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Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by khiaa(f): 4:22am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: She's not answering you because her spirit didn't see anything, ![]() If you truly love this woman don't let your mother's jealousy prevent you from marrying her. Yes people it's a well known fact that some mothers are jealous of their sons girlfriends or wives. Sometimes the mother feels that she is being replaced. It's hard to believe that you have been with her for 9 years and no introduction (that girl is a saint). You know what, I think that you expected this reaction from your mom and that's the reason it took you nine years to introduce them. On the flip side of the coin I'm going to put myself in your mom's place and I think that I would be pissed as hell if after nine years of not knowing of her he brings her to me and says *Mom meet your future daughter* but it wouldn't be anything personally against her I would just be surprised. ![]() One last thing, you stated that your mom said that she would no longer have anything to do with you if you marry her, don't you know that is a means of control. If my mother would say such a cruel thing to me I would realize that she never really loved me and I would move on with my life with my future husband and future kids leaving the door open if she chooses to come in. 23 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by khiaa(f): 4:40am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Olanrefront3355: God said to have a wife is a good thing but I don't remember God saying that a MAN should BEG his mother to let him have one of her choice. 7 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by vivie01(f): 4:48am On Sep 02, 2017 |
mofeoluwadassah: My thought too. @op, you dated a girl since year 1 in higher institution and did not have gut to take her home for ONCE in 9years? You are a player and you did not try at all. You did not love or have any plan of marrying her, simply put. If you had taken her home during one of the holidays you would have known ur mother's mind towards her and not waste her time. There is danger ahead for both you and the lady if you ignored your mother moreso that she has refused to bulge. Where is the place of prayer in all this your confusion? I leave you to it. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:03am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: Dear op let me be honest with you, I really won't advise you to marry someone your mum doesn't approve of because most parents are usually right about spouses. what about your siblings do they like the, do they agree? if your siblings like her and your mum doesn't like her, your siblings can help turn your mum around but if your sibling and mom doesn't like or are indifferent towards her then it's big problem. do you want to have MIL clashes, do you want your wife to be depressed when your family don't put a single interest in your marriage, you might think yes it doesn't matter I will marry her my mum will come along but think about the long term effect. A home where extended family are excluded is not a home, A home where kids can't play with their paternal grandparents. A failed relationship is better than a failed marriage no matter how long you've dated if you can see that marriage won't work my dear you have to move on 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:24am On Sep 02, 2017 |
DeadRat: I'm not a mummy's boy... I love and respect my parents 6 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:29am On Sep 02, 2017 |
gratefulheart: I've really prayed about it. but nothing seems to have changed 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:34am On Sep 02, 2017 |
sobastical: In My family ....you are not allowed bring your girlfriends to the house except if you re ready to marry the person .perhaps I studied far away from where my parents live . 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:35am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Olami90: I've already done that... I'm so very angry,i can't bear the thought of betraying my fiancee.my conscience will kill me. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:37am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Deefuray: thanks but I'm just scared... marrying without ur parents blessings 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:39am On Sep 02, 2017 |
greencard: I really do not believe in prophets or pastors choosing or revealing my life Patner ....they have ruined a lot of relationship n homes with their predictions 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:41am On Sep 02, 2017 |
greencard: She's super Intuitive... but I still can't see what she's scared of |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:42am On Sep 02, 2017 |
IamEmem: I came from a very strict home....bringing girls to the House is a NO NO...we eventually grew up with the mentality 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 6:44am On Sep 02, 2017 |
khiaa: I just don't want to disappoint or make anyone sad. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by lereinter(m): 6:51am On Sep 02, 2017 |
maybe your mum dont want u to marry now... 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 7:03am On Sep 02, 2017 |
