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Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Franzinni: 12:23pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Trust is a powerfool tool!!!!! |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by akigbemaru: 12:24pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Prec1ous: |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Holyfield1(m): 12:25pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Skinni:It's one month now and you're not back yet... Okay o! |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by NothingDoMe: 12:26pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Prec1ous:and you had to drag FTC. Where is the trust? |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by chigoizie7(m): 12:30pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
I agree with u 100% 2 Likes |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by thesuave10(m): 12:30pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Prec1ous.,. Your argument has not fully studied other parameters of the issue. Do you also know that a partner going through your phone at every single opportunity can be a sign that the partner doesn't trust you. Facts and studies have shown that people who find it incredibly hard to trust can't be trusted either. Now how does late nights and all the other gabbage you said relates to trust? Is late nights and friends with the opposite sex now an accurate measure of trust? ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Oladeeone: 12:30pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
RuthDaniels:This is Gold,thumbs up 1 Like |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by talk2percy(m): 12:31pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
I don't even trust myself and most of her friends are males and she sings it to me everytime to trust her. I dey craze ![]() |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by thesuave10(m): 12:33pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Op also trust is multi dimensional...... You cannot trust someone 100% in all dimensions of trust.. |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by madridguy(m): 12:33pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Nice write up. |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by fashrola(m): 12:33pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
STOP asking her to TRUST you bro....PUT in PATIENCE, CONSISTENCY, LOVE and STRENGTH to EARN her trust and DESTROY her WALLS..... |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by JimD(m): 12:34pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Love is trust. You take away trust, then you don't love. |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by dataking: 12:35pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
internationalman: Practice makes perfection. Sharp guy 1 Like |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by chukzyfcbb: 12:40pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Trusting in people gave my Dad High Bp that led to his death and it made my grand dad lose some properties at Key locations. Ever since then, have learnt never to trust anyone. I don't even fully trust my Family 100%, how much more a spouse. I have Trust issues and I am fine bout it. I only trust my team FCB ![]()
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Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by YungRichG1: 12:41pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Same goes to that biatch *alenci* u lied to me every single day and i would always forgive u...i forgave all ur lies for 2YEARS and 3MONTHS..u wud hang out with all ur ex's and com bak telling me u wer in ur house.u wud compare me 2 every man on d street n still expect me 2 trust u..useless idi*ot . When i had finally had it up to my neck u started tellin me abt trust..hw can i trust u afta eveytin...i still love n miss u but its ova same goes with d trust i had 4 u all dashed 2 d wall.... Sorry 4 d outburst this topic just clearly expresses how i felt abt trust for a lying partner.. 1 Like |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by greypencils: 12:45pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
And what is the opposite of trust? Distrust...nothing kills a relationship more than that. When you have to explain your every move you make, your every word you say. Each person by default keeps a little of himself/herself no one is 100 percent open. And when such a person is seen to be hiding information, because you have learnt not to trust, distrust is your default position towards that person. Imagine i want to prepare a surprise birthday party for my woman and i do things secretly so that she doesnt find out, i call the caterer, a beautiful woman, meet with her a couple of times in other to get things right...and my partner suddenly finds out i am making such secret calls, if distrust is her natural default, how does she enjoy me. Lets say i am broke and i dont have the money to call daily but i do call every other day, a woman with trust issues will assume i am double dating, meanwhile i am just a broke guy trying to make ends meet. Trust should be earned agreed but it is wrong to have distrust as a default disposition. It is best to keep an open mind. Not trusting, not doubting either, Most especially not worrying too much what your partner is doing. You get yourself busy making money or being generally busy and let your partner crave for your attention. Have a semblance of not caring but keep your eyes open. And most importantly be in love but NEVER love a 100percent. You can give a 85-95...keep some sanity for yourself. 5 Likes |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by groovie(m): 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
