"Your mates are out there, doing something meaningful with their lives"..mom yelled at me.

I was in the sitting room watching Game of Thrones series at 7 am in the morning.

"Do they have two heads?"

"Why can't you start something? Anything. Apply For a teaching Job"

These are scenarios a lot of graduates face while waiting for the “perfect job”. {I made a previous about the types of pressures unemployed graduates face}

You can't blame your parents. After putting you through school. Imagine the fees and other expenses, just like any human, they expect a great return on their investment. In fact, they want it to yield greater interest.

And imagine when you are unemployed for over 3 months. They can't stand it. Truth be told, you'll be like a football player bought from another club but can't score goals.

It might be our fault, or not. But the bottom line is you are unemployed.

Truth is that pressure might make you depressed, some take irresponsible decisions, some even commit suicide, some rush into marriage and others yield to peer pressure.

It can either make or break you but you have control over it.

Here are tips to help you ease the pressure from your parents

1. Restore or Build their faith in you


You must earn your parents trust, It is important. Try as much as possible to make them understand your plight. You must also Be open and productive. You must remain idle or stay at home all day long. Go out there, discover new opportunities. When they see all these, they will ease their pressure and give you all the necessary support you need to excel.

2. Make sacrifices, stop demanding

“I need a new phone, pocket money, laptop, shoes……….”.the list goes on.

You must learn to stop being totally dependent on your parents, uncles, and aunties.

Learn to let go of some things especially the excesses. Try as much as possible to save during your "period of Trial". It shows that you can take RESPONSIBILITY.

3. Do some volunteer work


Join any group, whether at church, community or anywhere similar.

Do some charity work, give back to the society. This will add to your experience professional or not and will help you acquire leadership and management skills.

4. Do not react (The golden rule)


Honor Your Father and Your Mother... It is the first commandment with a promise. Ephesians 6:2

You must not react to the pressure. We've seen cases of frustrated graduates hitting their parents or disrespecting them. Don't forget, You too will become a father/mother Someday. Then you'll understand their position. Try as much as possible to absorb the pressure

5. Be strategic and update them on progress.

You must be proactive. Finding the best Job can be tasking but it’s very possible. Update your parents on the progress of your Job search and they'll encourage you

Like I mentioned earlier, do not react. Honor your parents, try to understand their point of view. You are a million dollar prize just sitting on a shelf. They want you to soar, they want you to be their pride and if you have a vision, you'll make it.

For more examples of pressure you face from parents or elderly folks, drop them in the comment box.

Source: [url]lifeafternysc.com/dealing-with-parental-pressure-after-nysc/[/url]

Nice

But parents should understand that getting a job isn't really easy especially in this country

Tnx

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It's easier said that done

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MhizzAJ:

Nice

But parents should understand that getting a job isn't really easy especially in this country

It is not easy it is not easy. It can never be easy in this country. Na true talk. Else you will end up building your matrimonial home in your father's house

Don't stay at home after service. Go and start your life whether rugged or not.

You earn more respect for yourself by not staying at home.

Leave your parents house... the comfort zone... especially if you are a guy.... if no money, you and a friend can stay together... however paying visit to your parents is necessary....

And see yourself doing things, you never thought you would....

Ok

Nice write up dude!

Y

ok

MhizzAJ:
Nice

But parents should understand that getting a job isn't really easy especially in this country

But people are still giving testimonies every week.

Leave. Be a man

God help graduates.

paulstrings:
"Your mates are out there, doing something meaningful with their lives"..mom yelled at me.

I was in the sitting room watching Game of Thrones series at 7 am in the morning.

"Do they have two heads?"

"Why can't you start something? Anything. Apply For a teaching Job"

These are scenarios a lot of graduates face while waiting for the “perfect job”. {I made a previous about the types of pressures unemployed graduates face}

You can't blame your parents. After putting you through school. Imagine the fees and other expenses, just like any human, they expect a great return on their investment. In fact, they want it to yield greater interest.

