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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by dingbang(m): 12:31pm On Sep 09, 2017
Mynd44:
This is funny sha.

One of the most inportant things people have to understand before getting married is that your partner is not the last person you will be attracted to, not the last person you will fall in love with and not the last person you will want to have sex with. If you can accept this and also see that you are not the last person your partner will love , you can move forward.

While the information you gave is vague but telling someone you love person or still love them is NOT cheating. It is you admitting how you feel. Now if he choose to act on those feelings, it is different kettle of fish.

But then there are two things to (sacarstically) consider here.

Men are scum: See all men are cheats and disgusting dogs and you can't trust any of us so that man is obviously thrash

Yoruba men are demons She married a yoruba demon grin grin. It is said that the only marriage a yoruba man is faithful in is an open marriage.
seun oya ban mynd44 ... grin


He said you are a demon

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Nobody: 12:32pm On Sep 09, 2017
Ximenez:
Is it now a crime to love your fellow human being?

So because I'm married to a particular lady now, i mustn't love anybody else, i should rather hate them undecided

but it's not just anybody else, it's somebody he once had a relationship with. Would you be ok if ur wife did the same thing with her ex-boyfriends?
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by sekxyqueen(f): 12:34pm On Sep 09, 2017
Hilles:


I could bet my ass you ain't even married, cos if you were you won't be advocating for divorce just like that, what he did was highly reprehensible but that doesn't mean things should end between then just like that, I think its time for them to have a long a talk!
that was why I used the word chronic cheat..if he is viable to repentance well,that's okay but if not I think the marriage should be dissolved
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by ayokellany: 12:36pm On Sep 09, 2017
Mynd44:
This is funny sha.

One of the most inportant things people have to understand before getting married is that your partner is not the last person you will be attracted to, not the last person you will fall in love with and not the last person you will want to have sex with. If you can accept this and also see that you are not the last person your partner will love , you can move forward.

While the information you gave is vague but telling someone you love person or still love them is NOT cheating. It is you admitting how you feel. Now if he choose to act on those feelings, it is different kettle of fish.

But then there are two things to (sacarstically) consider here.

Men are scum: See all men are cheats and disgusting dogs and you can't trust any of us so that man is obviously thrash

Yourba men are demons: She married a yoruba demon grin grin. It is said that the only marriage a yoruba man is faithful in is an open marriage.

Uncle moderator is your brain working okay ? Do you mean I must hate all my ex because I am now married ? I love most of my ex because our relationship didn't lead to marriage doesn't mean I have to hate them.
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by jaxxy(m): 12:41pm On Sep 09, 2017
She can do wat she likes bt she will be stupid to leave her marriage just cos of a harmless chat which cud hv been taken out of context and the ex in question is several miles away. Yes It hurts bt not enough to leave ur marriage yet pls.

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by laudate: 12:42pm On Sep 09, 2017
hedonistic:
The idea of African women *threatening to leave* their philandering husbands is quite absurd to me. Leave him and then do what? Stay alone or marry another one who is guaranteed to do same?

I'm even talking about habitually cheating women who as girls and women, made a livelihood out of sleeping with different married men (including their bosses at work, lecturers at school, customers in their biz, sugar daddies, 'sponsors', job givers, and other older male benefactors). Now they suddenly want their own husbands to be Snow White angels who wouldn't be 'typical' African men? How the bloody hell does that work?

Na too much films and social media dey worry una. Una never ready to marry. Goan ask your mothers. They know better.
Guy, this your analogy does not follow any known pattern, o! shocked There are women who got married as virgins, and yet their husbands remained cassanovas. These days, the fear of HIV/AIDS is very real. That is why most people do not want to put up with the headache of a cheating spouse... undecided

The runs girls who dated everything in trousers while at school, often end up hooking the best kind of responsible men, and creating some of the most successful marriages. Why? They know all the tricks to use to keep their men hooked, for life! shocked

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by ayokellany: 12:42pm On Sep 09, 2017
EmperorLee:



Loads of experience marmee cheesy

More like you lack what it takes to sustain a successful union btw both.
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by EmperorLee(m): 12:47pm On Sep 09, 2017
ayokellany:


More like you lack what it takes to sustain a successful union btw both.


Things like ?
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by SalamRushdie: 12:51pm On Sep 09, 2017
sekxyqueen:
men and lies..even when they are married they are still not satisfied. ..well,your friend knows what's best for her..,,it's better to stay single and happy than to die of disease and frustrations..
alas,marriage isn't for all.

