KreativGenius:


Virgin

E be like say u go bring one babe for me,make I take disvirgine ooo,coz u don too talk abt this virgin tinz,

U jus dey call me virgin na wa ooo wetin I do wey make u dey call me viring??

Oyindidi:
Most of our mothers married as teen brides.

Because they were tolerant, ready for compromise, willing to make ammends. If a man tells you shyte now, you go slap am, and it may not mean he's a shyte, but may be a turn around the corner, this generation tolerance don reduce drastically. Sure you can relate

Martin0:



E be like say u go bring one babe for me,make I take disvirgine ooo,coz u don too talk abt this virgin tinz,

U jus dey call me virgin na wa ooo wetin I do wey make u dey call me viring??

Na lie ?

Martin0:



Na wa oooo
Well as to this 30s issue,There are obviously circumstances where it
simply makes sense (like the girl I knew in
college who married her military boyfriend
when she was 19), but for the most part, I
think it's best to wait until both people are in a
stable and settling stage in their lives. Some
are ahead of schedule; others don't discover
that kind of security until they've hit their 30s.
I talked to a few older women about the
benefits of getting hitched in this particular
decade, and one of them told me this,according to her, " In your 30s, you've dated a lot, so you
know exactly what you want from a
partner and exactly what you don't. When
you meet someone, you know right away
if you're compatible" .

Em na wetin I get to talk be diz ooo

I like this :When you meet someone, you know right away if you're compatible


But your ideas are clashing.

KreativGenius:


Na lie ?

Commot for here ee

Martin0:



Commot for here ee

Alright. Tired. Make i rest small jawe.

KreativGenius:


I like this :When you meet someone, you know right away if you're compatible
Exactly

But your ideas are clashing.

Oh really abeg tell me ooo,na learn we all the learn

KreativGenius:


Alright. Tired. Make i rest small jawe.

Confirm u need the resting pass me

Martin0:


Oh really abeg tell me ooo,na learn we all the learn

naaa. I'm emotionally unintelligent

KreativGenius:



naaa. I'm emotionally unintelligent

Na run u run so oo
Iffa anyway na girls I go send make dem come arrange u ,maybe u go con dey emotionally intelligent

Martin0:


Na run u run so oo
Iffa anyway na girls I go send make dem come arrange u ,maybe u go con dey emotionally intelligent

nah. money gives me orgasm at the moment.

KreativGenius:


nah. money gives me orgasm at the moment.

Hahahah
Money gives everybody orgasm u know

Martin0:



Hahahah

Money gives everybody orgasm u know

KreativGenius:



Because they were tolerant, ready for compromise, willing to make ammends. If a man tells you shyte now, you go slap am, and it may not mean he's a shyte, but may be a turn around the corner, this generation tolerance don reduce drastically. Sure you can relate

I preach tolerance in marriage. I'm not saying one should stay put in abusive marriage. Most people don't understand their partners(myself inclusive) . Before now, I was very authoritative, I want everything to be done my way. Unknown to me, I felt my man is too principled. Imagine, I gave the key to our spare room to a Church to pack their equipment. I didn't see anything wrong back then but I'm regretting my action now. Its 4 years and they are not ready to move out. Why am I saying all this? We are overbearing and arrogant to our partners without knowing. I make amends and we're cool

KreativGenius:

KreativGenius:


Yes Kashy, i've related with many ladies outside this country, the difference is amazing, its'a societal problem here. A faulty perception they've learnt from the society. I see how they come for you when you tell them the truth. Don't mind them. I interact with Europeans, North Americans and more, and i can say for a fact, the difference is clear and ladies here need a lot of learning and improvement. But for now, they come with massive baggages dear. Regardless of how intelligent they may sound in public, or how cute they may be, when one takes a closer review of these ladies, the baggages begin to appear and spoil things. Can i give you an example?

