op u are the cause of ur predicament,u dated for 9yrs nd u never introduce her to any of ur family member....u are wicked nd heartless,u cn kill,u never wish the girl good. THE GIRL Nah MUMU"person DATE AM FOR 9YRS ND SHE NEVER CARE TO ASK HIM OF VISITING HIS FAMILY"mtcheew..I'm OUTA HERE

mamachizzy:
How could u have dated somebody for nine good years and u never took her home to meet ur mom? that doesn't sound right at all.
That aside, u ain't gonna marry ur mama are u? U know what u want, go for it. obviously ur gal is loyal. trust me its hard to meet loyal people these days.
since u got ur fathers blessings, wife her.

I hope he listens...In marriage God by-passes parents to give the blessings they withhold out of jealousy, i hope he bypasses that his selfish mother and will listen...

Passy089:



thanks bro...I appreciate

there is nothing like thanks bro!
Your mum irreplaceable, your woman replaceable hope you know that.
You paradise is beneath your mother's feet, never go against her wish when it comes choice making about a wife.
Yes! I got you about your fiancee, being with you for nine good years, who do you want to leave her for right?
Seat your mum down and talk to her nicely, and people around who can help you to change are stance, she is the hurdle, you most be caution here.
Never give up on talking to her but be polite and respectful to her.

Passy089:

I hope you see this.
I got married over 10 years ago to "my mother's choice", the marriage barely lasted for 5 years, we've been separated since.

Unlike you, I had many girlfriends, mum kept rejecting all of them, there was a lady whom I tried to stand my grounds with because I really loved her, but mum didn't want her because she's from a different ethnic group. Eventually I had to let her go because I wanted to please my mum.

When I eventually married who she wants, it seemed it will be heaven on earth and they were very close until I and my ex-wife had some disagreement. She thought I would discuss it with my mum, I didn't, because I felt mum will support her. So mum never knew we were quarreling, when they met, she started accusing mum of not caring about her feelings, mum was surprised and was trying to find out what she's talking about and she kept accusing mum of pretending. My ex-wife believed I am tied to mum's apron and can't do anything without her knowledge, but she was wrong. Several other issues came up and we've been separated for about 6 years now. I'm certainly never going back to her. She even accused my mum of destroying her marriage, I laugh at both of them.
Mum has learnt her lessons, she never gets involve in anyone's choice of marriage since. She's so unhappy about her influence in my choice. I am the first son. I have 4 brothers, all happily married and their wives are in good relationship with mum.

Following your mum's choice won't make you happy, if you love this lady, stick with her, if your mum truly love you, she'll come to love the lady (with time). If you leave the one you love for the one your mother wants, your marriage won't last. It's your love for your woman that matters, not your mother's love for her.

Wish you goodluck.

I tell people something... Your mother is more important than your wife.. No matter what you do to your mother she will never leave you, but your wife have an option of divorce she can leave anytime.. Do they listen to them.. Talk to your mom and if she still insist then find another person... Your mom is your family your wife is external family believe me on dis..

godfatherx:

I hope you see this.
I got married over 10 years ago to "my mother's choice", the marriage barely lasted for 5 years, we've been separated since.

Unlike you, I had many girlfriends, mum kept rejecting all of them, there was a lady whom I tried to stand my grounds with because I really loved her, but mum didn't want her because she's from a different ethnic group. Eventually I had to let her go because I wanted to please my mum.

When I eventually married who she wants, it seemed it will be heaven on earth and they were very close until I and my ex-wife had some disagreement. She thought I would discuss it with my mum, I didn't, because I felt mum will support her. So mum never knew we were quarreling, when they met, she started accusing mum of not caring about her feelings, mum was surprised and was trying to find out what she's talking about and she kept accusing mum of pretending. My ex-wife believed I am tied to mum's apron and can't do anything without her knowledge, but she was wrong. Several other issues came up and we've been separated for about 6 years now. I'm certainly never going back to her. She even accused my mum of destroying her marriage, I laugh at both of them.
Mum has learnt her lessons, she never gets involve in anyone's choice of marriage since. I am the first son.

