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At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Vibesking(m): 8:32pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
Throughout my teenage years I never indulged in anything that is remotely considered as youthful exuberances. No parties.. No hangouts.. No rebellion.. No fun.. No girls. I'm what you'll consider as a pretty decent kid. Been always studious and devote. I felt those stuff were distractions and a waste of time. so I was always buried in books and church activities. I thought being uptight and serious would make me "successful" . Unfortunately.... It appears I might have been wrong. I see my friends who practically live in orgies and revelries enjoy life and still have things work fine for them. So I guess screw seriousness! Recently I've been having a strange feeling of emptiness. I read up some books and most suggested that lack of love/companionship can be a major reason for feelings of emptiness. It then dawned on me that I've never asked a girl out in my entire life. I've never dated. I never thought it was a big deal and I pretty enjoy my company alone. I assumed I'll get a girl when am ready for marriage. But hey... I don't even know if I'll be alive that long (tomorrow isn't guaranteed). I've recently been feeling very lonely .. do you think it's a problem I've never experienced relationship with a girl at my age? I'll be 23 next year. I don't care about intimacy cus you can easily get that without dating no body. Constructive suggestions please 52 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by GloriaNinja(f): 8:35pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
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Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by verygudbadguy(m): 8:39pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
Vibesking:Bro, you are on the right track. You can always get women in your life, provided you have the potentials to make a good boyfriend/husband. You have a long way to go so I won't want you to bother your mind with women affairs. Focus on your grade and studies if you are still in school. You can start by making a female friend in your church/ class. See how it turns out. 162 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by DanseMacabre(m): 8:42pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
What is problematic is you thinking whether having or not having a girlfriend at 22 is problematic. My own problem is that I'm not a millionaire yet. Common millionaire fa. ![]() 363 Likes 29 Shares |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by BeeBeeOoh(m): 8:43pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
tOtO don dey hungry dis 1 90 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Modelqwen(f): 8:51pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
![]() Guy chill first biko.... cool gòdi down. Having a gf is not a big deal , neither an achievement, but it's a good thing to have a female frnd u can talk to... it makes all d difference. ur feeling of emptiness is as a result of being alone mostly all times... go out, socialise, have fun with ur friends. 35 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Vibesking(m): 9:02pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
BeeBeeOoh:Read my post mongrel.. Sex isn't my priority.! 46 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Homeboiy: 9:10pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
u get money? 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by SIaye: 9:34pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
You are probably ugly looking with no good fashion sense. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by MasterKim: 9:48pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
SIaye:Say god 8 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by SIaye: 9:49pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
MasterKim: 10 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by BeeBeeOoh(m): 11:05pm On Dec 23, 2017 |
Vibesking:Kai! U fit talk dis thing wey u talk now fory face?? 7 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by delana(m): 8:20am On Dec 24, 2017 |
I am actually your age mate , like a someone said , relationships can be headaches if u lack the maturity to manage them , have had one , turned out bad cos it was my first and it caused me a lot of headache. I decided to focus on my life and my education. U also said u have friends who engaged in more of an orgy lifestyle and are doing pretty gud, let me remind u that having a successful life involves God's favour , once u have that , u are gud to go plus your own hard work to an extent. My advice is focus on ur life , that is your priority, have a female friend but don't be too emotionally attached cos it could distract u ( from experience). 46 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by DonOms(m): 9:36am On Dec 24, 2017 |
I like that you have learned one of the greatest lessons in life: "Hardwork doesn't always guarantee success" as Solomon inferred in the book of Ecclesiastes. Now, the feeling of emptiness can as well be felt by people in relationships. It goes without saying that the feeling of emptiness has more to do with the self than it has to do with a union or group. You have done well so far, trust me and you shouldn't have any regrets. What you should however focus on now is to make your hardwork and dedication count. It isn't automatic, but hardwork pays in the long run if you remain steadfast and apply good wisdom. Think about where you want to be in 5-10 years and begin to do everything legally possible to get there. Plans and reality aren't the same. Expectations get dashed and life throws us curve balls. Do we sit in anguish and give up? Damn No! In the words of Walt Disney, "we don't look backwards for very long, but we keep moving forward." Just keep moving. Whether you get a girlfriend now or not, it doesn't actually matter. You're neither too old nor too young for it. It's a choice but make sure you're not attempting to build your happiness around a relationship. Be happy and fulfiled by yourself first before uniting with another. Get good people (male and female) with whom you share similar values and keep them as friends, feel happy no matter the situation since true happiness roots in the heart and not in any material thing or some girlfriend. In the end, if you have done your best and followed the right path, and when God and the entire universe have smiled upon you, you will forget the feelings of emptiness you feel today and remember not the former things. Don't give up 2 inches away from your goldmine! Dig deeper, press harder. 133 Likes 16 Shares |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by adebayo3449(m): 11:12am On Dec 24, 2017 |
Bro u are doing what is right. At this age face ur studies and your life. Think of your future now. Relationships of these days costs a lot. As u have rightly side, u can always get a girl when u ready. 10 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Evangkatsoulis: 1:21pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
There is nothing wrong with you.
Life is more than girls or relationships. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Nobody: 1:46pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
Absolutely nothing wrong with it. You're still a young man. 6 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Vibesking(m): 3:50pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
Thanks for the kind words.. Very inspiring. DonOms: 11 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Geofavor(m): 7:44pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
Vibesking:Bro, you're not alone. Relax. Give or take a few, your post describes me. And yes, we are age mates. I'm, however, not bothered about getting into a romantic relationship now. Why? I'm simply not ready. Relationships require time, cash, and most tedious -- commitment. Unless you're ready to give all this, there's no point rushing into a relationship. I understand that feeling of loneliness. You can always make up for that by chilling with friends -- male and female. Hope you don't feel inferior, though. If you're confident about yourself ( looks, personality, values, etc.), then you don't have to worry. what you worry about is no problem at all. Don't succumb to peer/societal pressure. If there's a dream you're pursuing, chase it. Don't get distracted. You can always get a woman anytime. ![]() 36 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Nobody: 8:13pm On Dec 24, 2017 |
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Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Arijude(m): 3:47am On Dec 25, 2017 |
I'm 26 and I have never had any girlfriend and it doesn't bother me. So, relax bro. 80 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by MicroBox: 4:07am On Dec 25, 2017 |
Girlfriend leads to furnication.. Stay clean and away from it.... 12 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by romme2u: 11:54am On Dec 25, 2017 |
Vibesking: ![]() The guy was throwing jabs, you shouldn't take it personal 2 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by romme2u: 11:55am On Dec 25, 2017 |
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Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by benzion72(m): 11:56am On Dec 25, 2017 |
Why are you allowing your imagination to run wild. Who girls help. My take if you want to date, you can do that among your friends, you can easily ask them out 3 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by romme2u: 11:57am On Dec 25, 2017 |
BeeBeeOoh: ![]() temper justice with mercy. Easy on him 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by BeeBeeOoh(m): 1:10pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
romme2u:Nothing dey happen bro ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Nobody: 6:48pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
yea |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by Daniel058(m): 6:49pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
No Am above but don't have, I have many female friends but no particular one as girl friend. My reason, I no wan to the ![]() And I never ready to marry.. I wanna cross those life 7 rivers and 7seven mountains, plus all those evil forest filled with village peoples ![]() ....BABY , SEE YOU WHEN I 'VE FULLY CROSS. E no go waste time don't worry... 6 Likes |
Re: At 22 I've Never Had A Girlfriend. Is This A Problem? by cooltola(m): 6:49pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
no worry, things go improve, just improve on yourself and focus on how to be successful. 1 Like |
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