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| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by osic(m): 4:22pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
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| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by Nobody: 4:36pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
magikalz:
lol. This one touched me.   See, drop your inquiry here or send me a message on Whatsapp. I can help you. I don't mind whatsapp tips & stuff. Bros, I'm 30, seeking employment to pay mah bills but that's not the main issue. The main issue is I've never really gone on dates ever. When I was little I was heavily infused with this niceguy syndrome sh!t from my wicked mother. Don't ask me why I call her wicked but anyway. I also didn't have much masculine male influences or friends while growing up either peers or older. I had a neighbors father who would've probably been my godfather cos he's from the same town or so with my Dad cos I remember a couple of ocassions he'd spoken with me, giving me some grown man advice as a kid, but he's late now. Funny enough his son, who i'm probably older than by maybe a year or two has a girl, she's thick tho infact the guy sef seems like he's pussy whipped over her, taking pictures upandan, my bae, this that on whatsapp, side story. Well in elementary school I was very very shy, like ultra, also no talkative, cos I grew up in a very religiously conservative yet dysfunctional household, mama ehn... chisos. So I wasn't exactly open to alot of people & it's this ultra selective trait or elitist mindset, not necessarily that I'm better than this person but like I just know stuff & yet this person is ignorant of it & happy with it & I'm like why would be associating with certain types of people when they don't know this, or they do this which I don't like, so I tend to keep away. All that dysfunctional stuff made me grow up a introverted loner anyway, couldn't make much friends in school, if I did, it didn't hold for long or materialize into longterm stuff. I also kept away from girls cos I was poisoned by some dude who told me some dumb childish sh!t like adam & eve, & it seeped into my subconcious & always made me wary of girls & view them as evil beings, even till now wey society don spoil finish. Fast forward to highschool when I was 18, when GSM comot, started getting into writing poetry or just mere rhymes for amusement & also tried chatting with girls on some networks then like V-mobile or yahoo chats, ya know, just for fun, & I was raw & nasty, chai I was bad inside but didn't know how to express it physically especially with girls & without scrutinizing & fearing judgement from them or myself. This that cognitive dissonance sh!t from the dysfunctional-conservative upbringing I dey tell una. Big problem. It got in the way of so many, I'd see some girls wouldn't know how to conversate with them physically & in the moment. Only through text, if I stylishly get a number tho cos I no sabi collect for real. Well I chatted with some girls, I had nasty ideas like sex & all but didn't really know how to get there or where to go like places of interest cos I was led to believe that nightclubs were horrible evil places & such neither did I have anyone to invite me gan sef so me just dey my own worrying about school grades & sh!t cos my pops be all on my back bout it. I met this one girl I was chatting with for some weeks physically, didn't know I was supposed to take her to some place cool so we met at somewhat neutral place, Ikeja airforce base precisely cos she stayed at oshodi. We talked for some hours, she tooked me to her home, I was 19, she was 22 then, didn't know. Afterwards I tried to kiss her, she refused with some excuse, then I just said nothing & walked away without looking back. Then she called me back & we got talking & finally kissed. The unfortunate thing was I would be the one to always go to her place to see her & we'd makeout but soon after I would try pushing for sex but she'd refuse & I kept wondering why she'd be ok kissing me, then letting her squeeze her allover (gawd her tits were the softest jellylike thing I'd ever made contact with, nice slim chocolate body overall, no much ass though but I bet I could pick this girl up & fvck against the wall, me wey no dey even gym then sef). Well I stopped seeing her completely after one time she said "these kisses would go sour". It was then I knew she was either somehow playing me or just didn't want anything cos I told her I was gonna leave for Uni, in a different state. Sure enough, I got back from first semester & got a call but I didn't answer & never bothered with her again. Even before I left this dark welling came over me to simply not bother with girls cos technically I don't know what I'm supposed to do & all through Uni I never did meanwhile roomies & classmates dey jolly upandan, most no dey even bother invite me or tell me anything. That was when I went DARK. I began to feel so many negative emotions brew inside of me that I no longer wanted to be human or alive even. I lost countless opportunities with girls at least even if it wasn't for relationship it would've been a hit it one time thing or maybe fvck buddy thin but nah nothing for me. Some occasions females would give me complements & I wouldn't even know how to respond cos I felt completely numbed out to feel anything else. One average looking but thick a$$ed girl told me I was cute in a cafe & at first I was overwhelmed but before she left I asked for her number & she gave it to me. Didn't call her until I got back to Uni & even when I called I didn't know where to begin so I just let that sh!t go. It feels like a nightmare walking around & having women either stare at you or maybe even smile somewhat while you're about & can't do nothing with good looks. Even when I do try to make something happen, it always inevitably ends awkwardly & horrible far from what I'd imagine in my pretty mind, which then leads me to keep avoiding interactions with them in the first place cos I know how it would end, not very well. There are a couple other scenarios I can paint but the koko be say I never fit toast babe, comot, fvck am either keep am as gf or fwb or something else. Now it's more complicated when you start to factor in age, finances, lifestyle, social value & such. I'm quite familiar with the MGTOW movement going on now, thing is I didn't realize it was what I was doing since then. Wahala plenty, fineboy wey no sabi woman, wey no hold bar, na wetin? Abeg I don tire jare... 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by DavidTheGeek: 5:30pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
ERUDITEE:
i did hit on a girl, she played cool and actually told me that she just wants us to be friends.