Following your mum's choice won't make you happy, if you love this lady, stick with her, if your mum truly love you, she'll come to love the lady (with time). If you leave the one you love for the one your mother wants, your marriage won't last. It's your love for your woman that matters, not your mother's love for her.

Wish you goodluck.

God bless you Sir for sharing this

Are you madt?
So you're marrying her for your mother?
What is your Dad's mother had rejected your mum nkoh?
Would there be you?
Young man use your head. Your mum has lived her life. It's now yours.
Cowboy the Bleep up and be a man. Last last na your life.

Hmmmmm, ur mum hate her @ first sight without knowing her character. Dat means ur mum judge by physical appearance..... Why dont u guyz stay with her 4 a week nd let her judge by character instead..... She might reconsider. And u too pray...

supersystemsng:



Continue cheer-leading rubbish... is the case not the same where the boy's father should have the say over the son's marriage..?

If truly the OP is his father's son
...and he thinks like this...an apple never falls far from the tree.

Hope you can figure this out without mummy's help?

vivie01:


Sorry to quote you but most times it means bad at the end of the day. We all have different levels of discernment.
I've had such first time feelings before and it turned out to be true eventually.
@op, the earlier you take action and face reality, the better for you. Be sober, approach your mum so she can at least give you a headway on her reason for disapproval of the lady.

Yeah most times but not all the time and don't let forget OP relationship is at stake here.

@OP let your mum give u a concrete reason to void d relationship or she learn to love that young girl and move on.

supersystemsng:


May the same be done to your daughter and your sisters

amen.
if any dude tries this shit with me after 4yrs(not to talk of 9 yrs)I go naked swear for am,him sisters and all the female for their generation yet unborn at 12 midnight.

frankgreat:
I tell people something... Your mother is more important than your wife.. No matter what you do to your mother she will never leave you, but your wife have an option of divorce she can leave anytime.. Do they listen to them.. Talk to your mom and if she still insist then find another person... Your mom is your family your wife is external family believe me on dis..

What if the mother is no more... Keep preaching lies... was that how the father's mother treated his own mother?

op, make i tell you as i see am, it's either one of them dey ogbanje or they both are, probably the lady go prevent ur mom's power over you or ur mom go prevent the lady's own or they both know each other either in the physical or spiritual.
talk to the two of them.

go and complain to your parish priest,call th umu nna let your mum say the real reason.

Bibyken:
amen.
if any dude tries this shit with me after 4yrs(not to talk of 9 yrs)I go naked swear for am,him sisters and all the female for their generation yet unborn by 12 midnight.

Please never go unclad for any man, please o... the effects are terrible o... most times it kills them on the long run,please o

Ur mum objected simply cos u never for one day, brougth her home, for familiarities, of course u don't expect ur mum to just give in easily... She wud have loved to get to know her in law.. . . Meanwhile my advice is simple, Follow ur heart man.

refreshrate:


If truly the OP is his father's son
...and he thinks like this...an apple never falls far from the tree.

Hope you can figure this out without mummy's help?

Family of weak men aiite

Bibyken:
amen.
if any dude tries this shit with me after 4yrs(not to talk of 9 yrs)I go naked swear for am,him sisters and all the female for their generation yet unborn at 12 midnight.

ahan aunty

Op you sef are not wise. How can you date someone for 9 years and you didn't once take her home?

Do not ignore your mother. Its very very risky.Because of tomorrow.
Don't force your way on that marriage otherwise you will regret it later.

frankgreat:
I tell people something... Your mother is more important than your wife.. No matter what you do to your mother she will never leave you, but your wife have an option of divorce she can leave anytime.. Do they listen to them.. Talk to your mom and if she still insist then find another person... Your mom is your family your wife is external family believe me on dis..

