it in a very weird way and well she has been laughing and we re cool.although she hasn't said yes or no sha.

Kingxway:
From what you wrote, the lady in question loves you. You are already in a relationship with her. Just tell her and stop playing hide and seek with the feeling you both have for each other. Tell her or you watch someone else take over

Unlike what you think, her going today could be an end of the relationship

I finally asked her out..like I did it in a very weird way and well she has been and we re cool.although she hasn't said yes or no sha

knax:
hey everyone.this is my first post here.
okay,so there is this girl she is my junior colleague in uni.we are close friends and really enjoy each other's company.we are having sex together though,but we are not dating sha.
the sex just kinda happened and well since then it's been ongoing.
I really like this girl and I want to sort of ask her out and make it official but I'm just scared,cos my last relationship didn't go so well.
Also,I'm kinda waiting for her to make decisions first move and ask me the " what are we" or "where is this going to" question.
she keeps giving signs that she wants more but she has never really made that move and I don't want to be d first to make it.
now,she will be travelling back to her house today,she is done with her exams,but I'm still in school here sha.
Yesterday she kept on telling me bout how a guy was chyking her and stuffs like that(she tells me about guys chyking her and even text msgs they send her).She kept going on and on about how d guy said he is coming bk this evening and that they would stroll together,bla bla bla.she kept on saying "I'm going on a date".anyways I figured out she was tryna make me jealous (I was very jealous sha) and I just had ds plain face on with no emotions and then she called me a jerk.i think she lied about d date sha cos she spent d whole evening with me and kept on pretending like someone was calling her.
She would be going bk today and I wanna ask her out before she goes,but I just have ds fear holding me bk.
so guys do I try to make it official before she travels or do I leave her to go like that

Your father is to be blame for your enormous retardedness. the fool should have spill d sperm that formed a miserable bastardized hermit like on the carpet less room he fuccked your illiterate imbecilic mother.


we wouldn't have to worry about a wasted hermit like you creating useless threads about on nairaland!

you better face your studies and stop rapping pre-teen girl in the secondary you attends. remember waec is around the corner! you worthless nincompoop!

lefulefu dear where are you?

PeggySandas:
Your father is to be blame for your enormous retardedness. the fool should have spill d sperm that formed a miserable bastardized hermit like on the carpet less room he fuccked your illiterate imbecilic mother.


we wouldn't have to worry about a wasted hermit like you creating useless threads about on nairaland!

you better face your studies and stop rapping pre-teen girl in the secondary you attends. remember waec is around the corner! you worthless nincompoop!

wow u sound really angry.
ummm...well first of all I'm a medical student,300level (pc2/Mbbs class),and she is in pc1 (200level).I'm 22 and she is 19 years.
we re both adults and FYI I finally asked her officially and we kissed.so I'm not "rapping" anybody.
do have a nice day,dear

Delay no more, she may be a different girl when she return next semester. Make it official before she leaves.

PeggySandas:
lefulefu dear where are you?

peggysandas always cursing

knax:



I finally asked her out..like I did it in a very weird way and well she has been and we re cool.although she hasn't said yes or no sha

That's a good move. Yeah, she's acting normal by not giving you an answer yet. Just play along and don't bother whether she says yes or no. Don't even bring up the topic again. As in, don't try to ask her out again or pestering her for reply. Just play along. You have done the needful.