I have this lady I love and we are both tending towards marriage. We have been dating for close to a year and we are real good. I know much about her family and been to her house severally. Her parents knows me.

From my own end. Am looking up to God in respect to my sibling's life style and marital lives as things are not really smooth in all spheres ; financially etc.

This may be petty but I have frustrated effort of my GF knowing my parents' house because. The settings is bad and the house is uncompleted for some years now. I havent proposed yet so I dont also have the urge to take her home yet since I have my own residence.

I am just shy and cant imagine . Guys, I dont know if i should just come plain on why I have been avoiding this meeting or just take her home for her to see gerself.

N.B : I have not created a false image about myself, I have not formed omo baba olowo. But you know ladies evaluate guys they want to marry on all hemispheres .

I am self sufficient and still thriving harder. I have not yet attain that level of wealth that I can go make popsmans house more presentable (we are the owner).

I can only do this in a faceless media and please dont diss. Just advkse objectively.

Appreciating in anticipation.

I will comment later

OP take her to your family house but before you do that,stylishly tell her that your family house is not like diamond castle and if she really loves you she wouldn't give a damn about the house because better things are yet to come.

Help your parents improve their house, then invite her over. the first day a female visited my house in the villa she stopped talking to me poverty was such a bad thing If she loves you, she will stick around no matter what

Mr, it's best she takes you for who you are than hiding this fact from her. She's dating you, not your parents nor siblings. I guess there's something in you she saw before saying 'yes' that the state of your family house won't matter if she reasons cognitively after the visit. The state of your parent's home shouldn't define you 'cause conditions do change.

Op, No Be Serious Matter Be This...

Kindly Follow The Following Steps:

STEP 1. Invite Her Over.

Op, Invite Her Over, Sit Her Down And Tell Her Things She Should Know. For Example, The Status Of Your House.

STEP 2: Stylishly Tell Her When You're Discussing With Her.

Op, I Think It Will Be Nice If You 'Fakingly' During Discussion, Face 2 Face Or Over The Phone.

For Example,

....Hahaha, My Love You Know Sey Na Mud House We Dey Stay. Make Oluwa Bless Me Properly To Elevate My Papa House......

Use This Simple And Recommended Steps To Tell Her.

Invite her to your parents house..when you get there, fly around and make yourself free..let her know that although you have your crib, you are proud of your parents house and also chip in that you are working very had to give the place a lift and give them the life they never had because dem don suffer on top your head..thats my kind of guy oo, if you are pissed at my parents house, abeg carry go..no time for iranu

I don't know why I am ashamed of you.
Maybe because you're ashamed of your parent's little effort.

In that uncompleted building, you were probably brought up to be the man you are. Now because of one girl, you're ashamed of it?
Please, take her to your family house. She has to accept you and your family in all totality. How is her own family house sef that you wanna give yourself headache?

It's your type that'll ask your parents not to come for PTA meeting, because they can't speak English.

Silly as it is, I kinda understand your fear. Women dey act somehow at times, I think all you need do is prepare her mind. You don't know how to go about it? Let's try this...

Get a movie, you know all this old movie na with village or poor man settings. During the course of seeing the movie together, draw her attention to the rugged houses there and jokingly go like "Chaiiii! See as the houses be like my papa house oooo". If she's bothered about it, she's definitely gonna ask questions, answer and give the exact description of your papa house, you fit exaggerate and make if look more terrible sef. You don prepare her mind like that and you'll definitely know if she gives a fvck about your father's house which honestly shouldn't be her business because you've got your own apartment already. She's getting married to you not your family house!

Just take her to your home man...

If she wants to reject you because of your home, now is the better time for that test.... If she can't stand where your umbilical cord was buried..

in future she might not stand it when things goes South... That's not my prayers but Sh!t do happen

Point noted!

pocohantas:
I don't know why I am ashamed of you.
Maybe because you're ashamed of your parent's little effort.

In that uncompleted building, you were probably brought up to be the man you are. Now because of one girl, you're ashamed of it?
Please, take her to your family house. She has to accept you and your family in all totality. How is her own family house sef that you wanna give yourself headache?