U are very much correct about that bawz, I keep wondering y naija ladies are myopic when it comes to relationship. Living outside d country is a great exposure cos u gonna meet different ladies from different race, leaving ur naija idea about ladies shifted and believe me, I prefer white ladies to naija ladies cos I've related with both. they are easy to relate with, very understanding and mature regardless of d age.

Oyindidi:
I preach tolerance in marriage. I'm not saying one should stay put in abusive marriage. Most people don't understand their partners(myself inclusive) . Before now, I was very authoritative, I want everything to be done my way. Unknown to me, I felt my man is too principled. Imagine, I gave the key to our spare room to a Church to pack their equipment. I didn't see anything wrong back then but I'm regretting my action now. Its 4 years and they are not ready to move out. Why am I saying all this? We are overbearing and arrogant to our partners without knowing. I make amends and we're cool

Funny, never would have thought of you that way. Neither your posts nor your face looks it...

A nice reasonable topic useless misogynists and those who act like Nigerian women are the worst women with the most problems in the world and foreign women are perfect and 10,000 times better than Nigerian women will come and spoil it.

The points given for this topic though from a woman's point of view are not gender specific and can apply to either gender.

Instead of stating if you agree, why you do, if you don't. Why you don't.

Some people chose to start this utterly childish men vs women ridiculous bickering,
Men are this, women are that, blah blah blah,

This is not a topic attacking either gender so no need or reason to change it to that,

Then they upgraded to bashing Nigerian women and praising women from other countries

Seems some people take pleasure in bashing and insulting Nigerian women for asinine reasons.

As if the ridiculous issues they ascribed solely to Nigerian women cannot be seen in women from all countries.


Mtchewwwww.

Daeylar....do you agree?

apenaola:


U are very much correct about that bawz, I keep wondering y naija ladies are myopic when it comes to relationship. Living outside d country is a great exposure cos u gonna meet different ladies from different race, leaving ur naija idea about ladies shifted and believe me, I prefer white ladies to naija ladies cos I've related with both. they are easy to relate with, very understanding and mature regardless of d age.

Same way. I did whites before now, decided to switch back home. Going back to whites bro. Very easy to relate with. No drama, no baggages

Oyindidi:
I preach tolerance in marriage. I'm not saying one should stay put in abusive marriage. Most people don't understand their partners(myself inclusive) . Before now, I was very authoritative, I want everything to be done my way. Unknown to me, I felt my man is too principled. Imagine, I gave the key to our spare room to a Church to pack their equipment. I didn't see anything wrong back then but I'm regretting my action now. Its 4 years and they are not ready to move out. Why am I saying all this? We are overbearing and arrogant to our partners without knowing. I make amends and we're cool

May the oil on your head not dry up ! Please can you preach this to your sisters in a language they can understand? If men do, it would feel like...you know nae.

Daeylar:
A nice reasonable topic useless misogynists and those who act like Nigerian women are the worst women with the most problems in the world and foreign women are perfect and 10,000 times better than Nigerian women will come and spoil it.

The points given for this topic though from a woman's point of view are not gender specific and can apply to either gender.

Instead of stating if you agree, if you don't. Why you don't.

Some people chose to start this utterly childish men vs women ridiculous bickering,
Men are this, women are that, blah blah blah,

Then they upgraded to bashing Nigerian women and praising women from other countries

Seems some people take pleasure in bashing and insulting Nigerian women for asinine reasons.

As if the ridiculous issues they ascribed solely to Nigerian women cannot be seen in women from all countries.


Mtchewwwww.

