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Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 7:21am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Lalas247:Yea, but I also mentioned guys do pretend if they really mean your matter. Lol, I know you're tired hope you enjoy the holidays. Good morning. The envy part has been cleared, I understand better. Just roll with the right chicks. 1 Like |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 7:26am On Sep 01, 2017 |
SinglesandReady1:Bro you nailed it. Most of them never wanted bestie tag, they were friendzoned against their wish. Wish I could like this post a million times. 1 Like |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by AZeD1(m): 7:39am On Sep 01, 2017 |
I'd say this is probably (keyword probably) Nigerian/African thing. If you've schooled or worked outside Africa then you'd know that people of the opposite sex not related actually live together and most of them become friends and sex is/was not involved. SinglesandReady1:This post is so so shallow I find it worrying. People meet under different circumstances so saying all opposite sex "bestie" is due to a failed "ask out" is pretty dumb (no offense). Two personal examples 1) I had an extra year in uni, so inorder to graduate, I needed help. There was a lady who was one of the best in her set, so I had to meet her for help. That was the start of a beautiful friendship and nothing close to sex ever came up. 2) Another great female friend of mine who's late now was someone I met at the back of a plane. It was a long flight and I was restless, so I went to the back of the plane and met her there. We got talking and found out we were from the same state and had other things in common and boom boom the time we got off the plane, you'd think we had been friends for ages. Don't limit life to binary values cos it isn't. PS As you grow older, you'd meet at lot of people don't limit your chances in life because you believe a relationship with the opposite sex is only for sex (no pun intended) 7 Likes |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Lalas247(f): 7:53am On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie:Gbam @ bolded Morning dear .. na wa mods never move this topic yet |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 7:57am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Lalas247:My dear, help me greet lalasticlala good morning. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Precial419: 9:14am On Sep 01, 2017 |
If U R Talking Abt Being Close Friends Wit D Opp Sex I Can Undastand Bt Besties I Dnt Knw. Pls Wat Kind Of Boundaries R U Talking Abt Here, I Hope It Does Include House Visiting Cos I Dnt Undastand Hw Close Friends Will Nt Visit Demselves Nt To Talk Of Besties. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by pu7pl3(m): 9:31am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Men this issue is complicated I think we should ask sir jorah mormont he has soo much experience in the friendzone dept 2 Likes |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by adaksbullet: 9:46am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 9:54am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Precial419:By boundaries, I mean defining the kind of friendship. Tell him romance is not allowed if you're not interested. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by obiorathesubtle: 10:10am On Sep 01, 2017 |
adaksbullet: Main man adaks.. Long time oh.. NL his tayad me |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by adaksbullet: 10:13am On Sep 01, 2017 |
obiorathesubtle:on kora the subtitle mine good frnds Am missed ur comet and ur seculent dick |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by SinglesandReady1: 10:23am On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie: Thanks Debbie. What I said there is close to my personal. Knew this babe for 6 years now, i'd wanted to date her from day 1, with marriage in view. She knew this. She just ended a relationship when we met. At 1st it looked like it will happen. We were together without agreement. She wanted friendship and I relationship. Along the line, her line got blurred and she was playing girlfriend. Our close friends don't beliv weren't dating, sometimes I don't believe too but since no official agreement I cant call it dating. She tells of guys who come approach her and other deep personal stuffs. We haven't had sex though there av been plenty narrow escape.. Got other girls am close with but she's kinda like #1. I think we love each other, at least i'm sure of mine. Ladies advice me on how to make her mine... 3 Likes |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 10:24am On Sep 01, 2017 |
AnthonioAlsaid:Secondly, Men don't gossip abeg, restructure the kind of guys you roll with abeg The above is true but not all. In fact I have seen many of them gossiping especially the married ones 1 Like |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 10:26am On Sep 01, 2017 |
sunshineG:Correct 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Horlohlah: 10:29am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Well said sis... I will like to add that this issue is not one-sided. You as guy may not have any sexual/romantic intentions towards the lady but due to the love, attention and affection you give to her perfunctorily, she may start reading meaning and Catching Feelings. Ladies fall easily for stuffs like that. Even if she has a boyfriend and she keeps confiding in you whenever they have issues, definitely you'd want to be on your friend's side and you doing that may make her feel like you are a better guy than her man or you are more understanding. No one is saying you should start doing away with the opposite sex or start despising them but set boundaries and there should be limits before your story will turn to "I don't know how it happened" or "he took advantage of me" Cc:Lalasticlala 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 10:34am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Lalas247: Na wa...Boss bae |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by RoyalBlak007: 10:34am On Sep 01, 2017 |
