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I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by donpata(m): 10:29am On Sep 06, 2017 |
I was moved to write this epistle cos of the fp topic of marrying someone who earns 35k yesterday. I have seen such questions on NL but I normally ignore them. Someone even asked if a lady can marry someone who earns 100k ![]() ![]() Me? 30yrs, had my BSc in the north but did my MSc at UI. Hoping to register for Phd by next year. My fiancée? 24ys old and currently awaiting 300 lv registration. Will be done by 2019. Fact: without any serious research, I think I am save to say that at least 50% of families (basically father and mother) in Nigeria earn a combined income of less than 40k in a month. Fact: The federal govt claims it has about 100k civil servants. Add paramilitary and military with about 500k personnel and public office holders, I think 800k people in active service on FG’s payroll is a fair judgment. For the sake of argument, let’s assume fg has another 800k retired personnel on pension. That’s like 1.6 million people. Nigeria has a population of 180million people. The WB estimate Nigeria has a workforce of about 60 million in 2016. If we delete the 1.6million on FGs payroll, we still have about 58.4million people left. Obviously, the remaining are left for the State and Local govt as well as private sector to employ. How many are employed? Lagos state claims it has about 100,000 workers in its payroll. Let me be liberal enough to use it as a benchmark for all Nigerian states and fct. 100k by 37 = 3.7million employees. Obviously, we still have over 50million people to employ. How many will the Real private sector pick? Yeah those that will pay a graduate from 60k above – how many can they pick? Now many will have to be entrepreneurs, “self-employed” people, petty traders, artisans etc. How much can they really earn monthly? Fact: 80% of state and LGA workers between level 1 and 10 earn less than 50k in a month. Apart from states like Lagos, Rivers, Akwa Ibom and a few others, most states, especially in the North, pay quite low. On level 8, with Kad Govt, I earn 35-37k. It fluctuates monthly. Note that there are married people with at least 3 children that are on lev 1 - 6. Do the maths. Wedding: Many asked how one will pay bride price. Well, I have crossed that bridge. I know my status so before I even got a lady, I started buying some stuff like wrappers to keep. More so, my savings, family and friends rally round me and that was solved. Only a foolish lady will think of bride price as an issue here. Except if her family is poor, why should they demand too much?. 2 of my sisters that married had their bride price pegged at 5k each. The total money paid on the first was 25k and 50k for the 2nd. Mind you, they are currently running their masters programme so they ain’t illiterates. Let me stop here. So the Wedding? How will I handle it? SIMPLE: I AM CUTTING MY COAT ACCORDING TO MY POCKET Box: I went to the market and saw boxes of 100-200k. I was showed a set of 5 for 30k as well. I opted for a set of 5 at 60k. That’s my own level too. Mind you there were people picking that of 30k too. Different strokes for Different folks. RECEPTION VENUE: Church Premises. My church got a lot of space so why should I spend 200-500k (that I don’t even have) renting a hall for a 2hr event? A guy who got married last month in my Church did not do reception at all. Again, Different strokes for Different folks. Wedding Cards: Saw a nice foreign one. They said it will cost me 30k per 100. I needed 500. I was showed another that will cost 5k per 100. I Finally opted for the one of 10k per 100. Even got a 5k discount. My suit? I opted for a 16k suit and my best man decided to pay for it. My shoes? I got really nice shoes but coz it’s my day, I opted for new ones. I picked up a very nice one for 2k. It aint top notch quality but it should take me through the day. It can actually pass for a ck or d&g when viewed from a distance. My Chairs and Canopies? My organizers are 20. Lol ![]() Cake? My aunt who has a HND in catering bla bla and has been in it for almost 15yrs running has taken that as her contribution. DJ and Camera man? My men in suit, (5 in number) have paid for that service. ![]() MC? A friend is good at it. That is his contribution. Wedding Gown: My cake designer linked me to a lady who rents out. She thus charged us 10k for a nice wedding gown. I deposited 5k. Will pay 5k after the event. Need I continue? I don’t think so. The main thing – The marriage life Yeah I know you are saying all I have said na wash. You are waiting for how reality will hit me after the marriage cos that’s the main deal. You gonna say you await my regret thread after some few months. Sorry, your expectation will be cut short. Fees: Now, my to-be wife will be registering for a new session by December. Her fees is just