Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:31am On Sep 01, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:
Thanks but I'm not going through a transformation I already did it took being treated less than I deserve to know that we truly can change the world when we change our thoughts and reactions to certain things Men, i'm ashamed of myself..Reading your comments, i just observed peace flow through the entire content, through every detail..Chai...i'm going back to my soul training...Chai...such excellent use of words... |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:37am On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie: Babe, you dey naija or Africa? But you always have to be cautious with friends and this goes with both genders.
Lol must I be a foreigner to know that I live in lagos was born here as well |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:39am On Sep 01, 2017 |
supersystemsng:
Men, i'm ashamed of myself..Reading your comments, i just observed peace flow through the entire content, through every detail..Chai...i'm going back to my soul training...Chai...such excellent use of words... Don't be we are all unique there's something you do brilliantly I may fail woefully at |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:43am On Sep 01, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:
Don't be we are all unique there's something you do brilliantly I may fail woefully at No Sis, trust me, i once was somewhere i really need to re-attain again..trust me...It's okay.i understand you perfectly..How's the ministry, when would it ...gwosh lost the words.. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 11:44am On Sep 01, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:
Lol must I be a foreigner to know that I live in lagos was born here as well LOL, I was shocked sorry. You made it sound like being cautious is not a good thing. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Fearlez: 11:45am On Sep 01, 2017 |
No heterosexual male can be "just friends" with the opposite sex. Online friends, maybe but, in reality there's always a sexual current lurking underneath the relationship.
Most guys who are "friends" with females just lack the balls to make a direct move. Others have been left hanging in the pedlum of playing hard to get, hoping one day this patient dogs will get the bone.
Still others have been told "let's just be friends" and the dude accepts hoping one day he's going to be the one. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:45am On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie: LOL, I was shocked sorry. You made it sound like being cautious is not a good thing. It is but with tact ....if you build to many walls to your heart you'll trap yourself in |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:48am On Sep 01, 2017 |
supersystemsng:
No Sis, trust me, i once was somewhere i really need to re-attain again..trust me...It's okay.i understand you perfectly..How's the ministry, when would it ...gwosh lost the words.. The best advice I can give is stop hanging out with people who don't believe your capable of achievement in this world and start hanging out with people who celebrate your input It will give you the freedom to express yourself in words |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by skesh: 11:50am On Sep 01, 2017 |
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Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 11:54am On Sep 01, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:
It is but with tact ....if you build to many walls to your heart you'll trap yourself in I get it now, too much of everything is bad. 1 Like |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 11:55am On Sep 01, 2017 |
solasoulmusic:
The best advice I can give is stop hanging out with people who don't believe your capable of achievement in this world and start hanging out with people who celebrate your input
It will give you the freedom to express yourself in words Haba, i'm a full fledged man o.. No one can stop me from freedom of expression..Never... I don't have friends...Just one and we don't see in person... |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 12:19pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Fearlez: No heterosexual male can be "just friends" with the opposite sex. Online friends, maybe but, in reality there's always a sexual current lurking underneath the relationship.
Most guys who are "friends" with females just lack the balls to make a direct move. Others have been left hanging in the pedlum of playing hard to get, hoping one day this patient dogs will get the bone.
Still others have been told "let's just be friends" and the dude is accepts hoping one day he's going to be the one.
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Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Precial419: 12:28pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie: It can always be avoided, if you know you can't control yourself around the girl or vice versa for the lady, then why visit him to get tempted and yield to such temptation? You can always see in public places or make sure someone is at home when you visit. This one boils down to discipline and self control. That's why I even said most boy girl friendship doesn't work out well. Ha Wat Kind Of Bestie R U If U Cnt Visit My Hux? This Means U Dnt Trust Me N U Dnt Trust Urself So Hw Can We B Best Friends. This Boils Down To One Fact Boys N Girls Cant B Best Of Friends So Things We Nt Get Complicated. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 1:20pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Let she that has ear, hear what the op is saying 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 1:21pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Precial419: Ha Wat Kind Of Bestie R U If U Cnt Visit My Hux? This Means U Dnt Trust Me N U Dnt Trust Urself So Hw Can We B Best Friends. This Boils Down To One Fact Boys N Girls Cant B Best Of Friends So Things We Nt Get Complicated. That's what I'm saying bro. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by LordKO(m): 1:25pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Why treat a matter on the surface instead of treating its root cause. Many people don't understand what friendship is all about. Informed people never termed everyone that cross their paths as friends and as such don't give them the privileges that are meant for that special one person that deserved the friend tag. Closeness for instance neither equate to loyalty nor friendship. . . . And I don't see friendship where there's no mutual loyalty.
