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Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by AreaFada2: 11:17am On Dec 12, 2017 |
ameh99: You nor bow for the hypocrisy? |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 11:21am On Dec 12, 2017 |
savvy12: Really.. what is the purpose of withholding sex b4 marriage. please other than Biological needs for which God intended and if it is somewhere in the Bible please tell |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Toksdee: 11:21am On Dec 12, 2017 |
My dear you don't need to worry about the doctor however pay attention to the guy in Canada and be open to meeting a new person close to you in Nigeria also,never appear desperate u still young |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 11:24am On Dec 12, 2017 |
I read the whole comments on this thread and i laughed hard. The Op's situation is not surprising as it just a confirmation of female hypergamy in making relationship choices. Ladies are naturally selfish and are not capable of giving love like men. Even the Bible urges women to "Submit" to their men. You begin to wonder why the Bible didnt tell them to "love" their husbands- it is because women will always go for the strongest and most capable men to mate with. The following facts are my observations on the OP's issue thus: 1} The Op will gladly fvck the Canada Fiancee if he comes back because all she can think of is her own welfare as a citizen of Canada. 2} The OP didnt agree to fvck the Doctor because she has thought long and hard that it would not pay her to settle down with a Nigerian Doctor in the long run, hence her chances of fvcking him have drastically reduced in her own heart. 3} The OP is at the same time weary of not completely losing out with the Doctor in the likely event that the Canada adventure proves abortive {this is after being fvcked by the canada guy of course} 4} The OP's residual hopes of still being with the Doctor is solely predicated on the Doctor's is financial stability. 5} The Doctor has an inalienable right to demand for sex from the OP after one year of their relationship and is justified in his rage/displeasure with the OP. On the whole, the OP's story reflects the thinking pattern of the feminine gender in general and how they rationalise their mating/relationship choices. This particular story is further exacerbated by the fact that the concerned female {OP} is a Nigerian who faces extreme poverty in a 3rd World country like Nigeria and has to factor in the economic benefits that accrue from any relationship she enters into. We are all Nigerians and we know how bad things are so we should kindly excuse the OP's confusion at this point. Selah. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by norris123(m): 11:25am On Dec 12, 2017 |
[quote author=shugamummy post=63198903]Congrats on your waiting and wishful thinking the guy is waiting for you as well. Hoes everywhere.....funny enough every babe have expiry date......and keep hoping the guy will surely be throtling back and forth cos of some round of sex with a village babe like una..I collected his contact from his sister and cos he is abroad,we are now dating and he promised to be back by easter 2018,by then I will be 28. What if I dont like his personality traits too,I can manage cos he just returned and I dont care what he does there....and so on till I clock 30 and keep on hoping to have the right guy....my dear if your dream in life is to marry,you better find that man closest to ur reach and start building the rough edges with him...else keep thinking you possess gold under ur pants till you expire by mere wishful thinking....my 1kobo advice though... Tuwale for you, you have said it all, you got abroad guy no from her sister and after that you guys have been chatting well and you think he's now into you. My sister, he's trying to keep pussy he will Bleep when he comes back, am a guy and I know exactly what am talking about, I have two elder brothers abroad and I know how they play their games anytime they want to come back to Nigeria. Even we in Nigeria play such game, let's take for instance now, Xmas is on the corner and all my guys here have started calling their town/ village girls since last month do you know why? They are looking for pussy they can Bleep when they get home, you there won't be much to do the toasting when you get home. My sister, just to God to show the right one. One more thing please, try as much as you can to build a relationship with responsible guys around you nobody knows tomorrow. Those abroad guys can disappoint and what most of them want is your pussy whenever they visit Nigeria. Hope this helps. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Daniel2289(m): 11:26am On Dec 12, 2017 |
goodnessme02:Pardon |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by gbenglex(m): 11:28am On Dec 12, 2017 |
according to ur story.... u seems to have interest on the guy living abroad which you dnt really knw much abt him if he was just being deceitful. the fact remains that none of the two guys can be trusted . you need more time to observe them and get to knw them better. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by tonero230(m): 11:29am On Dec 12, 2017 |
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Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 11:29am On Dec 12, 2017 |
cruchenutii: No you can travel go and come back a lot of our people have travelled to and fro while working towards settling.The Canadian Citizenship thing is like this before :you have to be physically present in Canada for 4 out of 6years before applying for citizenship but now it is 3 years of the last 5 years before applying for citizenship. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 11:29am On Dec 12, 2017 |
[quote author=norris123 post=63211268][/quote] You are very right. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by tonero230(m): 11:29am On Dec 12, 2017 |