♤See as people dey scream lala ♤ for FP, na wa oh→ the hustle just got real-ér |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 10:51am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Prettythicksmi: Oshe.. Jeko mo |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 10:53am On Sep 01, 2017 |
sexybbstar: Is this now the sister's club ? |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:02am On Sep 01, 2017 |
supersystemsng:hahahaha gbabe! |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Precial419: 11:06am On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie:YES, u can say no romance bt dat does nt cover d part where things r bound to happen. if dey r going to b besties, i assume dey wld visit each oda. wat r d likehood dat dere wldnt be mixed up feelings |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:07am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Nice one but assuming every guy who is a friend just wants to sleep with you and also for the guys any girl will make you cautious when making friends. Before I thought friendship and love were separate you know you have your friends and the one you love but they are not actually Its intertwined a lot of marriages that started as friendships end up moving past the argumentative and backbiting phase even some evolved from ordinary friendship into a relationship most actions of love come out of friendship just your priority. People rush to get married out of pressure but forget you need someone who will stand till the end of time by your side If your looking for what you can always get you won't have time to give that bond to someone worthy. Take time to know people they perks and querks as friends and you will see the true beauty of the world we live in I have friends that we don't speak often we don't see often but when we do that friendship still stands I have female friends and male friends who don't just want to get in your pants they actually want to make a difference till we are all gone 3 Likes |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 11:08am On Sep 01, 2017 |
SinglesandReady1:Bro I don't know what you're waiting for again if you guys love each other. You've know her for six years, I'm sure you know her flaws and imperfections so if you're comfortable with it and can contain it, make her yours before another guy does. Abi kimbraa? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Dillusionist(m): 11:11am On Sep 01, 2017 |
lol,maky the time I spent reading this is worth it,,honestly many ladies have fallen into this trap of keeping make friends ..a good example is one of my girlfriend that started developing feelings for her male friend ,though I warned her but she wouldn't listen,,they dated for 1 year and broke up,,and believe me it was a fierce one..the relationship broke their friendship apart...biko, even when I have the opportunity to have many male friends around me ,,but I still curtail because of the consequences that follow..guys are nice but only 2% can stay as friends without at a point developing feelings for the female folk..girls be wise..thanks debbie this piece of information needs to be promulgated out as many ladies have become victim of rape and all whatnot..thanks bae, cc: mynd44 lalasticlala 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 11:13am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Precial419:It can always be avoided, if you know you can't control yourself around the girl or vice versa for the lady, then why visit him to get tempted and yield to such temptation? You can always see in public places or make sure someone is at home when you visit. This one boils down to discipline and self control. That's why I even said most boy girl friendship doesn't work out well. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 11:15am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Dillusionist:Bae, you've said it all. Nothing to add again. 1 Like
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Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:18am On Sep 01, 2017 |
solasoulmusic: Woow, you're good with words... I enjoyed the rhytmic undertone, which is indicative of a pure ( or a soul going through constant transformation ) soul... Keep doing this... Wow. I need to adjust my use use of words...i've found someone ...OMG...lips sealed 1 Like |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Dillusionist(m): 11:20am On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie:lol..welcome,,you did better and I learnt alot |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 11:24am On Sep 01, 2017 |
Dillusionist:Thanks Sis. 1 Like |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 11:27am On Sep 01, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:Babe, you dey naija or Africa? But you always have to be cautious with friends and this goes with both genders. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:28am On Sep 01, 2017 |
supersystemsng: Thanks but I'm not going through a transformation I already did it took being treated less than I deserve to know that we truly can change the world when we change our thoughts and reactions to certain things 1 Like |
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