arnd 30k so I kept that amount and I have promised myself not to touch it until its time. I don’t even need to touch it. Everything appears almost set and done. Clothing: I filled my wife’s box to the “brim” with both native and English wears. ![]() Accommodation: Here in KD, a 1 bedroom mini flat cost between 80-150k depending on the location. Am not talking of a 2 room flat cos, truly, I don’t need it now. But I am not even thinking of taking the mini flat either. A room and parlor (real face me I face u) cost between 18k-45k depending on the location. There are better ones; mostly new houses that cost 40-60k. I’ve gotten a very nice one for 55k. Just 2 tenants in the house and the other guy is single so we just gonna be sharing the toilet with him. It’s not that I can’t afford it but wisdom must direct me. I got 2plots of land already so I don’t even intend staying in that house beyond a year or 2. My building: I already have 2 plots of land. I’ve struck an agreement with some guys who will supply me mud blocks at N20 each. At my estimate of 3000 blocks, that’s 60k ![]() Feeding? A 50kg bag of rice takes me over 5 months now that I am alone. I believe in varieties so I got different things stocked in my room. Adding one or two extra plate should not make life difficult. I planted maize on my 2 plots. Once harvested, I won’t need to buy semovita all the time. If you have been to the north, you will know that with my harvest, Tuwo is served. Need I continue? I don’t think so. Let me not bore you further. My support to extended Families Someone asked in that thread that how do one take care of his families and inlaws. Well, my family aint rich but they can cater for themselves. My dad and mum earn and have only one child left in the university. Moreover, they are sensible enough to know that they should not expect from me. Rather, what is sensible is for them to support me if need be ![]() Children Just a child and I will pause until she is done with school. I know it’s gonna come with challenges but I don’t think you expect me to plan out every day of my life and budget for same here. I know that I will cross the bridge when I get there. Other wants I am a gadget freak. Before my wedding preps, I buy things impulsively. Now I know I have to control that. I know what lies ahead of me. That’s why I didn’t go for an iphone but went for a hot note. When the hot note packed up, I didn’t kill myself for a Samsung s7 even though I love it. I went for my sweet Ulefone Tiger @ 31k. When I went for a tab, I didn’t go for an ipad; not even a tecno pad. I went for imose xii ![]() I CAN TRULY GO ON AND ON BUT CALLING SOMEONE A FOOL AS MANY DID ON THAT THREAD YESTERDAY IS QUITE ILLOGICAL. My dad married at 24. My mum was 19 then. Both are now degree holders. Things have changed and that’s why I am marrying at 30. I don’t want to clock 50 and yet taking my first child to write Common Entrance. If you like say I am rushing. Firstly, I love my fiancée die. 2ndly, I am a Christian and my bodily desires are building up strongly. Marriage is the way out. 3rdly, I love kids. Since they are an inheritance, I can’t wait to have one as God wills. Lastly, I wanna retire in peace. Not old man using my pension to train undergraduates and Jambites. Finally, I am not complacent with where I am. I have handled a few millions before but this is where I am now. I wanna go for my phd and I hope to reestablish myself in business. But I can’t again let my social life suffer cos of where I am today. I have a job now; low paying as it is, I know if well managed, I will make it out. Even if I remain in the employ of the State Govt, I cant earn 35k forever. I am young and will keep moving on. DISCLAIMER: ![]() FOR THE “FOOLS AT 40” WAITING FOR THEIR MILLIONS TO BUILD UP BEFORE SETTLING DOWN, TILL UNA COME. FORGIVE ME FOR THE LONG EPISTLE. HAD TO TAKE MY TIME SO THAT SOME PEOPLE WILL APPRECIATE THAT NO TWO PEOPLE HAVE SAME CIRCUMSTANCES AND SITUATIONS. I PROMISE TO RAISE ANOTHER THREAD ANNUALLY TO TELL YOU HOW FAR WE HAVE GONE. ![]() 1285 Likes 234 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by rheether(f): 10:31am On Sep 06, 2017 |
I pity you ![]() 113 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by greatnaija01: 10:34am On Sep 06, 2017 |
BRO YOU ARE ON POINT.... pls NEXT YEAR after your 1year marriage celebrations, KINDLY MAKE ANOTHER POST AND REFER TO THIS THREAD so we have a follow up cos usually PEOPLE'S MOUTH AND IDEAOLOGY CHANGES AFTER 1-3YEARS OF MARRIAGE. It was people who married like you are about to that Advised me to wait.... You didnt mention the economic Situation... every marriage where BUHARI and His political issues are not planned for usually get rude shocks. I salute your faith and courage. 125 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by donpata(m): 10:37am On Sep 06, 2017 |
