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Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by abbeyafu(m): 10:22am On Sep 05, 2017 |
soberdrunk: Lets be realities and be fair to our partners.. To be sincere, How much do you give your wife to cook for u and ur children and how much do u give ur mistress to cook for only You 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by ImaIma1(f): 10:25am On Sep 05, 2017 |
haske7: Lies that unsuspecting women swallow. If you like, have the body of Kim Kardashian and the face of the most beautiful girl in the world but a man that will cheat will cheat |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by ImaIma1(f): 10:30am On Sep 05, 2017 |
dominique: I feel you. Why does the woman solely have to "keep the marriage"? Isn't it a contract of two people? A real husband will look for a way to make life easier for the woman so that she can take care of herself instead of going out to cheat with a flimsy excuse. Some ladies are here sayingit is true. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by pweetygiftofGod(f): 10:36am On Sep 05, 2017 |
When the pucci is sweet, you ask for more But biko nt with someone's husband, God forbid The day I realise you have a woman legally in your custody, I back off There are several sweet dick / guys around, I no fit allow one dick to send me to early grave |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by GratefulHeart23(f): 10:57am On Sep 05, 2017 |
Avalon316: The same reason I won't advise any married woman to be faithful to her cheating husband. He cheats, I cheat and the other men even spend much more on me than he does. I take good care of myself and have time for my child. Most times when he's caught in his Web of lies, I shake it off. What he does doesn't bother me any more unlike before since I now have someone better than him. So why should a woman pray hard and die of high blood pressure over a cheating husband when there's always another man interested in her? Just that some women don't want to cheat but the truth is that most of those other men interested in her are more caring than her cheating husband. 4 Likes |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by enemyofprogress: 11:05am On Sep 05, 2017 |
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Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by enemyofprogress: 11:11am On Sep 05, 2017 |
GratefulHeart23:please let's cheat together whenever the need arises |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by Funkybabee(f): 11:23am On Sep 05, 2017 |
askseunoladele: The problem is that she is using jaaruma goron tula |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by Nobody: 11:32am On Sep 05, 2017 |
Would you kindly drop your Wifey's numbered here,so,guys can say hi to her over WhatsApp? Billyonaire: |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by pweetiedee(m): 11:35am On Sep 05, 2017 |
truthsayer009:God have mercy on me and you. |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by nautybride: 11:57am On Sep 05, 2017 |
edeXede: Lol! I just remembered edeXede remi koni iya............ In the early 90's |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 12:01pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Dollyak:Hypocrisy is not gender-tied. It's common to both males and females. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by eyinjuege: 12:01pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
GratefulHeart23: A lot of women do cheat, but would rather die than admit it. Men have been raising bastards since time immemorial, and it's not a recent development. In fact, if DNA is done on people on here, some people will be hospitalised to find out daddy is not father. Infact, some women are so in tune with their lovers, they would purposely get pregnant for him and allow their husbands to raise the child. Only them would know the truth, and would not even let the real father/boyfriend know the pregnancy is his, as that would complicate issues. It's a pity though, that threads like this advocates cheating in a marriage, and the poster thinks it's only addressed to the woman, not knowing it's further giving many women who read it a licence to also cheat on their partner. There was a thread about a man who caught his wife cheating, and the thing is killing him slowly. The word here is CAUGHT. Anyway, let everyone be chopping and cleaning mouth. I know everyone will be true to themselves. There are some people who have enough self control not to cheat on their husbands and wives, not because of their gender or even because of their partners perfection, but rather because they cannot compromise their standards. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by riyanxeally(f): 12:04pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
only a useless he goat ll do that...do u know wat women go thru after child bearing to raise kids....a loving man shld always help put d kids to sleep n wen he cant keep loving n appreciating s jewel God has given him...loving men ll even create time fr vacations n all..plus u want her to look sexy wat stops u from changing her wardrobe huh?? 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 12:09pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
frenzyduchess:With all due respect, it's not about who's more/less disciplined. It doesn't change the fact that gross indiscipline pervades our society today. Also, it's not right to assert that a 'few' men are disciplined. That can on on arrived @ following extensive interactions with lots of men coupled with experiences not just hearsay (which I doubt you have, I may be wrong). More or less, I still agree as men, we ought to do more than we do. But cheating is an evil that can only only overcome by both gender. Not just one. Let's just stop all these blame games. |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by dominique(f): 12:13pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
jaszplus12: You don't get it. It's because of write-ups like this that make men think they have the right to mess around. The society has more or less given them the free hand to cheat since the blame goes back to their wives. How many articles about how to be good husbands have you seen before? Are men so perfect themselves? Why can't they work on themselves to make their marriages work? I'm not raising my daughter to live her life massaging a man's bloated ego neither will I raise my son to believe that a woman's sole purpose on earth is to 'keep him'. Long and short of my epistle, just value your partner and treat them the way you want to be treated, that shouldn't be so hard. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 12:20pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
ImaIma1:I have encountered several instances where men tell their wives exactly what you just said...the result? Nothing changes. The weight gain keeps coming, the shabby looks remain, they 'lose' themselves in the name o child-rearing. Does it give us the liberty to cheat? No. Are we entitled to cheat? No. I'm just saying more often than not, we find it difficult to inculcate in our culture the necessity to appear appealing to our spouses. Communication does not help, most times. I'm being frank with you. I wish it does but more often than not, it doesn't. 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 12:25pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
ImaIma1:This is an assumption that will plague us for for long time, the assumption that cheating is strictly restricted to men. My dear, there's no smoke without fire. It takes two to tangle (except in cases of sexual assault). When we understand its not just a man's problem, then both parties can work towards avoiding it or attaining a workable solution if it does. |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 12:32pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