and that she doesn't want a relationship with me.
should I forget about her and move on, because I know it is not an ideal thing to beg a girl. how to I go about making my self irresistible to her?
@ harddon and other concerned members. I wonder what kinda hitting on her you did.
Well, first thing is you shouldn't ask a girl you just met out.
It's simple logic - NO ATTRACTION YET. So she'll give you an automatic NO.
Second thing is don't take the "lets just be friends" talk too serious.
When she told you she doesn't want a relationship with you, you should have said something like: "That's alright. Save your heart from heartache. I bet we wouldn't make a fine couple. You don't seem like the kinda girl that can handle me."
Now that's a challenge.
Imagine a girl said something like that to you. What effect would that have on you?
YOU WILL BE TEMPTED TO PROVE YOURSELF TO HER. (Same thing, she'll be tempted to prove herself to you if you had said something like that.)
Next time don't make obvious advance at a girl. Lower her defences by going in subtly.
Your options now are:
1. Ignore her statement. Just cuz she said she doesn't want a relationship does not mean you guys can't date. If you're confident you can get her to fall in love with you... you're good to go.
2. Move on to another girl. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by brandon180(m): 5:50pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
DavidTheGeek:
I wonder what kinda hitting on her you did.
Well, first thing is you shouldn't ask a girl you just met out.
It's simple logic - NO ATTRACTION YET. So she'll give you an automatic NO.
Second thing is don't take the "lets just be friends" talk too serious.
When she told you she doesn't want a relationship with you, you should have said something like: "That's alright. Save your heart from heartache. I bet we wouldn't make a fine couple. You don't seem like the kinda girl that can handle me."
Now that's a challenge.
Imagine a girl said something like that to you. What effect would that have on you?
YOU WILL BE TEMPTED TO PROVE YOURSELF TO HER. (Same thing, she'll be tempted to prove herself to you if you had said something like that.)
Next time don't make obvious advance at a girl. Lower her defences by going in subtly.
Your options now are:
1. Ignore her statement. Just cuz she said she doesn't want a relationship does not mean you guys can't date. If you're confident you can get her to fall in love with you... you're good to go.
2. Move on to another girl. Word.. i think he should move on to another gal..jst matter of time b4 he starts acting needy and then he blows it.... |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by johnson232: 5:56pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
osic:
My gf flirted with a guy in my presence and said jokingly "what are you doing here sef" during one of our conversations the same day, so I left her place angry that night, the following day was my birthday, so I called her on the phone to take her out but she didn't answer the phone, after calling and calling, she later did and was acting funny, felt she told her brother to tell me she wasn't around, I didn't call or text her since then, that's 5days ago, my question is should I call or visit her or should I just move on with my life. Thanks Abeg move on with your life... |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by DavidTheGeek: 5:58pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
osic:
My gf flirted with a guy in my presence and said jokingly "what are you doing here sef" during one of our conversations the same day, so I left her place angry that night, the following day was my birthday, so I called her on the phone to take her out but she didn't answer the phone, after calling and calling, she later did and was acting funny, felt she told her brother to tell me she wasn't around, I didn't call or text her since then, that's 5days ago, my question is should I call or visit her or should I just move on with my life. Thanks  Dude wtf?
It's your birthday and you are the one calling to take her out?
Who does that? 
She has ripped off your balls. Fried them and tossed them into the trash can cuz they weren't big enough.
No! She didn't rip them off!
You handed it over to her on your kneels.
DON'T CALL, DON'T VISIT.
Use the break to grow a new set of iron balls.
Sacrifice some of your time and read this thread from beginning.
