Cedarseeds:
I did some stuffs to my vagina and we had sex. It was like the whole process of deflowering again. He seemed satisfied.

Cedarseeds:
Please help I had to create a new account for this.

When I was 15, a man in our neighbourhood had sex with me. I was too confused and embarrassed to tell anyone about it. I didn't get pregnant. While growing up, I still remembered the incident and kept away from dating through out my university days.

I met my fiancé in 2014. Somehow I told him I was still a virgin when we were still getting to know ourselves. He asked me to marry him soon after. It seemed as if the main reason he wanted marriage was because he felt I was a decent girl and I didn't want him to find out after our wedding. I did some stuffs to my vagina and we had sex. It was like the whole process of deflowering again. He seemed satisfied.

The issue is that I feel scared starting my marriage on a lie. Standing before the priest when there's a secret between us. We've done the necessary intro. I don't know what to think anymore. Should I let him continue believing he's the only man I've been with?

SmellingAnus:
I personally don't even need a virgin wife... But if she is to lie to me that she is a virgin..

KreativGenius:



She has lost him before the wedding, the guy will definitely feel conned, and she'll pay for it big time. I wonder why chicks lie. If a guy loves you, he loves you. Stop raising expectations and then making pipu look stufid

Evaberry:
brb

tosyne2much:
I still don't know the essence of the lies oooo

The foundation of the relationship is already built on falsehood and there's no guy (including you and me) that wouldn't have a rethink even though the lady makes a confession

sinaj:
You better look for a way to tell him yourself even if it will cost you the wedding.
If he should find out himself he might feel betrayed nd hate u.

If he really loves you, the truth wnt stop him from getting married to you and if tries to stp the wedding just know he doesnt worth it.

I wonder why people lie to their loved ones

Ishilove:

So why do you want to now open up a can of dead, stinky worms? Why the awkwardness? He has already slept with you and was satisfied so why do you want to complicate your life?

Be wise. Forget the past, move on and let your secret remain between you, the long married man, Nairaland and your God.

Cedarseeds:
Please help I had to create a new account for this.

When I was 15, a man in our neighbourhood had sex with me. I was too confused and embarrassed to tell anyone about it. I didn't get pregnant. While growing up, I still remembered the incident and kept away from dating through out my university days.

I met my fiancé in 2014. Somehow I told him I was still a virgin when we were still getting to know ourselves. He asked me to marry him soon after. It seemed as if the main reason he wanted marriage was because he felt I was a decent girl and I didn't want him to find out after our wedding. I did some stuffs to my vagina and we had sex. It was like the whole process of deflowering again. He seemed satisfied.

The issue is that I feel scared starting my marriage on a lie. Standing before the priest when there's a secret between us. We've done the necessary intro. I don't know what to think anymore. Should I let him continue believing he's the only man I've been with?

tosyne2much:
Abi how you think am?

luminouz:

N how d fvck will he find out In a vision? From a phophetic mad man
He already tasted d coochie n he seemed satisfied!!!!
What's d use of telling him about d past again?? Which kain guilty conscience dey worry people like this?? Naso some so called born again reject their WAEC result coz they cheated.....few years to retirement......

stainless239:
Cedarseeds abeg wetin u use




A sister needs something lyk dat........

EfemenaXY:

You were 15 when it happened. A child. And it happened so many years ago. Is he (your fiancée) perfect??

Cedarseeds:
Please help I had to create a new account for this.

When I was 15, a man in our neighbourhood had sex with me. I was too confused and embarrassed to tell anyone about it. I didn't get pregnant. While growing up, I still remembered the incident and kept away from dating through out my university days.

I met my fiancé in 2014. Somehow I told him I was still a virgin when we were still getting to know ourselves. He asked me to marry him soon after. It seemed as if the main reason he wanted marriage was because he felt I was a decent girl and I didn't want him to find out after our wedding. I did some stuffs to my vagina and we had sex. It was like the whole process of deflowering again. He seemed satisfied.

The issue is that I feel scared starting my marriage on a lie. Standing before the priest when there's a secret between us. We've done the necessary intro. I don't know what to think anymore. Should I let him continue believing he's the only man I've been with?

sinaj:
I knw some people like you already have a dead conscience. Only if you know how it feels holding a grave secret like that.

1StopRudeness:


Babe... When you say a man had sex with you... Are u trying to tell us u were raped, or because u were young u feel it doesn't qualify as sex
You've eaten ur cake or should I say ur cake has been eaten.. which ever way you want to still have the cake.
Uve made mistake by lieing, u now went further to cover up the lie by making ur inexperienced to husband to feel he got a tear rubber..... If the guilty conscience is too much for you.. Tell him.. But brace ur self... The storm that will follow will come in Serious batches...
But this is my advice... Bone the parole... There is a saying :let sleeping dogs lie..... Ur case is a perfect example of such a saying...

No use ur hand pour sand for ur garri ooo

Gluhbirne:
The fear of him not marrying her shouldn't be a reason not to tell him her truth and walk in her peace. A man who's for her will forgive but if he leaves her over this then it means she dodged a bullet b/c he's definitely not for her. If she doesn't tell him now the guilt will continue into their marriage and if she ends up telling him then (one's truth always comes out one way or the other, especially where close-knit relationships are concerned) he will be more upset that she didn't tell him beforehand and there's no telling how that that will affect the dynamics of their marriage.

KreativGenius:




They don't listen. The expectation is not for them to be virgin but for them to be honest, the guy will feel like she payed him, which is what she did. Tosin,hope you've watched this film before? This guy will cheat through out the marriage, she can't
stop it, if she tries it, he will call her a cheap slut and will abuse her physically. Why don't girls use their senses ?