Friendship is never a lesser form of love (erotic or mother love), it's only different from love because it has no observable biological necessities. So, I don't see reason why someone of adult age that value his/her peace, privacy, time and happiness will have more than one person - either a boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife - as a friend at any given time.
Friendship is different from friendliness and closeness. Being friendly and close with many people and extending fairness to them, irrespective of gender, isn't a bad thing. But to be friends with more than one person - especially someone you have no romantic connection with while still in a romantic relationship with another person is insanity - it's a mark of unprincipledness.
Meanwhile, a friend is one whom at minimum shares same ethical philosophies, personality type and economic ideology like you.
People have been keeping frenemies as friends since time immemorial. 4 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by soflygerian(m): 1:29pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Female bestie is bae- i guess... (When those awkward moments arise..) ) |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Nobody: 1:34pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Counter Thread. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by ra4fo(m): 1:34pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Chai! Dis OP, ur head deh dere joor.. tirii gbosa 4 u. Gbosa Gbosa Gbosa! Na ds kyn weemen, wak geh sense i dey like. Infact, oya con tak 50000 nera check |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 1:46pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
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Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by elegushichilling: 1:52pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie: Friendship with the opposite sex most times don't end well. Most times, I find ladies saying; their fellow girls do backstab, lie, take their boyfriends, gossip etc. See as a lady, I will say this. If you cannot have a single female friend whom you trust, then the problem is from YOU and YOU alone. If you're always complaining that your friends do take your boyfriends, then stop being friends with olosho and boyfriend's snatchers. By the way, do not forget you're what you attract.
Yes we know we ladies have issues, we fight, and gossip. (But wait tell me who doesn't gossip? Have you seen when guys are gossiping? If they table your matter among their friends for you ehn, you'll change that twisted mentality).
You that do not have issues because you're miss perfect. And you're tired of girls that you don't want female friends or bestie. You know, at the end most times, these guys just want to fvck you right?
My dear, this is how it start. It starts from friendship. Mind you, I'm not saying that it is wrong to have male friends, of course we learn things from each other. But it also has to be defined and you must set the records straight, tell him the boundaries. My dear ladies be straight forward! If you're single let him know, if you're not ready for a relationship, let him know! Don't lead him on that's wicked!! And then if the guy is persistent, he will be your bestie and that's how it starts.
When you ask your boyfriend for money and advice and he's not ready to give you, sheybi it's bestie you'll tell abi? That one will now give you money and advice because he's BESTIE FATHER CHRISTMAS shey? You've started building your foundation for a future romance with bestie.
Then you'll have issues, boyfriend is annoying you. After you've friendzoned bestie against his wish, it's bestie you'll run to who will capitalize on your boyfriend's flaws and get you nak.ed on his bed.
You say guys don't have issues because they take your excesses. Hope you know it's for a prize and it's all for the greater good? Sometimes, you'll see them as nice because they comfort you, they make you laugh, not a dull moment shey? And you'll equally be nice and these besties will misinterpret your nice gestures and see them as "green light".
From bestie to confidant, to friends with benefits and you'll be wondering how you guys got there, you'll even say the guy took advantage of you. Some cases even leads to rape. If you're kuku a fool you'll say it's chemistry.
But then, ladies let's not castigate all the guys. There are genuine mature guys, who'll just like you as a friend and would want the best for you and they are 10% out of 100%. (Mind you, I'm being generous with my figures.)
Also, ladies let's not forget guys are logical and ladies emotional. Maybe the guy just likes you and your company and its possible you'll see it as "green light" because of the love, care, affection, and attention he gives you. We ladies can't deny we love attention from the opposite sex. And then, you start catching feelings, you'll get confused because you're now in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way. And if this guy is a fvckboy, he'll use it against you, your case is finished. But if he doesn't, your friendship will become awkward and permit me to say RIP to that friendship.
If you're a guy and your girlfriend has alot of male friends then I'm almost sorry for you, but then, if your girlfriend has alot of male friends and will be telling them everything that goes on in your relationship, then I'm definitely sorry for you.