Attack the person directly nah

Oyindidi:
I preach tolerance in marriage. I'm not saying one should stay put in abusive marriage. Most people don't understand their partners(myself inclusive) . Before now, I was very authoritative, I want everything to be done my way. Unknown to me, I felt my man is too principled. Imagine, I gave the key to our spare room to a Church to pack their equipment. I didn't see anything wrong back then but I'm regretting my action now. Its 4 years and they are not ready to move out. Why am I saying all this? We are overbearing and arrogant to our partners without knowing. I make amends and we're cool

That's the word i was looking for " overbearing and arrogant ", plus poor tolerance, compromise. We men call it drama and complexities. Anything na drama,e dey kill libido and love. In short, it's overbearing and nauseating...Relate with an American chick, or a European chick,you get none of these. I think it has to be with nollywood and the sorry arse brothers that they date early in life. Any woman with attitude, its traceable t upbringing, association, mindset from moveis etc.and finally terrbile boyfriends they had with ponmo mindset. Hence, why they should be dated earlier in life.


Hence why we said above, jumping upandan leads to too much bagagge, hence want a Nigerian lady with less baggage, catch em before they have dated more than 2 or 3...technically,i.e. date them young

Blackfyre, do I agree? Well, It's her opinion and it's a good one, however someone can achieve all these things she listed in their 20s and get married, there is no need then to wait until their 30s unless they just want to wait.

No need to bash those getting married in their 20s and act like they don't know anything just because she didn't know anything in her 20s, she can't use her experience to judge others
Everyone is different.

Some people are a hot mess in their 20s also. That's also true,

However some people do need or choose to wait till their 30s and that's OK too

However some people also, in their 30s are a hot mess so it's not really about the age,


I like her points, very reasonable, she had some really good points, however, age really has nothing to do with it.

Daeylar:
Blackfyre, do I agree? Well, It's her opinion and it's a good one, however someone can achieve all these things she listed in their 20s and get married, there is no need then to wait until their 30s unless they just want to wait.

No need to bash those getting married in their 20s and act like they don't know anything just because she didn't know anything in her 20s, she can't use her experience to judge others
Everyone is different.


However some people do need a little more time and that's OK too

However some people also, in their 30s are a hot mess so it's not really about the age,


I like her points, very reasonable, she had some really good points, however, age really has nothing to do with it,

Very well said....

Blackfyre:


Very well said....

Validations. I sense friendship and a bond, hence the validations. However,you're smart, i expected you to personally make some contributions. Like it's not achievement the average guy wants, but when it comes to marriage, can a guy get peace, loyalty and dependability? The trophies and achievements doesn't make a woman. Like knowledge puffs up, entitlements also create a false sense of self, and when self is lost, realistically, a peaceful home can not be built. In the end, intelligence doesn't cook food, achievements is not what a man talks with when they both take off clothes in the home. In the end, when it's stripped to the core, like they say, can no be beer, na bottle be beer, woman is character, character is woman. Not beauty, not ascent, not achievements, not family wealth, but character. I've been there, i'm sure you have too and can relate

KreativGenius:


Validations. I sense friendship and a bond, hence the validations. However,you're smart, i expected you to personally make some contributions. Like it's not achievement the average guy wants, but when it comes to marriage, can a guy get peace, loyalty and dependability? The trophies and achievements doesn't make a woman. Like knowledge puffs up, entitlements also create a false sense of self, and when self is lost, realistically, a peaceful home can not be built. In the end, intelligence doesn't cook food, achievements is not what a man talks with when they both take off clothes in the home. In the end, when it's stripped to the core, like they say, can no be beer, na bottle be beer, woman is character, character is woman. Not beauty, not ascent, not achievements, not family wealth, but character. I've been there, i'm sure you have too and can relate

Yes yes, i do very much agree with the very last part of your post. But by how far i have come and seen various couples both young and old. Only that which involves God can last and be blissful. In picking a spouse, spirituality should take precedence before any other thing. It is as important perhaps even more than being born into this world.

But we live in a society that trust so much on their wits, knowledge and some don't even acknowledge spirituality, which makes it hard for me to contribute on such matters. It will most likely not resonate with many.

Blackfyre:


Yes yes, i do very much agree with the very last part of your post. But by how far i have come and seen various couples both young and old. Only that which involves God can last and be blissful. In picking a spouse, spirituality should take precedent before any other thing. It is as important perhaps even more than being born into this world.

