XavierBlue:



when ya discussing with her again.. Use reverse psychology on her.. Ask her if you look like any other guy to her.. feign annoyance... Do this when the conversation is at it speak.. When she's laughing and smilling and wnt more.. Yo feign vex tell her something came and go off.. She may or may not call you after that.. or may try to appease you or try to put u back to nice guy mode by forming vex too..

What ever.. Ignore her for a day or two... then show up like something never occurred..
you may text..

See ya big head and tiny eyes..

She replies and you take it to where u want..

And by now.. She will have a change of mind about you.. She will like the new you..l

You said friends with benefits.. what do u benefits?

cromz:
Guys I need help there's this girl we are quite close but she just broke up with her guy some weeks ago so we got very close and I told her about me liking her buh she doesn't seem to believe me and any time I try to flirt with her she turns me down.
I don't know wat to do anymore Cus am not a very good conversationalist and I don't know what to say anymore how can I get her to believe I like her and flirt with her

XavierBlue:


Damn.. you are damn needy.. pls go through this thread pls.. it for your own good abeg..

anthoneg:
hi HADDON. must confess I'm in awe with ur skills and appreciate the effort u putin in helping ur fellow guys.

I ve been on nairqland for more than 2yrs now but have neva com across dis thread until 2wks back. I followed it frm page 1 to 14 and have tried practicing wat uv layed dwn there.

I'm havin some issues in my relationship for d past 2months and hav tried to put to practice wat av learnt frm pag 1 to 14. however I dont have d patience to folow page by page again. rather I wil prefer I jus lay down my travails so u can giv ur professional advice once n for all. Please kindly reply as soon as u can cos av concluded on wat to do and intend to do dat today. but a tot came dat shud hear frm u 1st.

now here is my story.
LONG WRITEUP WARNING will try to summaries though

I hav bin datin dis babe since 2014. I graduated n went for nysc. she was in sch. we started jus casually. she told me she had a guy abroad but he's abusive and she's happy he ain't around again. she claimed to have brokenup wit him. fast forward 2yrs later he came back and tried getin bak wit her but she refused cos she suspected he was into drugs abroad cos he sudenly became wealthy witout disclosing his source. anyway he later forgot abt her n married someone else.

durind dis period I stood by her gave her all my best n sacrifice alot to assist her. I started workin some yrs back at same time pursuing my masters. she went for service in a neighbouring state so we started havin enuf time for each oda. she visit me at my house and I also make out time to visit her once in a while too. we got serious. towards d end of her service yr I noticed she changed. numbers always busi. n wen I call she seems uninterested. wen she passed out I went to see her n noticed she was becomin clingy to her fone formerly she kips d fone anyhow not mindin weda am wit it or not. wen I got hold of it she confessed dat she was carried away by someone n she was sorry she promised to make tins work. I noticed improvement. for anoda yr we wer growin stronger. I proposed n she acepted. went to see her parent for introduction early dis yr. planin for d main event for early nxt yr. she had dis growth on her breast dat doctor adviced it b removed to prevent stories. I sent som money to her and sent my family to accompany her for d suggery cos I didnt hav time at my place of work. my family were wit her truout she had d sugery in mid May anf I came around end of May to see her. in d course of gistin I was wit her fone wen I saw a chat frm her best frnd saying

"babe am scared d medcine u gave me won't work oo. am stil feelin somhow." the frend responded- "no worry by next week if u stil feelin dis way u go for test..but am sure u eil b fine cos d drug wil kill any sperm in there"

I was mad dis is somone av not seen for d past 1month plus. i investigated further n saw her chat wit a guy telin him dat shes scared she may b lregnant n d guy was laffin n bein sacastic wit his response. I confronted her and she started cryin n beggin dat d guy was jus a frnd she haoen to visit just once n he attempted to hav his way. he eventualy did n since den she bcame scared not to grt pregnant n so she confided in her frnd who gave her d medication I saw dem chat abt.

it took 2wks of beggin frm her sef n her frnds b4 I forgave hrr on d condition dat she stop communication wit d guy. I copied his number witout her knowledge. and to my suprise she was still communicatin wit him few wks afta d issue. I confronted her she said d guy is distubin het she tried blockin him but he stil use oda number to call. I even tot of meetin d guy but decided to let her handle it. but she failed ova again cos I still see the guys numbers on her call log.

her birthday is in 3days time. we planin on celebratin it alone jus d 2 of us in a resort. but wit d latest development i hav decided to meet wit her today in d evenin and end d relationship. anoda tot is weda shud leav it til we r togeda in for the birthday celebration so ee can discuss and come to a compromise.

pls I need ur advice asap.

