...Or think that I am in love.
Dunno.
But I know that my heart is melted and feels like butter right now

'Don't know how long I can hold it all together. I really do not want to embarrass myself in front of this guy.

I have always known that when a guy wants you, he wants you.
But I also know that when a guy does not want you, there might not be anything in the world you can do about it to get him. If you scheme and even get him to marry ya, you may be in for one HELLuva ride!

This mindset is the reason for the confusion I feel right now.

There is this guy...
He looks like all I have ever wanted.

The first time I noticed him was when he offered me a cup of drink as i walked into the venue really late.
He was looking into my eyes...the whole time.
He excused himself afterwards and left.
This has been the pattern.
It's gone on for months.

He comes around, exchanges pleasantries, small talks and that's all.

He got to know my name after a while but he keeps forgetting it.
One moment he's calling me Favour, the next time Gift, another Joy!
I find it funny, and I have corrected him again and again.
Everyone around me tells me the names he calls me are nice names too.
And this got me thinking.

The confusion now is:
I have now developed feelings for this guy.
I really like this guy but do not know if he likes me too.

If he likes me, then why isn't he taking it further?
And if he doesn't like me, why does he keep coming around and staring into my eyes like that?

I don't think I can handle keeping the way I feel about him hidden any longer.

But if I share it with someone or show him some green light and then get to know he's in a relationship, I'd just die of embarrassment!

If he wants me, why isn't he pursuing?
And if he's just being a friend, why that look in see in his eyes?

He finds excuses to sit by me and all that...
Or is it all just in my head?

For him, I wouldn't mind giving up Freedom for Companionship.
This guy is killing me softly and if we don't date, I'm going to really feel heartbroken for a while.

*(...And no, I haven't seen him "scratch".)

The truth is I don't even know what I am saying right now.

Ask him out baeby

I told one Ediat I liked him and he thinks I'm playing games...I'm heartbroken.

OP. The guy likes u too... Buh as african china talk e dey get whitlow for mouth.. Or maybe he z a kinda guy dah doesn't rush tins.. Just keep Showing him green light.. If ur light no too green. Then toast him na. Shuo. Yes toast him.. He ll blush

Easy luv, don't keep your expectations too high to avoid heartbreak.

Mariinee:
Ask him out baeby

I told one Ediat I liked him and he thinks I'm playing games...I'm heartbroken.

Mariinee:
Ask him out baeby

I told one Ediat I liked him and he thinks I'm playing games...I'm heartbroken.

This might be the hardest thing ever. I am of the school of thought that a guy does the chasing. What if he's in a relationship? I'll just die of embarrassment

ChopBellefull:
OP. The guy likes u too... Buh as african china talk e dey get whitlow for mouth.. Or maybe he z a kinda guy dah doesn't rush tins.. Just keep Showing him green light.. If ur light no too green. Then toast him na. Shuo. Yes toast him.. He ll blush

The truth is my green light needs polishing and cleaning. I don't even know where the switch is..

acme6:
Easy luv, don't keep your expectations too high to avoid heartbreak.

Hmm...thanks. This really helps.

Incrizz:


This might be the hardest thing ever. I am of the school of thought that a guy does the chasing. What if he's in a relationship? I'll just die of embarrassment

You can stylishly ask him if he's got a girlfriend, no big deal in that.

And no, a guy doesn't have to do the chasing. What if he likes you too but he can't bring himself to ask you out? You don't need to ask him out directly. You shouldn't be scared of rejection too.

greencard:

Mi Amor.

anytime he looks at ya eye.close ya eye.lol swidy i think the next time he stares at you like that again ask him.why is he staring at you like that? he wil understand.me too i dont know wat am saying.yeye girl.

Incrizz:


The truth is my green light needs polishing and cleaning. I don't even know where the switch is..

Ehen.. But op wait o.. What of that other guy dah is toasting you. Dying for ur matter night nd day.. What happend to him?

Do whatever you want to do to get him as far as ur life won't be at risk. We have more regrets on what we thought abt doing but failed to do them.

**no heartbreak is the same, you'll always get over it.

Mariinee:
You can stylishly ask him if he's got a girlfriend, no big deal in that.

And no, a guy doesn't have to do the chasing. What if he likes you too but he can't bring himself to ask you out? You don't need to ask him out directly. You shouldn't be scared of rejection too.