It's your type that'll ask your parents not to come for PTA meeting, because they can't speak English.

Nice. 1 this 1 sef dey and align with my kibd of person.

MetroBaba1:
Op, No Be Serious Matter Be This...

Kindly Follow The Following Steps:

STEP 1. Invite Her Over.

Op, Invite Her Over, Sit Her Down And Tell Her Things She Should Know. For Example, The Status Of Your House.

STEP 2: Stylishly Tell Her When You're Discussing With Her.

Op, I Think It Will Be Nice If You 'Fakingly' During Discussion, Face 2 Face Or Over The Phone.

For Example,

....Hahaha, My Love You Know Sey Na Mud House We Dey Stay. Make Oluwa Bless Me Properly To Elevate My Papa House......

Use This Simple And Recommended Steps To Tell Her.

Blackhawk03:
Silly as it is, I kinda understand your fear. Women dey act somehow at times, I think all you need do is prepare her mind. You don't know how to go about it? Let's try this...

Get a movie, you know all this old movie na with village or poor man settings. During the course of seeing the movie together, draw her attention to the rugged houses there and jokingly go like "Chaiiii! See as the houses be like my papa house oooo". If she's bothered about it, she's definitely gonna ask questions, answer and give the exact description of your papa house, you fit exaggerate and make if look more terrible sef. You don prepare her mind like that and you'll definitely know if she gives a fvck about your father's house which honestly shouldn't be her business because you've got your own apartment already. She's getting married to you not your family house!

OP, is a child of the world.
Doesn't he know his girl enough? This isn't about how women behave, but how does his particular woman behave?

He has to do all this to prepare her for his parents house?
What then have they been doing all the dating period, if he hasn't observed how she reacts to 'humble' conditions?

Probably, hanging her leg for burglary proof.

pocohantas:


OP, is a child of the world.
Doesn't he know his girl enough? This isn't about how women behave, but how does his particular woman behave?

He has to do all this to prepare her for his parents house?
What then have they been doing all the dating period, if he hasn't observed how she reacts to 'humble' conditions?

Probably, hanging her leg for burglary proof.

you mean like Jupxter hanged your leg for burgalary proof in a hotel on Aug 10 �. Online feminist

Hmmm...she's marrying you not your house structure dude. She's gonna be kinda married to your folks too but you are the one she's really interested in. Yes, we want a nice boy from a nice background o, however, there's a special recognition for the one that has calved his own niche. Don't worry, take her home.

Espada123:
you mean like Jup xter hanged your leg for burgalary proof in a hotel on Aug 10 �. Online feminist

Honestly it was another man doing the hanging, not him. You should ask him again... Be brave, quote me with your main account.

Espada123:
you mean like Jupxter hanged your leg for burgalary proof in a hotel on Aug 10 �. Online feminist

Aren't feminists online and offline supposed to enjoy sex?

What's the big deal if 2 adults decide to quaff themselves?

And you decide to bring it online to serve what purpose?

It's just sex, stop making a mountain out of a molehill.

Some other NLders are busy in za oda room as we speak. Its a primal need of human beings, so no big deal.

Just play it safe, if you can't abstain.

Makunikax:
Nice. 1 this 1 sef dey and align with my kibd of person.

My son, are you sure she is the right woman for you?

Espada123:
you mean like Jupxter hanged your leg for burgalary proof in a hotel on Aug 10 �. Online feminist

Ok, you cheated on him. SO NA TRUE, he say na for the same hotel he dey knack you whenever he comes to your town.You dey give the man sloppy head when he called. No wonder you are obsessed with head. Oloshi 10 kobo.How much he dey pay you when he comes into town?

eyinjuege:


Aren't feminists online and offline supposed to enjoy sex?

What's the big deal if 2 adults decide to quaff themselves?

And you decide to bring it online to serve what purpose?

It's just sex, stop making a mountain out of a molehill.

Some other NLders are busy in za oda room as we speak. Its a primal need of human beings, so no big deal.

Just play it safe, if you can't abstain.

