Obi88:
thanks brother, believe me I'm really working on that "weak" part of me, thanks once more for your advice

No sweats bro, I'm sure u saw my direct reply to ur post.. Just make it one step at a time man, u gon' be alright..

Lordapson23:

No sweats bro, I'm sure u saw my direct reply to ur post.. Just make it one step at a time man, u gon' be alright..

thanks boss

Nma27:
Call off the relationship. Block and delete. No woman will take u seriously if u exhibit weakness. You didn't come into dis world for one human to mess with ur emotions... Life is short so do things that brings last joy to u.

thank you so much, I appreciate

Something very similar happened to me too, I have learnt alot and I'm encouraged by several posts here

You may want to read this@ https://www.nairaland.com/3980433/trying-repair-relationship-when-time

You may want to read this man @ https://www.nairaland.com/3980433/trying-repair-relationship-when-time

whogoesthere:
Something very similar happened to me too, I have learnt alot and I'm encouraged by several posts here

AjahAgility:
You may want to read this man @ https://www.nairaland.com/3980433/trying-repair-relationship-when-time

just did, thanks

sekxy:
firstly, your stories are pathetic.I don't like guys that sound so weak,,you are just sounding as if your life depends on the relationship..yes,she was once an angel but now she has turned to something else..why not change your dancing step since the track of the song have changed..honestly I'm disappointed, ,what happens to securing your career first? you shouldn't deny yourself the fact that you know you are the side boo now,,just forget about her and work towards achieving your goals...my candid advice though

I so much feel for this your advise. It baffled me that some dudes could be so fixed to a single girl while there are many more out there.
Except they have my kind of problem which is communication and feeling free when with women even with this I let u go if you're misbehaving.
I will make u my adviser for this advise.

Obi88:
I want to make my story short, I've been dating this my girl since April 2015 when i was in final year in the university while she was in year one, she reciprocated the love infact she made me feel heaven on earth until November 2016 when she started uploading several pictures in a car with a particular guy who happens to be a customs officer,prior to this her attitudinal change, I promised her i'll marry her and from the depth of my heart i meant everything I told her, I even had to influence my state of deployment during my nysc programe to her town of residence, uploading pictures in the car with the guy has never been my problem but the worst happened when she reluctantly (unlike her that usually begs that she wants to visit ) came to spend the weekend with me), right in my presence she was making a call with this particular guy, I mean using this intimate and sexy voice, I left the room in anger to avoid troubles, I returned like after 20 minutes and she was still on the call, I had to take the phone from her and in her bid to resist me, the angel i always loved, cherished and adored hooked my shirt by the neck such that I was shocked to my marrow that such thing will ever happen, i gave a her a resounding slap ( which i regret because I've vowed never to lay my hands on a lady till the day i die), she left my house the next morning and threatened the relationship was over. I never knew the words HEARTBREAK AND DEPRESSION were real till those moments, i begged and begged and everything seemed to normalize after a month, my problem now is that this particular guy calls my girl like more that 10 times in thirty minutes, I called her and asked her what was going on, she told me the guy is her best friend who she has known for five years meanwhile i never knew this guy when things were cool with us, I told her to cut off the relationship but what I get in return when ever i mention this guy's name are insults. Infact there's no type or kind of insult(s) which I've never received from her, I was a corps member but I kept sending her money out of my little savings but she kept demanding things from me like I was already employed, during one of our conversations she told me how she was still requesting for financial aid from her mum when she has a boyfriend (this was a lady that was always encouraging me when I even had nothing when I was in school), between November and now, I've always told her to move on with her life with her best friend (a customs officer ) but after a week or so she calls back promising to change, once i succumb to her plea i end up in tears and agony again, I know it might sound foolish but since November 2016 till now she's been messing with my feelings and emotions. I'm so angry and ashamed of myself that I've not been able to call it a day on this tormenting relationship. I finished my Nysc since April but till now I've not been able to secure a job but I believe God will see me through someday, my story is a very long one but i decided to make it laconic so as not to bore anyone, please i really need advice on how to end this relationship and mean it, I've tried severally but still find myself talking with her again. My soul is no longer with her, I don't want her in my life anymore but i really find it difficult to leave her, I don't want to marry a woman that will make me regret my existence on earth

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Bro...I had a similar experience to yours but I had to just let her go..
..
Imagine...some women can lie right in your face.. it's quite shocking.....best friend indeed...
..
That's how my ex was dating a guy and she kept saying he was her family friend...and she had over 15 of his pix on her phone....
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Additionally... she always defends the guy like a tigress..
..
Bros end the relationship and move on with your life...
.
Its very tough...but time will heal u

