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Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 9:57pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Peachess: Conventional thought I don't support not hustling to go for higher institution but nevertheless Grade doesn't define intelligence 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by crixuss(m): 9:59pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
As far as I am concerned, there are three hallmarks of being educated. 1. The ability to express yourself articulately in spoken and written English(or the lingua franca of your country) 2. The acquisition of a skill or knowledge that is marketable and lucrative. 3. Being extensively informed about your environment and the world at large. The above are what defines an educated person. and if I was a lady, this would be my criteria in choosing a guy, and not some piece of paper that can be easily bought or undeservedly acquired. 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Peachess(f): 10:02pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Tuham:I know it's not all about grades but to me it's the exposure higher institutions gives. Everyone has a choice and what they look for in a partner. Like some people won't even consider dating an ugly partner, but when someone else says what she wants, they abuse them and stuffs like that. I wonder when Nigerians will learn to respect other people's view even if they don't share the same view with them. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by shinarlaura(f): 10:06pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
BluntBoy: Thanks and same to you |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 10:10pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Peachess: I actually respect your view ma'am Infact i would likely tell my future daughter to do the same Ayam just am saying my thoughts 'bout the matter 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by pocohantas(f): 10:11pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
crixuss: There are people with the piece of paper ,they worked for it, they didn't buy it and they have all the above qualities, maybe that's what some ladies want... 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Peachess(f): 10:12pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Tuham:I know, I'm just mad at those people that have been quoting me, the funny thing they won't even advice their sisters or daughters to get married to someone like that. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by crixuss(m): 10:13pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
pocohantas: I agree that we all make choices but there is always an underlying reason for which those choices are made and I believe we should question those underlying reasons. That's the essence of this discussion. I might decide not to date a disabled person but my reason for doing this isn't the same reason why you wouldn't want to date someone who doesn't have a degree, hence why your analogy is flawed. The fact that you can't see how your analogy doesn't apply to this discussion is quite worrying. You made a choice not to date a guy without a degree and from weighing the underlying reasons for making the choice, I felt they were misguided and ill-informed probably because you haven't thought seriously about it, and all I'm trying to do is enlighten you on the subject 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by crixuss(m): 10:17pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
pocohantas: So essentially, the difference between someone who possesses the degree and has those qualities and someone who doesn't possess the degree but has those qualities is the paper? Meaning what you are actually interested in is the paper? 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 10:17pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Peachess: Just let it pass ehn, Some people can not deal with reality. And once again; you had a point but that does not mean i discarded my own opinion too oh Lol Good night 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Rubbiish(m): 10:18pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
trojan84:Not for too long, they will still know. It happened to someone close. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by crixuss(m): 10:19pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Peachess: I'd rather you present your own definition because it's now apparent that the definition of what an educated person is, is subjective. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by pocohantas(f): 10:21pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
crixuss: The fact that you can't see my analogy all stems down to choice is quite worrying. Your reason for not dating them is all about your choice and whatever revolves around that choice. My reason for not dating same disabled person might not be same with yours. Are there educated men who are smart, well informed and all those things you listed, who have degrees or relevant certifications they worked for? YES. That's the man I want. Misguided isn't up to you to judge. As long as no one is condescending about his or her choice, you should do well to stop playing judge judy. You're not any better if you won't date just anyone for any single reason, no matter how well informed you think your reasons are. crixuss: I'm interested in the formal process required in getting the 'paper'. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by iyketex007: 10:22pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
crixuss:Baba you just nailed the whole thing with those few lines. back then I used to know of about 2 guys that got admitted into my department illegally but they carried on with the rest of the students even up to there 400l,they always attended lectures and it was only in there 400l did they school now rusticated them. So if education in Nigeria is anything to go by,can we still call those guys uneducated or illiterates just because they failed to Clinch there 'degrees' on paper even after studying for 4years with just a few months to round up. 2 Likes |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by trojan84(m): 10:23pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Rubbiish:Dey will definitely knw since he has got nothing to hide |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by annayawchee: 10:26pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Is this not the same graduates that our universities are churning out? Graduates that can't speak nor write correct English? Graduates that think the world owes them a great debt because they sort there way through the university? There are so many non graduate out there whose intelligence surpass those grads.. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by BluntBoy(m): 10:28pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
shinarlaura:Merci, belle femme |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Augustap(f): 10:30pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
No i won't. Many things are at stake here. 1. Our opinions will always differ. 2. He would find it hard to keep an educative conversation alive. 3. I want a husband who will always help me clear my doubts especially academically. 4. My kids needs to learn from their father, not every time "where ur mama dey?" 5. I'm highly attracted to intelligence. 6. Some decisions would be hard to make in the family. 7. He'll always tag me "i too know". No be certificate i dey marry, but you've got to choose wisely. |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by crixuss(m): 10:32pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
pocohantas: But you have failed to present a tenable argument for why you prefer a person with a degree to one who doesn't. The only thing I can infer from everything you have said is that what you are mostly concerned about is the paper. You don't care about a man's level of intelligence, his wit, how informed he is, the marketable skills he has acquired, his level of financial success, or his ability to speak and write in proper English, as long as he doesn't have the paper he is unqualified to marry you. With all due respect and without wanting to sound condescending in anyway, this is a very naive opinion to have and it seems like the opinion of someone who has been brainwashed to regard having a degree as the most important criteria when choosing a man, and not an opinion she arrived at through independently thinking about the subject in an informed manner. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 10:32pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
pocohantas:gbam gbamer gbamest !!!!! We usually don't tell ourselves the truth in Nigeria |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by shinarlaura(f): 10:36pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
BluntBoy: De rien 1 Like |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 10:38pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
sunshineG:Chai! Which one is gbamer gbamest again? Lol |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 10:41pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
Pynkylypz:pigin English grammar we dey kampe edition |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by pocohantas(f): 10:43pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
sunshineG: They can keep deceiving themselves like they can marry just any person...they are better people, we are naive and ignorant |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by pocohantas(f): 10:44pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
crixuss: K Sir. You're right... |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 10:47pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
sunshineG:Lol.. Okay 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 10:48pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
pocohantas:Some of the ladies claiming they can date undergraduate are the most "egotistic" ladies on this forum ( full of themselves) like they own nairaland or something They even hardy return friendly mentions of guys they deem to be below them.... Hypocrisy at its peak |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by pocohantas(f): 10:54pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
sunshineG: I have no problem with their choices though, if they are okay with an 'undergraduate'...I am sure there is something else they will like about him. Something I might not care about. I also don't respond to mentions like that o. If I tell you my own reason, you will say I am worse. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 11:08pm On Oct 24, 2017 |
sunshineG:Jeez!! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Ladies, Can You Get Married To A Non Degree Holder? by Nobody: 8:00am On Oct 25, 2017 |
pocohantas:getting married to some of these illiterate traditional chiefs has many benefits for young ladies..if u are educated up to univ level they treat u more special compared to their other illiterate wives.u might have ur own flat with a car and a driver assigned.u will live in complete luxury.tell me wich lady can resist such in naija.and about the issue of bead wearing and wrapper tying ...it wont be a 24 hour tin na.its only during occasions u will have to wear beads and tie wrapper. |
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