But we live in a society that trust so much on their wits, knowledge and some don't even acknowledge spirituality, which makes it hard for me to contribute on such matters. It will most likely not resonate with many.

We're in a secular world.Why you must be spiritual and pure, you must realize we're in a secular world. In this world, you should at times hide your spirituality and learn to live. I've been watching you, you're too absorbed into the realms. May cause clash even in relationships btw you and a lady oh. Determine the limits and try to not relate it, or dilute with with almost any or every thing. Speak to edify, correct, and improve. If God comes now, i have a certainity of 95% of making Heaven, it doesn't inhibit me from commenting. So comment bro comment, with your words and ideas change lives. Leave an indelible mark, sow a good seed in hearts that will be rewarded in time.

Yes, tolerance, compromise and those good qualities are embedded in spirituality and i concur, a lady on the forum called me yesterday, immediately my spirit, gave me a conviction yes, this is a good person, i didn't need a life time to know. I stopped her and asked her church, and i laughed. I said no wonder, it's all good, may God give us all wisdom to build what will withstand storms of life.

KreativGenius:



We're in a secular world.Why you must be spiritual and pure, you must realize we're in a secular world. In this world, you should at times hide your spirituality and learn to live. I've been watching you, you're too absorbed into the realms. May cause clash even in relationships btw you and a lady oh. Determine the limits and try to not relate it, or dilute with with almost any or every thing. Speak to edify, correct, and improve. If God comes now, i have a certainity of 95% of making Heaven, it doesn't inhibit me from commenting. So comment bro comment, with your words and ideas change lives. Leave an indelible mark, sow a good seed in hearts that will be rewarded in time.

Mehn you hit the nail on the head on some things concerning clashing with females who aren't that deep into it or even connected to it all. For the last two babes, i tried to dissociate myself from it but it was impossible. The ideals have become a part of my beating heart so when i hear or we talk some things at like am ripping my soul apart when i don't keep to it or comment like one who is secular. I feel i am telling a lie, deceiving myself and the other person. Needless to say, such relationships end up crashing so there is no point for me to hide what i know is my anchor, the core of my person. I think in keeping to it, i will then find what's truly meant for me else i will just keep having tumultuous experiences. However i have been buried so far deep into it that i can't just look at the most simple things superficially as i once did, i see all now. Anyway i can't feel bad about it, there is a reason to everything...

Yes, tolerance, compromise and those good qualities are embedded in spirituality and i concur, a lady on the forum called me yesterday, immediately my spirit, gave me a conviction yes, this is a good person, i didn't need a life time to know. I stopped her and asked her church, and i laughed. I said no wonder, it's all good, may God give us all wisdom to build what will withstand storms of life.

True, one very vital thing about it too, there will be a humility and calmness to her. You will speak in half sentences and on an instant she knows where you going.

However some of your points are best observed in certain circumstances....less someone sounds like a broken record or frustrated/emotional.

Blackfyre:


Funny, never would have thought of you that way. Neither your posts nor your face looks it...

My brother, that's one of my biggest problem.

Blackfyre:


Mehn you hit the nail on the head on some things concerning clashing with females who aren't that deep into it or even connected to it all. For the last two babes, i tried to dissociate myself from it but it was impossible. The ideals have become a part of my beating heart so when i hear or we talk some things at like am ripping my soul apart when i don't keep to it or comment like one who is secular. I feel i am telling a lie, deceiving myself and the other person. Needless to say, such relationships end up crashing so there is no point for me to hide what i know is my anchor, the core of my person. I think in keeping to it, i will then find what's truly meant for me else i will just keep having tumultuous experiences. However i have been buried so far deep into it that i can't just look at the most simple things superficially as i once did, i see all now. Anyway i can't feel bad about it, there is a reason to everything...



