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Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Nobody: 12:46am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Let them tell you exactly what they feel is wrong with the girl. It is not enough to say that her tribe and choice of religion is the issue... let them explain. If they can't give you a satisfactory answer, go to marriage registry and start living your life... after a while they would come around. Or you can keep complaining and running Helter-skelter as if you are a teenager than needs approval for having a girlfriend. munas: 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by sugah: 12:52am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Osucoward:The mom is from south Eastern Biafra and babe is North West Biafra. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by greggng: 12:56am On Dec 20, 2017 |
That is why I am keeping my innocent body for my oyibo wife. Adam and Eve didn't need anyone's consent to get married. All they need na God |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by arrestdarrester: 1:01am On Dec 20, 2017 |
munas: He should use style to ask his parents if they have someone in mind for him. I don't think it is about where the girl comes from. It is certainly about where she worships. Your parents believe the change to Catholic is just to please them to get their consent. The emotional blackmail by the mother should not be allowed to be an issue. Let him begin to pray and changes will happen with time. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by CaptainG00D: 1:03am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Kekx: What do u people gain in this stupidity simpky because u want to score cheap points and nairaland like.. Tell me what has igbo got to do with this. The guy is from edo state only his mum is from abia.. BTW have u not seen any igbo person marrying outside igboland?... so why make this senseless generalization ? Igbo women hav the highest rate or marrying outside tribe in nigeria.. so why this stupid comment of urs? ![]() While yoruba women dont fancy marrying into igbo tribe(so what do u say about that ![]() I have seen where ekiti lady said he cant marry ijebu man.. (yet both ar yoruba land) What joy do some of u derive in degeneratin ur tribe? ![]() And Tomorrow people will use it as ur stupidity against u. Pls pls pls use ur common sense and edit that comment. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by munas: 1:23am On Dec 20, 2017 |
jamariwolf: Yea...its a friend cos i am married already |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Nobody: 1:25am On Dec 20, 2017 |
munas:k 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by sircrabo: 1:33am On Dec 20, 2017 |
African parents can be self centered most times. They want things done their way all the time. They make you feel it's for your good but deep down its to satisfy their selfish desire. And pls ignore that " what an elder see while sitting... bla bla bla " parents and pastors can consent to a marriage and it will still collapse. I do not see any reason why a man at 30 won't know what's best for him. The men seldom have problems, it's the mothers that fight for their own interest. They want to brag to their friends that " my son is married to a white woman ", " my daughter is married to an oil tycoon " If you've dated the girl for a while, you love each other, you can manage each others weakness, and you are very sure she makes you happy when no one is around (cause no one will be around) , then proceed with the marriage plans provided their reasons aren't life threatening. I.e madness running in the family, if both parties are AS or SS, if either party is impotent, if either party displays signs of domestic violence, if the man doesn't have a verifiable source of income... but if it's just tribe, religion or any other sentiments then make them see reasons with you and proceed with your plans. Whether or not they bless the union doesn't guarantee how long the marriage will last. Marry someone that makes you happy when no one is around. After wedding ceremony the reality of the choice you made will set in. Don't marry to make daddy or mummy happy. 4 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by cinoedhunter: 1:58am On Dec 20, 2017 |
SILVA112:Parents provoke not ur children to wrought 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by munas: 2:26am On Dec 20, 2017 |
chukwuma0000: Yes...the girl is a prayer warrior |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by sugah: 2:28am On Dec 20, 2017 |
CaptainG00D:Wow wow wow! Oga camdan! You are sounding as though you have personal issues with the person you mentioned, I might be wrong though. You should understand that the guy gave his own opinion, which isn't far from the truth, so shouldn't be insulted in such manner. Although I did not see him say ALL igbos, but maybe if he had used a quantifier to state a proportion of igbos he was referring to in his comment we wouldn't be splitting hairs now. I quite agree with him, igbos; and before you come guns blazing for me as well, most igbos aren't united. They always have something separating them from thier fellow tribesmen. Clan, local government, town, state, religious denomination, social class etc. Within same state, you are given a plethora of reasons why you can't associate or marry from a town different from the other. On requirements of potential spouse posted by single ladies on a dating site, the common factor that most Anambra girls had was tribe and religious denomination. 99% of them mandated the men to be from Anambra and about 80% also wanted them to be Catholics.....I'm guessing your 'highest rate' statistics did not include Anambra state in the data collection. Unlike you, I'm actually yet to see a Yoruba girl refuse to marry a suitor that is also Yoruba but from a different state.....but I wouldn't go as far as calling you a bigot now, would I? Or accuse you of degenerating anothers tribe. But I personally know a lot of igbo girls that have turned down suitors due tribe, even amongst thier own tribe. Abia---->Anambra women are bad Anambra--->Onitsha women are bad Pentecostals--->Catholics are idol worshippers Imo----> Anambra men are too money conscious hence cannot be trusted Anambra---->Imo men are lazy ....................division at different levels. At OP, your friend is probably not yet mature for marriage if his parents are still dictating who he can and cannot marry. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by cjfbn: 3:08am On Dec 20, 2017 |
