Mynd44:
This is funny sha.

One of the most inportant things people have to understand before getting married is that your partner is not the last person you will be attracted to, not the last person you will fall in love with and not the last person you will want to have sex with. If you can accept this and also see that you are not the last person your partner will love , you can move forward.

While the information you gave is vague but telling someone you love person or still love them is NOT cheating. It is you admitting how you feel. Now if he choose to act on those feelings, it is different kettle of fish.

But then there are two things to (sacarstically) consider here.

Men are scum: See all men are cheats and disgusting dogs and you can't trust any of us so that man is obviously thrash

Yourba men are demons: She married a yoruba demon . It is said that the only marriage a yoruba man is faithful in is an open marriage.

rayralph:


A Nairaland mod spewing out anti-Tribal comment

Complete trash talk.

Kindly provide a link to the survey or verified statistics that supports your baseless claims.

Are you sure you've not broken one of Nairaland's rules?!

Perhaps you mods are insulated....

Cc : Seun

sekxyqueen:
men and lies..even when they are married they are still not satisfied. ..well,your friend knows what's best for her..,,it's better to stay single and happy than to die of disease and frustrations..
alas,marriage isn't for all.

GratefulHeart23:


I'm surprised when a married woman with a child/children complain her husband is cheating. My dear, what else does she wants from him? She already has a child nah. No man (my husband inclusive) is worth being faithful to. She should step up her game for other men to discover her.

Most men out there are even sweeter and more caring than her husband. Why should one kill herself of heart attack over one man when there are several men out there. I'm talking from experience. Nothing my husband does makes sense to me anymore even the sex I used to think was great is now so boring, just doing it to fulfil all righteousness. The sweetest and most caring are usually not the one we end up with so why the stress?

Mynd44:
This is funny sha.

One of the most inportant things people have to understand before getting married is that your partner is not the last person you will be attracted to, not the last person you will fall in love with and not the last person you will want to have sex with. If you can accept this and also see that you are not the last person your partner will love , you can move forward.

While the information you gave is vague but telling someone you love person or still love them is NOT cheating. It is you admitting how you feel. Now if he choose to act on those feelings, it is different kettle of fish.

But then there are two things to (sacarstically) consider here.

Men are scum: See all men are cheats and disgusting dogs and you can't trust any of us so that man is obviously thrash

Yourba men are demons: She married a yoruba demon . It is said that the only marriage a yoruba man is faithful in is an open marriage.

Lalas247:


Lol are Yoruba men demons though haba
So are you saying it's when it is actually a physical act ?

iamJ:
flirting is cheating na, dem no dey ask this question mbok

i hate ugly girls but even when am nice to dem just small, sugar will be all up in my face

Saw u telling that felicia that she is intelligent

hedonistic:
The idea of African women *threatening to leave* their philandering husbands is quite absurd to me. Leave him and then do what? Stay alone or marry another one who is guaranteed to do same?

I'm even talking about habitually cheating women who as girls and women, made a livelihood out of sleeping with different married men (including their bosses at work, lecturers at school, customers in their biz, sugar daddies, 'sponsors', job givers, and other older male benefactors). Now they suddenly want their own husbands to be Snow White angels who wouldn't be 'typical' African men? How the bloody hell does that work?

Na too much films and social media dey worry una. Una never ready to marry. Goan ask your mothers. They know better.

BiafranBushBoy:

Hmmm.
nawa oo

Mynd44:

No. I am saying his telling an ex he loves her is not enough to say he cheated. If I see the rest of the convo like "I wish I was with you" "I cant wait to have you in my arms" etc. Thats cheating

EgunMogaji:


In my opinion, emotional cheating like this is worse. I might understand, but most likely will not, if my Wife got drunk and was straffed by someone one time. What I can never forgive is an ongoing affair.

In any case, should she leave? It depends on her acceptability level. If she stays or goes, the earth will still rotate and life will go on.

dingbang:
so you saying every married woman who suspects her husband for cheating should divorce?

sekxyqueen:
lol..na true shaa

BiafranBushBoy:

Okay Ma.
Breakup and Divorce specialist.

Lalas247:

Ok

No it was the I Love you comment that did it for her . Some ppl take that word very serious especially married folks
Could be the fact the lady he said it to is Nigerian might be feeling threatened ..

rosalieene:
Well, it's so unfortunate

left to me, she is married, she should take things slow and not just use bcoz of that and end her marriage.

assuming they were still dating, It would be a different case.

most guys are like that

Mynd44:

Again, I dont have access to their full chats and dont know what led to it but loving someone is not evil.

Do you not love your freinds? Just because she is an ex does not make her an enemy na

Lalas247:

Hmmm but I won't feel comfortable if my man told an ex I LOVE YOU
Which kin love be that the only person he should love is me .. n family finish well saying it to friends doesn't have the same effect
We already established male n females can't be really friends from makkiedebbie thread it's rare .. so a guy saying I love you to female friend and ex at that when he is MARRIED haba .. kolewerk now

Mynd44:


That people have crappy people as friends does not mean it is rare.

So you dont have an ex you still talk to and share issues? Wow.

Lalas247:


No oh
The last ex in prison right now for stealing my money ( and you know how I feel about that ) hope he stays there

The other one married but still fuvking around .... y will I talk to such

In alll ans is NOPE another even one .. we ain't friends ... we are hi n bye see ya later type situationship

Lalas247:

Thanks .. so if in that situation will you forgive and stay?

supersystemsng:


Is it that you only date weirdos? I just don't get it

Lalas247:

So someone who steals is a weirdo or greedy
So an unfaithful guy is a weirdo
K

Lol na those were the two serious ones

GratefulHeart23:


Hers is just a chat, mine was worse, I went through hell. I used to work in the South South till I got married and have a baby for a Lagosian Igbo man who not only frustrated me but instigated friends, families and parents against me till I quit the job to move in with him as the company has no branch where I could function in Lagos. That was the worst mistake I would ever make.

Within 4 months, my savings was gone coz he was always taking from me with the empty promises that he'll pay back. I was broke, tattered and wretched. The day I went through his phone was the great revelation of my life, this man sleeps around recklessly, the women were so many, he spends lavishly on them, spend most of the days he told he had travelled with them leaving me and my child to starve in an environment we have nobody. He would make calls to his girlfriends in Igbo language right in my presence coz I'm Yoruba who doesn't understand Igbo but my instincts always tells me when this happens.

At some point I was so bittered I had to send some of his chats to myself via mail from his phone and send it to his family members ad evidence when they kept defending him. My dear, nothing happened ooo, they only told me to keep praying for him, even my parents threatened to disown me if I divorce him coz they're elders in church.

As luck would have it, I met a man who changed my story from sorry to sweet song. He helped me get a good job and a small flat close to my working place to avoid Island holdup and stress, my son stays with me and I can afford his school fees now, we only go to his father's house one or two free weekends in a month. My new man is more elderly and married too so he doesn't put any pressure on me and sex with him is better than the one with my hubby.

Your friend can either stay with her hubby and do whatever makes her happy if she's from a funny home and background like mine where ladies are expected to endure sufferings in their marriage or she should quit and never look back coz cheating husbands usually don't change, all they do is bring out the worse in you.

supersystemsng:


Better... How are you today?

I disagree men and women can't be friends...How about companionship?

rayralph:



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It's TRASH not THRASH