No need to kill youself when people are seriously looking for who to use for ritual u can declear urself and let the person balance your family


My thought though...

OP...I can't reaɗ all the comments. Ɓut taƙe mine as seriously as ƴou can. I ɗated her for 6years just like ƴou. Ɗisvirgineɗ her in the seconɗ ƴear. Sir, that was the turning point. She only grew up- a normal phase of life. Ƴou haɗ her as an iɗeal ɓut you got the real. Holla me privately anɗ I will gist you what I went through. Trust me, ƴou will oɓserve a pattern in our experiences. Meanwhile: remember Goɗ ɗiɗ not consult ƴou before creating her. Taƙing your life will not take away hers. Sit still, anɗ learn from people who have experienced what you just saw.

policy12:

Bros please forgive her o, please she is the one today it can be you tomorrow. Bros the pic below had a message.

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Bros please forgive her o, please she is the one today it can be you tomorrow. Bros the pic below had a message.

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policy12:

Bros please forgive her o, please she is the one today it can be you tomorrow. Bros the pic below had a message.

It doesn't rain in the artic

Op, I think you lack experience about this modern women. Maybe you are one of those men who boast that not all girls cheat because you girl doesn't. Even pastors' wifes cheat and you can never find out because of their holier than thou countenance. Forgive her if you think her attitude is ok. though, still have reservation on the aspect of her chatting with other guys when you guys have misunderstanding. If you leave her, it is tekwumbo you'll still settle down with. Don't ever put your trust in nowadays social media women who justify their actions on the ground that guys cheat too as if they can propose and marry a man with their own money.

Typical 9ja man expecting to receive what you are not giving.
Him tell you say he is not perfect but trying his best. Plain speaking him dey play away game but has no expectation that his girlfriend is.

You propose for mouth and officially met your mama become engagement after 6 years you try. Make both of una no siddon officially declare monogamy you go just dey find the movies you dey look for her phone tire.

Long distance relationship too.

TonyeBarcanista:
Wow!!!
I see no reason for you not to discontinue with the affair

newyorks:
she wanna ve a test of life which u deprieved her,dnt think savalgery could help u.from ur reasoning u're still not matured,how can u confront a guy to the extent of killing him are u ok?was she compelled into the affairs,

u've got a fault so work on urself oga.

u may be right but if the lady in question truly want the relationship, both can work on their differences as long as she knows the guy truly love her and he's ready to satisfy her

freecocoa:
Dude forgive and forget ,proceed with the marriage ,that she slept with someone else doesn't mean she loves him, it was a simple mistake. At least that's what these men would say were the tables turned.

he'll never trust her again. There's no point continuing the relationship. Would you forgive a cheating partner? Once a cheat, always a cheat.

GudPpleG8Nation:

Do you think it's about money? Dear, it's not all about money, it's about my time, resources, trying to convince my parents to accept her due to tribal differences, risking my life on many occasions, etc

Still not enough reason to commit suicide or kill anyone. It hurts but you should just move on.

Sorry bro. My male good friend had a girlfriend whom he loved so so much with every bit of him, he was the one who deflowered her but in the end she betrayed the love, trust and friendship my guy had for this ungrateful girl by sleeping with almost all the guys he knew. But inspite of that, he still loved her, he has an intention to marry her too. In the end, she revealed the dark side to my guy. So, they broke up and went to their separate ways. My dear, if u want to settle your issue amicably with your financee, it should be your will to do so. Did she even apologize? Not all virgin ladies are faithful to their partners whether in relationship or marriage. Guy, the power to make things right is in your power. So do the needful.

probably u did not perform ur duty ..am sorry bro

it could have been you , sit her down , let her speak, let her pour her heart, ask her if she's still interested in committing to you alone in marriage, sincerely the trust has been broken so you have to be sure ,she still wants you

i believe you would still want her back if she pleads
A BROKEN RELATIONSHIP IS BETTER THAN A BROKEN MARRIAGE, don't say love is blind ,it has eyes o, forever is too long to be UNHAPPY.

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Bro just go, forget about her I know it's never easy but try and forget about her

I remember a day i was having sex with a girl, then her phone rang. When she picked, it was another guy calling her asking her where she was etc. She kept telling lies to the guy trying not to let me know what was happening. It was later i knew that she was cheating through reading her chats on whatsapp. I ended d relationship straight up having gotten my facts right and also discovering that she was full of lies. A hoe will always be a hoe.

