YelloweWest:
Now we have to deal with this sort of shìt coming from a woman??

In a world where husband's now want their wives to take care of themselves, their extended family obligations and contribute to the up keep of the immediate family.
How the hell do u expect the woman to be home raising kids at the same time??

PrimadonnaO:



And all you've written up there are the reasons why there are so many perverted kids these days...kids that lack manners...kids without real values...wayward and lacking understanding of certain basic things.

Being a parent totally goes beyond birthing the kids and providing all their financial needs or being influential in society (just because they have some spare cash). The big responsibility lies in raising these kids with the right values, fear of God mindset and to be an asset to society.

I'm an advocate of women contributing tangibly towards financing the home, but not at the detriment of the kids or her husband. Family first!

PrimadonnaO:



And all you've written up there are the reasons why there are so many perverted kids these days...kids that lack manners...kids without real values...wayward and lacking understanding of certain basic things.

Being a parent totally goes beyond birthing the kids and providing all their financial needs or being influential in society (just because they have some spare cash). The big responsibility lies in raising these kids with the right values, fear of God mindset and to be an asset to society.

I'm an advocate of women contributing tangibly towards financing the home, but not at the detriment of the kids or her husband. Family first!

YelloweWest:

Your last paragraph is talking with both sides of your mouth.
I'm a mother. My time is for my children. I won't work until my kids are a certain age so I can raise them properly.
I don't contribute NOTHING financially for now and my husband does not complain.
He pays all the bills and has taken up my responsibility to my siblings and parents.

How many men like this do we have nowadays?
He recognises that I have sacrificed myself to raise his children and does not ask me for anything. Unlike all these boys that will be shouting woman must contribute.

My point is if u want your wife to make money and contribute to the family financially, be ready to chip in and raise you kids as a man. Or else... Cos it takes time to make money.
Something has got to give.

PrimadonnaO:



Whichever way it works out for the couple involved. But in a situation where the man isn't as understanding and supportive as your husband is, it becomes the woman's responsibility to step up. Often, women are the ones who do most of the sacrificing.

I'm not talking with both sides of my mouth. She can work or start up a business, but not a job that's so demanding such that there's little or no time to bond and cater for husband and kids.

YelloweWest:

When describing the man's role u said supportive and understanding.
When describing the woman u now say responsibility.... hmmm
Isn't it the man's sole responsibility to provide for his family if his wife is raising their kids and because of that can't work?

PrimadonnaO:



The responsibility of the woman I mentioned up there isn't to become bread winner. It remains the man's primary responsibility to provide the resources for the home...Primary, not sole responsibility.

That's the point I've been trying to make. Gone are those days when women stay as full time house wives their entire lives. In marriage, partners no longer make decisions on their own without consulting the other partner involved. So, a wife cannot just decide to sit at home raising kids without her husband consenting. That's what I meant by a supportive and understanding husband. He has to understand the need to devote time to the kids and the home and be willing to take up the financial responsibilities all by himself. But in the event that such doesn't happen, in the event that he doesn't want a stay-at-home-wife or isn't adequately sorting out the financial responsibilities that involves the wife's personal needs, feeding, kids' upkeep, housing expenses and even to the wife's parents and siblings (if need be), what happens? Would the wife continue to sit at home and be managing so much when she can do her bit to earn and improve their standard of living?

Effort just has to be made to strike a balance somewhere. You're lucky to have a husband who meets yours and the home's financial needs satisfactorily while you devote time to the kids. Not everyone gets to have it conveniently that way.
Not everyone even wants it that way.

Different strokes for different folks. So, my personal take still remains that a wife should earn, too. But she shouldn't be chasing money at the detriment of her family. The children would grow up and she can begin to devote more time to career/business. It's a step by step thing.

PrimadonnaO:



Whichever way it works out for the couple involved. But in a situation where the man isn't as understanding and supportive as your husband is, it becomes the woman's responsibility to step up. Often, women are the ones who do most of the sacrificing.

I'm not talking with both sides of my mouth. She can work or start up a business, but not a job that's so demanding such that there's little or no time to bond and cater for husband and kids.

YelloweWest:

Your last paragraph is talking with both sides of your mouth.
I'm a mother. My time is for my children. I won't work until my kids are a certain age so I can raise them properly.
I don't contribute NOTHING financially for now and my husband does not complain.
He pays all the bills and has taken up my responsibility to my siblings and parents.

How many men like this do we have nowadays?
He recognises that I have sacrificed myself to raise his children and does not ask me for anything. Unlike all these boys that will be shouting woman must contribute.

My point is if u want your wife to make money and contribute to the family financially, be ready to chip in and raise you kids as a man. Or else... Cos it takes time to make money.
Something has got to give.

Talk2Bella:
some people are really small minded

I guess Amina Mohammed doesn't have time for her kids too

children need both parents not just the mother, that's where favoritism kicks in, they either start disrespecting one of the parent while holding the other in high esteem