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Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by MissRaine69(f): 11:12pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
Next2Bezee:I am secure in myself and I don't have self esteem issues. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Prec1ous(m): 11:12pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
cuvox: Everyone talks from one side, youe emotions are in check... what about the other person? can you read their mind? I have not ruled out the possibility, i am speaking on the end product. There is a way a so called female friend will Invest time and resource into you, you breath will start to stop. in reality, I know most guys only feign friendship to get close to a lady and smash her but stop making it look like all male-female friendship is just for fùckíng. some of us only have female friends cause they are the one we can genuinely pour out our hearts to.. genuine friendship bro. You stated it already, the FRIENDSHIP thing can lead somewhere. It is not about the sex matter though, but if you are in a relationship, you have no business with the opposite sex in terms of friendship. If you are single, sail on, but know it might lead somewhere depending on how invested one of your becomes! 6 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by vchykp(m): 11:13pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
sexybbstar:if you make friend with someone that has never hurt you, then you have not started ur friendship, probably he or she is not a true frnd 2 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Prec1ous(m): 11:17pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
MissRaine69: I do not think your self-security and self esteem is a factor here. The factor here is, can you withstand your man spending time with same female friends (as he calls them) repeatedly. You may be strong at first, but you will get suspecious and jealous (depending if the relationship is really important to you though). I know you will not find it funny! 4 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Prec1ous(m): 11:19pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
vchykp: I really get time today, no sleep! You are right, when people tend to avoid hurting and wronging you, then you should know that they are consciously walking on egg shell around you, that is THEY ARE PRETENDING! 4 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Next2Bezee(m): 11:21pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
MissRaine69: Self esteem and belief in yourself has nothing to do with this Its all about believing in your partner Btw even if you do believe he isn't cheating, it can be disgruntling when other females individually spend as much time with your man as you do. 3 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Next2Bezee(m): 11:22pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
Prec1ous: I didn't even check for your post before responding, you've got it all covered already. 1 Like |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Prec1ous(m): 11:25pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
ozy4christ: You are very smart, but how many are like you? some even know nothing about boundries, they feel it is black and white. Those ones always get burnt! But i still feel you have to work on yourself too, guys will naturally want to protect and pamper you and not hurt you. This will give a false impression to you that all is well when it is not. This will lead to a situation where even in your wrong, they wil not correct or lash you. This comfort will not make you strong person. One day, those guys will leave. Forget the hurt and get a female friend, it will show you more about yourself! 7 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by cuvox(m): 11:25pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
Prec1ous: as long as I am not married yet, I have lots of business with the opposite sex bro. it's not everything I can discuss with my guys. for the opposite sex, it's up to them to deal with their emotions. once I notice you have feelings or acting funny, I stay away a little. I am blunt and always let them know we don't have to date/screw everybody we have feelings for. life itself is complicated, let's just let friendship be. it's up to the girls. I know any guy hitting on a girl will always make a move. it may come in form truth or dare, changing the topic to something involving sex and romance, doing everything her boyfriend is not doing etc. it's up to her to read the signs and build up her defenses. at same time, this shiit is why guys get friendzoned. 3 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by MissRaine69(f): 11:25pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
Prec1ous:That's the thing with friendship you have boundaries I am respectful to his friends male and female and he is the same with mine. There is no crossover of anything. Listen it works for some and not for others let's leave it at that. |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by MissRaine69(f): 11:27pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
Next2Bezee:Relationships function well with boundaries it's no different with friends. |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Prec1ous(m): 11:27pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
Next2Bezee: You covered it like i would have. Great to see that thoughts can align sometimes 1 Like |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by cuvox(m): 11:31pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
MissRaine69: true, it's just about trusting each other. you deal with your friends, he deals with his, everyone is happy. |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Nobody: 11:34pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
Prec1ous: That's why it's best to keep boundaries. We were close, mutual too. |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by MissRaine69(f): 11:38pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