There are wisdom buired in the pages of this thread.
DON'T CONTACT HER EVER AGAIN... UNTIL SHE CONTACTS YOU!
Go out and meet new girls.
This time, you had better not hand over your balls. 7 Likes |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by johnson232: 6:07pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
knax:
Hey guys,I have a Lil problem or maybe the world has a Lil problem.first off,I'm a geek I admit,and I wear glasses,I'm myopic (my glasses are designed,like Clark kent's own,original ray ban designers).I'm a medical student,300level.I like to think that I'm intelligent (my results so far has been awesome,glory to God).I am an introvert,very well exposed though but I prefer to observe than to talk.however when I'm in my small social circle,I'm the funniest craziest person u'd ever know (I've done some pretty crazy stuffs,jumped on a horse without a saddle and rode it,I'm did fall off sha,took d microphone from the mc in front of everyone at an occasion just to say "there is no meat in my rice ooo",it was a dare sha.Pecked a cadaver in anatomy dissection,lolz,and even used my scalpel to measure d length of his flaccid penis,and so many other crazy things,).I play football in my spare time (defensive midfielder,solid one,we came third in my uni's vc cup competition).I'm an ardent video gamer..certified..ps2,3,pes,God of war.
I also watch movies alot,like I said I'm not the social type so I spend a lot of time alone or with my best friend turned brother..I like to think I'm a good writer,my article has been published in vanguard once..I play drums as well.my taste in music is kinda different I love "the lumineers","fun","coldplay",the radical face,sleeping at last,brandi callie,Rachel yamagata,Christina perri,Ben Howard,Joe Brooks,Don Williams,Lady antebellum.the songs in my phone are not so popular but they make a lot of sense and in another universe,perhaps a better one,they would be a lot more popular.
Now to my point of writing this...I am awesome.i like to think I am,but all these things I mentioned above,you would never know all those things by looking at me . I'm that guy who stays at the back corner of the class looking at everybody and assimilating what they are doing . I've always said that if I'm to be granted one power then I want to be invisible. I like quietness and simplicity.but nigerian girls,well most nigerian girls always go for the shouty guy,you know,the guy on vintage shirt and jeans and big boots with dreads and who is always showing off.
I'm not that guy,I've always been a simple dresser,I wear my jeans ,polo and pams. I adore being free in what I wear,sometimes I might put on boots,but nothing too flashy.i don't like people noticing me at all,however on formal occasions I dress well and I have a good fashion sense..
My ex did complain about my dressing before she broke up with me,she was like she has to deal with me being casual all the time around her friends(i banged one of em after we broke up though)..you see,she was the social media type,she had so many followers on IG..Facebook,guys were literally begging her.but I'm not,I'm not on any social media except WhatsApp and this nairaland and she couldn't understand that.she wanted me to flaunt our relationship and dress to kill every time but that wasn't me..I don't need to show off,I love myself the way I am.i did not show her the kind of family I was from,I didn't want her to be there just for the money,but on her birthdays, I spent enough money on her.when people see her walking with me,they ask "besides the fact that he is fine,how did he manage to get this girl".you see people judge from d way I dress,and they believe that she was way above me,but in reality I was leagues above her..I loved her because I simply did.i gave her my Samsung galaxy 5 that time,in exchange for her infinix hot 2.but nobody knew that,they saw her with the phone and thought she is rich..he is broke.
Suffice it sure that she broke up with me around September last year and gave an excuse that we can't get married,she sees me in her dreams bla bla bla,and she left me for a dude like that,she told me bout him sha,he works in an insurance company, i saw his instagram page,he dresses well.but it turns out that he works for my uncle (mum's younger brother) insurance company.i found out his pay grade and well it's okay sha,although I am way better,if she wanted to leave me,she should have left me for someone way way way better not someone like him,although nd ways she wanted to keep me around as side bf,you know to always have sex with,but I refused.
