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Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by chuckdee4(m): 12:15pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Lalas247: Best advice. If you love something/someone, let tem go, if they come back to you, that's how you know they are yours. Go and further your education and improve yourself, if she's still there when you finish your Masters ten start working towards bringing her over and marrying her 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by ayagha: 12:15pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
First thing, Open up to your girlfriend on what your brother is saying and have an open discussion with her. Just get to Canada, u won't need to rely so much on your brother after your Msc, so u will be able to decide on bringing her over. I feel your pain and feel a bit bad for your girlfriend,but a brother got to do what he got to do. Na naija cause am. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by mrphysics(m): 12:16pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Evaberry:The op is just wasting his time. There is no choice to be made. His priority now should not be the girl rather to get back to life. M.Sc outside is just 1 year. He can even work and study and upon graduation, he should have made enough to come back and marry and continue with Ph.D His elder brother knows he is no longer a boy. So the bold paragraphs is irrelevant and does not come from as a result of a critical thinking. Sorry anyway but it's too shallow that I had to quote you 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by patola080(m): 12:16pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
All d gals re nt d same tell dat ur brother dat u hv hear him n let ur gal friend knw dat u will never 4gt her n let her promise u too n wen u gt dia face ur study n work hard to gt wot u want 4rm ur brother 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by goingape1: 12:17pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07:nigga you dreaming? there are many fishes in the river. don't put one piece of black shiit over your career! you will regret it in life. guys like you need to be castrated because you are not using your Brain to think put rather your peniss. WHO KNOWS WHO IS FVCKING YOUR WIFE TO BE NOW? 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by cantok(m): 12:18pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
You must never leave your love behind because love can grow on any fertile ground |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by jonced(m): 12:18pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
This is a simple matter which u r complicating by ur own actions. U did not have to lie to your brother in the first instance. This is how when God opens doors, people use their own hands to mess up the door, thinking they r being smart. This is what u should do...get on ur knees and ask God for forgiveness for lying and then make a petition for ur brother's heart to soften and be receptive towards what u will explain. After that, call ur brother and apologise for the misinformation and explain why u did it. ie u were afraid of missing the opportunity. Then tell him the truth about ur gf and extol her virtues and ur plans for her. Then also be transparent about the situation with ur gf. is let her know what's happening. That's all...but keep praying about it and avoid habits that are counterproductive. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Simulator(m): 12:20pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
My simple opinion is this, go and pursue your masters and try bring your girl too by any legal means. Sabotaging your future for love is not worth it by any standard. If you truly love each other, you both can wait to weather the storm. Love that can't withstand the test of time and distance is no love. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by vchykp(m): 12:22pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
i dont really know what to say at this point because i dont know your level of relationship with her, it baffles me you are in a 4years relationship at your age, your family(brother) does not know about it.. many will tell you to leave her and go after money, sometimes money is not everything, its not easy and fair to just leave her and go on with your life, dont forget the trust, time, commitment.. etc, please just reconsider it, builing relationship this days is hard, you can travel, but dont leave her aside, walk down to her parents and make them know your plans about the girl, if you travel and make money, please come back for her, if you forget that girl, am not sure she will ever pray good for you.. Thier is someone for everyone, dont loose yours in the name of greener pasture 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Wallade(m): 12:23pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Your brother has your interest at heart and I think you should access his advice and ditch your lady for now especially because there is no concrete engagement between you and your lady. The future is bright for you. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by enemyofprogress: 12:25pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Which kind yeye love be dat?na love go secure your future?abeg no trust any girl because of one yeye love. Travel out and secure your future and all other things including girls would follow. Cc:funjosh,vickyrotex,ajepako,rokiatu oloju ede and osusumustflow 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by ImaIma1(f): 12:25pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Even if your brother is helping so much, you do not have to give him full access to your life. If you truly love your girl as you said, continue dating her but keep that detail from your brother. He does not need to know everything. When you are ready to marry her, i don't see any reason why he should have any objection. And if he is disappointed, he will get over it. It is your life. If you leave her now and then after some years you are ready to settle down, how sure are you of finding a suitable spouse over there. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Veryrudeswagg(m): 12:25pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
iamadonis2:best piece ever. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by abworld6deep(m): 12:27pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
It's quite complex and simple. You've done yourself good of informing her before, that pretty fine. Pls search your heart once again If you can truly come back or invite her over If yes talk to her and plead with her, go with someone she probably respect and known with you to assure her: in all fairness. Proceed to travel and try m work around the agreement, am sure it won't be easy as you think but do you part. Immediately after Master pls arrange her papers without any delay. May God helped you. All the best. Note: keep in touch as much as you can. And in within the period there find the best convincing time you can share her issue with your brother. He deserves to know not to be surprised but that gonna be later later. Cheers manh 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Bigii(m): 12:28pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
So it's true some men are still somewhere without a brain. My brother, lemme tell you; even if I am heading to Sambisa on a business trip or to better my career. No woman in this world can make me have a second thought over my career and business! Love with your brain instead of dick |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 12:28pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