Zhahovic:

...
Bro...I had a similar experience to yours but I had to just let her go..
..
Imagine...some women can lie right in your face.. it's quite shocking.....best friend indeed...
..
That's how my ex was dating a guy and she kept saying he was her family friend...and she had over 15 of his pix on her phone....
..
Additionally... she always defends the guy like a tigress..
..
Bros end the relationship and move on with your life...
.
Its very tough...but time will heal u

thanks Bro, I've already taken the bull by the horn and I'm healing faster than i imagined

Hello, I'm new here. I actually joined to ask for you guys help. I was in a 3 year relationship with my girlfriend and we splitted recently. We've been fighting for it for a while and I tried fighting more. It showed that I cared more in the relationship. She went to Nigeria for break from school (we both school abroad) and then started talking to her secondary school senior every night on the phone. Ignored my calls. I acted like it was cool. After a week I couldn't take it anymore so we fought over it. We settled tried to work things out then she said she wanted a breakup bc I'm making new female friends here and she couldn't trust me anymore. We've broken up for about 3 weeks now. Here lies the problem. I was heartbroken for about 3 days but after then I've been doing well, seeing other girls. I've had a perfect week straight with single ladies in my bed twice since the breakup but all of a sudden today I started feeling heartbroken. I miss her and I know she doesn't respect me anymore. I still love her. Is it possible to rekindle the love? Ps I'm going to Nigeria in less than a month. I plan on visiting her to see if we can talk things out. I wish we can get back together bc of how I feel and I also wish I can get over this heartbreak again bc I know she doesn't deserve me. She has a real bad attitude. I managed it for 3 years. I do love her. If you believe I shouldn't get back with her. Tell me how to kill the love. Bc the love I have for her is really strong.

my people i finally got a job oooooo, a very good one

I really knw hw u felt... U jst need to be focused first

Queencess1:
I really knw hw u felt...
U jst need to be focused first

she's a forgotten issue now, I no send am again

Obi88:
she's a forgotten issue now, I no send am again

good

Queencess1:
good

thanks for your candid advice, I appreciate

Obi88:
thanks for your candid advice, I appreciate

u always welcome

she has started begging me again, promising to get back my love for her with the last drop of her blood, she has even started uploading my name as her status on whatsapp but I'm definitely not gonna be fooled this time around, I got a good job last week and i obviously don't need such human being in my life again, I really appreciate y'all for your wonderful counsels, it really helped me a lot, God bless y'all

Obi88:
she has started begging me again, promising to get back my love for her with the last drop of her blood, she has even started uploading my name as her status on whatsapp but I'm definitely not gonna be fooled this time around, I got a good job last week and i obviously don't need such human being in my life again, I really appreciate y'all for your wonderful counsels, it really helped me a lot, God bless y'all

pay no attention to whatever she is pleading for..
I gues she heard abt ur success..

Queencess1:

pay no attention to whatever she is pleading for.. I gues she heard abt ur success..

hahahaha, okay ma!

Rule 1 of any relationship is never get too emotionally attached to any girl that u can't afford to loose her...and in anything, always pray for the best and expect d worst...I know most time when we experience love in a relationship, something swiftly attached u and makes u feel u can't survive without it anymore...

Op I guess this is Ur first serious date, imagine people who experienced that kind of love u felt for 7yrs and still break up...yours is just 1+yrs......even married couple struggles....

Olori wuraola left Oni not because he's not rich but because holes are not just meant to be loyal.breakup is part of any relationship.

Just get another girl even though u no like am...
. replace ur ex number with her's....talk to her often...transfer d feelings to her and remember the rule1.....
Focus on Ur carrier ... struggle to be successful,be disciplined and love will find u not u finding love again.....

Obi88, be a man and stop whining. I would say this to my younger brother if you were one. Not many ladies can stick to a man who has no money. Your babe has travelled that road. It's good she's doing this when you haven't gone far. Forget about her and move on. Your relationship is already blemished. She's tossing your emotions up and down cos she's seen that vulnerability in you. Now man up and be firm bout saying No to her and Yes to your career development. Many girls will run after you when you're made. You may relocate or change your numbers to shut her out if need be. Keep your mind busy with stuff so you think less of her. Indulge yourself and get rid of a baggage you don't need. Good luck with that.

