selflessmaya:


OP, you're smart to take this case to the police tomorrow, if your friend does not get maximum punishment, dont beat yourself up, matters like these happen everyday & the lousy police let the pervs walk, he wont be the first or last. just make sure the child leaves his house. u should not have confronted your friend alone, ppl only do hush-hush case-solving with cases like this if it's their family, the fact is, u have no legal rights over this girl, u are not her relation, if u wanted to stop her abuse, u should have blown the lid off instead of the soft approach u tried to use, that is only done by ppl who have the right to take matters into their own hands. if u were his brother or relative, it would make sense to try to confront him without the law, if he denies it, deep down, he knows the truth and once u remove the issue of him paying for his crimes and just want to extract the victim from his home, he wont fight u much on it cos he knows it could get worse, u can take the child with u and find a relative that'll have her. even family members have no right to forcibly take a child from the parent but in nigeria, family is cut a lot of slack. but u dont even have that leverage.

- u cant take her without his consent or changing the law.
- u cant arrest him, you're not the law.
- if he denies which he has, u lack the right to try to extract the information by force cos you're not the law.
- by law he is the one that has the custody & right to live with her, you dont have that right
- he's family, her father, you're nobody to her.

he has the law on his side on ALL COUNTS. he has the law against him for a heinous crime but the law does not know of that crime(cos u didnt inform) so he's a free man till the law not you, says so. idk why u thought it would be best to confront him without the law that has given him all the right that you're trying to take from him. what did u think would happen? that he'll cry and fess up? u had only one chance to confront him and u blew it but not speaking out then and you planned an unnecessary confrontation that'll cause this case to suffer cos now, he has all night to plan and arrange and let me guess, u left the girl in that same house to face him after the failed confrontation. u should have thought this thru... when making confrontation to intimidate an aggressor and extract a victim from a situation, rule of thumb: make sure that the plan u choose always ends with the victim leaving with u. the only thing that could have given this exact result is 2 things: if u had raised alarm when u saw it or if u had confronted him with the law. u approached him with an unsuitable method and now the imbalance of power is now very obvious to u. good luck tomorrow.

Gulderbottle85:

Where have you been?

selflessmaya:


i've been following this thread, sarcasm or smarting doesnt really work on me.. this is a serious matter, if u want to point something out to me, do so clearly. dont give me the "where have u been" ish. there's nothing about what i wrote that implies i'm not following. be clear or why mention me in the first place?

Gulderbottle85:



Where have you been?

Gulderbottle85:




Thank you!!!! He accepted partially and pleaded not to play with her in that manner again. The little girl will go for medical checkup tomorrow. I will keep the house posted.



I need someone who can assist to send me a DM I feel horrible already knowing I'm about to nail a guy I once called a friend.

miredia:
That was superb fiction. You did great. Storyteller!

Gulderbottle85:




Thank you!!!! He accepted partially and pleaded not to play with her in that manner again. The little girl will go for medical checkup tomorrow. I will keep the house posted.



I need someone who can assist to send me a DM I feel horrible already knowing I'm about to nail a guy I once called a friend.

Gulderbottle85:
I will do my best for her...... I will give update as we proceed

khome:
Is he the real dad?

MicheyJ:
He must be Yoruba.

Gulderbottle85:
Putting him behind bars will have effects on the child. Who will take care of her?

Gulderbottle85:
Long story short.....I have a friend who lives with his 13 yrs old daughter...... Recently a female friend who is a neighbor called me and told me the little girl confided in her that the father is harassing her sexually.

I was shocked but sometimes I stay in there home I used to notice some funny moves but I couldn't place my finger on it cos it all seems to me like Father and daughter love.

I couldn't ask the little girl cos I wanted to have a proof. Recently I came visiting and he started that rough play as usual but because I was already tipped as a result I was at Alert. I quickly told him I was going to the shop.....But I didn't go anywhere I came back immediately and went straight to the window. I saw him bouncing untop of her. The expression on her face broke my heart she is not happy.

I called that female neighbor and told her what I saw.....we told a friend we all questioned the little girl she confirmed it to be true.


Now what do we do? We planned to confront the father is this the best step to take?


I just want him to stop.

Gulderbottle85:
I was on a one week break from work I was supposed to travel back to my base on Thursday 16. It was because of this incident I stayed back. For all those who thinks I haven't done enough I forgive you. You don't love her mom. She's like a daughter to me. I have know her dad all my life.

TheTrueApostle:
Kai!!! This one tire me like weeeeeettttttiiinnn!!! Haba!!!

