zulex880:
Are you a yoruba?

Yelabechi sounds very Igbo and you know it... . Nnamdi Kanu said 99% of your ladies are Oloshos

Yelabechi:

wow,you grab everything even up to what I didn't put there.

I really dont like the idea of her living alone,it could give room for many men visiting her and I can't stand such from my mom.

maclatunji:
Advice the woman to divorce honourably and remarry. This kind of life she is living is likely to end badly. Sadly, the same is true for your dad. Your family needs prayers.

Yelabechi:

wow,you grab everything even up to what I didn't put there.

I really dont like the idea of her living alone,it could give room for many men visiting her and I can't stand such from my mom.

GeneralOjukwu:


Yelabechi sounds very Igbo and you know it... . Nnamdi Kanu said 99% of your ladies are Oloshos

Yelabechi:
I am a guy of 34 and I'm married with 2kids.
I have been going through my mom's phone for a while now and things I see on it are too bad. She has been having sexchats with 3 different men, I am most certain she has met and had sex with one of them.

Background to the story....

My dad has never been the very responsible type, a chronic womanizer and he was always hurting her because she loved him to the extreme. There had been cases where she was even arrested by the police from one of his side chicks who he sponsored through school till she graduated, also a time he brought another one home who engaged in fight with my mom and nothing was done by my dad. There are so many cases like that whom i may not be able to say much on to avoid long story.

As I write this now, he has been out of the house for the past one month living with a girl of about 24. I called him severally man to man to know his motive and he said he can't just explain it but mom has not wrong him in a way because she is a good wife who knows how to take care of her man.

My mom is very beautiful and looks younger than a woman in her fifties so it is not unexpected that other men would hit on her.

I took time to imagine walking in her shoes and I understand she is really hurt, she has asked to leave his house several, I've been the one calming her down and advising her not to leave at her age. She is independent and has a good job, and according to her there is no sexual relationship between them again.

Now I know she is flirting with these men due to loniless and several heartbreak but then, it is disgusting to me that my mom is involved in that even to the point of sending nudes, I saw all these and I am just confused on how to handle this matter.

Should I confront her or just keep mute.

thesicilian:

If the above bolded part is true, then she has done nothing wrong by wanting to find happiness again. I'll suggest you leave her alone, focus on your own family and don't be like your dad.

Yelabechi:
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Should I confront her or just keep mute.

Bibi294:

Confront her... She's your mum...
No matter how irresponsible your father is, she has no right to cheat while they're still married... Of she likes, let her seek divorce...
Secondly, its not advisable for a woman, esp. Of her age to be sending nudes to men no matter what...
Thirdly, keeping two or more partner shouldn't be a way of getting back to her 'estranged' husband... If I am to counsel her, my question would be...'what if her husband is dead after having grandchildren? Having another husband or partner doesn't make sense

PaperLace:
1. Your dad is/has been a chronic, irresponsible, unrepentant and insensitive cheat.
2.He has subjected the innocent woman to all sorts of emotional and physical abuse, even from third parties (his side chicks).
2b. All for no fault of hers.
3. He is currently with one of his side chicks.
4. Their sex life is dead.
5. Mummy is beautiful and fit _halleluyah somebody!!!
6. Mummy is independent and strong.
7. Mummy wanted to leave the marriage, you told her not to.
8. Now, mummy is moving on with her life (albeit wrongly) and you're not happy.


What kind of son are you bikonu? You don't want her to leave the marriage, you don't want her to move on. What do you want? Disrespecting her vows is NO-NO, so _ allow her leave. She should have one steady partner and not multiple (safe sex and safe chatting is important), that's the only thing you should be advising her on.

Did it ever occur to you, that just like so many married women, with community horsebands, your mum was waiting for her kids to grow within a complete family system(as society demands) before divorcing? You still decided to stop her.

This is why it's good for women to be independent and remain physically appealing. All that "who will want you after 3kids" threat, na for women wey no know wassup.

Soldier come, soldier go _barracks go remain.
This na open marriage Season1.

Yelabechi:
I am a guy of 34 and I'm married with 2kids.
I have been going through my mom's phone for a while now and things I see on it are too bad. She has been having sexchats with 3 different men, I am most certain she has met and had sex with one of them.

Background to the story....

My dad has never been the very responsible type, a chronic womanizer and he was always hurting her because she loved him to the extreme. There had been cases where she was even arrested by the police from one of his side chicks who he sponsored through school till she graduated, also a time he brought another one home who engaged in fight with my mom and nothing was done by my dad. There are so many cases like that whom i may not be able to say much on to avoid long story.

