scottB:
I'm a young guy of just 23. For quite sometime now I have been having issues settling down with a lady to call a girlfriend.
Each time I make up my mind to start a relationship, my body secretes excess andrenalin and I become scared and draw.
The thing is... I have mixed feelings, emanating from religion and morals. Questions like, what would I be doing in this relationship now? is it really necessary? What if I'm tempted to have sex with her? What if she eventually gets preg? Why not wait and finish my studies?(I'm a final year student). So many thoughts that have kept me away.

What's the way forward fams?


Before you jump in and hurl insults, just no that you don't necessarily have to comment. Thanks.

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MrBrownJay1:


these are not symptoms of fear of commitment... this is simply a confused insecure state of mind, due to immaturity.

here is a clue:
- what should you be doing in this relationship now? CONFUSION
so you want to be in a r/ship but you have ABSOLUTELY no idea why?! then i suggest you figure out what you desire for yourself, and why before attempting to do anything in your life (let alone being in a r/ship)

- is it really necessary? CONFUSION
did anyone force you? wasnt it your own body who started shaking and wanted to be in a r/ship?! why dont you use your brain and answer that question by yourself... or is that too complicated for you?!

- What if I'm tempted to have sex with her? INSECURITY
then you can either say NO or have sex with her. the choice will always be YOURS.... but worrying about this now shows your insecurities and lack of self esteem. as if sex was by force!

-What if she eventually gets preg? IGNORANCE
there are many safe ways to make sure she doesnt get pregnant.... abstinence, condoms, birth control etc

-Why not wait and finish my studies?(I'm a final year student) CONFUSION
so people cannot study and be in r/ship again?! is that so difficult to do?! it is obvious that a r/ship is just too much of a burden to you, so i suggest you run to church and pray for the devil (and r/ship) to stay away from your mind....nonsense!

MrBrownJay1:


these are not symptoms of fear of commitment... this is simply a confused insecure state of mind, due to immaturity.

here is a clue:
- what should you be doing in this relationship now? CONFUSION
so you want to be in a r/ship but you have ABSOLUTELY no idea why?! then i suggest you figure out what you desire for yourself, and why before attempting to do anything in your life (let alone being in a r/ship)

- is it really necessary? CONFUSION
did anyone force you? wasnt it your own body who started shaking and wanted to be in a r/ship?! why dont you use your brain and answer that question by yourself... or is that too complicated for you?!

- What if I'm tempted to have sex with her? INSECURITY
then you can either say NO or have sex with her. the choice will always be YOURS.... but worrying about this now shows your insecurities and lack of self esteem. as if sex was by force!

-What if she eventually gets preg? IGNORANCE
there are many safe ways to make sure she doesnt get pregnant.... abstinence, condoms, birth control etc

-Why not wait and finish my studies?(I'm a final year student) CONFUSION
so people cannot study and be in r/ship again?! is that so difficult to do?! it is obvious that a r/ship is just too much of a burden to you, so i suggest you run to church and pray for the devil (and r/ship) to stay away from your mind....nonsense!

FvckShiT:
Fûçk relationship!

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scottB:

Thanks, this is most helpful, the nonsense part tho!!

MrBrownJay1:


the nonsense part is just to drive a point accross... you see living in FEAR will always have you doubt yourself, and questioning your life (even stop you from achieving your life goals). LIVE YOUR LIFE, and stop worrying about BS that is truly irrelevant.