rheether: dont pity me. Pray for yourself and include me too. 593 Likes 37 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by pocohantas(f): 10:38am On Sep 06, 2017 |
You have lots of support system, not everyone is this lucky. You also didn't tell us you most likely have another source of income. You buy impulsively according to your writeup, who does that with 35-37k salary? If they say they can't marry with 35k, leave it for them. Wish them the best... While they wish you same. Olami90: They are not rare. They are everywhere. OP, is very discerning that's why he could pick her out of all the karashikas. Some of you want a girl with the so called 'slay queen' looks and body ...someone you can flaunt around as high class babe. That's how you guys end up ignoring the modest babe because she doesn't look overly flashy. When slayqueen slays una pocket, you come to NL and shout all girls are the same. Start observing pre-wedding pictures henceforth. Watch how modest young men go for modest young women. The best thing that can happen to anyone...male or female, is to know your size, it's not an insult...it's for ones peace of mind. 366 Likes 40 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by donpata(m): 10:40am On Sep 06, 2017 |
pocohantas: Thats your opinion. i wear the shoe and know how it pinches. That's why i said, different stroke for different folks. read my intention well. 38 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Oblitz(m): 10:40am On Sep 06, 2017 |
good 3 Likes |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by expensiveguyman(m): 10:42am On Sep 06, 2017 |
I didn't read ur long epistle but if u earned just 35k monthly and u want to settle down here in Nigeria. I must tell u that u're walking on a long thing nd a serious hard time await u. I know I sound discouraging but that's d bitter truth sir. 40 Likes |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by AlexCk: 10:45am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Wow, This ur thesis tho, lol. U r indeed ready for ur PhD. Anyways, as long as u can comfortably take care of her, yourself, and plan well for the future. It's all good. Wish you the very best. 101 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by donpata(m): 10:46am On Sep 06, 2017 |
expensiveguyman: Thanks for telling me the "truth" sir. But you cant discourage me. Over confidence dey worry me. ![]() 128 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Oyindidi(f): 10:47am On Sep 06, 2017 |
rheether:Why? That's a guy with well planed life 202 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by princealexndre(m): 10:48am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Bro if I heard u correctly u have a MSC. U should really try and get another job... U really need it 20 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Oyindidi(f): 10:50am On Sep 06, 2017 |
princealexndre:Them dey pick job for ground? 180 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by queennsekxy(f): 10:56am On Sep 06, 2017 |
if your partner is not also working and earning I wonder how you guys will cope when child bearing comes up...besides you have got alot of helping hands in this your marriage 27 Likes |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Nobody: 10:58am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Wow! My head is swelling.what a breathtaking analysis! 61 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Shinapraise(m): 11:01am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Hummm I really like the way u itemized your point and it cross my heart that some ladies here will not think a on the subject matter and find those that really liken their situation and to the men in the house this is an eye opener for us to think analysis and make a quality decision as for me I intend to do my introduction at the end if this month before but when I read the thrend yesterday I called my self to order to stop it because I need to plan carefully not carelessly good day . 33 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Merryglad(f): 11:01am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Bravo op! Sometimes i cant help but wounder where my generation is heading to.....thank God we still have some sane people around like you. The earlier people realise they not in this world to impress anyone the better for them. 143 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Nobody: 11:07am On Sep 06, 2017 |
rheether: slayqueen!!! 50 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Nobody: 11:07am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Wonderful and inspiring write-up OP.. Its not about how much you have but what you are able to achieve with the one thats already at your disposal. #Godbless 41 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by falconey(m): 11:07am On Sep 06, 2017 |
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Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by falconey(m): 11:09am On Sep 06, 2017 |