"And those of you that shares your relationship problems with male friends and besties. And that one will be comforting you, the day you will realize he's not the Holy Spirit the comforter, I hope it won't be the day you'll find yourself na.ked on his bed"~ MzLarem.
Original writer- Makydebbie
all these epistle for friends with benefit 1 Like |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by PhantomD(m): 2:08pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Why wud my gal keep a male bestie? I'm supposed to fill dat role. Na naija we dey abeg... Once you're hooked no fresh worm should attract u joor... |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by obiorathesubtle: 2:13pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
adaksbullet: on kora the subtitle mine good frnds
Am missed ur comet and ur seculent dick So fuckîng weird |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Dare2Try(m): 2:24pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
The op is right on some point and some she is being sentimental, first it about the mindset, have got a female who has been one of my best friend for over four years now, we have huge respect for each other, we confide each other and no third party will hear about, what I'm saying is, if u have opposite sex as friend with no strings attached to it, then he start getting funny walk away from that friendship, if ur friend who is not your boyfriend calls u by 11 o'clock in the night walk away from that friendship, if ur friend who is not ur girlfriend tries to seduce u, my brother run for ur life
Note: This advice is for mature minds and fellows who want to leave scandal free life 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by vuc1(m): 2:28pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie: Friendship with the opposite sex most times don't end well. Most times, I find ladies saying; their fellow girls do backstab, lie, take their boyfriends, gossip etc. See as a lady, I will say this. If you cannot have a single female friend whom you trust, then the problem is from YOU and YOU alone. If you're always complaining that your friends do take your boyfriends, then stop being friends with olosho and boyfriend's snatchers. By the way, do not forget you're what you attract.
Yes we know we ladies have issues, we fight, and gossip. (But wait tell me who doesn't gossip? Have you seen when guys are gossiping? If they table your matter among their friends for you ehn, you'll change that twisted mentality).
You that do not have issues because you're miss perfect. And you're tired of girls that you don't want female friends or bestie. You know, at the end most times, these guys just want to fvck you right?
My dear, this is how it start. It starts from friendship. Mind you, I'm not saying that it is wrong to have male friends, of course we learn things from each other. But it also has to be defined and you must set the records straight, tell him the boundaries. My dear ladies be straight forward! If you're single let him know, if you're not ready for a relationship, let him know! Don't lead him on that's wicked!! And then if the guy is persistent, he will be your bestie and that's how it starts.
When you ask your boyfriend for money and advice and he's not ready to give you, sheybi it's bestie you'll tell abi? That one will now give you money and advice because he's BESTIE FATHER CHRISTMAS shey? You've started building your foundation for a future romance with bestie.
Then you'll have issues, boyfriend is annoying you. After you've friendzoned bestie against his wish, it's bestie you'll run to who will capitalize on your boyfriend's flaws and get you nak.ed on his bed.
You say guys don't have issues because they take your excesses. Hope you know it's for a prize and it's all for the greater good? Sometimes, you'll see them as nice because they comfort you, they make you laugh, not a dull moment shey? And you'll equally be nice and these besties will misinterpret your nice gestures and see them as "green light".
From bestie to confidant, to friends with benefits and you'll be wondering how you guys got there, you'll even say the guy took advantage of you. Some cases even leads to rape. If you're kuku a fool you'll say it's chemistry.
But then, ladies let's not castigate all the guys. There are genuine mature guys, who'll just like you as a friend and would want the best for you and they are 10% out of 100%. (Mind you, I'm being generous with my figures.)
Also, ladies let's not forget guys are logical and ladies emotional. Maybe the guy just likes you and your company and its possible you'll see it as "green light" because of the love, care, affection, and attention he gives you. We ladies can't deny we love attention from the opposite sex. And then, you start catching feelings, you'll get confused because you're now in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way. And if this guy is a fvckboy, he'll use it against you, your case is finished. But if he doesn't, your friendship will become awkward and permit me to say RIP to that friendship.
If you're a guy and your girlfriend has alot of male friends then I'm almost sorry for you, but then, if your girlfriend has alot of male friends and will be telling them everything that goes on in your relationship, then I'm definitely sorry for you.
"And those of you that shares your relationship problems with male friends and besties. And that one will be comforting you, the day you will realize he's not the Holy Spirit the comforter, I hope it won't be the day you'll find yourself na.ked on his bed"~ MzLarem.