As I write this now, he has been out of the house for the past one month living with a girl of about 24. I called him severally man to man to know his motive and he said he can't just explain it but mom has not wrong him in a way because she is a good wife who knows how to take care of her man.

My mom is very beautiful and looks younger than a woman in her fifties so it is not unexpected that other men would hit on her.

I took time to imagine walking in her shoes and I understand she is really hurt, she has asked to leave his house several, I've been the one calming her down and advising her not to leave at her age. She is independent and has a good job, and according to her there is no sexual relationship between them again.

Now I know she is flirting with these men due to loniless and several heartbreak but then, it is disgusting to me that my mom is involved in that even to the point of sending nudes, I saw all these and I am just confused on how to handle this matter.

Should I confront her or just keep mute.

PaperLace:
1. Your dad is/has been a chronic, irresponsible, unrepentant and insensitive cheat.
2.He has subjected the innocent woman to all sorts of emotional and physical abuse, even from third parties (his side chicks).
2b. All for no fault of hers.
3. He is currently with one of his side chicks.
4. Their sex life is dead.
5. Mummy is beautiful and fit _halleluyah somebody!!!
6. Mummy is independent and strong.
7. Mummy wanted to leave the marriage, you told her not to.
8. Now, mummy is moving on with her life (albeit wrongly) and you're not happy.


What kind of son are you bikonu? You don't want her to leave the marriage, you don't want her to move on. What do you want? Disrespecting her vows is NO-NO, so _ allow her leave. She should have one steady partner and not multiple (safe sex and safe chatting is important), that's the only thing you should be advising her on.

Did it ever occur to you, that just like so many married women, with community horsebands, your mum was waiting for her kids to grow within a complete family system(as society demands) before divorcing? You still decided to stop her.

This is why it's good for women to be independent and remain physically appealing. All that "who will want you after 3kids" threat, na for women wey no know wassup.

Soldier come, soldier go _barracks go remain.
This na open marriage Season1.

Yelabechi:

wow,you grab everything even up to what I didn't put there.

I really dont like the idea of her living alone,it could give room for many men visiting her and I can't stand such from my mom.

KevinDein:

For you it's all about getting back at men. You don't care if it means a 50+ year old woman sending her nude pic to strangers on the internet and that that can actually come back and haunt her in the future. If it remotely sounds like some sort of vengeance against men you are perfectly okay with it. Bitter men hater.

And then all the daft moorooons that liked your post.

zulex880:


zulex880 to his daft father-
Respect your old age na, That's just a moniker I'm not here for any tribal war just asked a question

I agree...to have sired someone like you. Try me, i would school you

PaperLace:


You don't like her living alone _but you like her living unhappy for years? Please, allow her separate from your dad. Advise her to chat safely, no sending of nudes involved.

Elderly men like her are preferable, widowers and divorcees. Ignore silly comments thrown at your mum here, you alone understand the situation. Her happiness should be your priority.



Swallow 12inches nails if my comment pains you. Lots and lots of it. All adulterous men will finally lose their good wives. No two ways about it.

Yelabechi:
I am a guy of 34 and I'm married with 2kids.
I have been going through my mom's phone for a while now and things I see on it are too bad. She has been having sexchats with 3 different men, I am most certain she has met and had sex with one of them.

Background to the story....

My dad has never been the very responsible type, a chronic womanizer and he was always hurting her because she loved him to the extreme. There had been cases where she was even arrested by the police from one of his side chicks who he sponsored through school till she graduated, also a time he brought another one home who engaged in fight with my mom and nothing was done by my dad. There are so many cases like that whom i may not be able to say much on to avoid long story.

As I write this now, he has been out of the house for the past one month living with a girl of about 24. I called him severally man to man to know his motive and he said he can't just explain it but mom has not wrong him in a way because she is a good wife who knows how to take care of her man.

My mom is very beautiful and looks younger than a woman in her fifties so it is not unexpected that other men would hit on her.

I took time to imagine walking in her shoes and I understand she is really hurt, she has asked to leave his house several, I've been the one calming her down and advising her not to leave at her age. She is independent and has a good job, and according to her there is no sexual relationship between them again.

Now I know she is flirting with these men due to loniless and several heartbreak but then, it is disgusting to me that my mom is involved in that even to the point of sending nudes, I saw all these and I am just confused on how to handle this matter.

Should I confront her or just keep mute.

DLuciano:
woeful counsel from the pit of hell, this your personal opinion and logic, its never correct however logical you sound.

Yelabechi:
I am a guy of 34 and I'm married with 2kids.
I have been going through my mom's phone for a while now and things I see on it are too bad. She has been having sexchats with 3 different men, I am most certain she has met and had sex with one of...