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Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by bongolistik(m): 12:45pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
It is easier to get another girl and fall in love than this golden opportunity your big bro is offering you.. . So just remove the 3rd to last sentence that you made, because it is just like saying when ones parents die that one will never find happiness again in live, but we all know that the agonies fade with time and at the long run, one continues to live his/her normal life. Yes love is strong, love is sweet, love is passionate and caring and true love is even sometimes difficult to find but just like my friend would put it, after God na money before love. Good luck! 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Xano(m): 12:46pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07: I hope you read this: My advice: If she is in love with you as you are with her, meet her parents with your parents. Be engaged to her. I understand Msc is within one year in Canada. During your Msc, get a work permit and find jobs in restaurants or call centres. Always talk with her via Skype, Whatsapp or other video call means. There will be friction between you both, but it would endure if you both know it is temporary and what you both have is long lasting. As you are in Canada, get to know the best means to bring her to Canada. It would involve finance, thus, your saving from job you have. After Msc., return to Nigeria and marry her. Canada have immigration polices which can be useful. Study them, enquire there, seek advice from friends you do study Msc with and you would know what to do. As regards your elder brother, when you do well in Msc, he would eventually help you bring your now wife to Canada. All the best. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by emajoe: 12:49pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
jonced: You are already JONCED, you want to jonce this DRINKWATER07? |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by 1metre: 12:51pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Guys, the truth still remain that life abroad is uncertain. I always say it as someone who is widely experienced. If u want to travel, keep woman aside. The challenges uptown is herculean. Op, pls go and struggle forget love. Your brother will not be there for u forever. You are very lucky to hv a brother who have your interest at heart while your interest is on a woman. Pls try get some sense. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Bizibi(m): 12:53pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
VeeGodwin:smh.....once in a life opportunity over love when you re almost broke....... If people like you see such opportunity, you won't look back at all. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Opelwonder(m): 12:54pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Op my advice to u is that u and ur girl shud agree to have a baby since time is no longer on her side (bcus u say she is d best, and u know d sacrifices she has done for u). She will b 34 wen u ar done. But if u pregnant her b4 u travel, u will av a reliable reasön to come back if u are a good man u claim to be. When u come back, then u can marry her at age 34 to 35 or u can make provision for her to join u over der. Its a win win situatiön. Ntin shud stop u from furthering ur education. From anoda point of view: ogbeni travel go canada jare. Girl wey fit get 1000 other boyfriends wey dey Bleep her everyday, na im u dey tink abt? Op trust no girl øo. Bunch of liars and cheats. Dnt put ur life on the line for any girl, dnt even try it 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by loomer: 12:56pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Truth be told, na great distraction. But if u really intend coming back, u no need tell ur bro anything till ur study don finish |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Mrkumareze(m): 12:57pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Op, I have a similar experience and currently battling with it. Mine differs in the sense that am married to her some months ago. Going back to my base to hustle became an issue cos of the love I have for her. I even travelled back and rushed home within a month interval just to cure my depression over the distance . Currently I choose to have a place within African country to see how life would be, possibly to have a lesser hour to come back to visit her but it's not working out well. I know how difficult it is to find true love, a marriage partner is not what you find everyday . It takes grace and when you miss it, your whole life would tell the story But, I would like you to fight for your future for now. Get the money and see if you still have the love for her. I.e if she remains single. It's not easy but be a man. God 'll sustain you! 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by vislabraye(m): 12:58pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
lomprico: Story that touches the heart. Unfortunate things like this happen and guys won't still learn. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by fitprince: 12:59pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
not as green as you think |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Alennsar(f): 1:01pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Evaberry: a word to ponder on. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by 9japrof(m): 1:10pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Sleyanya1: Brother this is the best advice so far, Drinkwater07 if you have ear please listen, please please do not give that lady hope that you are coming back to her, if you man it up and tell her to her face, tell her when you must have traveled for your studies, that lady is already 30, do not keep her waiting any longer. She must have sacrificed a lot of offers for you, age is no longer on her side, she would be angry at first and even hate you, buh bros life can be a little shitty sometimes and its not fair. Please i beg you, leave for school and dont keep that innocent lady waiting, if after ur studies and shes single and she still catches ur fancy, then you can marry her 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 1:11pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Lol this is not a big deal, go for yours masters and settle down there, and if you can bring her over do and if you can't stay friends and say sorry, you think if she were in your shoe she'd reject a future career for you. LOL if you love regretting you could stay behind and find out , sha update us here when she dumps you because you're not financially settled. Though my honest advice ensure to inform her of everything don't string her along. Let her know everything. I've seen peeps regretting not taking chances like this, better to cry in a hummer than in an uber(not your car) lol. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 1:12pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
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Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 1:14pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
ImaIma1: If it doesn't work out with her here how is he sure of finding a suitable partner especially with no job in Nigeria. This is the real world no room for sentiments |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by romenna: 1:15pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
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Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by 9japrof(m): 1:15pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Addicted2Women: Dont mind the OP, he hasnt had a bitter experience in life, i wouldnt blame him 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Mreazi121(m): 1:18pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Use your head. love won't put food on your table. when you make money and secure your future then you can think of love. you can even die for love then. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by goingape1: 1:19pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
wristbangle:you put love over your career is just plain foolish! I don't know why we Africa periodize marriage over career improvement? 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by slinkman(m): 1:21pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
lomprico:if only we could hang out , I'd buy you a beer for this |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by ImaIma1(f): 1:22pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