Back to the topic,now I dunno what I have with this new girl I'm seeing,but it might be over soon.my question is why don't nigerian girls see good things??,why do they always go for the flashy things that re not real.i don't like flashy girls (I had a lapse of judgement with my ex).most times,the quiet ones are actually the best and they are real.if I decide to start dressing like all this guys I see with chains and all,I'd start getting girls like flies,but I wanna be true to myself and be who I am,but all I keep getting is just heartbreaking and unbelievable responses.lol,my guy wore my puma feinty(I hardly wear it) and borrowed my jeans,wrist watch,wore my cologne to see a girl and she was just tripping all over the place..because he dressed well,not really cause he has something upstairs (not saying he is dumb,he is a good dude).i went to a pool to swim nd met this slayqueens,i ignored em and jumped into d pool and swam for some time,brough out my s7 edge(it's waterproof) and took pics inside d pool,this attracted some of em to me and after some pics together,i struck a convo with one,it took me 3 mins to strike out,she was literally umm..i dunno.she us an english and lit student and i tried talking bout shakepeare and his weird lifestyle with her,but she just didnt even know him,i switched to charlotte bronte (jane eyre),lord of the flies,arms and the man,lion and jewel,she was fucking quiet,couldnt contribute shit.i felt bad and then i decided to talk about tonto and her divorce,mercy aigbe and domestic violence,and she picked up there
Why are people like this??okay her friend wore some kind of silk gown over her swimming bikini and I was like " you look like cleopatra, except that this cleopatra would outsmart octavius himself.she didn't even get the joke.i wanna meet a girl that is interested in intelligence,creativity,medicine,ideas...someone I can connect with intellectually,someone who can stimulate me,unfortunately I haven't..all this girls talk about is toke makinwa,kardashian,bey,tonto bla bla bla..where are the intelligent girls,girls that won't just wrote me out because of my dressing,girls that can see you,the "you " behind all the clothes..I'm not saying that I'm broke o biko kwa,I come from a comfortable home nd I don't lack whatever I need.but I want someone who would like me for my personality and not my background or what I am..
I expect some criticism here and it may look like I'm tryna boast or something but the truth is nobody here knows me..so I can rant here and go back to my normal life of being that cute tall guy u barely notice..
For those wey go shout summarise it..oga,no strength biko..so read it.its fun..i hope
oga HARDDON You talk too much!!! Lol You be woman? See as your comment plenty like dictionary... We are all wired differently, so u don't expect everyone to see things your way What u may term as good things maybe opposite for others Go for the quiet girls, they are most likely to align with your way of life & leave all those clubbing girls alone...Go for introverted ladies... You can't satisfy the extroverted ones with your demure lifestyle... 1 Like |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by DavidTheGeek: 6:10pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
brandon180:
Word..
i think he should move on to another gal..jst matter of time b4 he starts acting needy and then he blows it.... Yeah but he could still just use her to hone his skills. Even if he blows it, he'd learn not to repeat the same mistake when he meets a new girl. |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by brandon180(m): 6:10pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
swave7:
I don't mind whatsapp tips & stuff. Bros, I'm 30, seeking employment to pay mah bills but that's not the main issue. The main issue is I've never really gone on dates ever. When I was little I was heavily infused with this niceguy syndrome sh!t from my wicked mother. Don't ask me why I call her wicked but anyway. I also didn't have much masculine male influences or friends while growing up either peers or older. I had a neighbors father who would've probably been my godfather cos he's from the same town or so with my Dad cos I remember a couple of ocassions he'd spoken with me, giving me some grown man advice as a kid, but he's late now. Funny enough his son, who i'm probably older than by maybe a year or two has a girl, she's thick tho infact the guy sef seems like he's pussy whipped over her, taking pictures upandan, my bae, this that on whatsapp, side story.
Well in elementary school I was very very shy, like ultra, also no talkative, cos I grew up in a very religiously conservative yet dysfunctional household, mama ehn... chisos. So I wasn't exactly open to alot of people & it's this ultra selective trait or elitist mindset, not necessarily that I'm better than this person but like I just know stuff & yet this person is ignorant of it & happy with it & I'm like why would be associating with certain types of people when they don't know this, or they do this which I don't like, so I tend to keep away.
All that dysfunctional stuff made me grow up a introverted loner anyway, couldn't make much friends in school, if I did, it didn't hold for long or materialize into longterm stuff. I also kept away from girls cos I was poisoned by some dude who told me some dumb childish sh!t like adam & eve, & it seeped into my subconcious & always made me wary of girls & view them as evil beings, even till now wey society don spoil finish.
Fast forward to highschool when I was 18, when GSM comot, started getting into writing poetry or just mere rhymes for amusement & also tried chatting with girls on some networks then like V-mobile or yahoo chats, ya know, just for fun, & I was raw & nasty, chai I was bad inside but didn't know how to express it physically especially with girls & without scrutinizing & fearing judgement from them or myself. This that cognitive dissonance sh!t from the dysfunctional-conservative upbringing I dey tell una. Big problem. It got in the way of so many, I'd see some girls wouldn't know how to conversate with them physically & in the moment. Only through text, if I stylishly get a number tho cos I no sabi collect for real.