Original writer- Makydebbie
Chai op be making sense since 1900 abeg tell them |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by makydebbie(f): 2:45pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
vuc1:
Chai op be making sense since 1900 abeg tell them I don tell them. |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Slayer2: 2:57pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
Lalas247:
Kai lol no homo before the jobless ppl of NL say we be les |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by sharpwriter(m): 3:26pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
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Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by SinglesandReady1: 3:41pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie: make her yours before another guy does. Abi kimbraa? Not like I didnt try again oo. She insist on the just friend thing why dude wants to consummate the thrilling love story. At some point I had to tell her she could be my friend if she wants but I cant call her friend. We get apart and come back. We're playing the script of lovers but there hasn't been any official declaration... Na where the thing weak me be dat |
Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by rosalieene(f): 3:54pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
it's more funny when a guy u take as a friend, after several failed attempts to ask you out suddenly stopped communicating with you |
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Re: Friendship With The Opposite Sex. by Actuarydeji(m): 4:02pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
makydebbie: Friendship with the opposite sex most times don't end well. Most times, I find ladies saying; their fellow girls do backstab, lie, take their boyfriends, gossip etc. See as a lady, I will say this. If you cannot have a single female friend whom you trust, then the problem is from YOU and YOU alone. If you're always complaining that your friends do take your boyfriends, then stop being friends with olosho and boyfriend's snatchers. By the way, do not forget you're what you attract.
Yes we know we ladies have issues, we fight, and gossip. (But wait tell me who doesn't gossip? Have you seen when guys are gossiping? If they table your matter among their friends for you ehn, you'll change that twisted mentality).
You that do not have issues because you're miss perfect. And you're tired of girls that you don't want female friends or bestie. You know, at the end most times, these guys just want to fvck you right?
My dear, this is how it start. It starts from friendship. Mind you, I'm not saying that it is wrong to have male friends, of course we learn things from each other. But it also has to be defined and you must set the records straight, tell him the boundaries. My dear ladies be straight forward! If you're single let him know, if you're not ready for a relationship, let him know! Don't lead him on that's wicked!! And then if the guy is persistent, he will be your bestie and that's how it starts.
When you ask your boyfriend for money and advice and he's not ready to give you, sheybi it's bestie you'll tell abi? That one will now give you money and advice because he's BESTIE FATHER CHRISTMAS shey? You've started building your foundation for a future romance with bestie.
Then you'll have issues, boyfriend is annoying you. After you've friendzoned bestie against his wish, it's bestie you'll run to who will capitalize on your boyfriend's flaws and get you nak.ed on his bed.
You say guys don't have issues because they take your excesses. Hope you know it's for a prize and it's all for the greater good? Sometimes, you'll see them as nice because they comfort you, they make you laugh, not a dull moment shey? And you'll equally be nice and these besties will misinterpret your nice gestures and see them as "green light".
From bestie to confidant, to friends with benefits and you'll be wondering how you guys got there, you'll even say the guy took advantage of you. Some cases even leads to rape. If you're kuku a fool you'll say it's chemistry.
But then, ladies let's not castigate all the guys. There are genuine mature guys, who'll just like you as a friend and would want the best for you and they are 10% out of 100%. (Mind you, I'm being generous with my figures.)
Also, ladies let's not forget guys are logical and ladies emotional. Maybe the guy just likes you and your company and its possible you'll see it as "green light" because of the love, care, affection, and attention he gives you. We ladies can't deny we love attention from the opposite sex. And then, you start catching feelings, you'll get confused because you're now in love with someone who doesn't feel the same way. And if this guy is a fvckboy, he'll use it against you, your case is finished. But if he doesn't, your friendship will become awkward and permit me to say RIP to that friendship.
If you're a guy and your girlfriend has alot of male friends then I'm almost sorry for you, but then, if your girlfriend has alot of male friends and will be telling them everything that goes on in your relationship, then I'm definitely sorry for you.
"And those of you that shares your relationship problems with male friends and besties. And that one will be comforting you, the day you will realize he's not the Holy Spirit the comforter, I hope it won't be the day you'll find yourself na.ked on his bed"~ MzLarem.
Original writer- Makydebbie
Your write up is the best. Keep it up!!! I love it |