Last week, in an interview with Okey bakassi on Channels TV, Nollywood Actress, Monalisa Chinda dropped her opinion concerning domestic violence. She advised women to quit provoking their men into punching and slapping them as she claims women talk a lot cos they have this runny okra mouth. SEE THREAD https://www.nairaland.com/4053704/women-should-quit-provoking-men

Her quote:

As much as as most of us don’t like domestic violence, women should quit provoking their men into punches and slaps and all kinds of things. Haven’t said that… I was going through… cos I’m a domestic violence… eh… (laughs)… I don’t want to go there please, that’s not why I’m here. I always research when I hear stories that come up, fresh stories… of course this is close to my heart. I always dig in and half the time it’s the women. God just gave us the very runny okra mouth… we talk a lot.

However, fellow Nollywood Actress, Uche Ogbodo disagrees with her stance. She says the talk that a woman is the one that pushes her man’s button to anger is not true and that a man should never react violently no matter what a woman does.

Her Instagram quote:

First of all, society looks down on women who stay in abusive relationships and pities them for being “helpless” and “weak.” Domestic violence victims can’t be categorized into a stereotype, but range among all types of women. Yet society places a specific insecure, weak, vulnerable woman into the category of most likely to be in an abusive relationship.

Rather than ridicule or punish the man who commits the abuse, this wrong perception will fault the woman for putting up with it because she possesses these negative traits. Women are taught that it is our personality “traits” that got us into this problem, and therefore we feel we must solve it.

As a result, women are quick to blame themselves for why our significant other is acting so violently. We angered them, we upset them, we pushed their buttons — but none of this is true. It shouldn’t matter what you do or how you live your life, it is the man’s choice to react in a violent or physical way.

As little girls growing up, we learn fast to always be aware and to always be afraid. Girls are told to dress and act a certain way so as not to upset men, yet boys are not lectured on how to react when angry or treat women respectfully. A man’s anger is equal to his power, try and diminish it and you risk emasculating him. It is this gender stereotype that makes it easy for women to receive the blame for abusive relationships instead of the man.

https://www.wotzup.ng/uche-ogbodo-disagrees-monalisa-chinda/

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Uche Oloso sorry Ogbodo; you are doing yourself. Kontinu.

Nigerian movie industry now brings to fore women of easy virtue as celebrities. Imagine a nonentity like Uche Oloso sorry Ogbodo.

Is that a nose ring?... I wouldn't imagine why any man would want to spend the rest of his life with such a woman, but like they "do not judge a book by its cover"

Mtcheww

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Those three posters above me though , na 5g una dey use


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Abeg which one disagree and which one agree As I see breast na hin my brain reboot

First of all, society looks down on women who stay in abusive relationships and pities them for being “helpless” and “weak.” Domestic violence victims can’t be categorized into a stereotype, but range among all types of women. Yet society places a specific insecure, weak, vulnerable woman into the category of most likely to be in an abusive relationship.

To be sincere, every woman wants to just blame society... All these celebrities makes me wonder if they actually know what they say..

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Uche should shut up abeg wetin she know

My Bae knows that no matter the level of provocation, I can never lay my hands on her and she also know better not to exploit that chance because what I will do to her ehnn domestic violence will be a mercy.

Say no to domestic violence.
Say yes to using your brain instead of your hands to deal with your spouses.


Let me stop here because I have the propensity to always spoil my comments with nonsense after making common sense.

OK

Bag of breast


Watch the breast sotay' my indomie don born for fire

Run for ur life

Well, Monalisa kind of looks more responsible.

Just one prayer point Lord, just one...

"Give me wealth that is capable of shutting any woman up, because it's only an unfortunate man a woman talks to anyhow"


Thank you Lord for answering my prayers.
In Jesus name I pray,
Amen! Fire! Thunder! Volcano, Irma 8, Hurricane 4, 5 and 6.

I hate all these nonsense of no matter what a woman does that men should not raise their hands... I'm not a supporter of domestic violence but of the truth women should curtail their utterances... verbal abuse is same thing as physical abuse and there is no right for a woman verbally abusing his man and expect him to clap for her.. both men and women are humans made of same flesh and blood period.

So none of you noticed the stretch marks on Uche's boobs?
What exactly is she flaunting?

While the men are been taught to control themselves/fist no matter the level of provocation from their women, the women should also be taught to bridle their tongue no matter the provocation too....

If you think your power is in your tongue, he will show you his power is in his fist

Most men can't stand their ego be soiled in the mud, unfortunately, that's what most women do to the men.

what kind of English is this?

Bigii:
Bag of breast


Watch the breast sotay' my indomie don born for fire

this one full of crap strikes again....

as humans we should be taught "how we are responsible for our actions "

man=human
woman =human

let's see ourselves as humans first, before gender

don't strike so as not to be striked ....we are equal

Florblu:
So none of you noticed the stretch marks on Uche's boobs?
What exactly is she flaunting?

The thing weak me.

Their prob

opeyemiieblog:
n who is she to disagree

I wonder! Mad girls always think they have an opinion

They are both correct

If it is uncool for men to be abusive both physically and otherwise, why should abusive women be a norm.

kindly block this fella he is a fraud, the MTN online/ website is parading is a fake one and he will swindle your credit as he did to me

byt64096:

Two idiot sluts

interestingly, Mona Lisa said the truth. And it's the truth many idiots will never want to own up to....

As it is wrong for a man to beat his wife, It is wrong for a woman to have a careless mouth.

Is the perfect society for this excuse of a woman, a place where men don't beat their wives but the wife still runs her mouth like a serviced generator?

Hypocrite.

I agree with Uche.
Society is too quick to place the blame on women when such problems arise in relationships.
It almost seems like the man has the license to assault and maltreat his girlfriend or wife simply because 'she asked for it'.
No one talks about the inability of the man to restrain and control his animalistic tendencies.

Both men and women are victims of abuse. It's not all about the woman.