frenzyduchess:Honestly, I've followed your line of thoughts. Quite impressive I must admit, but can you stop using that phrase 'man dog' please. I know you can rise above whatever goads you into using it but please stop, it doesn't add to your already impressive resume. I'm not a saint either, but I don't see any reason in referring to the female gender in any derogatory term for whatever purpose. We cannot even create cells, it doesn't speak well of us when we use insultive terms when referring to ourselves. I repeat, I respect your views as an observer and my opinions even though they don't matter hasn't changed a bit. Even thieves sentenced to capital punishment are entitled to a stick of cigar before death. One love sis. |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by Nobody: 12:37pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Vikings55: Gullible thing. Sorry o. It's not like that. Many times the mistress does not know that there is a wife and many times if she knows, she thinks that the wife is a witch making the man's life a living hell or some story of that sort. Women fighting their fellow women. Why not direct your anger at the wandering d.ick? |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by jaszplus12(m): 12:38pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
dominique:I think we are still saying the same thing my sis...everyone has his marriage to build or destroy! if you follow some crazy ideology of plurality of women and fall into a ditch the proponent of that ideology can never save one! I love your idea...that's what I mean. thx 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 12:44pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
riyanxeally:Being attractive to a spouse does not begin and end with changing wardrobe. The wardrobe was changed before they met, it may or may not continue depending on circumstances. It's beyond just putting the kids to sleep. Men are wired by nature to 'believe' in what they see, just as women are wired to 'believe' in what they hear. Bottom line: never forget what attracted both of you to each other in the first instance. Marriage, childbearing and other things in the home should not drive a wedge between both spouses. For a fact, even after 30 years of marriage, a man is still concerned about how his wife looks, no doubt. Ask your boyfriend, he'll concur. |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by GratefulHeart23(f): 12:45pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
All I know is that most MEN are not worth staying faithful to. All these extramarital affairs ranting would stop when women realise this and also play along. Take good care of yourself, look good and eat well, I can assure you, someone better will show interest in you, shikena! 4 Likes |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by Nobody: 12:46pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
emperormossad:I am not casting blame at any gender, however, we must remove sentiments from it and be truthful to ourselves. It's easier to tame a woman than a man, that is why when the the white men came they attacked them men first and capturing the woman and children was like a walk in the park. It's easier for a responsible man to bring out the best in a GOOD woman, but a terrible husband will make her miserable, but unlike those days, the door is wide for her to exit. I for one am concerned about the growing rate of divorce in this generation.I am glad that you agree that men ought to do more, as the " head " they are. Sadly alot have misinterpreted being the head as being authoritative, domineering and bossy. They forget to guide, be a companion, support and protect. This is not about gender tussle but we must understand that each gender has its role to play,and when one fails to play it's role, then the other is left stranded to double up responsibility of both gender. Men are not taught to be good husbands, they are left to find them selves and hopefully find their way by trial and error. That's is my point 2 Likes |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 12:46pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
dominique:Any society that gives anyone the leeway to cheat is a culturally backwards one. That cannot be referred to as a sane society. 1 Like |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by luswitz(f): 12:51pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
This is insulting to women Especially the wives, why would someone write this about a woman who is giving up everything just to take care of her family? Some men need to use their brains. The fact is no matter what a woman does a cheat is will stil go out. Pls ladies be yourself, love you, dont let the society make you feel your not doing enough. .. we were wonderfully made and special to God, any man who doesnt appreciate his woman for stupid reasons, leave him to God, they end up miserable... I love my ladies, may God bless you wonderful women. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by Nobody: 12:57pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
emperormossad:noted ,it definitely won't be hard for me to do away with the phrase,that was just my own coined word to express my utter disgust for such people, but you are right. I will do as you have advised ,thanks |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 1:02pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
frenzyduchess:First of all, I am not and will not be sentimental on a very sensitive issue as this. Secondly, let's not try to compare with happened during the slave trade Era viz-a-viz issues concerning relationships even though it still involves the male and female gender. They're two completely different situations with completely different ideologies serving completely different purposes. I also will not absolve men if any blame when they're responsible. I also believe that if cheating is to be reduced, I state again that it is not just a 'man problem'. Inasmuch as cheating is no acceptable, some of the aetiologies can be avoided, prevented by mutual efforts from both spouses. I don't think any woman will be comfortable in any relationship that makes her unhappy, the same goes for men. I beg to disagree that men aren't taught to be good husbands. My parents, in particular my father teaches me @ every opportunity he gets, not just by word of mouth but also through his actions towards my mother. And I can bet I'm not alone in this. Sometimes we fail to heed their advice but I know they try their best. It's not easy considering the present society we live in but as men, we ought to know and do better, this does not exclude the female folk also. Lastly, don't you think the principle of 'leaving the door ajar' in relationships contribute to the rising incidence of divorce? No one ones to fix broke things today, unlike the past. A lot of us want the easy way out...methinks it ain't fair. We ought to give a little more to try and make things work before we throw in the towel. My respect still goes out to you and others here. Learnt a lot going through these comments. |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 1:05pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
frenzyduchess:I respect your views nontheless. Will look forward to read your comments on other issues. I consider them instructive, no flattery. |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by emperormossad(m): 1:08pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
GratefulHeart23:Two wrongs don't make a right. |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by ImaIma1(f): 1:10pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
emperormossad: You are right. Women need to take care of their looks whether in pregnancy or after bearing children. She shouldn't use it as an excuse to look shabby and unattractive. If the husband cannot reach her, it is better he tells a family member that she will listen to to talk some sense into her than for worse to happen. These days there are so many platforms and forums that help in those areas. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Your Husband Is Crazy About His Mistress And Is Not Ready To Let Her Go... by ImaIma1(f): 1:11pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
emperormossad: Lol...let the man be the right one 1 Like |
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