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Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:13pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
adaxxy:Wonderful it is only one life to live and someone needs to be happy and enjoy his or her life and not wait for someone to make him or her happy. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by linearity: 11:13pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
The bitter truth is, he no longer finds you attractive and this could be in terms of your physical appearance or your behavior, attitude and disposition. It is surprising though, that this is only a two years marriage. Seat back and think of how you guys met, date, etc (assuming this is not an arranged marriage or one out of necessity). He must have found you attractive then to pulp the question and even made good on his promise to marry you. With kids and years, guys understand than their their wives will no long look as attractive as before, but some ladies just give up on themselves once they are married and the kids start coming. Guys, your husband inclusive are attracted by what they see, start working on what he sees to make them attractive. Yes, their might be some issues on his side; but he is not the one asking for advise and he is not available to present his side of the story. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:17pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Daboomb:It has not changed for the worst maybe for you but definitely not for me and what is there to be ashamed of if you don't like it you can always use a time machine and transport back to 1412 and leave us that like the 21st century world in peace. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Balkan(m): 11:17pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Let me be honest with you, l am married for ten years now. The atitude your guy is giving you is exertly what l give my wife In my own case, it started well but there so many things she does that l dislike which l told her that it irritates me but she always nags why l tell her that. 1. She is always unclad in the room. I mean always. She never covers herself. 2, When ever she inters the toilet to poo she never shuts the door of the toilet in our room. 3 She always fart in front of me 4 She always ask for things she knows we cant afford. 5 She does not give me any spacial attention eg. No saperation of things l use from the things everbody use in the house like plates and cups So many littles things that matter to guys she does not observe them and when l bring them up, she will tell me that l hate her. The truth is that l dont get errection again when l see her. So to make love to her is difficult because l dont get erection. But when l see ladies she is much more finer than, my dick stands We hardley sit to talk because she irritates me. But l am just praying for God to help me. I am not ready to marry another woman. But the love is dead. She does not respect me bc l cant perform but l cant take vigra for her because l am BP patient. She is in her 30s and l am in my 40s But she is just a pretty lady with good sense of dressing. A dream of every man but worths nothing to me 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Belafonte(m): 11:17pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
I think your husband married you because he wanted a wife. There's obviously no intimacy in your marriage. Was it like this during courtship? If not, at what point did he become this way? |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Nobody: 11:18pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
curvilicious:what about ur real mama and papa ? Abi u no get ![]() ![]() 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:18pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
coputa:You know something. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Belafonte(m): 11:18pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
FavouredAda, I think your husband married you because he wanted a wife. There's obviously no intimacy in your marriage. Was it like this during courtship? If not, at what point did he become this way? |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by coputa(m): 11:19pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Ninety percent of these problems stems from the scenario where the woman forced herself on the guy out of desperation to have him or to settle down. In any relationship,there must be an attractive force that joins both of you together,if non exists,that means you are both living on pretence,and that won't take you too far before the balloon will explode. Marriage is meant to be enjoyed and not to be endured.. Ladies,shine your eyes,because you are more guilty of these over bearing attitude. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:19pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
BadLuckonmyGame:You have sense. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by emmyluizzz: 11:19pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
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Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by GuntersChain(m): 11:21pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
well that is one thing with some marriages the first to five years are always rocky, try and sit him down and iron out issues with him. I'm sorry always saves a lot. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Mariangeles(f): 11:22pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
buddie:Men always give advice that favours their kind, forgetting there are two sides to every story |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by coputa(m): 11:22pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Ladyhippolyta88:@Ladyhipps thank,complement of the season.how was the xmas. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Mixola: 11:22pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
I read this story and I thought it was my wife. I am married too but at the moment I can't stand the sight of my wife. I wonder and regret how I dragged her into a marital mess. I discovered this a week after our wedding that I am not meant for this kind of relationship but that was too late. However, I vowed to be committed to her based on my religious background. She made things really worse for me. I happen to work in another city; four hours drive from base. At no time has she ever prepared meal for me when I am traveling. She has no regard for my parents or siblings. There are atimes I get home on Saturday and there is nothing for me to eat. Before I was transferred, I do the shopping. All she does is to make a list. She sprained her ankle and was on POP for practically 2 months. I was going home each weekend for support and do all the shipping. She hardly picks my call or call back yet blames me for communication gap. It got to a peak and I actually wished life could just end somehow and give both of us peace. Suicide was a remote option. I wanted to just disappear. Now, I careless who cares or not. I guess marriage is not for everyone. I am filled with many regrets beyond count. I wish I could punch Ctrl Z on my life's keyboard. I have bent beyond backwards but it seems it's not gonna work. It all sucks. 3 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 11:23pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
