Straight to the point.

A friend of mine is getting married to a Yoruba girl that he's being in love with over the years.
He finally agreed to walk her up the aisle. Apart from the "crazy" list he was given to procure, he called me to ask if I knew anything about the "Yoruba Culture" that says it is the groom's responsibility to clothe the bride's family on both the traditional and wedding day proper.
I did the little research I could and told him my findings which was a "NO - NO". He relayed same to his bride to be but she hit him back with an argument that it's a tradition and must be kept.
Presently he is threatening to walk away from the whole wedding thing but I asked him not to take any rash decision yet while I enquire further.
So I ask, whether Yoruba or Igbo or even Hausa,
IS IT THE GROOM THAT CLOTHES THE BRIDE'S FAMILY FOR THE WEDDING after the list he's been given to procure?

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i dont know about yoruba' but a family friend did her's sometime ago and yes, it was the groom that bought clothes for her parent.

No,matter of fact,it's strange to the Yoruba culture.
The bride's family will not only buy their clothes but take care of guests at the reception.
Your friend's bride's family must have a different idea.

I don't know if it is general,but as the groom to be you get the brides parents complete attire for the wedding ceremony. Its done in my side(Delta state-Urhobo to be precise)

Make dem kuku calculate their burial dress join too


Nah because their child never tey for house.


Irunu buruku

xendra:
i dont know about yoruba' but a family friend did her's sometime ago and yes, it was the groom that bought clothes for her parent.

is it a cultural thing or he did it just to help out?

I've never heard of such, the guy is marrying into an hungry leeching family.

hayfay:
I don't know if it is general,but as the groom to be you get the brides parents complete attire for the wedding ceremony. Its done in my side(Delta state-Urhobo to be precise)

Well we're talking about the Yoruba Culture here

korel9:


is it a cultural thing or he did it just to help out?

it wasn't to help out, it was demanded. the girl's parent were well to do, not wealthy but they were very ok financially.

decatalyst:
Make dem kuku calculate their burial dress join too


Nah because their child never tey for house.


Irunu buruku

brother easy nah

xendra:
it wasn't to help out, it was demanded. the girl's parent were well to do, not wealthy but they were very ok financially.

"Demanded" as in culture? if yes, under which category of demands would you classify that?

korel9:



"Demanded" as in culture? if yes, under which category of demands would you classify that?

my dear, na where I know d story reach be dat. if your friend dont want to marry because he dont want to buy cloth he should leave the girl o, person wen go ready buy cloth go come marry her. but in his nxt search make he look out well because some tradition demand worse pass cloth. ...

Sisisioge, what say you?

Acidosis, do Yoruba grooms buy wedding cloth for their prospective in-laws?

Oyb? Bellong?

Ishilove:
Sisisioge, what say you?

Acidosis, do grooms buy wedding cloth for their prospective in-laws?

Haa! No o. It is not a tradition. However, if the bride's family aren't buoyant enough, the groom can buy it out of his own volition. It is their daughter that would present it to them as it she bought it though. I have seen this happened before.

Ishilove:
Sisisioge, what say you?

Acidosis, do Yoruba grooms buy wedding cloth for their prospective in-laws?

Oyb? Bellong?

Ishi, I don't follow traditions o, but buying wedding cloth for one's in-law is not a bad idea.

Acidosis:


Ishi, I don't follow traditions o, but buying wedding cloth for one's in-law is not a bad idea.

The groom isn't challenging it as an idea but the imposition that it's a tradition is what he's trying to clear

Are the bride's family Paupers?
Normally, the Grooms family provide their own clothing, while the family of the Bride provide theirs seperately.

If dem no get money, no be by force to dress in expensive wears.

BUT

If the groom/husband feels like he WANTS TO do it, i.e provide for his bride's family of his own free will, then why not. All na luf

scholes0:
Are the bride's family Paupers?
Normally, the Grooms family provide their own clothing, while the family of the Bride provide theirs seperately.

If dem no get money, no be by force to dress in expensive wears.

BUT

If the groom/husband feels like he WANTS TO do it, i.e provide for his bride's family of his own free will, then why not. All na luf

It is not a Yoruba tradition for the groom to buy clothes for the in laws, however some families do make such demands. The common thing is for the couple to get such clothings for the parents on the 2 sides out of their own volition but not forced.
I did not expect my retired in laws and parents to be able to buy their own clothings, so it was factored to be part of our expenses,. Likewise when my siblings got married.
Your friend is likely seen as a jackpot. As you stated they also demanded some other things. God help him.

korel9,

Can you mention the name of the State and even the city? This is alien to Yoruba tradition.

Agbaletu:
korel9,

Can you mention the name of the State and even the city? This is alien to Yoruba tradition.

she's from Osun state o

korel9:


she's from Osun state o

She's a senseless chick from a hungry family. Beware...

As you all know, we LIKE TO PARTY. Our wedding ceremonies are very colourful and classy but we are no money-grubbing demons. It is not a Yoruba thing for the groom to buy clothes for the entire village. Haba!
Your friend, the groom is the new Jesus for the bride's family as they've casted ALL their cares upon him. He won't know what hit him when those people are done with him