Agreed but I brought it online to show she is a hypocrite

Espada123:
Ok, you cheated on him. SO NA TRUE, he say na for the same hotel he dey knack you whenever he comes to your town.You dey give the man sloppy head when he called. No wonder you are obsessed with head. Oloshi 10 kobo.How much he dey pay you when he comes into town?

It's free dear...
I offer my services pro bono

pocohantas:


It's free dear...
I offer my services pro bono

Good to know� but

pocohantas:


OP, is a child of the world.
Doesn't he know his girl enough? This isn't about how women behave, but how does his particular woman behave?

He has to do all this to prepare her for his parents house?
What then have they been doing all the dating period, if he hasn't observed how she reacts to 'humble' conditions?

Probably, hanging her leg for burglary proof.

Hahahaha @ Child of the word.

Our scolding and all won't change his mind and fears, he just needs a way to present the whole thing to her... Iyamm trying to be nice here

Who's that goat bleating above?

Espada123:
Agreed but I brought it online to show she is a hypocrite

Because she likes sex?

How does that make her a hypocrite?

Not all feminists are lesbians, infact most are straight. If she's not a lesbian, then why are you surprised she had sex with a NLder?
Or is the guy in question a Yabaleft escapee, underage boy? If he's an adult with a sound mental capacity, there's no crime there na.
If both of them enjoyed themselves, there's no story there na. It might only be a story if she was sleeping with the guy for money, then you can shout fake feminist.
Or if she claimed to be very religious, yet she was having premarital sex then you can say she's a hypocrite.
Infact, most feminists have a very exciting sex life. They believe in the sexual freedom of a woman, and have no apologies for it. There's a movt by feminists about sexual freedom in the 70s or early 80s sef.

Espada123:
you mean like Jupxter hanged your leg for burgalary proof in a hotel on Aug 10 �. Online feminist

Dude, you need to move the fvck on with your life and let the girl be. Your attitude is highly unbecoming and borderline nauseous for a supposed "man".

And no, it ain't had to figure you're the same guy.

My advice to you is this, no matter how much you think you love her and fear to lose her, you have to show her your beginnings. If she leaves you because of that, then take it like a man and move on. She must accept you for who you are and that includes your family.

And......you have to start loving your family for who they are. No matter the status, love and appreciate them. You won’t fully understand until u start raising your family. Shalom

Espada123:
Ok, you cheated on him. SO NA TRUE, he say na for the same hotel he dey knack you whenever he comes to your town.You dey give the man sloppy head when he called. No wonder you are obsessed with head. Oloshi 10 kobo.How much he dey pay you when he comes into town?

plz leave the lady alone in peace oh. plz

eyinjuege:


Because she likes sex?

How does that make her a hypocrite?

Not all feminists are lesbians, infact most are straight. If she's not a lesbian, then why are you surprised she had sex with a NLder?
Or is the guy in question a Yabaleft escapee, underage boy? If he's an adult with a sound mental capacity, there's no crime there na.
If both of them enjoyed themselves, there's no story there na. It might only be a story if she was sleeping with the guy for money, then you can shout fake feminist.
Or if she claimed to be very religious, yet she was having premarital sex then you can say she's a hypocrite.
Infact, most feminists have a very exciting sex life. They believe in the sexual freedom of a woman, and have no apologies for it. There's a movt by feminists about sexual freedom in the 70s or early 80s sef.

You haven't been following the story. He's a troll. A stupid one at that. Ignore him.

pocohantas:


It's free dear...
I offer my services pro bono

Lol! Lwkmd

It would have made much sense if you guys created a topic and divert peoples attention with unrelated posts.

chisco82:

Lol! Lwkmd

freindzone to main dude. All this for an olosho 10 kobo

Espada123:
Ok, you cheated on him. SO NA TRUE, he say na for the same hotel he dey knack you whenever he comes to your town.You dey give the man sloppy head when he called. No wonder you are obsessed with head. Oloshi 10 kobo.How much he dey pay you when he comes into town?

This is no longer trolling but cyber bullying. Things break down and fail. Even good things come to end and it takes just about a matured mind to think deeply, gather whatever is left and move on.