The day women know men are wired to fall in love with many women is the day they will finally have peace , all this one man one woman thing is basically just civilization... I am a 100 percent faithful guy till date but three truth is that in course of my activities I get to meet different women I know I like but I use a lot of discipline to shrug it off ..we are wired to love many women at the same time and we can't help it we can just hope to contain it for as long as we can
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Nobody: 12:53pm On Sep 09, 2017
SalamRushdie:


The day women know men are wired to fall in love with many women is the day they will finally have peace , all this one man one woman thing is basically just civilization... I am a 100 percent faithful guy till date but three truth is that in course of my activities I get to meet different women I know I like but I use a lot of discipline to shrug it off ..we are wired to love many women at the same time and we can't help it we can just hope to contain it for as long as we can

I share this same dogma...100% faithful guy, but shrugging off feelings we tap in the course of running into the opposite sex isn't easy, to our kinds..Kudos...e no easy

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Nobody: 12:55pm On Sep 09, 2017
Lalas247:
So I have a friend whose been married for 3 years now she has a daughter, she is Southafrican but her husband is Nigerian Yoruba guy...
She went through his laptop where she found messages to an old fling back in Nigeria he told the lady he Loves Her
Long story short she now want to leave him because she said it's the same as cheating even though the guy has begged ans swore he hasn't been with anyone else since they got married.

Thought please...

Cc mynd44 lalasticlala

In my opinion, emotional cheating like this is worse. I might understand, but most likely will not, if my Wife got drunk and was straffed by someone one time. What I can never forgive is an ongoing affair.

In any case, should she leave? It depends on her acceptability level. If she stays or goes, the earth will still rotate and life will go on.

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Worksunlimited: 12:55pm On Sep 09, 2017
So because we have been eating regularly at Tastee Fried chicken, one shouldn't try KFC again?
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by rayralph(m): 12:58pm On Sep 09, 2017
Mynd44:
This is funny sha.

One of the most inportant things people have to understand before getting married is that your partner is not the last person you will be attracted to, not the last person you will fall in love with and not the last person you will want to have sex with. If you can accept this and also see that you are not the last person your partner will love , you can move forward.

While the information you gave is vague but telling someone you love person or still love them is NOT cheating. It is you admitting how you feel. Now if he choose to act on those feelings, it is different kettle of fish.

But then there are two things to (sacarstically) consider here.

Men are scum: See all men are cheats and disgusting dogs and you can't trust any of us so that man is obviously thrash

[s]Yourba men are demons: She married a yoruba demon grin grin. It is said that the only marriage a yoruba man is faithful in is an open marriage.[/s]

A Nairaland mod spewing out anti-Tribal comment

Complete trash talk.

Kindly provide a link to the survey or verified statistics that supports your baseless claims.

Are you sure you've not broken one of Nairaland's rules?!

Perhaps you mods are insulated....

Cc : Seun
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by teemy(m): 12:59pm On Sep 09, 2017
if a lover with an ex claims not to have any feelings for an ex, it means trouble for you as you are also never truly loved. if the love was true while it lasted, it can never go away but managed by maturity. lalas247, the choice however is hers.

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by ayokellany: 1:00pm On Sep 09, 2017
sekxyqueen:
if he should be the unrepentant chronic cheat..yes,for one's safety cos there many uncountable dangers ahead..they are prone to domestic violence ,,when they see nothing interesting in their wife any longer..they will go extra mile to obliterate her existence. .well it applies to some men though.
sekxy:
Waiting on your saint husband.
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by laudate: 1:01pm On Sep 09, 2017
rayralph:
A Nairaland mod spewing out anti-Tribal comment

Complete trash talk.

Kindly provide a link to the survey or verified statistics that supports your baseless claims.

Are you sure you've not broken one of Nairaland's rules?!

Perhaps you mods are insulated....