Well I chatted with some girls, I had nasty ideas like sex & all but didn't really know how to get there or where to go like places of interest cos I was led to believe that nightclubs were horrible evil places & such neither did I have anyone to invite me gan sef so me just dey my own worrying about school grades & sh!t cos my pops be all on my back bout it. I met this one girl I was chatting with for some weeks physically, didn't know I was supposed to take her to some place cool so we met at somewhat neutral place, Ikeja airforce base precisely cos she stayed at oshodi. We talked for some hours, she tooked me to her home, I was 19, she was 22 then, didn't know. Afterwards I tried to kiss her, she refused with some excuse, then I just said nothing & walked away without looking back. Then she called me back & we got talking & finally kissed. The unfortunate thing was I would be the one to always go to her place to see her & we'd makeout but soon after I would try pushing for sex but she'd refuse & I kept wondering why she'd be ok kissing me, then letting her squeeze her allover (gawd her tits were the softest jellylike thing I'd ever made contact with, nice slim chocolate body overall, no much ass though but I bet I could pick this girl up & fvck against the wall, me wey no dey even gym then sef).
Well I stopped seeing her completely after one time she said "these kisses would go sour". It was then I knew she was either somehow playing me or just didn't want anything cos I told her I was gonna leave for Uni, in a different state. Sure enough, I got back from first semester & got a call but I didn't answer & never bothered with her again. Even before I left this dark welling came over me to simply not bother with girls cos technically I don't know what I'm supposed to do & all through Uni I never did meanwhile roomies & classmates dey jolly upandan, most no dey even bother invite me or tell me anything. That was when I went DARK. I began to feel so many negative emotions brew inside of me that I no longer wanted to be human or alive even.
I lost countless opportunities with girls at least even if it wasn't for relationship it would've been a hit it one time thing or maybe fvck buddy thin but nah nothing for me. Some occasions females would give me complements & I wouldn't even know how to respond cos I felt completely numbed out to feel anything else. One average looking but thick a$$ed girl told me I was cute in a cafe & at first I was overwhelmed but before she left I asked for her number & she gave it to me. Didn't call her until I got back to Uni & even when I called I didn't know where to begin so I just let that sh!t go. It feels like a nightmare walking around & having women either stare at you or maybe even smile somewhat while you're about & can't do nothing with good looks. Even when I do try to make something happen, it always inevitably ends awkwardly & horrible far from what I'd imagine in my pretty mind, which then leads me to keep avoiding interactions with them in the first place cos I know how it would end, not very well. There are a couple other scenarios I can paint but the koko be say I never fit toast babe, comot, fvck am either keep am as gf or fwb or something else. Now it's more complicated when you start to factor in age, finances, lifestyle, social value & such. I'm quite familiar with the MGTOW movement going on now, thing is I didn't realize it was what I was doing since then. Wahala plenty, fineboy wey no sabi woman, wey no hold bar, na wetin? Abeg I don tire jare... such. I If am nt mistaken d summary of dis whole epistle is that u re an introvert who hasnt learnt d robes yet..i wonder hw u learnt hw to kiss tho'....lol...btw my story is jst like urs..i think i was worse dan u..bt then i saw this thread..started from d beggining, digested d whole shii..started practicing, nd now m gud..talking to a gal aint hard, jst be urself, dnt eva act all needy and trying to impress a gal..nah they are suppose to impress u, cos u re d boss..dude jst read d shii from d begginning..if ur life remains d same..cum back here, i will roast my dick for u.. |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by johnson232: 6:26pm On Sep 01, 2017 |
DavidTheGeek:
Dude wtf?
It's your birthday and you are the one calling to take her out?
Who does that?
She has ripped off your balls. Fried them and tossed them into the trash can cuz they weren't big enough.
No! She didn't rip them off!
You handed it over to her on your kneels.
DON'T CALL, DON'T VISIT.
Use the break to grow a new set of iron balls.
Sacrifice some of your time and read this thread from beginning.
There are wisdom buired in the pages of this thread.
DON'T CONTACT HER EVER AGAIN... UNTIL SHE CONTACTS YOU!
Go out and meet new girls.
