Shey its you people that are looking for God fearing lady na, that's how one fine guy said he won't date me cos I don't attend church

frenzyduchess:
Shey its you people that are looking for God fearing lady na, that's how one fine guy said he won't date me cos I don't attend church

why don't you attend any church? Of all What God has done for you.... what you have seen and what you are yet to see, is it that you still not convinced about the coming of Jesus Christ... You ought to be an ambassador for Christ... Pls.. see to this, and choose a church among the numerous churches... serve God with the whole of your heart and your life will not remain this same...

And who told you I don't believe in God, Hahahahah, lots of people think church attendance is what will take people to heaven ,no bro, what's important in this life is 1)peace with your self
2) peace with the creator
3) peace with your neighbor
but we focus on the number 2 and skip numbers 1 and 3
This is why we have so many churches yet evil and iniquities abound. We are not even at peace with our selves not to talk of being at peace with the world

luckydion:



why don't you attend any church? Of all What God has done for you.... what you have seen and what you are yet to see, is it that you still not convinced about the coming of Jesus Christ... You ought to be an ambassador for Christ... Pls.. see to this, and choose a church among the numerous churches... serve God with the whole of your heart and your life will not remain this same...

colins100:
Didn't u knw all these befor you married her,

You can discover a person prays from 12am to 3am, and then from 5am during dating?

Please pray, it works. Pray to God to open her eyes. Don't argue with her it would make things more difficult

sway112:


bros no be church matter .... when a woman is lonely and not getting enough attention from her husband everyone becomes her enemy starting from mama nkechi selling indomie across the street to her husbands boss, everything becomes spiritual and demonic

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looks like a case that needs psychological attention

God help us with this Christian race, different doctrines. even the Bible says vegence is mine, no one is saying don't pray for against your enemies, but not to the extent of saying they should die. we are even an enemy to God sometimes due to our attitude to him, but he forgives Us. prayer shouldn't be to an extent that you are disturbing the next person with it.

adetayo234:


You are having very strong problem with simple understanding. The origin of this discuss is that you said humans can't command God, and I've given you Bible verses that showed God wants humans to command him. Please don't infect me with your spirit of confusion.

Lol!
Good luck

solozo72:
OP, I will be very frank with you. Your wife has a psychiatric problem.


I have seen her type and the end was not pleasant. Her condition will degenerate. Soon she will start seeing you as one of the demons that she's trying to cast out. Then she will get delusional and start hearing voices. At that point, you would have finally lost her.

The signs are just too obvious. Her seeing enemies in everything/everybody, her waking at night to bind and cast evil, her lack of enough sleep, her talking alone for long periods of time.

Get her psychiatric help fast and save your marriage and your own sanity.

May the force be with you.

She might even end up killing the husband while he's asleep. I pity the OP.

Don't loose hope God will change her life.

Memories12411:

Good question! Some of the churches and the attitude of their members is outrageous and unjustifiable.

not good for you to judge others, if you know what they are preaching in a church does not conform to the Bible standard you quit. it's left for others to follow suit.

Brothers and sisters before you marry pls be very sure you are compatible with your partner. My one cent

OP I think she needs counselling, pls get her a good counsellor

fowlyansh181:
i am not saying you are poor OP, or mean it as an insult or anything, but poverty or atleast not having enough is what's affecting this marriage. If the house was big enough there wouldn't be a need for all this nor you even noticing how she prays , neither would she disturb your peace , also you would work and be so busy you hardly even have time for her shenanigans. If she had quite a lot on her plate to handle and not just being a private school teacher , she would have been exposed to realize some of her actions are quite childish. I am not saying what she is doing is right at all neither am I cursing you out or saying you are poor . But I do know for a fact , talking and talking would change nothing as maybe she has less activities to occupy her time and neither are you firm to make her understand she is being crazy .. if that's all she does and she doesn't take her madness outside then I would advice just ignore her and tolerate her . Na she go tire .. or best get a divorce ..