chukagates:Why not, some mother in laws are good at frustrating their son's wife. 7 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 7:29am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Ignore ur mum. Marry d babe and relocate abroad abeg 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 7:40am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089:yeah! I love and respect ma parents too... But when it comes to ur happiness u are in ur shoes alone... If she gives u happiness then ur mother has no right to say no... If her spirit doesnt accept her, its notur business, as long as ur spirit is happy with d woman nothing matters more... What if ur mother was late... Listen, u better go for what u want... 4 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by ehinmowo: 7:50am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: As much as I will advise u 2 marry her, dnt act in outright disobedient. Lifetime is a longtime! First, go to your mum at night, kneel down and beg her and make her tell you wot u must do in order to b able to marry her. If dt doesn't work, beg your dad to talk to her After dt, talk to some elders whom your mum respect, including her pastor to talk to her If all these fail, make your own enquiries (try 2 include spiritual as well) concerning your union with her. If all go green, marry her. However, since life is a risk, and if you are ready to risk everything on it, who cares, jst marry her and damn d consequences |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 7:51am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089:its obvious u have a big problem... So marrying d lady will disappoint ur mother... That means ur choice is nothing but a disappointment... Look ma man, if u are ready u know what to do... U dont have a case... If ur mother wants to separate from u then fine. So many people out there have mothers who are already late (ur mother will not die)... If u are a christian u should know that d bible says that a man shall leave his parents and cling to his wife... Ur father has agreed... 5 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by IamEmem(m): 7:58am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: I can understand and relate bro. But 9 yrs was too much a time to keep this lady away from home front. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Efewestern: 8:21am On Sep 02, 2017 |
This is a serious issue. do you think your girl is okay? if yes then talk to your mom, and please don't tell your fiancé what's going on, so she won't hate your mom later when you get married to her. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by rosalieene(f): 8:26am On Sep 02, 2017 |
It's not a curse but a reality, if you dump ur gf of 9 yrs, you will be doomed. Don't let the poor lady cry. WTF!!! 9 years! ur mom has married so she should have no say in whom you want to marry. Be a man that you are, if you leave her bcoz of ur mum, then you are a mummy's boy. 8 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by starstunna1313(m): 8:37am On Sep 02, 2017 |
greatmarshall: I Second... For her to have stayed 9 good years. She deserves to be with you. Besides am not a fan of parents choosing spouse for their children 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 8:47am On Sep 02, 2017 |
If you marry her and shii hits d fan, just know u alone will bear d cross. Plus how do u date someone 4 9 years and they never met ur parents? ![]() |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 8:50am On Sep 02, 2017 |
IamEmem:That's just my problem with d op. Op you can pray for God to soften ur mum's heart. If he can soften pharaoh's heart, I'm sure he can soften ur mum's. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by greatmarshall(m): 8:52am On Sep 02, 2017 |
starstunna1313:Yes 9 good years means the both of you have fully known each other... Please do not scatter what you have built over the years because your mom said "her spirit doesn't welcome the girl" she doesn't even have a concrete reason for not liking her... Be wise my brother because marriage is a life time journey, if you fall into the wrong hands, your mom may not be there to suffer it with you... That babe deserves to be your wife and not just that, she has to be celebrated for sticking with you all these years... I tell you such women are difficult to come by these days... 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by kobijacobs(m): 9:06am On Sep 02, 2017 |
is it ur mom or ur the lady u want to marry? my friend go ahead with ur marriage, u know what's good for u 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by bigpicture001: 9:06am On Sep 02, 2017 |
the only thing you need to do is grow up!!!.... 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by sauceEEP(m): 9:08am On Sep 02, 2017 |
You've been with her for over 8 year's and all this while you never bothered to take her to your parents? 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Benekruku(m): 9:08am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Things dey happen o! I use to believe it only happens in home videos. Mr. Man, Wife her! You will be responsible for what ever outcome plays and also regret your mistakes alone. Don't tell stories that your mother infuenced your decision to be happy! 1 Like |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Nobody: 9:08am On Sep 02, 2017 |
Passy089: ask your mum if that was the way her husbands people treated her when she first met his family. then hear what she says. 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother Rejected My Fiancee After Dating For 9 Years by Antoeni(m): 9:09am On Sep 02, 2017 |
I see u 're still confused and immatured, and nt ready to go for what will give joy and happiness, pls wise up and take d bull by d horn 1 Like |
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