coputa: Please STOP! Their is a big difference in Working to earn a living (survival mode)...and working to just get out and about and reduce boredom (fufilment ). Wife of Dangotte or any first lady isnot working so she can feed her lazy-bum husband, they do it for fulfillment. For many years, my wife refused to work because she said "how much are they going to pay me, what will it buy me that l dont already have"? Eventually, l begged her to just do it for the fun of it as long as it does not interfere with her primary responsibility of taking care of the family (Me and her other children) ![]() ![]() One day she came back and told me she will open her own company or nothing. I asked why and she said she threw the folder at her Boss who was talking to her like she was her some desperate employee!. I nearly died of laughter but as life will have it, her Boss of then, one day came to her office that she is running to seek sponsorship for one of their programs and was all smiles, thinking she has forgotten so quickly how she use to treat her employee back then. Point is, let your wife work but let her know that she is not doing it because she needs the money. Give her every thing a woman who is working 9-5 has (Nice car, a higher salary, apid Holidays trips, e.t.c) so she knows that hwat she earns at that work place is inconsequential and can be forgotten at a moment' notice 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 11:28pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
BadLuckonmyGame: An apple neva falls far from its tree so my dad was a perfect provider |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by 400billionman: 11:28pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
curvilicious: You said good old days bah ? The whole family goes to farm , father, mother, children to raise food for their consumption. It is not one persons job. I participated in family farming as a kid, so I know. STOP WAITING FOR HANDOUTS. Whoever sits at home is the lazy one. If you want to live a fulfilled life, drop your sense of entitlement and get dirty. . If you say your husband is lazy, why did you marry him ? 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Mariangeles(f): 11:29pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Alariiwo:Immature! |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 11:30pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Daboomb: Bro, you a real man ![]() |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Bentson: 11:30pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Philpham:Just like your Father... See the senseless child he raised 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Daboomb: 11:31pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Mixola: This is real and very serious matter o! ![]() ![]() - How was your courtship years like? - Did you sound each other out at all? - Did she cook for you before marriage and did you cook for her then? - Do both of you do thing together and do oyu have "common interests" back then? - Were you in-love with her before marriage (as in real passionate love that you cant do without seeing her for a day) and was she passionately inlove with you as well? - What made the two of you to really decide you want to get married to each other? What was the conviction? Finally - Do you have children in the marriage right now? I asked this question because l can "sense hatred" in this relationship and that is never a good sign because it does not get better! Please dont get violent. If things dont work out pretty soon and you dont have children between the two of you, l see that the hatred is sort of "mutual" (if she does not pick calls, does not cook for you, e.t.c ...l am not even sure two of you stii have sex with each other!). better to seek early divorce so that each of you can find happiness. Life is too short to live in such poisnous atmosphere. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 11:32pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
400billionman:Lol they all went to farm but not with the mindset of today's men who believe a woman shld fend for family. Sweety, i don't wait for handouts but i don't wrk to feed my husband. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 11:32pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
coputa:It was superb no be small chopping ooo,with wetin I chop today I nor sure say I go chop for one week.Mine was really amazing and I hope your's was great as well and complements of the season to you. |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Diso60090(m): 11:33pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
If you nor fit put peace for your house carry your load go your papa house because you are still a learner if na lie i talk ask tonto aka ghetto girl |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Nobody: 11:34pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
curvilicious:there is always a Judas... Never forget to give room for that... Thank God he is not |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Balkan(m): 11:34pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
Ladies note this, Any day your husband stops being jealous of you, like asking you where you have gone to or complain about your dressing, know ye that the man does not regard you any longer. 2 Likes |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by stanliwise(m): 11:35pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
byemx06:This one wey you dey give advises so o. Hmmm Remember we only know what she has type o |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by curvilicious: 11:36pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
emmyluizzz: Gimme beer first |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by 400billionman: 11:38pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
curvilicious: You need to grow up. 1 Like |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by Nobody: 11:38pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
MrBrownJay1: I love you! Bless your soul! |
Re: I Am Turning Into A Tenant In My Husband's House by aspirebig: 11:38pm On Dec 25, 2017 |
The topic sounds as if some tenant want to make a landlord "tenant' |
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