Why have so many rooms when you can only sleep in one room, Some people don't want to be rich but comfortable. Acquiring wealth is sometimes a disease. The good news is that the OP realizes that his wife is sick and just like some folks pointed out, speak to her parent and if it persists, abeg move out of the house and if she is smart she will come to her senses but if not try to forget her. She is a religious fanatic and not a christian.

camaraderi:


Why have so many rooms when you can only sleep in one room, Some people don't want to be rich but comfortable. Acquiring wealth is sometimes a disease. The good news is that the OP realizes that his wife is sick and just like some folks pointed out, speak to her parent and if it persists, abeg move out of the house and if she is smart she will come to her senses but if not try to forget her. She is a religious fanatic and not a christian.

he wouldn't need to move out of the house if he had so many rooms like I said earlier , he would have moved to another room and ignore her. And when I said having a bigger house , I didn't mean he should build a big house or anything, I meant something bigger than a one room apartment as he said ..

I felt the same way, I suspect he is a teenager

Newboss:
Are you
for real?

I hope you get a wife like that and try what you just typed.

Are u saying u haven't touch ur wife for six months now!

This part of your story is too vague to agree with you that your home is collapsing. There is surely more to this.

However, I would like to remind you that the family that PRAYS TOGETHER STAYS TOGETHER. Also, CAN TWO WORK TOGETHER EXCEPT THEY AGREE?

Your wife's prayer style should NEVER BE a reason for any collapse in your home.

My Recommendation:
1. Keep talking to her about it. Study the scriptures together and you show her the part where it was said that her prayer style is not appropriate for God's children.
2. Keep praying for her SECRETLY so that God can give her understanding on the appropriate prayer styles.
3. Don't let her prayer style interfere with your role as a Husband and Father.
4. Be patient. Marriage is for better, for worse forever but if you apply the above three, everything will be fine.

Remember you are the Captain of your family (ship). If you allow your anger to get the best of you and walk away, the (family) ship will capsize drowning your wife and daughter. Of Course, you'll definitely regret this and give account to God for the family he gave you.

MY RECOMMENDATIONS ARE BASED ON THE BIT YOU HAVE TOLD US.

Your family is blessed.

frenzyduchess:
And who told you I don't believe in God, Hahahahah, lots of people think church attendance is what will take people to heaven ,no bro, what's important in this life is 1)peace with your self
2) peace with the creator
3) peace with your neighbor
but we focus on the number 2 and skip numbers 1 and 3
This is why we have so many churches yet evil and iniquities abound. We are not even at peace with our selves not to talk of being at peace with the world

dear.... really, but church plays apart but not all.... however u hav to identify with one.... is very important for life worthy of living...

mechanics:
not good for you to judge others, if you know what they are preaching in a church does not conform to the Bible standard you quit. it's left for others to follow suit.

It is too much mosquito bites that troubles Nigeria. Acute malaria retards the brain for real.

luckydion:


dear.... really, but church plays apart but not all.... however u hav to identify with one.... is very important for life worthy of living...

that's what you were made to believe, I don't share that same line of thought, have a nice day

madgoat:
like all this MFM members always killing their enemies with fire. They dont have single forgiving spirit in them when they pray.

are you an enemy or are you pained?

na wa oooo....so sure say ur wife no be mammy water?

wrongchoice:
I opened this new account to narrate my ordeal on how my marriage got to a near collapse now. i want people to learn from my experience, so, i will be getting different topics on this account how we got to this stage.

You did not make a wrong choice!
You were attracted to here spirituality when you started dating her. You didn't know the extent of her deepness.

Nevertheless, yours is a minor problem. Many men on hearing this would wish they can exchange their wives with you. The major problem in any marriage has to do with TRUST and CREDIBILITY issues. Since that's not your problem, you can easily solve it.

The first question is WHY is your wife like this?
She is fighting a spiritual battle for which there seems to be no immediate solution in sight (she could be suffering attacks at night).

WHAT should you do?
Since you can't pray like her, try to Understand her and buy an ear muffler to drown out her travailing prayers.
OR join her fight her battles: two shall chase 10,000.

Would you destroy your marriage because of your wives excessive prayers?

Yes!, she needs education to know that our enemies are not flesh and blood. Show her by the scriptures that we are to pray "for" and not "against" our physical enemies. But we are allowed tobpray dangerous prayers against demons and other malevolent spiritual entities.