True, one very vital thing about it too, there will be a humility and calmness to her. You will speak in half sentences and on an instant she knows where you going.

Lol @ i speak in half sentences. You're one of the very few people that have noticed this.Half sentences like Jesus, anyway it allows mental illustration of events so mind can be stimulated and conclusions inferred by people without any form of force on their minds.


See, at your dating experiences, i have some things to say :

Personality is built and shape through childhood into adulthood,and when clashes occur, it's not two adults but two different perspectives and perceptions about issues that's doing the fighting. While spirituality ranks high, while tolerance is key, it is important to say that there are non-christians that have fine attributes almost as though as Christians and will make fine wives, trust me, i've met two wonderful muslim ladies off the forum, bit then, some of us can't cross that line. In the end, if one party learns to compromise, tolerate things amongst which are values wecan pick up in life itwould work, in the end,not just compatibility is key in relationships but the resolve to compromise, have high tolerance, be slow to anger, have good character not having a " warfare mindset ", everything is a battle and i must come out on top by all means (highly vocal women suffer this seriously ), if you cehck the secular one you mentioned, i'm sure she has some achievements she considers " too much ", i've don more than my peers, and it affects how she relates and performs, i.e. her attitude isnot own of personal reflection but one that's the aftermath of how she measures herself against herself, hence produces an attitude we men call dramatic. You dig?


WHAT I MEAN TO SAY IS ANY LADY THAT DEVELOPS HERSELF THROUGH HER PERSONAL LIFE EXPERIENCES CAN GET THE ATTRIBUTES EVEN CHRISTIAN SUGGESTS FOR A GOOD WIFE. BUT HOW MANY ARE OPEN TO CHANGE? HOW MANY ARE DOCILE? HOW MANY CAN MAKE CHANGES FOR GROWTH? HOW MANY PEOPLE ARE OPEN TO FRESH EXPERIENCES AND CHANGE? HOW MANY BRO? MANY LADIES SEE CHANGE AS AN ATTACK ON CHARACTER RATHER THAN AN HONEST NEED TO MAKE IMPROVEMENTS FOR BETTER BEING. I.E. YOUR SECULAR LADY

Blackfyre:


Mehn you hit the nail on the head on some things concerning clashing with females who aren't that deep into it or even connected to it all. For the last two babes, i tried to dissociate myself from it but it was impossible. The ideals have become a part of my beating heart so when i hear or we talk some things at like am ripping my soul apart when i don't keep to it or comment like one who is secular. I feel i am telling a lie, deceiving myself and the other person. Needless to say, such relationships end up crashing so there is no point for me to hide what i know is my anchor, the core of my person. I think in keeping to it, i will then find what's truly meant for me else i will just keep having tumultuous experiences. However i have been buried so far deep into it that i can't just look at the most simple things superficially as i once did, i see all now. Anyway i can't feel bad about it, there is a reason to everything...



True, one very vital thing about it too, there will be a humility and calmness to her. You will speak in half sentences and on an instant she knows where you going.

However some of your points are best observed in certain circumstances....less someone sounds like a broken record or frustrated/emotional.

A MAN'S CALLING DESTROYS HIS RELATIONSHIPS O. YOU NEED A WORKING FORMULAR TO WORK ON IT IF NOT, IT'LL KEEP CRASHING MORE. THERE'S SOMETHING THE LORD TAUGHT ME IN THAT DIRECTION, HE CALLED IT " SWITCHING OFF ", IF YOU APPLY THE SWITCHING OFF PRINCIPLE, YOU CAN TAME IT ! ALSO I HAVE A SENSING IN MY SPIRIT, I HAVE BEEN MEDITATING DEEPLY FOR SOME DAYS NOW, AND, WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF DATING A SECULAR NEXT TIME, DON'T BE HASTY TO CRASH THE RELATIONSHIP. ..JEEZ WISH I CAN EXPLAIN.