This time, you had better not hand over your balls. The dude has already lost it The best thing is to move on with his life He can redress this in subsequent relationship with other girls to avoid reoccurence But with this girl, he has lost it.... |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by HARDDON: 9:12am On Sep 02, 2017 |
osic:
My gf flirted with a guy in my presence and said jokingly "what are you doing here sef" during one of our conversations the same day, so I left her place angry that night, the following day was my birthday, so I called her on the phone to take her out but she didn't answer the phone, after calling and calling, she later did and was acting funny, felt she told her brother to tell me she wasn't around, I didn't call or text her since then, that's 5days ago, my question is should I call or visit her or should I just move on with my life. Thanks She got d guts to disrespect your balls like that, u gathered d lil glory u got left n balled out only for u to come running back to her like a puppy on a day that is might to be ur bday? A day she is supposed to be the girl u think u got? How do u guys deal? It was yr freaking birthday! Who is supposed to take who out? Who is supposed to call who first? Unless ofcos you enjoy been d side side guy, u already know what da heck to bleeping do! 4 Likes |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by HARDDON: 9:28am On Sep 02, 2017 |
ERUDITEE:
i did hit on a girl, she played cool and actually told me that she just wants us to be friends.
and that she doesn't want a relationship with me.
should I forget about her and move on, because I know it is not an ideal thing to beg a girl. how to I go about making my self irresistible to her?
@ harddon and other concerned members. First, guys like us don't hit on gurls. Where you expecting she was gono say yes? Smh. 30% wud not! 60% wud keep u in a limbo ( frndzone) where they start milking you. Aint telling what d other 10% wud do.  We rather sendlessly fun jab them! Now you've conered yourself, two things are involved: 1. We usually don't take gurls ' talk @ face value. So we act a fool to what she just said n use d fzone time to make sure she gets it into her thick trick skull we ain't fzonw material . N b4 she knows it, she is on top of us wondering why she is whyning on us when she set out to just be frnds. Me: just friends? Is that a way u devised as to avoid bn too forward too soon n appearing cheap? Or Does that mean you are too shy to admit u want me so badly in ur life but don't know how? Is it so surreal to you? Never tot id ever ask you out even though uve bn wishing it? 2. Or on the other hand we tell them:" you can't afford to be my frnd" n walk d heck on. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by HARDDON: 9:36am On Sep 02, 2017 |
DavidTheGeek:
I wonder what kinda hitting on her you did.
Well, first thing is you shouldn't ask a girl you just met out.
It's simple logic - NO ATTRACTION YET. So she'll give you an automatic NO.
Second thing is don't take the "lets just be friends" talk too serious.
When she told you she doesn't want a relationship with you, you should have said something like: "That's alright. Save your heart from heartache. I bet we wouldn't make a fine couple. You don't seem like the kinda girl that can handle me."
Now that's a challenge.
Imagine a girl said something like that to you. What effect would that have on you?
YOU WILL BE TEMPTED TO PROVE YOURSELF TO HER. (Same thing, she'll be tempted to prove herself to you if you had said something like that.)
Next time don't make obvious advance at a girl. Lower her defences by going in subtly.
Your options now are:
1. Ignore her statement. Just cuz she said she doesn't want a relationship does not mean you guys can't date. If you're confident you can get her to fall in love with you... you're good to go.
2. Move on to another girl. Da.mn D! now u think like me! I had responded b4 i scrolled down to find this fine piece from ur sleek self! Ur challenge line is even top tek! If i had read this, there wudnt hv bn need to respond! Sleek! Very sleek! 5 Likes |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by HARDDON: 10:26am On Sep 02, 2017 |
HARDDON:
DRILL NUGGET 15:
DEALING WITH REJECTION
DRILL NUGGET 16:
NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE
THE DIFFERENT PYSCHOLOGICAL MAKE UP OF MEN N LADIES( ladies experience faster n blow older men, boys grow slower n look to younger ladies)
DRILL NUGGET 17:
BLEND D BLISS..... CLOWN NOT
DRILL NUGGET 18:
BE EXPERIENCED/BALANCED
DRILL NUGGET 19:
M PROPOSAL
DRILL NUGGET 20
GURL TYPES/GRADES
DRILL NUGGET 21
HANDLING LUV & BALLS
DRILL NUGGET 22
MARRIAGE LIGHT
DRILL NUGGET 23
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LEARN LINES, RHYMES, PEOTRY, AT LEAST ONE MUSICAL INSTRUMENT, IF YOU CAN, SING!