A good Marriage is about having a good shock absorber. Work on yours in this case

Please I don't know you Mr. poster, but I want to beg you for one thing. Could you please quit this topic here and if it's a true life situation send me an e-mail and I will give you my contact for a private counselling free of charge. You and your wife need just a few things. You don't need to loose your marriage because of a praying wife. Many desire one but don't have. Send me an email here vmaxipro@gmail.com let's take it from there. Bless you.

wrongchoice:
I opened this new account to narrate my ordeal on how my marriage got to a near collapse now. i want people to learn from my experience, so, i will be getting different topics on this account how we got to this stage.

We stay in a room and parlor. I work in private firm and she works in a private secondary school as a teacher. We are blessed with a child.
When we got married 3 years ago, we used to pray together at least every morning and night but latter I had to stop praying with her for the following reasons;

1..Her prayer is mostly about attacking people most especially people that are close to me both male and female. Sometimes she would pray so that some will have accident ,some to run mad and all those kind of prayers . Even my boss at work inclusive for making me to stay beyond working hours sometimes .This irritates me a lot and so much against my belive on how to pray.

2..She curse more than a winch though under the seal of Jesus name and blood. This doesn’t make her different from a wicked herbalist in my own view.

3..And lastly, I later stopped praying with her when She would always wake up around 12 am to pray and fire till around 3 am .she will wake up again around 5 am preparing for the office.

4…Sometimes she would talk from 12am till 4am. I will wake up and sleep and still wake again to find her still talking on irrelevant.
She can do this for days. I do enjoy my sleep at best if she starts by 3 or 4. I have told her the effects of this on me.it always make me inactive in the office. It got to a stage I was not feeling fine without any physical sign. I had to go to the hospital for test and nothing was diagnosed. I knew I needed rest . Meanwhile, I am a kind of person that love thanking God for who I am and I love interceding for people around.
I told her and warned her to limit the hours so that I can have a good rest but she won’t listen instead she took it to another level each day. She was doing it as if I was against Christ or have a devil in me she wants to chase away with prayer.
Due to this, I later started having nightmares on almost on daily bases. I later started sleeping in the sitting room. Sometimes she would come and start singing and praying again. She forced me to tell a family friend and they told her the effects it may have on me again. So she stopped coming to the sitting room to pray again.

Funny enough, I am always sleeping fine in the sitting room and its now 6 months and I am enjoying it . To make it worst our bedroom is like a shrine to me now. I only enter, change my cloth after bath or change to house ware after work then retire to the sitting room till the following morning. In the last 6 months I don’t think I have spent up to five mints in the bedroom.
This is just one out of 100 things happing in my home which I will be sharing one after the other here for people to learn most especially people that want to marry. Presently, the home is about finally collapsing.

Next is write will be on the two major things I learnt from my marriage .

Try spending more time with her. How about more pampering.. like human hair (http://www.bhfroyalehair.com.ng) every now and then? Hope these helps. #pity!

Abeg drive that woman commot for house for 1 month back to her father's house. How can she be praying death, accident upon people related or closely related to you? She probably needs a change of job, that private teaching job isn't exerting her enough. Which person working a stressful and demanding job will be doing all those negative prayers. Guy, set your home in order jare. How can you be sleeping in the sitting room and for what? And just imagine, a husband has been sleeping in sitting room for months now and it hasn't occurred to the wife, something is wrong till the day she finally pushes him to the waiting arms of a another female outside and she/all others will blame the external woman. Some women use their own hand hands to spoil their own garri.

redsun:


It is too much mosquito bites that troubles Nigeria. Acute malaria retards the brain for real.

it's well my brother.

wrongchoice:
I opened this new account to narrate my ordeal on how my marriage got to a near collapse now. i want people to learn from my experience, so, i will be getting different topics on this account how we got to this stage.

We stay in a room and parlor. I work in private firm and she works in a private secondary school as a teacher. We are blessed with a child.
When we got married 3 years ago, we used to pray together at least every morning and night but latter I had to stop praying with her for the following reasons;

1..Her prayer is mostly about attacking people most especially people that are close to me both male and female. Sometimes she would pray so that some will have accident ,some to run mad and all those kind of prayers . Even my boss at work inclusive for making me to stay beyond working hours sometimes .This irritates me a lot and so much against my belive on how to pray.

