it happened that I exchanged memory card with my wife. so I saw 2 call recordings between my wife and a guy. the guy was toasting her and she was laughing and telling the guy on phone that she will go and think about his proposal and give him a feedback later.

am confused but have not challenged her yet. am thinking of ending the marriage but my mum died last month and no one to take care of my son.

what can I do pls

You sound like you are tired of the marriage.

most times the problem is always within us.

but we are always looking for whom to blame...

have you considered spoiling your woman with enough flirting and romance

if u can't do that, then someone else will do the job for you....

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some men dont just understand how to make use of simple tactics.

little wonder shes currently winning in the game,
first u need to understand here that , its a blessing in disguise he discovered the recording.

now u can comfront her and she comes up with excuses perharps cries a bit or it could lead to a huge fight . and your kids would be watching u guys ooo

or u can just go subtle or sober and ask yourself were it all went wrong

then ask her how you can be a better hubby.

guys please be smart....

gabazin080:
it happened that I exchanged memory card with my wife. so I saw 2 call recordings between my wife and a guy. the guy was toasting her and she was laughing and telling the guy on phone that she will go and think about his proposal and give him a feedback later.

am confused but have not challenged her yet. am thinking of ending the marriage but my mum died last month and no one to take care of my son.

what can I do pls

After doing a DNA test to confirm if the boy is really your son...just send her packing.

Women!

Calm down
Flirting on phone isn't punishable with divorce. Find that detective nairalander that bugged her husband to catch him redhanded.
Bug ur wife
If caught. Divorce!

For the fact that she's married doesn't stop other men from chasing after her 'cause some would, even with a ring on. What these ones want is to get in-between her legs.
#fact, what some women don't get is; any man who sleeps with you knowing you're married has a high threshold not to commit to whatever you both have 'cause if you could do it to your husband then he isn't any different. What matters most is your wife's values, and commitment to her marriage.

Thinking of divorce over the issue is quit a rash decision to take. You either iron things out with her by discussing the conversation you heard or go detective for more facts.

sexybbstar:
Women!

Hmmmm..... coming from a woman?

gabazin080:
it happened that I exchanged memory card with my wife. so I saw 2 call recordings between my wife and a guy. the guy was toasting her and she was laughing and telling the guy on phone that she will go and think about his proposal and give him a feedback later.

am confused but have not challenged her yet. am thinking of ending the marriage but my mum died last month and no one to take care of my son.

what can I do pls

U need to be calm before making moves

What is she looking for?

Women

The devil you have known is better than the devil you don't know. Please ask her , maybe she can repent and joy will be restore.

U don't need to end d relationship Mr man, seat her nd talk to her then find tins for yr self befor u end d marriage.

Una do they fast forward to end tins

kimbraa:
For the fact that she's married doesn't stop other men from chasing after her 'cause some would, even with a ring on. What these ones want is to get in-between her legs.
#fact, what some women don't get is; any man who sleeps with you knowing you're married has a high threshold not to commit to whatever you both have 'cause if you could do it to your husband then he isn't any different. What matters most is your wife's values, and commitment to her marriage.

Thinking of divorce over the issue is quit a rash decision to take. You either iron things out with her by discussing the conversation you heard or go detective for more facts.

most times , when it comes to family issues especially ones like this , I rather keep mute instead of having a dialogue over the issue. then play from behind.

it's not everything u talk about with your spouse,
that talk might just lead to more bitterness in the marriage

Ok. Help is coming

kimbraa:
For the fact that she's married doesn't stop other men from chasing after her 'cause some would, even with a ring on. What these ones want is to get in-between her legs.
#fact, what some women don't get is; any man who sleeps with you knowing you're married has a high threshold not to commit to whatever you both have 'cause if you could do it to your husband then he isn't any different. What matters most is your wife's values, and commitment to her marriage.

Thinking of divorce over the issue is quit a rash decision to take. You either iron things out with her by discussing the conversation you heard or go detective for more facts.

. why would a married woman give out her number to random guys and even still listen to his toasting and giving the guy hope

Guy she is into the game. Don't over think on ladies or wife matter so u will not die young and she will still go and Bleep d toaster..
I toast many married women to c dere reaction deliberately and in manybcases web I tell den I am in love with them eyebrows say are u serious and I say yes darling.

