I have a dilemma. I have a long distance relationship with this wonderful woman overseas. It's been going for two and a half years but I haven't met her yet. We've been contemplating meeting in person for months and I'm wondering if I should send money so she can visit or I go to her instead?
For some background, the woman I'm dating is from Odessa, Ukraine and we met through online chatting. It was from this site called A Foreign Affair It was recommended to me by friends who actually met their wives through the site.
I'm not "buying" a person, I'm only using the services. I talk to my gf on the phone with the help of a translator. That was a year ago, I'm getting better with my Ukrainian and she with her English We can communicate fairly well without help.
I want to know if it's safe to travel in Ukraine during December? I wanna spend the holidays with her. It's always been Skype and telephone calls in the past two years, I was thinking we should spend time together in person.
It’s not that I don’t trust her, it’s just I’m not sure if I want her to travel alone by herself coming here in Colorado. She did say that she will be fine and I know she can do it, but I dunno, I kind of feel iffy about it.
Tell me guys, should I visit her in Ukraine or should I just send her money to have her travel here US? Any advice will greatly help. Thanks in advance!!!

My dear Go to her ..... this is someone you haven’t met ...
after the first visit and you’ve met her the family it will be easier to send money so she can visit u too.

Never trust till you see face to face
All that long distance crap even we ain’t met face to face .. it’s A JOKE

Skyping and phone calls that one is a relationship No dear 2 years! you should have met her by now ..

Skype and phone calls for two years, wawu, me thinks you should go instead

Lalas247:


My dear Go to her ..... this is someone you haven’t met ...
after the first visit and you’ve met her the family it will be easier to send money so she can visit u too.

Never trust till you see face to face
All that long
distance crap even we ain’t met face to face .. it’s A JOKE

Skyping and phone calls that one is a relationship No dear 2 years! you should have met her by now ..

"never trust till u see face to face" yet u asking him to go?? ...ppl date longer than that from distance, situation differs.

IMO.....OP you know which favours your situation more,It would be better if you go, but if its for fear of your safety in her country then let her come. some naija will com and tell u abt money because that's our mentality. whether you send d money or go you'll still be spending money. jst do what you think is safer for both of you.

lalanice:
"never trust till u see face to face" yet u asking him to go?? ...ppl date longer than that from distance, situation differs.

IMO.....OP you know which favours your situation more, if its for fear of your safety in her country then let her come. some naija will com and tell u abt money because that's our mentality. whether you send d money or go you'll still be spending money. jst do what you think is safer for both of you.

Well that’s your reality do you live abroad ?
Are you currently in a long distance relationship ?
Do you know if in those two years she actually has a boyfriend in Nigerian and he may have no clue ?


That is the first thing you do before anything serious ... YOU MET THE PERSON YOU CLAIM TO LOVE
Anyone with a brain Skyping for 2 years and has the means to travel and see his love knows that’s the BEST option before moving forward .....

Its a 2 way thing actually,

Send her money to come over
If you are scammed, it will be a lesson but you will be alive. If she comes,lucky you.

If you go there, you might be lucky she is real or they use you for oyibo juju.

You decide

Lalas247:

Well that’s your reality do you live abroad ?
Are you currently in a long distance relationship ?
Do you know if in those two years she actually has a boyfriend in Nigerian and he may have no clue ?


That is the first thing you do before anything serious ... YOU MET THE PERSON YOU CLAIM TO LOVE
Anyone with a brain Skyping for 2 years and has the means to travel and see his love knows that’s the BEST option before moving forward .....

you probably didn't read she's is not a Nigerian. I don't have to be in it to know, yea you should meet d person as early as possible but like I said, situation may differ. I knw ppl who dated fr longer before they met

Lalas247:


My dear Go to her ..... this is someone you haven’t met ...
after the first visit and you’ve met her the family it will be easier to send money so she can visit u too.

Never trust till you see face to face
All that long distance crap even we ain’t met face to face .. it’s A JOKE

Skyping and phone calls that one is a relationship No dear 2 years! you should have met her by now ..

i agree with you dear

phintohlar:
i agree with you dear

Happy new month

lalanice:
you probably didn't read she's is not a Nigerian. I don't have to be in it to know, yea you should meet d person as early as possible but like I said, situation may differ. I knw ppl who dated fr longer before they met

Yes some rare cases very rare though

Can the two 'Lalas' chill out pls, b4 u both 'lock heads', y'all made nice points. .


@Op, just go to her,
On 2nd thought, u could go, she turns out to be a badâss, & u get caught up in the midst of some national security ish .

Lol, no mind me biko, too many action movies.

Just go to her, u get to travel, sight seeing, etc. Its all good.

Seem too many horror movies about foreigners getting hacked into pieces in Ukraine... Op you can go to her sha

Long distance relationship?

You are on your own.

Must times it don't work because people pretend. Talking on the phone Skype etc is different from real life.

Any of the two dear. I wish you luck

I smell scam.

Lalas247:
Happy new month

same here

lol, and what's wrong that he's dating a woman from Ukraine? Personally, I'm dating with an Ukrainian girl too, because they're so lovely! These women can charm with their beauty and the ability to cook delicious food. However, at the first date she seemed to be so care free, however, when I gave her a dozen of roses, she got upset, and I didn't know why, so I had to take these roses off in order to calm her down, and then I found a little bit of information in the article about how to impress a ukrainian woman, and there it was said that dozen of roses is related to funerals... However, all in all, this article helped me understand Ukrainian girls better, that's why we still have strong relationship

brainstorm214:
lol, and what's wrong that he's dating a woman from Ukraine? Personally, I'm dating with an Ukrainian girl too, because they're so lovely! These women can charm with their beauty and the ability to cook delicious food. However, at the first date she seemed to be so care free, however, when I gave her a dozen of roses, she got upset, and I didn't know why, so I had to take these roses off in order to calm her down, and then I found a little bit of information in the article about how to impress a ukrainian woman, and there it was said that dozen of roses is related to funerals... However, all in all, this article helped me understand Ukrainian girls better, that's why we still have strong relationship

how to impress ukrainian woman? Easy!

Like seriously, I'm in need of a white chick, I love them so much.

It's so disappointing that I'm new to these dating sites.
Any recommendations?