2..She curse more than a winch though under the seal of Jesus name and blood. This doesn’t make her different from a wicked herbalist in my own view.

3..And lastly, I later stopped praying with her when She would always wake up around 12 am to pray and fire till around 3 am .she will wake up again around 5 am preparing for the office.

4…Sometimes she would talk from 12am till 4am. I will wake up and sleep and still wake again to find her still talking on irrelevant.
She can do this for days. I do enjoy my sleep at best if she starts by 3 or 4. I have told her the effects of this on me.it always make me inactive in the office. It got to a stage I was not feeling fine without any physical sign. I had to go to the hospital for test and nothing was diagnosed. I knew I needed rest . Meanwhile, I am a kind of person that love thanking God for who I am and I love interceding for people around.
I told her and warned her to limit the hours so that I can have a good rest but she won’t listen instead she took it to another level each day. She was doing it as if I was against Christ or have a devil in me she wants to chase away with prayer.
Due to this, I later started having nightmares on almost on daily bases. I later started sleeping in the sitting room. Sometimes she would come and start singing and praying again. She forced me to tell a family friend and they told her the effects it may have on me again. So she stopped coming to the sitting room to pray again.

Funny enough, I am always sleeping fine in the sitting room and its now 6 months and I am enjoying it . To make it worst our bedroom is like a shrine to me now. I only enter, change my cloth after bath or change to house ware after work then retire to the sitting room till the following morning. In the last 6 months I don’t think I have spent up to five mints in the bedroom.
This is just one out of 100 things happing in my home which I will be sharing one after the other here for people to learn most especially people that want to marry. Presently, the home is about finally collapsing.

Next is write will be on the two major things I learnt from my marriage .

Please take her to a psychiatrist. VERY IMPORTANT. Before it get worse. #talking from experience.

kenzindax:
I feel you really need more talking with her. please what's d name of d church she attends.

what do u want to hear ?? haaan haaan !!

nikky2012:
My mum is a member of mfm, Who truly forget after prayer there is a marriage to care for , my mum frustrated my dad to his grave, the poor man died last week and she became a happy widow. Bros be wise n shine ur eyes

Wow...so sorry for your loss...
some women just frustrate their husbands and kids in the name of religion.
Most people forget that prayer without work is DOD...work on the marriage and pray along

bender:
Guy let me analyse what you are going through. Let me assume she attends a deliverance church like mfm, chosen etc. Now when a person prays such deliverance prayers as she does, it deals with foundational issues such as witchcraftry, idolatry etc and In d process such powers fight back especially n d hours of 12-,3am and the attacks occur mostly through dreams n some even manifest In form of marks on the body. Now since u r married and are now one , when she wakes up to pray, if u fthe spouse is not praying too or is weak spiritually, those powers she is dealing with will attack you the spouse...,.. The good thing is this battle is not forever as she persists in prayers with time those powers leave her case n the prayers then help to strengthen her spiritual life.
So my advice to u is this, u shld be grateful she is a prayerful wife (and one way to notice the effect of those prayers is to checokout the growth in her physical life like career etc and her spiritual life), instead of fighting her why not guide her especially in her spiritual life, join her to pray when she wakes up maybe during the weekends and help her redirect her prayers aright.she needs u as a spiritual head. For more info you can PM me

You read that she prays for calamity to befall people & you encourage it even though it's contrary to ephesians 6:12? She curses & you encourage it? Is it that Jesus didn't tell us to love our enemies, do good to those that hate us, bless those that curse us & pray for our persecutors? Or wasn't it Jesus who asked God to forgive His murderers on the cross? Wasn't it Stephen whose last words was a prayer for God not to lay his blood on the charge of his murderers? Hmmm!! The Christianity we practice nowadays is something that doesn't seem so Christlike. Please let her direct her prayers on how to die to flesh & be transformed to the image of Christ. Also if she feels led to pray overnight she shouldn't keep her husband awake. It's called selflessness & consideration.