naijaboiy:

Hahaha...I never knew my woman had to take permission from me in a written form before she cuts her hair.

I don't understand that part of marriage.

gentlegenius:

Even an unmarried lady needs to take permission from her boyfriend before cutting her hair else she shouldn't complain when her bf start chasing other ladies with full hairs.
As a guy, I don't really like keeping beards but since I met my present girlfriend, I stopped shaving off my beards because she likes it a lot. I even asked her for permission to reduce my afro hair and she said I should leave it like that and I obeyed cos she always obeys my own instructions as regards her body.
Relationship is the prelude of marriage, so whatever we want in marriage should start from our relationships.

Benita27:
Well, you may be cool with your wife if she comes home one day with her hair shaved off but I think it's appropriate to inform one's husband before doing so.

naijaboiy:

Of course ill expect her to inform me. Just like I'll do the same if I want to cut my beards.

But at the same time I won't stamp it on her as an authority. If I'm not cool with it I'd let her know and why but if she insists with her own genuine reasons I can't compel her not to do as she pleases.

Guys here are making it sound like they have total control of her. So even if they say no, she is expected to obey even when it's against her wish. In my honest opinion it's not supposed to be like that.

If my wife is not cool with me shaving off my beards and I really want to, I still would shave it off regardless of her say, but of course I would have made her see reasons why I decided to cut it and follow up my decision despite what she says.

Benita27:
When subjected to a particular condition, people react differently to it so don't blame anyone who thinks otherwise.

Aren't we all sharing opinions? At the end of the day I won't be in your marriage neither will you be in mine so there's no blame here.

gentlegenius:

Even an unmarried lady needs to take permission from her boyfriend before cutting her hair else she shouldn't complain when her bf start chasing other ladies with full hairs.

abeg he should carry his pompous ass and park in one corner

You people dictate to us what to do with our wombs and now want to extend it to our hair too

skarlett:


Am I begging him to be in a relationship with me If he doesn't want it, its his loss not mine. He hasn't even married me and he's already overbearing, abeg he should carry his pompous ass and park in one corner I will not complain at all, just break up and that will be that.

And yeah, I'm on lowcut and I decided to do it for personal reasons, I told my boyfriend but he didn't have a say in the overall outcome.

Do I regret it? Nope

Has it affected my relationship negatively? Not at all

You people dictate to us what to do with our wombs and now want to extend it to our hair too

Newsflash:

We don't exist to satisfy your brittle ego

gentlegenius:

Are you really sure of this? If your man decides to break up with you, is he really the one losing and not you? Pls think again. What if you move to a new relationship and still get dumped? Don't you think the having so many break ups in your life can affect you psychologically and otherwise? What about your reputation? You think getting dumped by several guys won't ruin your chance of ever getting married? Anyway, I'm not expecting you to give answers to all my questions but think about each of them.
From what you said about your low cut, I can deduce that your guy doesn't have a say with whatever you do with your body. But take it or leave it, that relationship is not based on mutual love. Oh, wait a second, Have you ever fallen in love with someone? If you have, I don't think you'll say some of the things you said above. If you really love your guy, you'll care about his feelings towards you and consider his opinions, or don't know that what you do with your body can affect his feelings towards you? If your man smokes weed drinks a lot and draw silly tattoos on his body, I am sure you'll have a say and expect him to listen to you. But he's doing it to his body after all.
I'm not saying all these particularly to women. Same is applicable to men. When there's mutual love between two people, each of them cares about the other person feels towards their actions. If you can't do this while in a relationship, you won't do it even in marriage.

naijaboiy:

All these ones you're typing is your own belief.

What I typed up there is mine, I don't have time arguing upandan sir.

skarlett:



Blah blah blah...hogwash

Your epistle reeks chauvinism so I won't waste my time answering your questions

Bye bye

davide470:
But he is making sense though.

davide470:
But he is making sense though.

makydebbie:
No he's not. Concerning taking permission from BOYFRIEND to cut hair is plain stupidity.