HARDDON:
@ Drabeey

Nland mail is a circus.

Besides we get overwhelmed with mails. This is why we advise that if it is not a sensitive / private issue nor about d WhatsApp group, post your messages here.
We would treat it unfailingly

But if sensitive or.... Mail: support@datingdrill.com

Drabeey:



just did that bro. mail sent. pls reply asap

XavierBlue:



when ya discussing with her again.. Use reverse psychology on her.. Ask her if you look like any other guy to her.. feign annoyance... Do this when the conversation is at it speak.. When she's laughing and smilling and wnt more.. Yo feign vex tell her something came and go off.. She may or may not call you after that.. or may try to appease you or try to put u back to nice guy mode by forming vex too..

What ever.. Ignore her for a day or two... then show up like something never occurred..
you may text..

See ya big head and tiny eyes..

She replies and you take it to where u want..

And by now.. She will have a change of mind about you.. She will like the new you..l

You said friends with benefits.. what do u benefits?

knax:

knax :
okay guys..so I'm in a fwb relationship with a girl or something of that nature.i tried to define the relationship to her,but she said that she likes things the way they are and defining it can make things harder and uninteresting.she does however try to get me to admit that I love her...and I never accept it.she also tries to make me jealous by bringing up issue that her ex is still contacting her..
and then she tries to make it look like her pvssy gat me on hold,that I can't do without it.she'll be like "U re not getting any pussy"..and I would fire back and say " I'm not getting any of ur pvssy,u mean,buh I can and will get any pvssy out there,if I want to"...and then she'll start feeling bad.
my point is,she doesn't want to define it,but she acts like we're dating,always texting me first and asking me what other girls told me or what they did when they visited me..
I feel like by trying to define d relationship I handed my balls to her..and I want it back.i want to be in control again.and I don't want to fall in love with her,even if I am.
.and any other person reading this..una

knax:

okay bro..I've ignored her for d past 5 days now..I did call her once on monday buh she didn't pick..and then I saw a text from her "sup"..I hate people "suping" me.
so I just ignored her,she called me that night and I didn't pick.the next day she sent a text "i saw ur missed call,sup?"..and I also didn't reply..and ll this is via sms o not whatsapp.we don't chat there.
however now,I want to chat her up or call her,cos I think I've ignored her enough..how do I do it and what do I say..
XavierBlue,Davidthegeek,harddon

You ignored her for what purpose?

NO PURPOSE!

You don't just ignore a girl cuz "when you ignore her she'll call or text" (to find out why).

Before you ignore a girl, you should have a plan in mind already. Specifically what you'll say when you finally decide to give her attention.

You're in a FWB relationship with her, yet you want to ruin that (first by asking her out and now by pulling a silly stunt) cuz you're insecure and lack the right set of balls to get another girl.

I bet when you finally talk to her and she "changes it for you" (gets angry and lashes out at you) you'll beg her like hell. Those balls you're unnecessarily worried about losing would be long forgotten.

Dude go get another girl, use the new girl to make the FWB girl jealous (if she's misbehaving).

DavidTheGeek:

I recall i replied this your post.

magikalz, if i recall rightly also jumped in to add supporting extras to my reply.

Check your mentions and quit overreacting.

You ignored her for what purpose?

NO PURPOSE!

You don't just ignore a girl cuz "when you ignore her she'll call or text" (to find out why).

Before you ignore a girl, you should have a plan in mind already. Specifically what you'll say when you finally decide to give her attention.

You're in a FWB relationship with her, yet you want to ruin that (first by asking her out and now by pulling a silly stunt) cuz you're insecure and lack the right set of balls to get another girl.

I bet when you finally talk to her and she "changes it for you" (gets angry and lashes out at you) you'll beg her like hell. Those balls you're unnecessarily worried about losing would be long forgotten.