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DRILL NUGGET 18:
BE EXPERIENCED/BALANCEDWe rock, here now, we roll, as promised 3 Likes |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by SamzackD(m): 1:42pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
@knax
If I got you right, you're saying you've got preference with the chicks you hang with,
And you got every reason to be picky with the babes you date, cause women can make or mar a man,
But here's where you're geitting it wrong, you keep searching for good intelligent girls in places where girls that place their value on their looks rather than what they can offer to the world hang nd that's why they can't hold intelligent conversations, if you read this thread you would have noticed there was a part dedicated to where to meet girls, cause its one thing to know how to get girls and another to know where to meet them,
If you're out to get girls with intellect, then try visiting the library, try attending conference or summits on any topics of your liking, and you're bound to meet girls at this places, nd there's every possibility the girls you meet there are gonna be smart with their priorities straight, who don't judge a guy by the shit that he wears.
Just hope I've made sense
#Peace 6 Likes |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by magikalz(m): 1:58pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
osic:
My gf flirted with a guy in my presence and said jokingly "what are you doing here sef" during one of our conversations the same day, so I left her place angry that night, the following day was my birthday, so I called her on the phone to take her out but she didn't answer the phone, after calling and calling, she later did and was acting funny, felt she told her brother to tell me she wasn't around, I didn't call or text her since then, that's 5days ago, my question is should I call or visit her or should I just move on with my life. Thanks This is really bleeped up. What were you thinking? She is supposed to take you out or at least make you feel special. It's ur day for pete's sake. That gal is gone already so save yourself the headache and heartache and move on. I'm sure she is cheating already or planning to and believe me, she won't change her mind. Don't call her again. Don't chat her again.....no matter the temptation. If it will be difficult for you to ignore, simply delete her number and be gone. This way you wont be able to reach her even if you're tempted. If she ever calls you, there is one thing you can do. Draw her close if you can without making a fool of yourself. Bang her one more time and dump her ass in the same breath. If you can even do it immediately after the s,ex, better. If you can't handle this however, just let her go. She's already on her game and knows what she wants. Definitely not you anymore. I hope this helps. Women are cunning creatures and it takes experience and discipline to handle them. The best thing some of us can do is to pick out these nuggets, edit them and keep them as a copy to be looked at now and then. It's very easy to forget yourself and make school boy errors. Practice makes perfect. |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by DavidTheGeek: 2:46pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
HARDDON:
Da.mn D! now u think like me!
I had responded b4 i scrolled down to find this fine piece from ur sleek self!
Ur challenge line is even top tek!
If i had read this, there wudnt hv bn need to respond!
Sleek! Very sleek! 3 Likes |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by Munner(m): 3:37pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
Greetings to all them elders in d house. I've been chatting with a girl recently but I wanna take it to the next level(making my intentions known to her gradually) without handing my balls over to her. How do I progress because I'm tired of Nt being able to do so |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by TyushTal(m): 6:49pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
Munner:
Greetings to all them elders in d house. I've been chatting with a girl recently but I wanna take it to the next level(making my intentions known to her gradually) without handing my balls over to her. How do I progress because I'm tired of Nt being able to do so Go easy bro, you're sounding needy already Now, go out Meet other girls first |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by okwypascal: 7:20pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
Kellapaw:
OP
I have this girl in my HOSTEL.
She is in 500level and am in 300level.
She is Lil bigger than me also
I love her so much. We are not really close Buh. We do greet casually.
She will be graduating by August.
I need to act quickly.
I need your help
Tho I av confidence in talking to other Babes. And woeing them Buh this one is different.
She dont rapport with anybody in the hostel. We do greet ourself casually. 3 days ago she came from a journey. When I met her. I ask that . How was her trip. And hope she had fun. And she smiles heavily back to me in reply. Buh to continue aqain is like a Jericho now bro sorry to say, a gal in year5 is now looking for husband, her game is for our big Bros them to play. been in ur shoes, tho am in year2. The only way I did mine was jus being her close friend, got to knows those tiny secrets, we started partying together, Now I dey collect my share anytime. This strike come help me prolong graduation. Tbh guys older gal are better, they do things with maturity. imagine a gal coming to ur house with pizza, beer, tramadol, condom and cool movies. best strike ever 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by RRWraith(m): 8:58pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
Good Day everyone.
What do you do when girls have this respect for you and are always so nervous around you.