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Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by citadels(f): 11:30am On Dec 12, 2017 |
savvy12:My sister forget the idiotic doctor. He is a cheat and don't be surprise he has a wife and children outside Nigeria but wants intimacy gadget here in Nigeria . pls forget him. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 11:31am On Dec 12, 2017 |
dannio: Thanks for the info. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by luvlymabel: 11:34am On Dec 12, 2017 |
you are 27 and not 17 abi? |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by smulti(m): 11:34am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Ginaz: She said she is not attracted to ( MOST ) of the guys that approach her but ""miraculously"" attracted to Canada based guy she never meet..hmm this is seriously serious shugamummy |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Gamusgamus: 11:36am On Dec 12, 2017 |
savvy12:I have two advice for you 1. Never leave the known for the unknown cos the Devil you know is far better than the Angel you don't know. 2. Never sell your dignity and self esteem to any man , if he can not wait to have you after marriage he certainly is not your man. please dear , seek the face God to bring your husband your way, remain blessed. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by piagetskinner(m): 11:36am On Dec 12, 2017 |
one of your fiancé's...so ud be happy if a guy was double dating ur sister? orisi risi |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by ykrowland2012: 11:37am On Dec 12, 2017 |
savvy12:if that is to keep the relationship, so do it |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by pawesome(m): 11:42am On Dec 12, 2017 |
kambili999:didnt c dt |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 11:43am On Dec 12, 2017 |
citadels:l been won talk this thing too but l come sey make l no jump to conclusion.Thats why l sey make she dey careful with the Doctor.The Doctor could be married but be claiming to be single so as to mingle.Some married men do this they will so well cover their tracks that the young lady will not know until somewhere along the line when they let down their guard. (like when breeze blow come open fowl nyash). 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Rebuke: 11:51am On Dec 12, 2017 |
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Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by BlueScholar(m): 11:51am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Alcatraz005: you forgot to state the glaring TRUTH in her post, which is "true desire can't not be negotiated " she's not attracted to the Doc, he's just an option incase Canada didn't work out. and that's the only reason he's seen as the bad guy. if Canada guy will land today she won't wait another day to give him the puna. if you're not attracted to the doctor free him perhaps someone new will show, it's unfair to keep him as plan B |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by smulti(m): 11:52am On Dec 12, 2017 |
ykrowland2012: No she mustn't do it, she should keep the diamond to her self after all the doctor isn't complaining, only took her to the bus stop and wave her good bye . |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 11:57am On Dec 12, 2017 |
BlueScholar: You have a point but i dont want to accentuate the attraction part of it. This is the because attraction for ladies is not rational. It still goes back to the hypergamy i talked about. She wont fvck the Doc because she thinks he is not as worthy/entitled to the punna as the canada dude is. She is essentially making a transaction with her affection/body. She will do what is best for her/her children/family/her selfish wants. It all boils down to the economics of the whole thing! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Gentle034(m): 11:57am On Dec 12, 2017 |
savvy12:Then go for the one you are attracted to!!!! |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 11:59am On Dec 12, 2017 |
Gentle034: She is attracted to her economic welfare. Not that i blame for it. That is just the new normal. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 12:12pm On Dec 12, 2017 |
My sister you are single. |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by Nobody: 12:18pm On Dec 12, 2017 |
Etuagievin:Urging him/her? is the lady a transgendered?? Etuagievin:Urging him/her? is the lady a transgendered?? |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by ebby9z(m): 12:21pm On Dec 12, 2017 |
This should be the most confusing post I've seen in a while. You don't want to have sex with him cos you aren't attracted, yet you don't want to lose him... You don't know what you want, ma. Start with defining what you want and be confident about it. Don't cheapen yourself |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by luuvee(m): 12:22pm On Dec 12, 2017 |
I don't understand you girls sometimes you are not attracted to the guy then why are you with him in the first place? You are not sure of him yet you are still with him. You just only chatting with the guy abroad and that makes him your best option when you don't even know him in person. My advice is wait till he's back and you have studied him and convinced within you that he's the one you want before clouding up ideas that's not yet realistic in your head. And for the other guy if what you said about him is true then I will advice you to move on. But I have a question for you, will you have had sex with him if you had an attraction for him? |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by ashawopikin(m): 12:25pm On Dec 12, 2017 |
savvy12:u have 2 boyfriends not fiance |
Re: My Fiancé Broke Up With Me Because I Refused Him Sex by rukyrichie: 12:26pm On Dec 12, 2017 |
@ 27 u r still a confuse woman...receive sence nw |
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