And imagine when you are unemployed for over 3 months. They can't stand it. Truth be told, you'll be like a football player bought from another club but can't score goals.

It might be our fault, or not. But the bottom line is you are unemployed.

Truth is that pressure might make you depressed, some take irresponsible decisions, some even commit suicide, some rush into marriage and others yield to peer pressure.

It can either make or break you but you have control over it.

Here are tips to help you ease the pressure from your parents

1. Restore or Build their faith in you


You must earn your parents trust, It is important. Try as much as possible to make them understand your plight. You must also Be open and productive. You must remain idle or stay at home all day long. Go out there, discover new opportunities. When they see all these, they will ease their pressure and give you all the necessary support you need to excel.

2. Make sacrifices, stop demanding

“I need a new phone, pocket money, laptop, shoes……….”.the list goes on.

You must learn to stop being totally dependent on your parents, uncles, and aunties.

Learn to let go of some things especially the excesses. Try as much as possible to save during your "period of Trial". It shows that you can take RESPONSIBILITY.

3. Do some volunteer work


Join any group, whether at church, community or anywhere similar.

Do some charity work, give back to the society. This will add to your experience professional or not and will help you acquire leadership and management skills.

4. Do not react (The golden rule)


Honor Your Father and Your Mother... It is the first commandment with a promise. Ephesians 6:2

You must not react to the pressure. We've seen cases of frustrated graduates hitting their parents or disrespecting them. Don't forget, You too will become a father/mother Someday. Then you'll understand their position. Try as much as possible to absorb the pressure

5. Be strategic and update them on progress.

You must be proactive. Finding the best Job can be tasking but it’s very possible. Update your parents on the progress of your Job search and they'll encourage you

Like I mentioned earlier, do not react. Honor your parents, try to understand their point of view. You are a million dollar prize just sitting on a shelf. They want you to soar, they want you to be their pride and if you have a vision, you'll make it.

For more examples of pressure you face from parents or elderly folks, drop them in the comment box.

Source: [url]lifeafternysc.com/dealing-with-parental-pressure-after-nysc/[/url]

You, people, should stop these parent this or that

Did your parents put the job there they want you to secure by all means?

All you are looking for is an avenue to communicate falsehood through unnecessary stories

Above all pray for GOD to bless wat ever u get into

hmm

correctguy0900:


But people are still giving testimonies every week.

peeps do give testimonies....but they wont tel us d person he/she knows dat also know someone b4 d job was given to them

buhari sef

That volunteering gig is very scarce these days.

Don't live with your parents after graduating




Its bad

You won't develop on time

Nice one. At least some still have parents.

olumaxi:
peeps do give testimonies....but they wont tel us d person he/she knows dat also know someone b4 d job was given to them

True. But trust me not everyone got his job da way. A lot peeps strongly believe this too much and hence do nothing.

Nairalanders PH branch i am in need of help i just relocated to ph having successfully completed Nysc & i need to get myself busy pls anyone willing to help me get a job i will appreciate a lot. Thanks my people

Find a way and travel out

I won't advise any graduate (guy) to still stay with his parents after service.. The pressure will be too much. I myself is unemployed presently but I ain't staying with my mum. I only go there weekends to pay them visit. Even at that, the pressure they put has stopped me from going there every weekend. But I just like my mumcy, she does some 'waka' I don't even know about... She will just call and say "go and meet this man". But last last, Na hustle and street still dey help guys presently. It has not been easy but we will make it one day. That I believe! Nigeria is no longer a country for the youth but with God, we shall surely scale through.

chris31:
Nairalanders PH branch i am in need of help i just relocated to ph having successfully completed Nysc & i need to get myself busy pls anyone willing to help me get a job i will appreciate a lot. Thanks my people

Relocate back to Lagos....PH doesn't have much to offer.

Welcomme:
Relocate back to Lagos....PH doesn't have much to offer.

Its not about relocating back to Lagos opportunity is everywhere but its all about getting help thats the reason i am pleading to my fellow country men