There isn't any problem at all here, a lot of people have been in this situation and today both the guy and girl are abroad. 1. Canada and Australia are countries that are family friendly, if u are married and is going to study in Canada and the course u're going for will last over a year, Canada allows u apply to bring ur family along. 2. I know a family friend who left for Canada to study less than 3 years ago. He came back to Nigeria last year to get married and as at this year, the lady is with him over there. 3. Canada allows u to work while u study, save as much as u can to get urself established and become independent. You are old enough to make ur own decisions. The most important thing is for u to get to canada, if u truly love ur babe, u can get her there. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by pweetiedee(m): 12:29pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Op, Don't let ur bro know u have a girl. After ur MSC get a job and find a way to bring her over to you. Don't stay back in naija o, cos the girl might leave u for a richer guy. I'm not saying she Is a bad girl, but by the time friends and family make her see you are not capable, her mind will change. So leave the love, hustle and if she is still available by then, do the needful. I cannot stay back in this country because of any bf, cos I know bf willnnot stay back. and if my bf is opportuned to travel for greener pastures, I will tell him to go and even pray for him. what will be will be. 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Ladyjumong(f): 12:30pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
this is serious try talking to him about the situation of things, explain everything to him, atleast he should care about ur emotions if he's trully ur elder brother |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by dustar: 12:31pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07:SOME PEOPLE GET OPPORTUNITY TO LEAVE THIS CURSED LAND FOR FREE...De talk nonsense about love. Plus free MSC. And PhD. Omoh I fit send slap for u oo 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 12:32pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Your major job is to convince your bros.if u love the lady so much as you claim,find a way to do a court marriage then when u get to Canada apply for a work permit for her (That way she will be working through out the duration of your studies and be with you).The spouse of a student with a study permit is eligible for work permit for the same duration of his/her spouse study permit.U don't need to wait...in 2 or 3 months...depending on processing period,she will be with you asap.your major job is how to win over your brother who happens to be your sponsor too.av seen phd,msc student bring their spouse along and even kids if they have any....but u need marry her o...without legal marriage she won't be eligible.comvince your bro,d rest is easy. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Erums(m): 12:33pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Billyonaire: Most sensible post of the year #respect 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 12:35pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07:OP, you acted a little bit silly. You haven't gotten a visa yet, but you already told your girlfriend about it? I pray that girl doesn't scatter your plans. You see, change is always a constant thing. A woman that loves you today, may not love you tomorrow. Most women are artificial in nature. They only care about their comfort and what you bring on the table. That is why some of them still make wrong choices in terms of marriage even when they know the kind of man they want to get married to and still go ahead to complain thereafter. Your brother seems to have seen it all in life. He gave you a very advice. Though not all women are the same but most would leave you in difficult times. 6 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by OlowuB: 12:36pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Young man - what exactly is stopping you from marrying this girl right now? Please don't tell me money it becos of money; as you have already said you girl isn't the materialistic type; wait until your Visa is out; take your parents and go and meet her parents; after that go to the registry and marry (You guys can throw party and make noise later) that if you are truly serious about her; your brother will adjust and understand? He is only concerned that having someone back home could put you under pressure to start making money due to monetary demands from back home instead of you focusing on your education - also this removes the option of you meeting someone in Canada that you could marry. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 12:36pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Since you love each other and are both ready for marriage, there's nothing wrong with marrying her in Nigeria before you live and when you get there for your MSc find the means for her to join you. If you're not ready for marriage then go do your MSc first and if both of you still love each other when you finish, go back for her, marry her and let her join you there. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by jc4real(m): 12:38pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Sleyanya1: Op be grateful for this advice and follow it! |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by josephokoh(m): 12:39pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
What if this your brother don read this your message so for nairaland. ;DWhat if this your brother don read this your message so for nairaland. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by wristbangle: 12:39pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
The truth is harsh but I would advice you to go for the MSC program and if letting go of your wife to be is the sacrifice to be paid, so be it. If you jeopardise your chance to secure this golden opportunity and settle in Nigeria because of her, what if a rich suitor seek her hand in marriage after you fail to secure a job? You would end up losing your dream and would become a frustrated human being. Wait sef OP, are u sure village people are not playing with your destiny so? Is this suppose to be a dilemma for you, abi nkan se Eleyi ke? Book the next available flight to Canada for your MSC program abeg goingape1: but why u come dey vex like this na 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by kobijacobs(m): 12:39pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
if both of u really love each other, the marriage can wait. just focus on getting ur Msc and ur life back on track for now |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Tonyberries30(m): 12:41pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
My brother I must confess you are really very confuse now. your confusion has nothing to do with you succeeding in life. Because u still have someone that helps you thats why you are talking about confusion. pls save your life and future of your unborn kids. They deserve a better life and nt a love story. infact leave that girl now and better girls will come. #nogirlworthyourfuture# |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Ajewealth123(m): 12:42pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07:if she truly loves you, she will want you to succeed and that you traveling for greener pasture.my brother, there is nothing like this type of love o, cos when you can't finance her anymore and she see no means of survival, she will go.your life first Your welfare first Your survival first Then take your brother too into consideration, he meant well for you. You can keep the love going by communicating almost everyday, this way, the spark will be there. I was not with my girlfriend for 11 months and we eventually got married later because communication was key 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by wristbangle: 12:42pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
OlowuB: Whether he likes it or not, there would be distraction. Do you think it's easy to cope especially for a new couple who are million miles apart? It's up to them if they especially the guy can cope though |
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