![]() Public Moron_ Douglash92 your deadbrain is needed here. Unlike the op I haven't got time to really psychoanalyze the notion. It's no miracle son. He got his BSC in the north that must have been a major factor (remember??). Anything is possible, you can actualise any goal with good plan. I am not surprised people have been doing it for years and will keep doing it no matter how harsh the economy. Again break yourself from the misguided impressions, read and explore more. 17 Likes |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by pamijlove(f): 11:13am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Nice one dear..well planned. According to u ..cut ur coat according to ur size , shikena 10 Likes |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Victornezzar: 11:16am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Wow... Op nice I must say 2 Likes |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Nobody: 11:21am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Op best of luck It's your destiny. Everyone destiny in getting married cannot start like yours. Some guys marry at the age of 24. Some 25, 26 .27, 30 ,40,35,50 ,etc... Everyone will not marry at the same age, uv decided to marry. If u feel u are on the right track? Please go ahead and do the needful. It's your life. It's your choice. We all have our destinies to fulfill. HML. 24 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Nobody: 11:21am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Nice on BTW op just watch how dem slayqueens would come pour their shallow negetive reasoning on you 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Prec1ous(m): 11:37am On Sep 06, 2017 |
Man, you are just great. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Efewestern: 11:37am On Sep 06, 2017 |
donpata , wouldn't want to say my age here, but am a very young man who knows how the real world operate. Saw the thread yesterday, I just laugh and smile, even saw a guy saying rubbish about how 35k is too small, yes that amount might be small but a man and his wife can start a life with that, the lady won't sit idle doing nothing would she? the lady can start a trade, or find a job of 20k or better still you can make her learn some handwork like tailoring while thinking of other business to do. With that you plan your life, give birth to only one Kid or no kid till you establish another business or have a stable source of income. Most people or should I say ladies are just delusional, and to think a lady of 30yrs still thinks like a girl of 18 baffles me. Peace bro. 124 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Hollawayn05(m): 12:01pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
ONE OF THE BEST POST EVER ON NAIRALAND.. YOU SUCH AN INSPIRATION.... 127 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Khutie: 12:04pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
•••Yhu've goh massive supportive family(friends inclusive)...not err'body gonna be dah lucky and most importantly, I believe that yhur wife to be is made of UNDERSTANDING ingredient rather than SLAYING ingredient. Bruh yhu re fvcking Economist, I hail o. 38 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by ITbomb(m): 12:13pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Classic and model analysis I am bookmarking this one What I understand about Nigerians is that they just need money to spend without planning. I remember when I was doing full time blogging stuff, I guaranteed myself 8 hours of light everyday. I would buy 10 - 15 ltrs of fuel to use for the week. (I pass my neighbor - high fuel efficiency). I plan for 4 hrs daytime (2 hrs late morning 10 am to 12 and another 2 hrs 3 to 5pm) and 4 night time (8pm to 12 midnight) Now, my neighbor would be laughing "why I dey do economy for fuel " for him, just put the fuel and let the gen off by itself but he is the one that complain the loudest that he doesn't have fuel or he is spending too much on fuel. With a good plan, you can survive happily with family at that but with wife in school, it's going to be challenging unless her family will still support her a bit. 32 Likes |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by Nobody: 12:22pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
Wow nice one op 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Am 30yrs, Earn 35k A Month And Will Marry A Student In A Months Time. by edoman2016: 12:32pm On Sep 06, 2017 |
I think 35,000 naira can raise a family in Nigeria. If you doubt it, kindly ask security man, company drivers, factory workers etc in Lagos how much they are paid as monthly salary. Majority of them are paid less than 30,000 naira yet they have a wife and children at home. It's not how much you earn but how you utilize it. 92 Likes 6 Shares |
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