Obi88:
hahahaha, okay ma!

am nt ma

Beverly1:
Rule 1 of any relationship is never get too emotionally attached to any girl that u can't afford to loose her...and in anything, always pray for the best and expect d worst...I know most time when we experience love in a relationship, something swiftly attached u and makes u feel u can't survive without it anymore...

Op I guess this is Ur first serious date, imagine people who experienced that kind of love u felt for 7yrs and still break up...yours is just 1+yrs......even married couple struggles....

Olori wuraola left Oni not because he's not rich but because holes are not just meant to be loyal.breakup is part of any relationship.

Just get another girl even though u no like am...
. replace ur ex number with her's....talk to her often...transfer d feelings to her and remember the rule1.....
Focus on Ur carrier ... struggle to be successful,be disciplined and love will find u not u finding love again.....

thank you so much, believe me I've moved and all thanks to God on my new job, it keeps me busy all day

.

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Almost exactly what happened to me, I hope you're better now?

Uche844:
Almost exactly what happened to me, I hope you're better now?

yes bro, i'm cool now and I've completely moved on

Uche844:
Almost exactly what happened to me, I hope you're better now?

yes bro, i'm cool now and I've completely moved on

Falling in love is actually one crazy thing. I understand your hurts but you just gonna move one. Once loved this girl after graduation, she was serving then, the girl started toiling with my emotions. Even threatened to quite, I been beg her she no wan gree.
I tried to forget about her, start my normal patrol with girls I just gbado.
After like a year, she called we spoke for a long time, asking me about my girlfriends(of cos she knew I stopped it becos of her then), At that time one even the my room. The next week text follows from her, up and down. Seems I was better than the guy she left me for, you know say u can fall for a person for a while, but can u keep loving, that was her case then.
My candid advice leave her for now, just the watch her like blue film, get a sex mate of cos loving someone is difficult for a guy. , you both can still end up together, E go clear for her eyes soon.

madone:
Sir if u can endure the pain and be man enuf to leave her allow and face ur life. She will keep acting like this . Dont let her come back yours is still at the early stage. I Av seen a friend struggle with a girl like this for 3yrs and nothing came out of it. If u continue worst things awaits. She LL tell you she never love you...she LL tell you she has outgrown ur kind of relationship and love affairs...she LL tell you she has Lost sexual feelings for you... All this is to make you her slave...she LL only come back to you to refill her ego when the other guy hurt her and she LL leave when she is healed...you LL notice that anytime she comes to you she is always dejected and frustrated ,when you help heal here she leaves you dejected and frustrated, with on cash in ur account cos you did all to please her .. End her now or you re finished. Dont even try to make her ur sex partner cos your heart cant carry it. Run mehn run b4 she make you lose precious opportunities..remember that anytime she leave you become less productive for a period of time those re supposed to be ur good time to get up and he things done for that pretty woman that you LL meet tomorrow. Leave that your girl and you LL find out that after some time when you meet her again u LL be angry at ursef for wasting. Ur time or nonsense like her.

I must confess, u are not only smart but experienced too.

Obi88

тωσ ∂αуѕ, αgσ, ι ωαѕ ωαт¢нιиg αn American мσνιє ωιтн му нυѕвαи∂. тωσ fяιєи∂ѕ, α gυу αи∂ α gιяℓ, ѕєємє∂ ℓσѕт ιи тнє Woodѕ. тнєу ωєяє tired soon єиσυgн αи∂ тнє gυу нα∂ тσ ¢αяяу тнє gιяℓ. му нυѕвαи∂ тнєи ѕαι∂,
"We men, ωє ∂σи'т нανє α life σf συя own, ωє ℓινє fσя уσυ."
ι яєρℓιє∂ нιм "Before икσ? ιѕ ιт иσт α ωнιℓє αgσ тнαт ι ¢αℓℓє∂ уσυ тσ ¢σмє αи∂ σρєи тнє ∂σσя тσ тнє кιт¢нєи, ωнєи αℓℓ ι ωαѕ нσℓ∂ιиg ωαѕ α ρℓαтє σи α тяαу?"

уєѕ, ωσмєи ωαит αттєитισи, ωє ωαит тσ вє ραмρєяє∂, ωє ωαит tender, ℓσνιиg ¢αяє. α man, єνєи the αιρнα мαℓє, ωσυℓ∂ ∂σ ωєℓℓ тσ єиѕυяє αℓℓ σf тнєѕє. уσυя gιяℓ, ωнєиєνєя ѕнє'ѕ ιи ѕнσят ѕυρρℓу fяσм нєя мσиєу-мιѕѕ яσα∂ ¢υѕтσм σffι¢єя ℓσνєя, яєтυяиѕ тσ уσυ, нєя ρℓαи в, fσя яєѕuscιтαтισи.