Like I don't want to make my hair again and I want low cut, I need his fucking approval? I can tell my boyfriend, but I'm not obligated to or need his approval.

skarlett:


Not to me dear

EmpressEnnie:
I do not think t is necessary.but if i find mysef in such a situation,i'll ask for his opinion and go ahead to cut it off whether he likes it or not.@ least ayaf tell him and its my hair.i can do away with it as i wish

skarlett:



Blah blah blah...hogwash

Your epistle reeks chauvinism so I won't waste my time answering your questions

Bye bye

Amarabae:
Should a married man seek his wife consent before he shave his beards?

gentlegenius:

I didn't expect you to answer my questions either. But what does chauvinism has to do with my comment? It is either you don't know the meaning of that word and how to use it or you didn't read my epistle to the point I said "I am not saying all these things particularly to women, same is applicable to men". Does that reek chauvinism?
Next time, even when you think someone is writing nonsense, please try and read the whole nonsense before you comment on it else you might be making the biggest nonsense with your comment.

gentlegenius:

Are you really sure of this? If your man decides to break up with you, is he really the one losing and not you? Pls think again. What if you move to a new relationship and still get dumped? Don't you think the having so many break ups in your life can affect you psychologically and otherwise? What about your reputation? You think getting dumped by several guys won't ruin your chance of ever getting married? Anyway, I'm not expecting you to give answers to all my questions but think about each of them

RB007:


I like your hair mehn! you trimm am?

skarlett:

Yeah, once in a while
Thanks

skarlett:

Yeah, once in a while
Thanks

gentlegenius:

Nobody is saying you are obligated to your boyfriend's opinions. But if you are seriously in love with him, you'll certainly care about his feelings towards your body and your actions. If he's the type that cares about your feelings and considers your opinions about his actions, you'll consciously or unconsciously seek his opinions and permission before doing certain things even on your body if you really love him and don't want to lose him. Your boyfriend doesn't own your body but if he is attracted to girls with long hair and you choose to shave your own away, what signal are you giving him?

gentlegenius:

Nobody is saying you are obligated to your boyfriend's opinions. But if you are seriously in love with him, you'll certainly care about his feelings towards your body and your actions. If he's the type that cares about your feelings and considers your opinions about his actions, you'll consciously or unconsciously seek his opinions and permission before doing certain things even on your body if you really love him and don't want to lose him. Your boyfriend doesn't own your body but if he is attracted to girls with long hair and you choose to shave your own away, what signal are you giving him?

skarlett:





That is where you were being chauvinistic. I am very sure you cannot apply the same logic to the male folk

And yeah, my relationship is none of your damn business, you didn't see me condemn your relationship in my previous comment so you can leave out the fact of whether the love in my relationship is mutual. That is not your concern

makydebbie:
One thing my man will know is, when I make a decision, it stands. Especially when it's about me. So if I say I'm not making my hair again and I tell you my reasons, you take it like that like it's your favorite strawberry ice cream.

makydebbie:
One thing my man will know is, when I make a decision, it stands. Especially when it's about me. So if I say I'm not making my hair again and I tell you my reasons, you take it like that like it's your favorite strawberry ice cream.

gentlegenius:

Nobody is saying you are obligated to your boyfriend's opinions. But if you are seriously in love with him, you'll certainly care about his feelings towards your body and your actions. If he's the type that cares about your feelings and considers your opinions about his actions, you'll consciously or unconsciously seek his opinions and permission before doing certain things even on your body if you really love him and don't want to lose him. Your boyfriend doesn't own your body but if he is attracted to girls with long hair and you choose to shave your own away, what signal are you giving him?

MrTeeo:
My girlfriend won't try to cut her hair without my permission..

falconey:

Yes, he paid for it didn't he? The only you'll cut without his consent are pubic hair and armpit's.