She starts smiling. Enjoying the gist telling her how sexy she looks and cut ass she has. These are the things they want to hear which u are not telling her and another person is telling her and u are angry....

I have bleeped so many just with nice sweet lines in fact I just duck one dis evening after she close from work on her way home...
U need to c me admiring her cute naked body before me and she was all smiles.....

Till I sucked her pussy while she screamed....
I later anointed her pussycat with my long dick
..

So these are the things men are not telling dere wives and dry want to hear it. Compliment ladies day always look forward to it..

If I compliment her for u then just relax cos her pussycat will pay d price...

Men do ur job be wise...

So so marriage wahala for nairaland

torres89:


most times , when it comes to family issues especially ones like this , I rather keep mute instead of having a dialogue over the issue. then play from behind.

it's not everything u talk about with your spouse,
that talk might just lead to more bitterness in the marriage

It depends. In this situation the man is already bitter 'cause he's suspicious of the wife's fidelity, and in the stead of keeping mute when you know things are happening under your nose, communication is good.

At times we say "I'll think about it when we're not interested but enjoy being chased". For a married woman, I don't see why she'd indulge a dude that far but the op has to discuss things with her and perhaps cut her some slack 'cause you can't really tell if she was interested.

I'm not married so I can't give any good advice

But from my perspective, you should sit her down and speak to her

gabazin080:
...am thinking of ending the marriage...

You can't be serious. Ending a marriage built over the years with so much money, time and energy put into it until now over such a trivial case is simply irresponsible.

gabazin080:

what can I do pls

Do everything but not a separation. I'd suggest you confront her and show your great displeasure. Marriage is serious business, so don't go about thinking a divorce at every little mistake.

gabazin080:
it happened that I exchanged memory card with my wife. so I saw 2 call recordings between my wife and a guy. the guy was toasting her and she was laughing and telling the guy on phone that she will go and think about his proposal and give him a feedback later.

am confused but have not challenged her yet. am thinking of ending the marriage but my mum died last month and no one to take care of my son.

what can I do pls

Believe me, this is all the evidence you'll ever need. Her response already condemns her as guilty.

Any married woman who goes about encouraging guys for future consideration will eventually fall into the dick-lehr!
A married woman entertaining a direct fúck proposal is a fúck magnet herself and has no respect for herself or her union.

If she would respond to a new guy hitting on her with this kind of encouraging comments, what happens when her favourite ex comes calling?

Don't be a cockold, tap her line remotely so you can listen to her calls whenever she picks any call.

Any man who willingly cohabites with a cheating wife is walking on a field filled with mine trap.

marriage advisors just full this thread....make i just dey here dey enjoy my popcorn

gabazin080:
. why would a married woman give out her number to random guys and even still listen to his toasting and giving the guy hope

I'm equally as surprised as you're. Most people who go into marriage really don't know what's expected of them, male and female.

I could remember being with a family friend for a week. She's married, and was telling us that a guy was wooing her on FB and she doesn't know how he got her number and called. From what she was saying, and her facial expression I sensed she was very happy that a guy was wooing her, a mother of 3. I just told her to ignore the dude that he was looking for who to dupe and she replied that she knows. Whether she continued or not, I have no idea but I know she's not the cheating type.

torres89:

most times the problem is always within us.

but we are always looking for who to blame...

have you considered spoiling your woman with enough flirting and romance

if u can't do that, then someone else will do the job for you....

ya thats the reason men cheat... because the women can't give what they want.... hope you agree?

As a married woman, there are things you shouldn't entertain

end of marriage shouldn't be the option now, just talk to her, tell her to stop the crap because it's dangerous

I just tire for this kain useless men, husbands of nowadays!!

op, is your wife a bit busty

hope this is not her husband like this?


naa wetin she talk be this too and the memory card part sef ....


umh! bia op, just let her think about it first and wait to see if she will cheat on you then come back to tell us on another thread so we can tell you what to do... ...I must not loose your wife oo,

She was making dirty calls with her phone? It's simple op. Take the phone to a dry cleaner . The guy in question is a nairalander op