You See actually, in my church, I am in a group which makes me kinda popular, and i am this guy who carries him self with alotta charisma, one way or the other i have earned the respect of the other young guys in my group but while they move around with girls and flirt alot, i dont. There is this girl in my church and we also attend same versity, through her behaviour over time i think she may have something for me, recently i realised she knew a friend of mine, we talked on the phone 4 d first time when the guy called her in my presence, after adding her on fb we started chatting. She is d shy type tho buh she relates well with other guys in the same versity in same church with us. i have noticed that any time we see in church and greet she is always so nervous and just says hi with her face down, can hardly even look me in the eye. 1 Like |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by RRWraith(m): 9:48pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
^^^^^continuation^^^^^ RRWraith:
can hardly even look me in the eye. Fast forward to a sunday, i wuldnt ave any of dose cue attitude anymore i walked up 2 her as she walked out of the church and said hi, immediately she became hyper-nervous(if dere's any word like that, lol) i mean, she culdnt look me in the face, her voice was shaky and u culd see it all over her, men be4 i could even advance the convo futher she said alright she has to start going cos her family is ready to go already. i was awe struck, i jus said alright see u next time. And dat was it. i still culdn't really understand what happened until 2day again. after the close of a program today, while going home another girl who attends my versity(we usually jus say hi 2 each other) was walking behind me so i slowed down nd was about walking 2 her when she jus said hi with a shaky voice nd face down nd hurried past,i jus was dumb founded. i jux cant seem to place my head around such things, am so confused rigt nw |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by RRWraith(m): 10:02pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
I am so confused right now, i dont even know what to think anymore |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by TyushTal(m): 11:28pm On Sep 02, 2017 |
RRWraith:
I am so confused right now, i dont even know what to think anymore > First and foremost, do you smile at all?  That's drill no. 1 to breaking the ice with any girl who seems to be uncomfortable with you |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by solomix10(m): 2:54am On Sep 03, 2017 |
RRWraith:
I am so confused right now, i dont even know what to think anymore Guy, since she is not comfortable with you on physical, then switch to online chatting mode. some girls can go extremely shy when they av something for you. so if you cant make her free with you physically, then chat her up, throw funny jabs nd lines. i bet she will be comfo with you after series of chats. |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by RRWraith(m): 7:37am On Sep 03, 2017 |
TyushTal:
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First and foremost, do you smile at all?
That's drill no. 1 to breaking the ice with any girl who seems to be uncomfortable with you I hardly do except there is a need for it, |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by RRWraith(m): 7:44am On Sep 03, 2017 |
solomix10:
Guy, since she is not comfortable with you on physical, then switch to online chatting mode.
some girls can go extremely shy when they av something for you. so if you cant make her free with you physically, then chat her up, throw funny jabs nd lines.
i bet she will be comfo with you after series of chats. She was actually free with me when chatting, nd the fun jabs was yielding results but i just stopped, this week, we didnt chat at all. if u suggest that i use chat on her, what about those ones that i dont have their numbers or fb username |
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| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by TyushTal(m): 6:28pm On Sep 03, 2017 |
RRWraith:
I hardly do except there is a need for it, Oh, so sad you don't know the magnetic power of smile For without it, you're as unappealing as bile This is the way forward. Join APC (I mean change) Work on your appearance first (i.e smile, always smile to girls) Remember, this should be your way of life Since you attend the same church, you can simply go sit by her side, let it look like it was coincidental Poke fun at her, the dressing, hairstyle, straight face,or anything You can just ask her like "Is this how you'll keep a straight face beside me and act like you haven't been drooling on me?" She'll laugh and probably talk with a shaky You can poke fun at her with it too Then, watch her defend herself This is the best avenue to make her comfortable with you(cos she ain't leaving that spot any soon). It's not something you can do after church services on when she's just alone somewhere Remember to excuse yourself when she's beginning to enjoy you and act like you'd be back soon My piece tho 1 Like |
| Re: Dating Drills! Guys Only! by TyushTal(m): 6:33pm On Sep 03, 2017 |
TyushTal:
Oh, so sad you don't know the magnetic power of smile
For without it, you're as unappealing as bile
This is the way forward. Join APC (I mean change)
Work on your appearance first (i.e smile, always smile to girls)
Remember, this should be your way of life
Since you attend the same church, you can simply go sit by her side, let it look like it was coincidental
Poke fun at her, the dressing, hairstyle, straight face,or anything
You can just ask her like "Is this how you'll keep a straight face beside me and act like you haven't been drooling on me?"
She'll laugh and probably talk with a shaky voice
You can poke fun at her with it too "like; oh, this girl will fall sick if I ain't giving her attention right now, i think this is the perfect timing"
Then, watch her defend herself
This is the best avenue to make her comfortable with you(cos she ain't leaving that spot any soon). It's not something you can do after church services on when she's just alone somewhere
Remember to excuse yourself when she's beginning to enjoy you and act like you'd be back soon
My piece tho |