MicheyJ1:I disagree with you. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Deledeman: 3:09am On Dec 20, 2017 |
thesicilian: It is the same as saying that, they are very selfish and as such desiressomeone that fits certain current or future criteria of theirs, rather than that of the person who wants to marry and live live with this individual for the rest of their lives. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by bussy2020(m): 3:41am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Don't know why this catholic people believe there doctrine is the best. Let the boy enter seminary nw and become a Rev father! |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Xisnin(m): 3:45am On Dec 20, 2017 |
thesicilian: Many elderly people are unrepentant bigots and myopic. It is the man that will live with his wife for many years. If you live your life pleasing elderly people, you are not living an optimal life. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Sanchase: 4:07am On Dec 20, 2017 |
I'm sure if it was Otedola's daughter or Dangote's daughter there will be no hesitation. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by general1970: 4:31am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Don't take decision cos of love, have a rethink and ask your parents why they are refusing you cos if anything goes wrong during the course of your eloped marriage it won't smell nice. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Nobody: 4:45am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Kekx: True talk.They should tell him whatever they saw while squatting,or would they still say he's too young to understand? 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by hartson(m): 5:01am On Dec 20, 2017 |
I want to hear from the horses mouth. Ie from both parents especially the mother, maybe she's gonna burst a can of worms ie reveal some hidden reasons. The dude likely may have not looked very well before trying to leap. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by connkg(m): 5:16am On Dec 20, 2017 |
SILVA112:The quote is, "Children, obey your parents in the LORD; for this is right". 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by kense88: 5:25am On Dec 20, 2017 |
thesicilian:Abeg leave that thing. Stating state of origin and church as a reason, is totally unreasonable and unacceptable. This old people self.I wonder how they would have felt, if there parents kicked against there own marriage. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by giles14(m): 5:27am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Marcofranz:you most be be very stupid for that statement, if our women are terrible leave them for us. we like dem that way. #anambrawomenarethebest 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by coputa(m): 5:47am On Dec 20, 2017 |
MrHistorian:did you read the portion where he said the mother said she will die if he should marry the girl...WRONG Advice. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by coputa(m): 5:49am On Dec 20, 2017 |
giles14:Don't attack the messenger,but scrutinize the message, there's no smoke without fire. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Marcofranz(m): 5:52am On Dec 20, 2017 |
giles14:Something is wrong with your brain. What business do I have with your women. Silly anambra women. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Nobody: 6:00am On Dec 20, 2017 |
blackbeau1:Chai..I want to hug you. Ya too smart. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by coputa(m): 6:01am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Young man,don't swim against the tide of life.your parents saw something in that girl that you can never see because of love(love don't have eyes).and when your eyes don clear it might be too late. You can still get thousands of girls out there to choose from,but it's only one parent you have on this mother earth and they are the only one that can tell you the bitter truth,the rest are counterfeit.Listen to your parents and live a happy live. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by Pat081: 6:04am On Dec 20, 2017 |
munas:I dnt think is because of Church things because no matter wot wen d marriage is done d gal will b going to her husband Church maybe because d gal is not 4rm Edo state or Abia state maybe dey hv one dat dey ve promise her family dat dia son will marry her |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by giles14(m): 6:04am On Dec 20, 2017 |
coputa:true but wan a messenger keeps repeating a false news it begin to sound true. |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by victorazyvictor(m): 6:05am On Dec 20, 2017 |
munas: Anambra women are the best... am going to Anambra next week to carry my own , Achina precisely. If you love the babe, don't leave her, two of you should stay but not married. Pray hard , Just be looking at your parent and don't direct them, just play cool and be watching them. Be more benevolent to them now, refuse to take another woman even if it take several years, they will surely ask you to bring that woman for them to see what u see in her. Mine, her mother never wanted us BUT we loved each other and we stayed for 10 good years, yes u heard me, 10yrs. Now na the mother be my forerunner begging for me to come ![]() God's time is the best. If u two are meant to be, nothing will stop it. 1 Like |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by giles14(m): 6:07am On Dec 20, 2017 |
Marcofranz:silly yes but still part of the women you have in this country n abroad. our women are the best. 2 Likes |
Re: I Want To Get Married, But My Parents Don't Like The Girl by David160(m): 6:24am On Dec 20, 2017 |
munas:his is a grown up, let him fight for what he wants. |
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