pcguru1: I mean he should go to Canada and study and still keep his girlfriend. |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 1:24pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
slinkman: As in thank you very much, women can change tunes fast, you'd be surprised he might be referred to as the useless boy, where can I supply the crate of beer jare. Maybe OP doesn't read the news about unemployment 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by UncutSk(m): 1:26pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Op you get sense at all? Someone wants to take you this shit hole and you're thinking about it |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 1:27pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
ImaIma1: Exactly that can work too, and he should be open with her, if he feels it can't work out just say so, and let her go her way. Just because two people are in love doesn't mean they deserve to be with each other. By the way "What is love " fall on una https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HEXWRTEbj1I |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by goingape1: 1:29pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
ImaIma1:typically on how women think by this writeup you will know how women have that greedy, selfish and stvpid altitude! his brother is trying to improve his life and you are here telling him he shouldn't let his brother to know about his life that advise is one of the best advised his brother gave to him because he know that when he peradventure get there he will see a lot of choice to make instead of deceiving one girl at home. there are many fishes in the river, so shut the fvck off and carry your demented mentality Elsewhere! 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Nobody: 1:29pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
UncutSk:You minding the niggah , if I were in Canada the work effort in Nigeria I put here , I would have been a mega star, I work with foreign clients and they be like mehn if you were in this country you'd be made. Oh well sha 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by Empredboy(m): 1:32pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07:the same happened to me in 2009 when my Anty wanted me to come to UK to finish my ACCA then marry her friend's daughter whom my mum had met when she went to UK. Do you that because of love I tampered with the document my sister's friend sent to me to use to process the visa so that I don't get the visa ? Later they found out what I did and that was how my sister cut all tiles with me above all my passport was sized by the UK embassy to make matter worse the same girl I was dieing for ended the relationship with me just after 4months I did that mistake. My bro leave love out of women if you want to make it in life. Those Early successful people didn't put women on their heads instead they pit women on their shoulders so that when the women are heavy for them to move they can easily put her down unlike when she is on the head when you will need assistance to put her down 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by ZIMDRILL(m): 1:34pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07: the situation is very easy marry after your Msc thats if you happen to get the visa which was your plan by then a many things would have tested the love between the two of you and also by then your brother might have been proven wrong on how he thinks of your girl. Marrying her before leaving will put stress on you while you study becoz automically you become responsible for you wife. And you have to balance between studying and working to provide for her and also your living expenses. Am in UK to took me aleast 3 years to master to really hustle and be stable financially, when i say hustle i dont mean what you think but i mean getting to know the system and getting a better working paying and working condition job the moment before you leave you are fuked as wife will demand things and money, and there this thing that she will want to show to people that husband is abroad and her standards change which mean you pump out more money. More money means more working hours for you but remember your visa has conditions (UK wise) Dont marry now marry after 1 Like |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by RSVP: 1:37pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
You lost your job just last year with a savings of 400k and you also have a supportive brother who is willing to push you to success so I want to believe your still doing well even with NO JOB! . Maybe these are the reasons why your girlfriend still glu to you and not bcoz of ''love'' as you think. The way to measure a woman loyalty in relationship atleast in Nigeria is to act broke so the only advice I can give you here is same as the one your brother gave you. "My brother warned me to forget about any girl I have here in Nigeria, that most of them are fair weather friends, gold diggers and desperados" 5 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by periphetes: 1:38pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Hmmmn, I really appreciate all those who are giving you the truth. Pal your future comes top priority before any single lady you intend to marry. Most times I advice people that a single lady your courting does not totally belongs to you until marriage. Expect any surprises from her any day and anytime also inclusive in marriage. Now put your lady in your present position do you think she will blink thrice of the option travelling abroad to build her career or staying behind with you because of love? The future matters the most, like someone rightly said get established; financially and secure your future. No lady is ready to drink garri with you forever because of love worst of it if she's a dependent she will surely dump you someday with yours kids. Get your life straight up, ladies will beg and do anything for your love and attention. Beautiful and ugly ladies all over the world with awesome background will cry, starve, fight each other because of you. ( you will get tired sef) Do you know why ? It's because you have a secure future and a good life you can provide all her needs and that of your kids too. Public will celebrate her as a wife to a well successful man. Women are always like children they collect more than they give its just the way they were configured by God. My advice about your woman tell her the truth it will take time for you to be fully settled. Age isn't on her side if she can't wait for you wish her well in future and remain as good friends. True Love really exist, only when you work and have got a secure future as a successful man. Don't disappoint your sponsor by talking early about present relationship. Get made and become a KING first. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by saintneo(m): 1:43pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
Drinkwater07:Dude, this tough. Being faithful to this lady far away will stop you from exploring your options fully. I had this experience; currently, by God's grace, I'm married to another loving woman here Nigeria. My relationship with the initial lady was tested when I returned to Nigeria, lost a very well paying job I secured in Nigeria; at first she was supporting, but when more frustrations came to me, she became irresponsible and unresponsive. I had to shut down so as to completely remove her from my mind. Dude, what do you intend doing after MSc? Returning to Nigeria for work? Forget it, if God is not with you and if you've got no connection. Your lady will Bolt when frustrations come. Remaining in Canada (forget UK that place has very limited opportunities)? You need to explore other opportunities with youthfulness. Meet new people, make new friends, remove your head from Nigeria and anything that attracts you to Nigeria. 4 Likes |
Re: I Am Leaving Behind My Love, For Greener Pastures Abroad. by slinkman(m): 1:44pm On Sep 05, 2017 |
ImaIma1:if I am ever to invest money into anyone's life, not to talk of my brother who has been laid off work for quite a while, I'd be a fo0l not to care about his private life and advice him , giving him guidelines. What has the O.P gained financially, physically and mentally ever since he has been in a relationship with this girl ? I am not saying the girl is to be blamed for anything , but the O.P has to improve his life and he would only have years of regret ahead of him if he fails to do so. . His brother is in Canada, and doing just fine . If he goes over he will cope too and when it's time to settle down, that would be the least problem. 3 Likes |
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