вυт тнєи, ιт ιѕ єиєяgу ѕαρριиg тσ яєαℓℓу ℓσνє αи∂ ¢αяє fσя αиσтнєя ρєяѕσи. ιт мαкєѕ ѕєиѕє ιf ωє єχєят тнαт мυ¢н єиєяgу σиℓу σи ѕσмєвσ∂у ωнσ'ℓℓ яє¢ιρяσ¢αтє. тнєяє'ѕ иσтнιиg ωяσиg ιи тяυℓу ℓσνιиg α ρєяѕσи αи∂ ѕнσωιиg ιт вυт ιт мυѕт вє gινєи вα¢к! ℓσνє ιѕ α ∂υαℓ-ωαу єχρяєѕѕ.

ι'ℓℓ тєℓℓ му уσυиgєя вяσтнєя тнє ѕαмє. кєєρ уσυя ℓσνє, тнαт уσυя вєαυтιfυℓ нєαят fσя тнє иєχт ∂єѕєяνιиg gιяℓ. тнιѕ σиє ѕєєѕ уσυ αѕ нєя ¢αяρєт αи∂ яυg, нєя яє¢у¢ℓє вιи. ѕнє'ѕ α νιяυѕ тнαт ωιℓℓ ∂єѕтяσу уσυ ѕσσиєя тнαи later. Show her the way out of your life. тαкє conscious α¢тισи иσω!

Obi88:
I want to make my story short, I've been dating this my girl since April 2015 when i was in final year in the university while she was in year one, she reciprocated the love infact she made me feel heaven on earth until November 2016 when she started uploading several pictures in a car with a particular guy who happens to be a customs officer,prior to this her attitudinal change, I promised her i'll marry her and from the depth of my heart i meant everything I told her, I even had to influence my state of deployment during my nysc programe to her town of residence, uploading pictures in the car with the guy has never been my problem but the worst happened when she reluctantly (unlike her that usually begs that she wants to visit ) came to spend the weekend with me), right in my presence she was making a call with this particular guy, I mean using this intimate and sexy voice, I left the room in anger to avoid troubles, I returned like after 20 minutes and she was still on the call, I had to take the phone from her and in her bid to resist me, the angel i always loved, cherished and adored hooked my shirt by the neck such that I was shocked to my marrow that such thing will ever happen, i gave a her a resounding slap ( which i regret because I've vowed never to lay my hands on a lady till the day i die), she left my house the next morning and threatened the relationship was over. I never knew the words HEARTBREAK AND DEPRESSION were real till those moments, i begged and begged and everything seemed to normalize after a month, my problem now is that this particular guy calls my girl like more that 10 times in thirty minutes, I called her and asked her what was going on, she told me the guy is her best friend who she has known for five years meanwhile i never knew this guy when things were cool with us, I told her to cut off the relationship but what I get in return when ever i mention this guy's name are insults. Infact there's no type or kind of insult(s) which I've never received from her, I was a corps member but I kept sending her money out of my little savings but she kept demanding things from me like I was already employed, during one of our conversations she told me how she was still requesting for financial aid from her mum when she has a boyfriend (this was a lady that was always encouraging me when I even had nothing when I was in school), between November and now, I've always told her to move on with her life with her best friend (a customs officer ) but after a week or so she calls back promising to change, once i succumb to her plea i end up in tears and agony again, I know it might sound foolish but since November 2016 till now she's been messing with my feelings and emotions. I'm so angry and ashamed of myself that I've not been able to call it a day on this tormenting relationship. I finished my Nysc since April but till now I've not been able to secure a job but I believe God will see me through someday, my story is a very long one but i decided to make it laconic so as not to bore anyone, please i really need advice on how to end this relationship and mean it, I've tried severally but still find myself talking with her again. My soul is no longer with her, I don't want her in my life anymore but i really find it difficult to leave her, I don't want to marry a woman that will make me regret my existence on earth

our stories are similar, the only difference is that i hav moves on since December buh there you are hoping and wishing for the DEAD to wake up.. this gal was with me wen i had nothing and wen i made millions I gave her everything then wen the money reduced she changed and proved to me that women will always be women. Now she’s jumping frm one Benz to the other. Hey bro man up and walk away frm anything that belittles you and makes you less of a man.. whatever she’s offering u another woman can do better. But never love a woman 100% it’s a total waste of emotions. I guess ur not a weed smoker like me. Don’t take anything in life serious..