cuvox:I can't go through life bearing the ridiculous norms of what society deems acceptable or not acceptable. Boundaries and trust works well 2 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by cuvox(m): 11:45pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
MissRaine69: I concur. we all have different lives, experience and knowledge hence different relationships. there's nothing like a universal law we must follow. find your niche, tweak whatever is out there till it works for you and makes you happy. they say trust and boundaries doesn't work, not to me. I bend rules whenever I need to. Always give the other person a reason to believe |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Next2Bezee(m): 11:46pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
MissRaine69: You're right when you say it differs for different couples. Still it is easier to say when you're not in a relationship or in one where you both don't need too much attention from each other. In some relationships, either parties won't be able to tolerate their partner deviating their attention between them and his numerous female friends. It becomes even more harmful to the relationship after marriage. What wife will be ok with her husband keeping lots of female besties and spending time with them outside his house? 1 Like |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Next2Bezee(m): 11:49pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
MissRaine69: Except that when you're in a relationship or are married, those boundaries are defined with the best interest of your partner at heart. That doesn't have to be the case if you're in a relationship where you aren't ready to sacrifice for your partner. |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Prec1ous(m): 11:49pm On Aug 30, 2017 |
Next2Bezee: This is what i am trying to point out too. Imagine the wife saying, because i trust him and there are boundries, so he can keep all the female besties that he want. I think that is a very risky mindset, except the marriage is off no importance in the first instance. 5 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by adajoe555: 12:05am On Aug 31, 2017 |
Prec1ous: ok thanks I'm working on that 1 Like |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by adajoe555: 12:23am On Aug 31, 2017 |
Rorachy: like me I can't stand it what a girl did to me in this life. I will never forget |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by adajoe555: 12:24am On Aug 31, 2017 |
sexybbstar: Am not the only one. |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by adajoe555: 12:32am On Aug 31, 2017 |
Joel3: lol |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by imustsaymymindo: 1:04am On Aug 31, 2017 |
makydebbie: Some of us are genuinely nice. This is the reason why most boys stop being nice too because the girl interpretes it as he just wants to have a taste. 3 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by imustsaymymindo: 1:13am On Aug 31, 2017 |
Prec1ous: Ahan, bro. No o. You can maintain a platonic relationship with the opposite sex as long as it is defined. The key here is it must be defined that you are friends. The reason why cross-gender frienships doesn't work is because we tend to complicate things unnecessarily. People are kept in the "friend zone" for manipulative reasons and they only call their friend when they need them. With respect, self-control and love, we can attain true friendship regardless of gender, social status, level of education or what not. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Next2Bezee(m): 1:40am On Aug 31, 2017 |
adajoe555: What if she's in a relationship & her man only has female friends, wouldn't boyfriend snatching not become a risk she has to face head on? But i can understand that's its more appealing making friends with the opposite sex, there is always an ounce of emotional and intimate attraction in these friendship which make each partner appreciate the attention they get from the opposite sex friend as opposed to the attention they'd get from same sex friends. 1 Like |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by imustsaymymindo: 1:47am On Aug 31, 2017 |
Prec1ous: Nawa o. Why you should not avoid hurting someone? You should hurt people on purpose because he or she is a friend? I dont understand your point here. Friends are actually the ones that should avoid hurting each other. That does not mean a friend cannot correct you when you are wrong or tell you the truth when it hurts and if that's what you mean, then fine. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by lalanice(f): 2:00am On Aug 31, 2017 |
too many nairaland guys are delusional, while you all keep deceiving yourselves, people are finding fulfilling friendship in the opposite sex. it's not every friendship that you spoil with sex or the thought. 2 Likes |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Prec1ous(m): 6:12am On Aug 31, 2017 |
imustsaymymindo: What i am pointing out is... Some are not real and avoid all sort of confrontation and try to be extremely good.. There is no way you wil not have an altercation with a friend, no one is oerfect except the person is trying too hard to be 1 Like |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Kondomatic(m): 6:48am On Aug 31, 2017 |
makydebbie:Who's a best friend? |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Flintstone06(m): 8:00am On Aug 31, 2017 |
Nawa oh! This topic is being really flogged intelligently. Meanwhile, iyam interested the day you guys can also seat down on set to discuss way out for the zoo on TV.. I will definitely be at the edge of my seat to hear what you all hav to say Una head dey dia!!! |
Re: All Her Friends Are Boys. Can Any Girl Explain This? by Acidosis(m): 8:24am On Aug 31, 2017 |
Reality: Approximately 80% of rapes are committed by someone the victim knows – a friend or acquaintance. It always start with friendship So to avoid stories that touch, it's best to set the record straight; some ladies today have become victims because a guy somewhere perceived their actions as "green light". 2 Likes |
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