'...The fault is not in us oh Brutus, but in our stars because we are weaklings.'
You have to understand how a woman is wired. If your woman do stupid things and you forgive her, dont ever think she will respect you because of that, rather she may remain with you, but you must have lost her respect. Women are like horse for horse traising, the more you flog them the faster and more loyal they take you. ' flog' here does not mean, beating. It means Being a man. Women expects us to be men and not weaklings. Has it ever crossed your mind while women die for sixpacks. They see men as symbol of power

Mugu u invested in a girl and u still had the guts to tell us? U be real ode, investing in a girl is like building a house in sambisa forest

My brother... Move on...or forever regret

chronique:


Nope. I always tell people to move if one partner cheats on the other. I can't stand infidelity. If I ever get married and for some reason mistakenly cheat on her, I'd ask for a divorce cos I wouldn't want to demand from her, loyalty that I can't give. The only reason I'd remain in the union is if she decides to forgive me despite me being unfaithful. But it wouldn't be me, demanding for what I do not deserve. Even if she forgives me, my mind won't be at rest cos my conscience would always prick me. I believe a woman shouldn't tolerate a cheating partner just as much as I believe a man shouldn't tolerate a cheating woman. Simple.

Hmmmmmm.... One amongst many. Cool state of mind.

Magnifico2000:
I can see Daeylar viewing this thread. Waht are you looking for here again? If i give u my heart promise me you wont break it *in jonsnow's voice*

I promise to stab it *in the night watch's voice* or eat it *in daenerys targaryen's voice, lol,

Was there any nice thing done to hearts in G.O.T?

You made me rewatch that scene of John snow being stabbed, Jon Snow's reaction to olly broke my heart. lol.

If a girl can cheat in an ordinary relationship then the tendencies are high that she will do the same when you eventually get married to her.. ..

Easy man this is what one experiences on our journey in Life. I know you truly loved the lady and now this happened. Nigger this is life or welcome to life.

If it was me, I will forgive her, if she is remorseful. Yes I said so. Humans are full of shit, we all make mistakes. If she is remorseful, forgive her, unless the other guy has has confused her.

chronique:


Nope. I always tell people to move if one partner cheats on the other. I can't stand infidelity. If I ever get married and for some reason mistakenly cheat on her, I'd ask for a divorce cos I wouldn't want to demand from her, loyalty that I can't give. The only reason I'd remain in the union is if she decides to forgive me despite me being unfaithful. But it wouldn't be me, demanding for what I do not deserve. Even if she forgives me, my mind won't be at rest cos my conscience would always prick me. I believe a woman shouldn't tolerate a cheating partner just as much as I believe a man shouldn't tolerate a cheating woman. Simple.

Nice to see

GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)

Kill yourself first or shatap

u wan kill yaself bcuz ur babe slp wit anoda man?...... eyaaaaaa!!! try it bt trust me she'l not feel a thing wen u'r gone.... she'l jst move on....

Na so HIV dey spread oo

had a similar issues she told me she was done with the guy!!! Told the guy she was done with me imagine ooo but I felt bad but got over it over time but my investment didn't wast :-Xe you get Wah I mean so catch your fun while you still can and it's not too late to find someone you can share your life with

GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)

Your mistake was that you felt since you dv her meant she'd be loyal to you for life, wrong. From your write up, seemed it was long distance, if so, another mistake even as a guy it takes the grace of God not to talk of lady that would be subjected to pressures from every angle. For me out of sight is out of mind .

GudPpleG8Nation:

Do you think it's about money? Dear, it's not all about money, it's about my time, resources, trying to convince my parents to accept her due to tribal differences, risking my life on many occasions, etc

move on with your life.... it's not a mistake U found she has cheated on you...you both met for a blessing or a lesson..... it's not worth your life n making her useless is not the right thing to do at all.... karma will always have it's way.....move on bro

GudPpleG8Nation:

Thank you so much, sir.
The lady has been begging me. I saw her mom before I traveled back to Lagos yesterday morning, she kneeled down, begging me (she was heartbroken, she never believed until I played the confession recording to her).
Her mom have been calling to beg. I'm very Confused right now, I don't know what to do and how to go about it?

If she is genuinely remorseful, accept her apologies and move on. Shiit happens once in a while and there is no guarantee that the next girl won't be far worst. Love, relationship and marriage comes with lots of complications. You have to be patient and be ready to let go of lots of things. After marriage, you are still going to be faced with far more difficult situations than this so, you better brace up.

Take heart...shit happens...and please dont kill your self over some dumb ungrateful bitch..better days will come

You dey mad? Making the girl useless? Na you born am? She's not your "wife" yet, she can fück the entire country. Even if you are married to her, the worst you can do is a divorce. But right now, you either "deal with it" or let her go.

Imagine, 30 years old boy wan commit suicide. But when you dey dis virgin her, you no know say other guys eye dey too? Mehn guy grow up.