Dude go get another girl, use the new girl to make the FWB girl jealous (if she's misbehaving).

Drabeey:

It was after a month or so, she called me and said she is done with the guy. She outrightly told me to let us give d relationship a trial. It was then she opened up to me she is still a virgin and already 27 years.

I also realised she is currently on her masters programme too. It was then i knew i was in for it.

I hold only my first degree and currently working in which im not even earning 6digits yet.

I told her all this and she was very happy i was true with her. She gave me her mum's num and we got talking from there. She got mine too.

One day her mum came around Ibadan and i went to see her at her lodge. We talked for some minutes and i was done. That day, i realised she was watching me intently and i was becoming too nervous.

Well, she called me later and told me her mum likes me and was only concerned about me taking good care of her.


My problem is dat i call too much, we talk about many nonsense and trust me, i do most of the talking....

Recently, she seldom pick my calls, and when she do, she hardly talk or give me attentions. Its been two weeks now since we talked. I remembered i called her one friday, up to 5 calls and she didnt pick. I got so angry and i stopped calling since then, and she has neither called me back too since last two weeks.
I speak with her mum maybe once in a week, just pleasantries and often my mum call me too that she speaks with her too.

Now, im baffled about what to do with her. I know i don fk up from start. I read ur posts and i knew i was a big disgrace.

I love her but im concerned about the fact that she is probably done with me too.

Bros, how can i salvage the situation on ground now.... Get my mumu botton back and become a correct guy?

Sorry for my long post

johnson232:

@bold Na wa for u ooo
She is incharge & dictates for u
Na so u ugly?
Bro u have completly lost it & have long since sold your balls right from the very first day you allowed yourself to be friendzoned....Who does that?

How old are u?
That lady have no iota of respect for u & it is gonna affect u real bad if u settle with her

You need physical coaching
At your age & level this shouldn't be happening
Are u her mom gaurdian angel?
Does she call your mom?
Is she your first love?
Your mata jus weak person...Which university u go sef?

Drabeey:



na waa oo bros.... na me u carry all these talk give....

no p sha na me cus am

btw. she isnt my first love.... just loved the girl.

way forwrd abeg

johnson232:

I didn't mean to sound obnoxious sir
No vex, na the story just provoke me
I know love can be intoxicating & controlling, but u need to do this for your own good
You need to start looking elsewhere bro
You have lost it with this girl
Have u read this thread from page 0?
When last did u communicate with her?

knax:


okay..she finally called nd I teased and all dt..buh never said d important thing..now what do I do next..cos she believes that there is an important thing

Drabeey:



immediately i read it onto page 3, i knew it say i don jonze.

today makes it 16th day we both heard each oda's voice

cromz:
Guys I need help there's this girl we are quite close but she just broke up with her guy some weeks ago so we got very close and I told her about me liking her buh she doesn't seem to believe me and any time I try to flirt with her she turns me down.
I don't know wat to do anymore Cus am not a very good conversationalist and I don't know what to say anymore how can I get her to believe I like her and flirt with her

Drabeey:
@johnson232

Thanks bro

brandon180:

Gawd!!..i wish i could spank u..seriously!!!..u jst handed handed over ur balls to her....
Read the threadt from page 1 ur answer lies therein..
Hey HARDDON got new pair of balls for this gee?

johnson232:

U re welcome sir
We all passed through this phase, but at a very early age
I know it is not gonna be easy to forget abt her
I know u still fantasize about her at night while in bed
But there are certain things u must do as a man
You just have to let her go & forget abt her
It is hard, because i can see u love her, but u can do it, we all did it in the past
Believe me u gonna be the final beneficiary in the long run
Just find a female friend to communicate with, it will help u to erase her thought if u cant do it on your own...Pls be firm in all u do, don't be swayed...

magikalz:



This nigga is confused, I swear. You have your balls already, the relationship isn't defined just as you want it. You are knacking kpomo steadily. In fact you said you are the first man there. What else do you want??

Drabeey:



i will. i have a lot of chics.... just dat i felt like settling with ds one. bt i will sure let her be

cromz:
k bro wat should I do