Cc : Seun
There was nothing tribalistic about his comment, because he did not cast aspersions on any single ethnic group. He paraphrased another person's earlier comment, to make a generalised statement..... sad So because he is a mod, he is not allowed to have an opinion again? shocked What about all your pro-Biafra mods that issue bans left, right & centre, to those who do not agree with their views? undecided

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Hilles(m): 1:03pm On Sep 09, 2017
sekxyqueen:

that was why I used the word chronic cheat..if he is viable to repentance well,that's okay but if not I think the marriage should be dissolved
now you talking! well in this case he was caught flirting and not even cheating!
this could be a sign for the wifey to either step up her game or talk to her man more!
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by sekxyqueen(f): 1:03pm On Sep 09, 2017
ayokellany:

Waiting on your saint husband.
yeah.. tongue
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by sekxyqueen(f): 1:05pm On Sep 09, 2017
Hilles:

now you talking! well in this case he was caught flirting and not even cheating!
this could be a sign for the wifey to either step up her game or talk to her man more!
I agree with you.
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by ikp120(m): 1:09pm On Sep 09, 2017
Another pussy nigga. Never tell a girlfriend or whatever that you love her. They still won't hear.
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Daeylar(f): 1:10pm On Sep 09, 2017
dingbang:
seun oya ban mynd44 ... grin


He said you are a demon


grin grin grin grin
Mynd44 has entered problem today
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by dingbang(m): 1:13pm On Sep 09, 2017
Daeylar:



grin grin grin grin
Mynd44 has entered problem today
na so na.. Make he chop ban for once...
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Nobody: 1:15pm On Sep 09, 2017
If you leave him, you will meet another guy that will still cheat.

These men are polygamous in nature.
The devil you know is better than the angel you don't know, he might tell her he loves her just to get into her pants but he loves you and that was why he married you.
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by rayralph(m): 1:17pm On Sep 09, 2017
laudate:

There was nothing tribalistic about his comment, because he did not cast aspersions on any single ethnic group. He paraphrased another person's earlier comment, to make a generalised statement..... sad So because he is a mod, he is not allowed to have an opinion again? shocked [s]What about all your[b] pro-Biafra[/b] mods that issue bans left, right & centre, to those who do not agree with their views? [/s]undecided

Blind generalization.... Am not in any way affiliated with such

Trash talk altogether.
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Henri8: 1:18pm On Sep 09, 2017
Tor. He choosed an ex Nigerian over a xenophobe.
Case closed. Hope the dude is not living in SA else he will have SA police coming to choke him to death.
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by laudate: 1:20pm On Sep 09, 2017
rayralph:
Blind generalization.... Am not in any way affiliated with such

Trash talk altogether.
You keep using the word 'thrash' like it is your middle name. Na wa, o! shocked Oya, make another comment, and put the word 'thrash' inside, since you like it so much!
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by rayralph(m): 1:26pm On Sep 09, 2017
laudate:

You keep using the word 'thrash' like it is your middle name. Na wa, o! shocked Oya, make another comment, and put the word 'thrash' inside, since you like it so much!
grin

Another comment for you...

It's TRASH not THRASH tongue grin

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by slyd90(m): 1:27pm On Sep 09, 2017
centoke30:
What's all this nah? Citizens of Russia grin
grin
Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by GratefulHeart23(f): 1:29pm On Sep 09, 2017
Lalas247:
So I have a friend whose been married for 3 years now she has a daughter, she is Southafrican but her husband is Nigerian Yoruba guy...
She went through his laptop where she found messages to an old fling back in Nigeria he told the lady he Loves Her
Long story short she now want to leave him because she said it's the same as cheating even though the guy has begged ans swore he hasn't been with anyone else since they got married.

Thought please...

Cc mynd44 lalasticlala

I'm surprised when a married woman with a child/children complain her husband is cheating. My dear, what else does she wants from him? She already has a child nah. No man (my husband inclusive) is worth being faithful to. She should step up her game for other men to discover her.

Most men out there are even sweeter and more caring than her husband. Why should one kill herself of heart attack over one man when there are several men out there. I'm talking from experience. Nothing my husband does makes sense to me anymore even the sex I used to think was great is now so boring, just doing it to fulfil all righteousness. The sweetest and most caring are usually not the one we end up with so why the stress?

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by Nobody: 1:29pm On Sep 09, 2017
Let her leave.

Lalas247:
So I have a friend whose been married for 3 years now she has a daughter, she is Southafrican but her husband is Nigerian Yoruba guy...
She went through his laptop where she found messages to an old fling back in Nigeria he told the lady he Loves Her
Long story short she now want to leave him because she said it's the same as cheating even though the guy has begged ans swore he hasn't been with anyone else since they got married.

Thought please...

Cc mynd44 lalasticlala

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Re: Is Flirting Classed As Cheating? by darlenese(f): 1:30pm On Sep 09, 2017
so she wants to leave her marriage because of a message she saw on his laptop, he even begged and swore he hasn't been with anyone yet she wants to leave, her face na fried rice!? abeg she should go so that the man can marry a more sensible human being. msheeeeeew

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