MrBrownJay1:


unless you live and wake up with that person every day for these 3 months, i doubt you can discover ALL aspect of that said woman, her character, her flaws etc. just because someobody goes on a few good dates, does NOT make them a suitable wife to be.

habsydiamond:
with God all things are possible my brother....if God brings Ur own wife to Ur doorstep, u have marry after two weeks sef....cos understanding and trust won't be Ur problem...

alexialin:

But do you know, no matter how many years you date someone. That person still remains a stranger when the chips are down. On tough situations, even the man himself can show his true colours and the lady will be like really?
It happens both ways.
Have seen a couple date for 7years, later they got married. Just two years into the marriage, one of them filed for divorce. They are divorced with kids, living separately now.

People pretend alot,, it's by the grace of God, their true colours can be revealed through a mistake or wrong move.
It's not about how long, but how well.

I for one, I can tell you, your true character within three days of chatting with u face to face. And just as a friend. I can predict at least 90% of what u can do. That's me. And some people are like that too.

While some people will take months or years to understand whom they are associating with.

It's all about sharp foresight.

habsydiamond:
with God all things are possible my brother....if God brings Ur own wife to Ur doorstep, u will marry within two weeks sef....cos understanding and trust won't be Ur problem...

MrBrownJay1:


people like you are religious hypocrite who only uses from your holy book what fits your agenda... because if some crippled ugly babes was sent to your doorstep, you would quickly turn her away and shout" god forbids".

MrBrownJay1:


that should tell you that MARRIAGE IS NOT A JOKE, and should be taken seriously, unlike the above you mentionned.



well if you think you can discover and know someone fully in 3 months, and confirm that she isnt just pretending in order to get the "Mrs status", then so be it



bro, there is huge gap between chatting up with a friend AND discovering if someone has the right VALUES/CHARACTER to be your future wife.... just because someone says they are humble, doesnt mean they are, same if they say they are generous/kind/respectful/trustworthy/caring etc

here is a clue: some women in Nigeria aresuccessfully triple/quadruple dating right under the nose of men who believe they are "the" one. abeg give credit to the highly skilled deceitful nature of some of our sistas. if you believe you can never be played then thats your mistake in life. the reason why so many marriage fail in Africa is because the majority marry for the WRONG reasons.

but then again, you say you can know someone in 3 days so any woman you choose should date and marry you, abi?! lets say you just found someone that ticks all your boxes, thats just half of the matter, now you have to let her feel the same about you. if you believe that only YOUR feeling/emotions matter then no wonder marriage fail.

alexialin:





Not just Only with God sef.

Shine your eyes, during those dates like he mentioned, ask each other crucial questions. Not just I love you, then mind-blowing sexx afterwards, then bye love. Till another day.
Who is deceiving who?
They are both deceiving themselves.

But sexx is second to the last item on the dating calendar. And other important family questions were asked with living habits. Am telling u, u will know who u are dating and quickly wrap it up for the next level. Or say sorry, this cannot work.

No need wasting each others time.

habsydiamond:
lolzz...that's what u think...have u forgotten that a set of twin born to a parent can not think thesame way...like things thesame...I prefer to marry a ugly girl that will give me peace of mind than marry a beautiful miss world that will grant me death sentence....

alexialin:

Have always said it takes two to tango.. Not just my feelings alone.

Anyways different strokes for different folks.

habsydiamond:
are u also saying they can't understand eachother in 3 months

habsydiamond:
are u also saying they can't understand eachother in 3 months

habsydiamond:
lolzz...that's what u think...have u forgotten that a set of twin born to a parent can not think thesame way...like things thesame...I prefer to marry a ugly girl that will give me peace of mind than marry a beautiful miss world that will grant me death sentence....

MrBrownJay1:


exactly, so how do you expect that person in front of you to automatically fall in love and wanna marry in 3 months (since its a two way street)?!

alexialin:





At all!

They can understand themselves well within 3months
Am not in the school of thoughts that I must date for donkey years, before I am.
No way Mehn.

If we both click and want same thing? Why not?

Jupxter:




People won't understand you.

There's something called the " readyness " mindset, the type uncle and you has. Once two people of this same mindset meet, you can propose within 3 months. I'm in that class...Every other thing will be built up step by step as the journey unfolds

MrBrownJay1:


unless you live and wake up with that person every day for these 3 months, i doubt you can discover ALL aspect of that said woman, her character, her flaws etc. just because someobody goes on a few good dates, does NOT make them a suitable wife to be.

habsydiamond:
that's y I said if one is lucky to marry his or her own wife and not black market like those tokunbo ladies out there... there won't be any problem...

Jupxter:




People won't understand you.

There's something called the " readyness " mindset, the type uncle and you has. Once two people of this same mindset meet, you can propose within 3 months. I'm in that class...Every other thing will be built up step by step as the journey unfolds

Jupxter:



see how mine went within the same three months. We wake up and chat daily for 10-13 hours everyday for 100 days, i saw the flaws, etc,strength and weakness, but then, we all need to take time to evaluate carefully before sealing the deal.There are good women out there o ! Don't be quick to think all ladies are evil bro. It's a wrong mindset

habsydiamond:
God bless u...tell them does who wants to date for 40years B4 they will finally marry at 70...

Jupxter:



At my age now, i can tell if i can marry a lady within few moments with her....It comes with age, but then the reality is, the downside, can we embrace her weakness for a lifetime.It's not to marry, this is where the problem lies. Marry is not the destination, it's where the journey starts. Can we afford to get married and stay married without conflicts? Hence, balance is the key, proposing too early isn't good, both parties need to build and establish the relationship carefully if they have different orientation. If they have similar orientation, then it makes it easier.

MrBrownJay1:


we know your kind, bro... quick to quote the bible, but far from standing by what is written in it.

habsydiamond:
good one...nice one

habsydiamond:
thank you am flattered....

Jupxter:



Its not easy oh...Loving is easy, way to easy, but i now look out for what i call " the incompatibility factor ".

After all the emotional rollercoaster ride, what is left is reality ! Now, can we deal with one another and not tear each other after the emotions begin to give way? This is where the clash of incompatibility sets in that i've witnessed first hand.

Can we afford to deal with one another a life time if we married?

I've been hearing compatibility since 100 years now, but now, i'm changing the game, it's the incompatibility factor that's important to look out for, that's why i said " orientation ", if both individuals have different orientation, the incompatibility would be sharp and it threatens the union, hence a couple with 90% compatibility may not do well with a sharp 10% incompatibility, however, if the incompatibility isn't that sharp, or if both parties are willing to meet half way and agree to work together, it would work out. Marital issues always stems from the fact that one party doesn't meet up to the terms and conditions of the deal, draining the other party, this is where the problem starts

habsydiamond:
u must be Ekiti State .... fountain of knowledge...

Jupxter:



Just call me a thinker !

habsydiamond:
what about Aristotle's apprentice...

Jupxter:


I like to be modest, but i think i've surpassed those realms. I'm of the seventh dimension where only few reach in this life time !

habsydiamond:
lolxxx...

LordKO:


Believe you me, a decipherable man who's achieved self-realization won't need lengthy months or years after meeting a lady he fancy, to dissect her and make his decision on whether they're compatible for each other or not.

2sexycom:
so true. I believe they are on same or almost intellectual and emotional frequency , hence the reason.