Baba; me I'm short of words, I no know Wetin to talk again!!!
Haba=!! No naaa!!!! Noooooooooooo!!!! Kai?!!!!

Oh.... Oboi, u for no make me see this thing na!!! Now I just can't sleep or rest!!! U just spoilt my day bro... Kai!!!


Ohhhhh. God!!!!

Op; Oboi, u no try for spoiling my mood like this..

Can your friend be assassinated? Wouldn't mind paying people to do so.
C. C Golderbottles85

Gulderbottle85:




Thank you!!!! He accepted partially and pleaded not to play with her in that manner again. The little girl will go for medical checkup tomorrow. I will keep the house posted.



I need someone who can assist to send me a DM I feel horrible already knowing I'm about to nail a guy I once called a friend.

Gulderbottle85:



To the best of my knowledge he is.

Gulderbottle85:
Long story short.....I have a friend who lives with his 13 yrs old daughter...... Recently a female friend who is a neighbor called me and told me the little girl confided in her that the father is harassing her sexually.

I was shocked but sometimes I stay in there home I used to notice some funny moves but I couldn't place my finger on it cos it all seems to me like Father and daughter love.

I couldn't ask the little girl cos I wanted to have a proof. Recently I came visiting and he started that rough play as usual but because I was already tipped as a result I was at Alert. I quickly told him I was going to the shop.....But I didn't go anywhere I came back immediately and went straight to the window. I saw him bouncing untop of her. The expression on her face broke my heart she is not happy.

I called that female neighbor and told her what I saw.....we told a friend we all questioned the little girl she confirmed it to be true.


Now what do we do? We planned to confront the father is this the best step to take?


I just want him to stop.

Gulderbottle85:



What about the stigma if people around finds out?

delishpot:


Whose stigma? If it's the girl she needs counseling and she would be rewarded with her dad being punished for his crime. The dad needs to be disgraced nationally TBH. If you don't want it known by the yard people, express your concern to those whom you report the case to, I believe they will know how to help protect her Identity

Gulderbottle85:
I will do my best for her...... I will give update as we proceed

Gulderbottle85:
Putting him behind bars will have effects on the child. Who will take care of her?

take your advice, chew it up, swallow it and sh!t it out cos it's crap, what a pathetic advice! do u think a man who is raping his own 13 yr old child does not know it's wrong?? u think what he needs is advice or an ultimatum. are u high? OP is in NO place to counsel this girl, u must think the job of a psychiatrist is so easy that everyone can do it, u said it yourself, this is a sensitive issue. only ppl who have the proper sensitivity training should deal with it, it's OP's job to get the authorities involved, that's it, it's not his job to start fixing this child. stop doling out stupid advice, u mean if u found out a man is sleeping with a helpless child that he fathered, your first instinct would be to talk to him and not immediately get the helpless child away from him?
imagine the roughest sweatiest sex of your life and replace the girl with your mother, do u feel how repulsive it is? do u know what an unnatural order it is for a man to have carnal knowledge of his own seed? if u found a man raping your daughter in your own house, would u wait for him to finish, counsel her first, then give him a warning and tell him not to do it again? the way some of u think is straight up toxic. pedophilia and incest and psychological abuse are all serious issues individually, how can a combination of all 3 be so trivial to u? smh

Gulderbottle85:




We will confront him today

Gulderbottle85:




Thank you!!!! He accepted partially and pleaded not to play with her in that manner again. The little girl will go for medical checkup tomorrow. I will keep the house posted.



I need someone who can assist to send me a DM I feel horrible already knowing I'm about to nail a guy I once called a friend.

Gulderbottle85:
Long story short.....I have a friend who lives with his 13 yrs old daughter...... Recently a female friend who is a neighbor called me and told me the little girl confided in her that the father is harassing her sexually.

I was shocked but sometimes I stay in there home I used to notice some funny moves but I couldn't place my finger on it cos it all seems to me like Father and daughter love.

I couldn't ask the little girl cos I wanted to have a proof. Recently I came visiting and he started that rough play as usual but because I was already tipped as a result I was at Alert. I quickly told him I was going to the shop.....But I didn't go anywhere I came back immediately and went straight to the window. I saw him bouncing untop of her. The expression on her face broke my heart she is not happy.

I called that female neighbor and told her what I saw.....we told a friend we all questioned the little girl she confirmed it to be true.


Now what do we do? We planned to confront the father is this the best step to take?


I just want him to stop.