This has got to be the best topic i have seen on nairaland all year long. This proves the point that love is not effortless, its effortful. Love at first sight is not love but cathexis & erotic passion. The real love requires continuous work until the end. Nice one OP 2 Likes |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Hedonistically: 12:48pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
I've been at the forefront of this argument for a very long time now. Any girl who parrots 'trust' and 'insecure' at the slightest provocation is a slut that you should get rid off immediately... Certainly not a wife or long term material. I read the stupid comments of fake Nairaland feminists like coco whatever and the rest, and I just laugh. You'd see a dirty girl lament that why should her boyfriend or husband feel "insecure" just because she is traveling on a so-called official trip with her boss - where they would likely stay in the same hotel! Or why a husband should be insecure just because she has close male friends! Just imagine! Foolish people. 4 Likes |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Nobody: 12:49pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by JeffreyJamez(m): 12:51pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Interesting article |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by BabaIbo: 12:54pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
That's how I trusted my gf until she confessed to me that she cheated on me during my NYSC program...though we are still dating because I forgv her but mehn my trust level for her is 0.00, though I gave her another benefit of doubt and if she act normal I will promote her benefit of doubt to confidence but as for me trusting her I don't think so... what I'm trying to say is that you give people benefit of doubt to make them happy n loved, when they act well you build confidence in them... at a point u can decide to put your trust in/on them but that's up to you... Benefit of doubt => Confidence => Trust 3 Likes |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Prec1ous(m): 1:03pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
thesuave10: I respect your comment and your point of view. Just the way you are certain so also I am. No one will check your phone if you don't act like a squirrel hiding nuts always. I understand you. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Hedonistically: 1:04pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
BabaIbo: Only a certain kind of man puts up with a cheating girlfriend. Sorry to say but it's not the kind of man any man should be proud of. Nothing wrong with a cheating side chick or Bleep buddy or booty call.. That's part of the no strings attached unwritten rule. But a cheating girlfriend with the heavy commitment burden? Nope. You don't put up with that, unless you have no option. And if you have no option, then she would easily see through you and recognise what you are.. . A thoroughly inferior beta male. 2 Likes |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Prec1ous(m): 1:05pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
YungRichG1: I am sorry brother, but at least you are wiser now and no more room for complacency and blind trust. Anyone who verbally asks for trust is a thief, you have to prove to be trustworthy. |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Prec1ous(m): 1:07pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
greypencils: Brother, a birthday is a one day affair in a year, or are you planning the birthday everyday? I understand some women have trust issues, but it is a factor of how confident she is in you. You gave a great input, and I learnt some things too though. Thank you |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Prec1ous(m): 1:08pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
BabaIbo: You already know the drill. Love needs trust to be maintained, and that trust need to be worked for. It is not a walk in the park. 1 Like |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Nobody: 1:10pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
jamariwolf: ![]() ALOOOOHA! ♧ I dont see u around? Hope u doing great up there as u celebrate ur independence day.. ![]() |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by thesuave10(m): 1:12pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Prec1ous: Certain about a lie doesn't make it relevant. Your case is a flawed one tho. Wanting to go through your partner's phone at every given time is a sign of distrust... So your basically distrusting your partner before you even saw anything. That is a psychological problem. A mad man is "certain" that eating dustbin is good for him. Certainty has no weight on the validity of your argument. Also trust is multidimensional. For example. You can trust someone to be punctual but may not trust someone on something else. From your write up you're probably having issues with cheating.. Now do you know the Cool part of the psychology of distrust? ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Nobody: 1:13pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
IamKashyBaby:yeah. I'm around, just coming from church. Independence celebration is freaking cool here. |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by IzyLuv(f): 1:13pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
Had to log in to reply... Atleast I know I'm not insane for thinking like OP. I particularly love this "Trust is not something you pick off the ground, you work for it." Trust is earned and if it has been broken once, then more work should be done. Talk about "Just trust me" Tor! |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Nobody: 1:15pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
jamariwolf: ![]() Oooh I see..I never tot ur a religious man. ![]() Anyway, so there will be a party today on your streets or fireworks maybe like the 4th of July celebration style? |
Re: Your Partner Does Not Deserve Your TRUST And This is The Reason Why! by Prec1ous(m): 1:16pm On Oct 01, 2017 |
thesuave10: I still understand where you are coming from and it's great. Thank you for stopping by. |
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