Okay.
I tried to do some research.
I asked a different guy, he's married, if it's okay for a girl to ask a guy if he's married. He replied with a resounding no
He says I should never do such.

@bolded Yes babe, I thought about that. But I concluded it was my mind playing tricks.

I agree that a guy should not do all the chasing. But that I know that I'd be forever embarrassed if he's in a relationship numbs me

I asked around. He's not married.

If na guy like me, babe you are in for a disgrace..

mikejj:
anytime he looks at ya eye.close ya eye.lol swidy i think the next time he stares at you like that again ask him.why is he staring at you like that? he wil understand.me too i dont know wat am saying.

Lol..

I will ask. Thanks.

ChopBellefull:


Ehen.. But op wait o.. What of that other guy dah is toasting you. Dying for ur matter night nd day.. What happend to him?

Are you sure it's me..?

yhemster:
Do whatever you want to do to get him as far as ur life won't be at risk. We have more regrets on what we thought abt doing but failed to do them.

**no heartbreak is the same, you'll always get over it.

Right...?

Earthquake1:
If na guy like me, babe you are in for a disgrace..

Do you mind educating?
Disgrace in that you don't like a girl chasing?

Incrizz:


Okay.
I tried to do some research.
I asked a different guy, he's married, if it's okay for a girl to ask a guy if he's married. He replied with a resounding no
He says I should never do such.

@bolded Yes babe, I thought about that. But I concluded it was my mind playing tricks.

I agree that a guy should not do all the chasing. But that I know that I'd be forever embarrassed if he's in a relationship numbs me

I asked around. He's not married.

Hmmm...Just ask him if he has a GF or tell him outrightly that you like him.

Incrizz:


Okay.
I tried to do some research.
I asked a different guy, he's married, if it's okay for a girl to ask a guy if he's married. He replied with a resounding no
He says I should never do such.

@bolded Yes babe, I thought about that. But I concluded it was my mind playing tricks.

I agree that a guy should not do all the chasing. But that I know that I'd be forever embarrassed if he's in a relationship numbs me

I asked around. He's not married.

Not necessarily asking him out, you can always initiate conversation. Afterall, there are lots of relationships that started just by time and chance without anyone asking each other out. Try become his friend and see what happens.
When you're leaving the event, go to him and compliment his attire, shoe or anything. Have ur number written on a piece of paper if he hasn't ask yet, and give it to him. Try to avoid taking his, if he tries giving it, tell him ur phone(s) is dead. This will avoid you from call him first. You've given ur number, he needs to reciprocate by calling you first.
When the conversation starts, be very careful not to present urself as a side-chick kind of girl.

At the best

Mariinee:
Ask him out baeby

I told one Ediat I liked him and he thinks I'm playing games...I'm heartbroken.

I luv bold babes like you

Mariinee:
Mi Amor.

howdy senorita?

greencard:
howdy senorita?

I am very well and you?

Incrizz:


Do you mind educating?
Disgrace in that you don't like a girl chasing?

You can try your luck but know that it usually doesn't go well when a girl chases.

Mariinee:
I am very well and you?

I am good

Sometimes I feel ur moniker is too long for me to call,

Can I just remove few letters.
Like "a,r" and the other duplicates and call u

M...ar...i...i n..e...e


mine ?

Incrizz:


Are you sure it's me..?

So u wnt to tell me u don't have any admirer... Dah u put in pending list

Earthquake1:


You can try your luck but know that it usually doesn't go well when a girl chases.

The funny thing is I know. I have always known. Thanks.

But I find two green light tips interesting.
I will compliment him as yhemster suggests when I can genuinely mean it.

And then ask why he looks at me like that as mikejj suggests.

I just need closure.
I feel better now.
He can date any other girl for all I care.

Thanks peeps...

ChopBellefull:


So u wnt to tell me u don't have any admirer... Dah u put in pending list

Lol...

Incrizz:


The funny thing is I know. I have always known. Thanks.

But I find two green light tips interesting.
I will compliment him as yhemster suggests when I can genuinely mean it.

And then ask why he looks at me like that as mikejj suggests.

I just need closure.
I feel better now.
He can date any other girl for all I care.

Thanks peeps...

Goodluck

Woman up and send those freaking green lights... If he still doesn't understand, send him joromi by what's her name again?