Dude where did you come up with this?

Does your Bible not tell you about leaving his father and his MOTHER and become one with his wife?

It's exactly thoughts like this one you're having that screw marriages over. How can you even think like this & say it with so much gusto?

Ah ahn!

You're an idíot, and something is wrong with your mum.

What sort of man are you?

Passy089:
I've dated my fiancee from my year 1 in the university that's 9years now, she stood with me through thick and thin, never left me for ready made guys, she trusted and supported me and I promised myself no woman will make me happier than her so I proposed to marry her....

So I took her to see my parents for the first time, but I got the shock of my life when my mum rejected her at 1st sight for no particular reason her word was "my spirit just don't accept her" my dad was cool about my choice as long as I'm happy, I've been begging my mother to reconsider but she has made it clear she won't have anything to do with her or me if I go ahead and marry her.

I'm just confused,the last person I'll leave is my fiancee but my mum too is very special to me.
what should I do??


MOD please help forward this to FP

My cousin's mum rejected her fiancee for no reason, but her dad, my uncle accepted him. My uncle later died with her mum still refusing the guy. She's an only daughter. Anyway, she stuck with her man. After a while, she became pregnant for him and had their kid. Two yrs later, she got pregnant again for him. It was then the girl's mum allowed them get married. Mr. Man, the devil wants to use someone ( your Mum) to rob you of your future joy. You will regret leaving that girl if you is listen to your Mum. Marry her pls. Another story. My friend had a guy. The guy's dad rejected her, while the girl's parents too rejected the guy. They both ALONE defied all odds, went to the registry and got married. Today they have 4 kids, now traditionally married, relocated to the USA and are 14years together in marriage. They are happy together. Both families have now accepted the union. Please, stick to your girl. That's my advice.

supersystemsng:


Let's break things down a little further..I'm sure she wasn't reading newspapers for the entire duration to him, and he must have been getting wifey treatment...Now does this already not equate marriage?..

That's where the girl's fault comes in and even rated high. When it comes to marriage, it is mostly girls' things because men do drag their feet and somehow carefree but its the woman that will take some steps to make them serious. She's too comfortable and complacent here thinking investing in a man is an automatic acceptance ticket from his family.

This issue could be either way, it might be the lady's parent(s) that rejected the guy too, you know.

BuddhaPalm:
You're an idíot, and something is wrong with your mum.

What sort of man are you?

Duru009:
Do not ignore your mother. Its very very risky.Because of tomorrow.
Don't force your way on that marriage otherwise you will regret it later.

Stop spreading panic...God is higher than all mothers even mine

FROM YOUR STATEMENT, YOU LOVE THIS GIRL.

HOW COME IT TOOK YOU 9 SOLID YEARS BEFORE INTRODUCING HER TO YOUR PARENT?

WELL, YOUR MUM IS A WOMAN, AND SHE WILL UNDERSTAND WOMEN MORE THAN YOU WILL DO.

I WISH YOU THE VERY BEST

After 9yrs? All you need now is serious prayers for God to intervene. Because if you leave the lady after 9yrs of dating there is problem and if you disobey you mother there is problem but I want to let you know that marriage is between you and your wife not your mother. If you feel the lady is ok which I believe she is, go ahead and marry her. Is better to offend your mother than to offend another person. And one more thing..don't marry out of pity...marry your friend, companion and the person you know very well.

mofeoluwadassah:
you dated her for nine years and you have not for one day taken her to your house? then it means you dont love her

Some of your girls sha. Is this the remedy to the situation ?

Passy089:




I've been asking her for days now....she wouldn't say anything

She has nothing to say.. That's poor mentality....

Pray to God first...
Let our dad n other siblings welcome her...
Ur mum will be forced to love her.
Watch wedding party by banky w n adesua etomi. .

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u said my mind..... Oshey